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 BrownEyedLeo
Joined: 1/5/2006
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I am really shocked at the casualness of some men I have dated in regard to sexual protection. When I bring up the subject of protection, they treat me as though I must have some disease. I hear the same excuses being used for not using protection as the ones I heard when I was a teen-ager. I am not gearing this thread toward men, I am sure there are a lot of women that feel the same way.
How do you handle the "protection" thing? Personally, I do carry my own condoms and do not depend on the man to have his own, but how do we bring the subject up tactfully?
 triplebp
Joined: 10/6/2005
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Posted: 2/7/2006 9:46:00 PM
Tell him if it is a casual thing as you say no glove no love so to speak. Now if you are really serious about someone then that is another story.

For me I'll pass on the casual part I want it to be meaningful!!!
 Singlemaltgirl
Joined: 12/31/2004
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Posted: 2/10/2006 4:14:46 PM
interesting topic the op brought up.

my gf who was using this system was chatting with a guy who seemed really nice on pof. they met and he broached the idea of possibly having sex. my gf was semi joking/semi serious when she mentioned protection. i don't think she was entertaining the idea of having sex with the man since they'd only just met but she was horrified by his reaction. he called her all kinds of names and told her that women on pof were all c*ck teases etc. needless to say, she didn't see him again.

but then, she checked out his profile a few days later and it was a mysogonistic rant about how women were a b*tches. she told me to go have a look and tell me what i thought and it was quite awful. she said he did a complete 180 from the profile that caught her attention originally.

all b/c she brought up the idea that if she was going to engage in casual sex a condom might be appropriate??!?!?!?!!?!

i haven't had sex in a while (over 2 years) cause i am not into casual sex. but even with partners who i have dated awhile and then took that next step, i haven't really had this issue arise about men making a big deal about protection. they don't always readily offer to "cover" up but they don't call me all kinds of names if i ask that they wear protection. so what gives? i would love to hear men's thoughts of this? do you really not care about protection given all the knowledge about std's and potential for pregnancy out there?!?!?!?
 BrownEyedLeo
Joined: 1/5/2006
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Posted: 2/10/2006 8:00:44 PM
Jet, It only takes one time.
 BrownEyedLeo
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Posted: 2/11/2006 10:08:12 PM
Boxo,
Not everyone that does have a disease even knows they have one either. I read an article about Herpes 2 and the article stated that 3 out of 4 women have this STD. Now that is scary to me. Hec C is also much more previlent than most people realize. More people are diagnosed with Hec C now than with AIDS, which makes it now our Number One STD. The public is not being educated about Hep C like we were AIDS. People do not always have symptoms of a STD.Reading these posts make me even more aware of the need for sexual protection. So many people are ignorant of the symptoms of a STD or even that they could have one.
 BrownEyedLeo
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Posted: 2/12/2006 10:34:01 AM
Hey boxo, if you want to respond like an a***hole when people dare to question your vague statements, whatever flops your mop, I guess. I'm always intrigued by people who have strong opinions about something yet when questioned, can't seem to present a basis for their strong opinions.

Alberta... you go girl! I agree with you here. I am not here to attack anyone but to state such opinionated views on a subject then be so vaugh about backing it up is not very intelligent. Anyone can have a STD even if they have abstained from sex. STDs can be contracted through Doctor/Dental visits, being in the hospital,or from someone you have a working relationship with, etc. People with STDs do not have a Scarlett Letter on their forehead as Boxo seems to believe.
 GbBengi
Joined: 11/23/2007
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Posted: 5/3/2008 9:59:28 AM
Well at the risk of sounding like a complete jerk for the first time on POF, Im gonna risk it anyway. LOL

I am a 30 year old man, Im not sleeping with the whole neighborhood and their mothers. I dry-humped enough in high-school. If someone wants to play, Ill help you , you help me kinda foreplay, thats fine. But if I were in a serious relationship with another consenting adult, I would be involved in adult intercourse. Ya know the kind where two adults take responsibility for their own actions? Wet skin on skin lovin? So basically I am saying IF I am going to have sex it should be enjoyable for us both. If it cant be, then we shouldn't have it, plain and simple.

Now, if the scenario is different, and you all are talking about dating, dates, one night stands, multiple partners, orgies, circle sessions, breeding parties, and slave rape, yall lost me, so Im out of that portion of the convo! haha

Bottom line is if you are responsible, mature, consenting adult, I fail to see the problem of natural intercourse.

For those of you who analyze peoples responses and like to eat them up! LOL .....

NOTE: Responsible, mature, and consenting are criteria here, if you dont meet one of those criteria it changes the bottom line. (Example) if you are not responsible......
 try1more
Joined: 12/16/2007
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Posted: 5/9/2008 12:32:59 AM
ok so you've been dating for sometime. what is involved in the decision to stop using a condem?
 opnmydm
Joined: 3/23/2008
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Posted: 5/10/2008 2:03:34 PM
if he argues, he gets sent home...hows that for an answer.........:)
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
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Posted: 12/16/2010 3:47:11 PM
Using rubber is like eating candy with paper on - worthless and takes away 70% of the experience. It's better to jerk off in that case. People are paranoid about the risks anyway. Stop having sex completely is my advice.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 12/16/2010 5:06:33 PM
A Scottish Regimental Sergeant Major in full dress uniform marches into a chemist shop.

Very carefully he opens his sporran and pulls out a neatly folded cotton bandana, unfolds it to reveal a smaller silk square handkerchief, which he also unfolds to reveal a condom.

The condom has a number of patches on it.

The chemist holds it up and eyes it critically.

"How much to repair it?" the Scot asks the chemist.

"Six pence," says the chemist.

"How much for a new one?"

"Ten pence" says the chemist.

The RSM painstakingly folds the condom into the silk square handkerchief and the cotton bandana, replaces it carefully in his sporran and marches out of the door, shoulders back and kilt swinging.

A few moments later the chemist hears a great shout go up outside.

The RSM marches back into the chemist and addresses the proprietor, this time with a grin on his face.

"The regiment has taken a vote," he says.


We'll buy a new one for the Regiment.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 12/21/2010 7:13:03 PM
I don't rely on a woman to provide protection for me...because she'll get the wrong size everytime...
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2010 4:48:59 AM
Sexual protection? How about hiring two MORE women to protect me from being attacked?
When people are just getting started, if the guy is so selfish that he WONT use protection, it would suggest that he's going to be that selfish and egotistical throughout the relationship. If the woman wants to put up with that, or even gets off on it, things will work out. If not, it's a good time to tell the guy to take a hike.
 ~rain~
Joined: 6/9/2007
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Posted: 12/27/2010 8:59:28 AM
tell him if he doesnt wear "it" he doesnt wear you!!!

and he will be the one missing out because you are FANTASTIC in bed!!!
 VacationGuy234
Joined: 8/1/2008
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Posted: 12/27/2010 5:03:25 PM
Well, if you bring your own condoms is there really a need to bring it up? On the other hand, if you are asking the man to get checked anyway, straight and to the point is the only route you should take.

If he doesn't produce papers, he doesn't get in, how's that for tactful!
 mrcs84
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Posted: 12/27/2010 6:55:23 PM
When you're talking about your own personal health and how they [can] effect it, I think tact should be less of an issue. All paramedics put on gloves before handling people. The mentality is to assume they are infected until proven otherwise. Simply asking someone "do you have anything" isn't very effective, especially when 25% of people with an STD are unaware of it.
 dawntreader10
Joined: 12/3/2010
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Posted: 12/30/2010 5:36:58 AM
High sex drive, but so not into casual sex, and can go a veeeeeeery loooooong time, lol.....some stupid lines I've heard:

So, um, how do you "take care of" yourself?
Don't you get frustrated?
Do you have toys???
Do you masturbate or what?
Oh, no worries, I'm clean. The military tests us once/year. (Ok, so this means what to me NOW??? After the 1,345 chicks you've banged since that last test.)
Better use it or you'll lose it. (Uh huh.)
You don't like sex? (You have no idea. Just not attracted to you.)

So I guess I can say abstinence, in answer to the original question. I can wait.
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