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 Mr.Versatility
Joined: 11/12/2009
Msg: 85
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When i give my number we usually correspond by text first than it leads to phone convo, When I give my number personally I like to be contacted immediately, I dont like wasting any time life is too short.
 Not too sure about this.
Joined: 12/7/2009
Msg: 86
Nitebynite....
Posted: 12/11/2009 8:30:05 PM
call whenever you are comfortable and if he isn't calling, remember he could terrified that you will reject him. So call him and accept rejection as an opening to someone who is stable enough to call without rules or restrictions.

When I like someone, call takes some time to build the courage....when they call me, its the same feelings.

3 days are a rule to show not important enough, not eager or desperate, and not trying to lose control of the fact that I gave you my number and I have yours because I really want to get to know you. Loosen the reigns and the horse will find the pastures....lol.
 carpenter1986
Joined: 1/27/2009
Msg: 87
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 12/11/2009 9:16:35 PM
Honestly I would like to here from her the next day. I find that waiting for 3 days is a childish thing to do. If you like the person why wait.
 ~Azul Ojos~
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 88
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 12/11/2009 9:25:14 PM
They forgot to send me the rule book, but thats probably because they knew I wouldn't read it.....

Do and call when it feels right and comfortable with you...

 younowho
Joined: 5/17/2006
Msg: 89
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 12/11/2009 10:00:22 PM
Never wait over 10 minutes, otherwise he may have his finger nails eaten off and starting on his fingers..
 Rocklinguy
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 90
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 12/11/2009 11:31:09 PM
Never

Why feed a man's ego with a phone call. Women should be overtly pursued. A woman has a much more subtle way of letting a man know he is welcome. Look if he didn't ask for your number and then call you--Plainly, he is not interested. If you call him it sends the wrong message. I have to be a little old school on this one as men get the wrong idea. If you make it easy for them they will never be romantic with you. In other words, if you want a man to "court you" then allow him to. Maybe he will continue until you are a cute old couple that are still in love. If he doesn't ask for you number and then call you then it is his loss.

Remember it takes two people who are bith attracted to each other to form a couple. If you gave him your number then you have shown interest.
 Man_of_steele
Joined: 12/6/2009
Msg: 91
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 12/12/2009 3:11:44 AM
There has to be a minimum of one full day in between the time a guy gives you a number, and the time you call. But a good rule of thumb is three.
 Mr.Versatility
Joined: 11/12/2009
Msg: 92
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 12/12/2009 5:09:51 AM
I'm really beginning to think I am on a planet all by myself and that I just may be single forever. lol I don't play these games that so many people play, I mean putting a time limit on how long to wait to call someone? I mean really, this is the mentality of alot of people in today's society and in my opinion the same reason alot of marriages end and relationships..

Why the nonsense, If you like someone than call them whenever you're comfortable.
If they like you than they will be delighted you have called them, and not think anything negative about it... I'm sorry but the only people to get worked up over someone calling to soon is probabaly the same type of person that likes to play games and really isn't sure of themselves or what they want..

Think about it, If you know who you are and what you want, and someone seems to possibly fit the bill, whats the point in waiting to talk just because society says its the right thing to do.. Get on the ball... I'm sorry but life is way to short to mess around waste time or play childish games.... I admit willingly I am impatient and will think a woman isnt that interested and I will lose interest if she takes me lightly...
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 93
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Posted: 12/12/2009 6:48:44 AM
I never give my phone# to guys (dates) that I have just met, they gave me their ph.# and I called to thank then again that I enjoyed the nice dinner, if I want them to know my ph.# but if not I emailed them to thank them ,(again)....
I learned not to use my cell ph. when meeting my dates that I already arrived or where the location I am waiting for him.. because they call me any time at my work and I am not comfortable chitchating on the job.

~~~~One older man in another state , emailed his ph.# with no preliminaries ,it is like an order to call him, I courteously replied in email " That I'll be glad to call him when I have time".
After 2 days,he emailed me ~ I don't understand why you don't call me, don't you have a job?
Me: I have a job,but my paycheck doesn't cover the charges of unimportant chatting on long distance ph.calls... I got deragatory email after that.

When a man gave me his ph.# after the date I always ask him the convenient time ,day to call him.. They always tell me any time,so when I arrive home I call them..
 HardwoodFloorBoard
Joined: 3/27/2008
Msg: 94
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Posted: 12/14/2009 3:46:16 PM
I've always assumed that a woman that I have just met, would for safety reasons rather get my phone number rather than give me hers. Evidently this makes me a wuss in the eyes of some of the women posters here.

Having read all the way through this thread, I have to wonder how some of the posters would ever meet anybody without e-mail or phone technology.

Technology can make things easier, but, evidently, it doesn't necesssarily make them simpler.
 Lyric_In_D
Joined: 6/14/2009
Msg: 95
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 12/16/2009 2:15:15 AM
I concur. The minute you have rules, is the moment you are playing games. Just be real with your heart and how it feels. Take things one day at a time, believe me, from lessons learned and experiences with dating, the person you will have will be well worth it. TRUST ME!
 throwit2me
Joined: 6/23/2009
Msg: 96
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Posted: 12/16/2009 9:18:17 AM
I think I might just keel over from apoplexy if a woman called me first. EVER. I read these forums and there are women who contend that they do things like that, but I'm pretty sure it's just an urban myth.

Seriously though, in my opinion, the three day rule is promulgated by those who hang far too great a weight of expectation on a number and on the person behind that number. Speaking from a man's perspective, if you get a couple of numbers a year, it's real easy to hang all your hopes, dreams, and blue balls, on the possibility of a date, a relationship, and sex with this person. It's only when you realize there is no ONE person right for each of us, get comfortable and successful at meeting women, and realize a great life despite the presence or absence of a woman, that you can put aside those expectations. Then, you understand that there are plenty of fish out there and if this one isn't interested or slips off the hook, it's no big deal.
 elkcall
Joined: 1/4/2011
Msg: 97
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 4/21/2011 9:15:37 AM
I think it is interesting how some men will give out their numbers even before getting a reply to their first contact message.

If a man has given me his number after I have replied to his initial contact, I always write back to ask which times work for him for me to call. Afterall, I wouldn't want to make a fool of myself by calling him at the wrong time.

ETA: It looks like my suggestion was already posted on the first page. I prefer not to read other posts so they don't influence my thoughts about what I would like to post. Well, it shows that more than one person has the same idea (which can be a good thing)!
 larissan04
Joined: 5/14/2011
Msg: 98
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 5/20/2011 8:25:34 PM
wait...a guy gives you HIS number and expects YOU to call HIM? Huh?

if a man is into you he will not let you out of his site without getting your phone number, or finding out some way to contact you.

i'd say don't call the guy. he's not interested. he's just throwing it out there to see how many girls call him, then he gets to sit back and decide whether he wants to talk to you or not.

forget it. move on.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 99
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 5/20/2011 9:17:54 PM
if I gave you my number, I would expect to mean that we were planning on doing something, other wise what is the point. Wait a day, and call, unless that day is saturday, and then hell, I am already out ! sunday may be a good chance, but it looks like a rebel rousing round of phone pong.
 out_doors
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 100
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 5/20/2011 9:23:55 PM
Call him at your earliest convenience.
 thehoneybear
Joined: 10/11/2010
Msg: 101
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Posted: 5/21/2011 1:56:41 PM
In my opinion the sooner the better is usually the way I like.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 102
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Posted: 5/21/2011 4:23:59 PM
I'll call him when the football game is over.... and he has no hangover of
 Pixy Dust
Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 103
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Posted: 5/26/2011 7:20:41 PM
I might send a text in short order and leave that as invitation for him to call me....I prefer a man to call me... eh... I know.... its the 21st century... shrugs...
 nwsaf2012
Joined: 5/14/2010
Msg: 104
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Posted: 5/26/2011 7:33:11 PM
It wasn't really specified if I we are talking about it I give a woman my number, but she has not given me her number, or if she also gave me her number.

If I have her number, depending on the circumstances, I would probably call or text her within 24 hours (probably call, I'm not a huge fan of texting as a substitution for really talking..) I'm not a supporter of the "3 day rule".

If I did text instead of call, or if I called and got her voicemail, I would expect to get a response within at least a day or so (barring unusual circumstances of course) if I didn't, I'd probably take it as a sign she wasn't that interested.

If I gave her my number, but she did not give me hers...right off, I'd take that as a sign she might not be that interested. If she after a day or so she hadn't contacted me, I'd take that as confirmation that she's not that interested.
 larissan04
Joined: 5/14/2011
Msg: 105
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Posted: 7/20/2011 7:55:30 PM
my question to you is why didn't he ask for YOUR number? if he was really interested in you he would have asked for your number. this guy is just using the throw-it-against-the-wall tactic. he probably gives his number out to a lot of women. he's also made it clear that he is not the kind of guy that is going to put much effort into dating you, or pursuing you, i mean, after all, he's got YOU doing the chasing now, doesn't he?
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 106
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Posted: 7/20/2011 9:20:22 PM
It depends on when I have time to chat.
The only reason I would wait would be the number came too soon, I like to email back and a few times first.
I work the afternoon shift so I usually don't call until I have a day off.
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2011 10:24:58 PM
my question to you is why didn't he ask for YOUR number? if he was really interested in you he would have asked for your number. this guy is just using the throw-it-against-the-wall tactic. he probably gives his number out to a lot of women. he's also made it clear that he is not the kind of guy that is going to put much effort into dating you, or pursuing you, i mean, after all, he's got YOU doing the chasing now, doesn't he?


It depends on the situation, but sometimes the guy just giving out his number serves as as an expression of interest, without putting either party "on the spot". It's called being "considerate", and if she can't muster enough "curiosity" to respond with either her own number or a followup call, then she probably ain't my type either.

Sounds like you're saying that it's not enough for a guy simply to express his interest by giving out his phone number, there's a whole prescribed "ritual" he's gotta go thru?! And BTW, what praytell is the woman "expected" to do in this little Harlequin fantasyland (circa 2011)?
 johnnyj218
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 108
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Posted: 7/21/2011 12:40:07 AM
What do you mean how long do you wait? Do you like the guy? Call him then! I'm so sick of these "Oh I have to wait 3 days to call so I don't seem desperate" or any other so called BS rules for dating. F'n games, sick of them.
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 109
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Posted: 7/21/2011 8:37:14 AM
Never wait by the phone. NEVER.
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