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 Missy
Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 1
I wish I could quit you...Page 2 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
Have you ever cared about someone so much you just couldn't 'quit' them? Even though you knew it was never gonna be forever or that you couldn't be together as much as you wanted..that it was wrong...but you just couldn't stop seeing them or thinking about them?
 rings
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 2
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 2/15/2006 12:48:50 AM
its a nightmare thats just coming to an end for me,...i hope...
 trophyboyfriend
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 3
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 2/15/2006 8:55:44 AM
I can't believe it's not butter. And yeah I wish I could quit porn and booze. Porn has completely ruined any chance of me ending up with a 'nice' girl. Before I met porn, all I wanted was a girl that would like to go play some ball, maybe rent a movie, go to the park, etc etc. Now after porn if a girl I go out with isn't interested in threeways and dirty talk at all hours, then she's just not for me.
 gotu
Joined: 5/23/2005
Msg: 4
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 2/15/2006 1:09:49 PM
Artist: Sarah McLachlan Lyrics
Song: Do What You Have To Do Lyrics

What ravages of spirit
Conjured this temptuous rage
Created you a monster
Broken by the rules of love
And fate has led you through it
You do what you have to do
And fate has led you through it
You do what you have to do ...
And I have the sense to recognize that
I don’t know how to let you go
Every moment marked
With apparitions of your soul
I’m ever swiftly moving
Trying to escape this desire
The yearning to be near you
I do what I have to do
The yearning to be near you
I do what I have to do
But I have the sense to recognize
That I don’t know how
To let you go
I don’t know how
To let you go
A glowing ember
Burning hot
Burning slow
Deep within I’m shaken by the violence
Of existing for only you
I know I can’t be with you
I do what I have to do
I know I can’t be with you
I do what I have to do
And I have sense to recognize but
I don’t know how to let you go
I don’t know how to let you go
I don’t know how to let you go

My contribution - my favourite break-up song :D
 Call me Sweet
Joined: 11/30/2005
Msg: 5
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 2/15/2006 1:10:03 PM
never thought i would, but in it now.....yikes....it's a damn roller coaster ride.
 gotu
Joined: 5/23/2005
Msg: 6
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 2/15/2006 1:19:13 PM
Yep - I am a big - an ex is an ex for a reason - and never go back! Friends they can be - if they are worthy ;)

i love big - I give each new potential my full attention - if it doesn't work out - you take you ouch - have a bath - and try again. Some ouches easier to deal with...

that being said I also will fight for something I think is awesome - i won't just let it go - even if I see a chance of it not working - I am willing to put in the time and effort to see if it will or not. I have a hard time with just quitting - just cause something is tuff ;)
 hobbes26
Joined: 11/4/2005
Msg: 7
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 2/15/2006 1:44:26 PM
I tend to be more similar to fay.

Life sometimes makes situations and puts people into spots where they gotta make a call. They do what they gotta do for what they believe to be their best interest. "Life is but a walking shadow.." and all

None of my ex's were bad people, I would not have been with them if i ever thought that. They just were not the right ones for me. Sometimes its time, sometimes its situation, sometimes its a lil change in perspective. To be bitter towards them is just so petty. I can list off the qualities I loved in them and why things did not work.
Slighting them is slighting myself, cause even for a brief moment I saw something wonderful in them. Now, saying they are a bad person implies I was a fool....which i tend not to be.

Guess therein lies the difference. I have been hurt more than enough for my lifetime, I try to remember the good times and celebrate those wonderful aspects of people i shared my life wife. Some people like pain, like being hurt...I take my licks with the best of them, but always will offer a hand and a smile.
 softballbabe
Joined: 12/12/2005
Msg: 8
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 2/16/2006 7:14:45 PM
You know I am the complete oposite, I have no problem just forgetting and walking away from relationships. Now, I don't think this is always the best...its like I can just turn off my feelings. I moved around a lot growing, no stability, never able to depend on people and really trust them....so makes it easy to say see ya.
 Missy
Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 9
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 2/16/2006 9:22:44 PM
Oh you and I SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO need to get together one day Iroc I think we're kindered spirits.
~Missy~
 Captain Sargasmo
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 10
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 3/26/2006 8:53:47 PM
i tend to burn the bridges...

i can't say that i'm close friends with any of my ex's...we're ex's for a reason. are we still in touch? sure...i'll talk to very few of them...but not as regular as my friends.
 andiedandie
Joined: 9/24/2005
Msg: 11
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 5/31/2006 1:59:50 PM
Cera Girl...Hugs to you Darlin... I have been where you are...and felt your pain... My first love... moved to holland, where he was born...after the first year we were together... we stayed together for another 3 years almost... it all started in 1989...

...our joke use to be...we'll just move to Greenland....to be with one another... I spent 17years of my life... with him in spirit...all the time... however...I realized in the last couple months... I spent 14 of those years...yearning for something that was never really there... what I loved most about him... was the memories that we shared... I almost dropped everything in my life..to be with him & his family...his family still would pay for me to come out there...at a drop of a hat... However..he never made me a priority in his life completely.... I will always love him...as he was my first everything... however...

I love the notion more of being with his family...then him... and all that was around him.. he has changed very little over the 17 years we have known one another... I on the other hand...am a completely different person...becuase I moved on...way before I thought I did... physically, mentally & emotionally... He too put me up on this pedestal...as if I was untouchable...and no one could hold a candle to me... the thing was.. he didn't know me...the life I made for myself...all he saw were words on a screen...the odd telephone call...where we'd speak for hours..and then lose touch again..for months at a time...

...almost 20yrs later... I regret never having an opportuntity for proper closure... however... he and his family enriched my life and continue to do so...with out even knowing it... it is the memories I'm in love with... when you learn that..you will know... he is not for you... just a concept in time... and our time has come and gone... take what you can from your expereince & time together...and move to the present by living in today... and loving yourself... you will then attract something much greater then you thought was ever possible...

Good luck to you...and all that have had long distance relationships... absence makes the heart grow fonder... but sometimes... we're just fond of the memories we've made... and get lost in all the confusion of life
 andiedandie
Joined: 9/24/2005
Msg: 12
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 6/1/2006 11:38:38 AM
@ Cera...do yourself a favour hon... dont' open his emails for a while..maybe send them to a friend who you trust..or just delete them... you'll only prolong things... and you'll never get closure... remember... my experience started 17 years ago.... last spoke to him over 1 year ago... and think I finally realized it was NEVER gonna happend after dwelling on it for 14/15 yrs ... dont' invest the time into something.... when its only gonna prolong the hurt... trust me honey...

The sooner you end contact with him...for now anyways.. the sooner you'll be able to start a new life for you in Bc... I too moved here from Ontario...when I was 18/almost 19... so I know...just moving across the country is a huge change....forget about him for now...focus on your new life...and with time... you'll have so much perspective & insight...then you can revisit his old letters...and see... he's just talkin bout the memories... how he felt about them etc.. he just doen'st realize...that's what he's expressin....that which he misses...
 get REEL
Joined: 6/27/2006
Msg: 13
I wish I could quit you...
Posted: 8/8/2006 10:27:47 PM
I wish I could shak your PEN -- IS this a problem for you?

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