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 SunnyDazical
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 54
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If men are drawn to needy women....then I can't get why I can't find a guy to fix my dayum sprinklers..I need them fixed!!

slow drip,
Sunny
 RazzleRoadRunner
Joined: 4/13/2007
Msg: 55
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/16/2011 11:47:43 PM
A larger percentage of western females are raised with a morale that they should for reasons of honor and social good help a lesser person who needs help. In this case you are referring to men who seem innocent and in need on the surface, but generally are energy vampires once you peel back the layers of the onion.

That kind of man is a creation of a society that still tries to promote a male role for men that says "needy" is somehow good or romantic. Anxiety or illogical emotional behavioral is what drives men who suffer from what psychologists coin "distorted thinking". These are men who are drawn to drama, and create it when it is not there.

Women need to learn that such men cannot be saved.
 icboobs
Joined: 6/11/2010
Msg: 56
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 12:20:19 AM
My ex was somewhat needy in that giving her things and doing things for her earned me brownie points, but I was perfectly fine with that because it stroked my ego to know that someone appreciated me and looked to me for benefits, guidance, and support. I also had a friend who always confided in me about relationship problems, and that made me feel important and trusted. On the other hand, I met an older woman who seemed to be very inexperienced and a slow learner, and she was always asking for my assitance. I found this annoying. So personally, I think that many needy women are a turn off, unless there exists a chemistry between us and I don't feel like I'm wasting my time by giving them a helping hand. The simple answer to your question is "no". I am not attracted to "needy women". I can't speak for other men.
 TheColdTruth
Joined: 6/10/2010
Msg: 57
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 12:32:49 AM
Men enjoy needy women when they're new, because it gives them a function as part of their life.

Once men have secured a relationship with a needy woman, the only way to continue the same excitement is for the man to have a permanent inferiority complex, otherwise the chick just becomes a bleating burden.
 icboobs
Joined: 6/11/2010
Msg: 58
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 12:50:12 AM
Wow you are a genius with words. I like your name too.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 59
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 7:17:25 AM
it's good to feel wanted but needy, it's a too much off the top. Regardless of gender space is needed.
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 60
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 8:40:37 AM

then I can't get why I can't find a guy to fix my dayum sprinklers..I need them fixed!!


Try telling a handy guy you like that you will fix HIS, if he will come over and fix yours...
 mr.nike
Joined: 6/6/2011
Msg: 61
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 12:00:09 PM
Because those guys can relate too her.Why? there needy also.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 62
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Posted: 6/17/2011 12:23:52 PM
I dunno. I’ve never thought of myself as needy, though there are the occasional things I need help with - specifically, getting a ride once in awhile, since I can’t drive anymore.

OTOH, I’ve gotten unsolicited rants from men (on other sites) berating me for wasting their time, since I didn’t need anyone. They never seemed to understand that there’s a difference between need and want - and while I don’t need anyone to make my life complete, life can be much more enjoyable with the right person to share it, and that’s what I want.

Speaking for myself, I wouldn’t want a man who was attracted to needy women. I’d just be a disappointment to him, and he’d probably drive me crazy wanting to do things for me constantly.
 RazzleRoadRunner
Joined: 4/13/2007
Msg: 63
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 12:38:37 PM

Because those guys can relate too her.Why? there needy also.


I think your right! Needy men are attracted to needy women and Independent men are attracted to independent women.

So, if your a confident and independent woman.........don't waste your time or any of your efforts on needy men. It's as simple as that.

The other thing is........you don't need to voice that you are independent because a truly independent man will already know that, and likewise for an independent man.
 sensualseekerns
Joined: 6/1/2010
Msg: 64
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Posted: 6/17/2011 2:59:42 PM

And some "popcorn box psychologists" just don't like it when somebody thinks differently than they do. Of course, that's how they justify their existence and their jobs......by coming up with some new catchy phrase or mysterious thought process that is different from their own.


And some needy people sling insults and belittling comments in the supposed disguise of humour, when clear insult and mud slinging was the intention. That does not provide debate. It merely turns away intelligent and educated people from putting their two cents in on these threads, since those people know you are posed on the edge of your seat waiting to form snide counter attacks.

Is there a reason that you are so "needy" of tormenting or insulting others that you cannot indeed be civil? Your language is typical of needy women and their circular arguments that solve nothing.



 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 65
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Posted: 6/17/2011 4:05:20 PM
because the rock star, celebrities, trust fund debutantes, and foreign heiresses wont give the 'average' guy the time of day ?
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 66
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 5:15:18 PM
The vast majority out there are just "average" folks looking for "average" folks. I am not a needy person and I am not attracked to needy guys. I like an independent thinking average guy. I don't have a need to be the boss or to be bossed. I guess if I wanted to be the boss, rule the roost, wear the pants in the family, etc. I'd go overseas and find someone compliant. Instead I'll just keep looking for Mr. Average.
 BigBadNIrish
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 67
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 5:16:59 PM

then I can't get why I can't find a guy to fix my dayum sprinklers


Cause yer in the south n I'm in the north....dayum....
 MsMarcy30
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 68
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 5:19:29 PM
I would say i love my sister but the truth is no my sister who is married is a very needy woman who drives me crazy at times and im not even married to her lol.
Just imagine how her husband feels thats why there getting a divorce because she just drove him crazy lol.
 MsMarcy30
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 69
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 5:36:58 PM
But i will say this im definetly not needy and i know how to hold my own.
But when it comes to fixing something in the house or even fixing the car im screwed lol so i do have to pay someone to handle those areas but other than that i depend on no one but myself.
 RazzleRoadRunner
Joined: 4/13/2007
Msg: 70
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/17/2011 8:00:55 PM
Is there a reason that you are so "needy" of tormenting or insulting others that you cannot indeed be civil? Your language is typical of needy women and their circular arguments that solve nothing.


O.K., Geez.....I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings sensualseeker, please don't cry anymore and I will loan you my Teddy Bear for a day or two.
 PanicEX
Joined: 3/20/2011
Msg: 71
Meh.
Posted: 6/17/2011 10:36:40 PM
I think its cute, to a certain extent.
 Sportsfreak89
Joined: 12/28/2010
Msg: 72
Meh.
Posted: 6/23/2011 9:46:55 PM
Sadly some men are attracted to a needy woman (usually for at least one bad reason) but there are also those (like me) who are not. If you're going to go after a needy woman you better have lots of money and know how to recover everything you will lose for going after the needy woman.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 73
Meh.
Posted: 6/24/2011 1:12:15 PM
My experiences have shown that some men are attracted to needy women, especially if the women are passive/agressive psyco witches who are good looking and are high maintenance. (seems many men were married to this type of women at one time or another, strange that I have not met many of these women in my 50 or so years of being on Earth)
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 6/24/2011 1:27:22 PM
Fifi.... maybe the reason you have not met women of these types is because you engage in activities that are at the core offensive to them... such as self expression, thinking beyond the next fashion trend, focusing on personal character and balanced behavior.... It seems that those who are too pretty (needy) never are able to fully develop enduring skills such as character, intellect or empathy.... IME
 Imsofly45
Joined: 5/5/2011
Msg: 75
Are men really attracted to needy women?
Posted: 6/24/2011 1:43:21 PM
my answer would be yes... men like needy women cause these women lack confidence which will make it easier for them to control her later
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 6/24/2011 6:01:53 PM
^^^^ Ditto sofly
 tomi1182
Joined: 1/31/2011
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Posted: 6/24/2011 6:12:17 PM
I completely agree with your comment, but i sincerely beleive in my case.... it's because i like to help people in need. I've been out of the dating game for soooo long that i can genuinely admit confident women make me feel like i'll never be good enough, but as for the needy - they'll never win my heart.... only help my help if that helps x
 movin-on-now
Joined: 11/19/2009
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Posted: 6/25/2011 9:48:50 AM
People....Its called Codependency...going through it now with my soon to be X.

: a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (as an addiction to alcohol or heroin); broadly : dependence on the needs of or control by another
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