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 PrinceVlad
Joined: 6/23/2005
Msg: 251
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Im sorry TheGlimmerMan I just find it hard to trust in a man that in no way can identify himself because of whatever reason, yet still seems to think awoman would want to meet him personaly without any kind of ideal who he is or what hes about.


Stop fliping the script..Im not the one running into the arms of a poligimist,
which if You did get to take the time to know Me ..I'm far from it..

Out of all the single men on this site You can't find a good Man kind of leaves Me shaking My head......

Your profile says you are non-religious..what do you think your life will be like as a spiritual wife??


See ladies, when your only other choice is a man so scared that if it weren't for monogamy he wouldn't be able to find anyone and would die a lonely looser... polygamists start to look better and better LOL

I mean we don't care if you want to be a part of our family or not... you can decide that for yourself. He is afraid that if given then choice you'd rather share the good man than deal with him so he attacks anyone suggesting that you are capable of making the choice on your own.

I do need to thank you though, I could never have made my point as clearly as you just did for me. REQUIRING monogamy is just a way to make sure that losers get laid. If you have the choice, they get scared. There are about 2% more women than men in the world. This insures that in a one to one world that some women will always be left over to try to take even the biggest looser from his wife so the man has the power of always threatening to "trade up". With polygamy women have the CHOICE and OPTION to tip the numbers game in their favor.

Should all families be polygamous? Of course not. Is monogamy wrong? Again of course not!! Should it be an option open to anyone who chooses freely to engage in it? Answer that one for yourself, with out the panicked rantings of the "afraid to left alone" crowd.
 Wiyan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 252
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Posted: 9/20/2009 8:11:10 PM
You've pout lots of thought and heart into this, brought up some good and very valid points and other posters brought up more great questions too. Another thing I was thinking is that we all have our social circle including family and friends who are important to us. How are your peeps going to accept you and you with him and him if you should choose this grand expereiment-would it be worth losing your friends and family over-the people you've had love from all your life when you've only known him for ____? How do you think they would react? What can you hear them advising you? Is it worth trading realtionships you have had your whole life to do this? The price paid might be more than you really want to pay, but it's great you are trying to sort this out now and looking for feedback. I trust you will really truly think this over before making any moves Wiyan
 PrinceVlad
Joined: 6/23/2005
Msg: 253
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Posted: 9/21/2009 4:48:05 AM

Is it worth trading realtionships you have had your whole life to do this?


Valid concern, some people will reject you because they fear what they don't understand. The question you have to ask yourself is, do you want friends/family who desert you as soon as you don't conform to their opinion of how you should life your life. Remember you aren't asking them to live it, you just want them to not let your life choices come between you.

What it really comes down to in the end is that the one's who matter won't mind, and those who mind... really just don't matter. If it weren't this it would be something else and usually when you need them most.
 ileft
Joined: 4/25/2008
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Posted: 9/21/2009 6:10:33 AM
If you don't wan this type of commitment perhaps offer him the money back for the divorce that way you have nothing to tie you to this man. I don't think it's fair that he would be allowed 4 wived but you only 1 husband. A lot of religions and cultures allow this. I think it's down to your own personal choice and what you wanna do in this situation.
 TantraD
Joined: 8/21/2009
Msg: 255
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Posted: 9/21/2009 6:56:13 AM
this thread was started 3 years ago!!

what did she do...??
 SeaFather
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 256
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Posted: 10/7/2009 12:40:00 AM
Good news for every one
http://www.2or3or4.com
it is great and new Islamic Marriage Website (Polygamy Only)
visit it
 Kayo_is_Okay
Joined: 9/12/2009
Msg: 257
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Posted: 10/7/2009 12:54:16 AM
You are stupid if you do it. You can't marry him when he is married to someone else in the States my dear. You will be abused and controlled not only by him but by her too. He wants his cake and eat it too.
 Deb2009
Joined: 11/23/2008
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Posted: 10/7/2009 1:05:14 AM
Women have a I can change a man or I have to have a man in my life to make me whole.
That is why most women fail.
You may want to look at how you feel about you as a person then move forward from there
 wild1-1
Joined: 9/5/2009
Msg: 259
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Posted: 10/7/2009 2:36:56 AM
Most relationships like this they have a workable plan that everyone lives by for it to work. If he introduces a new person he has to discuss that with his other partners. All you have to do is ask him how it works for him and family.

I think this guy is only using the polygamy lifestyle as an excuse to be with more than one woman. The polygamy lifestyle worked well in Africa because of the economy blah....in America, no need for it.
 Arabianangel
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 260
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Posted: 10/7/2009 3:12:35 AM
I'm too selfish to share my man, but can understand how it may work for some people. I actually know a woman that's just entered an arrangement with two other women already in the picture all three sharing the one man.....this woman can just about have any guy she wants, but her choice was to be with this particular man regardless of the situation...she has her own apartment which he purchased, she gets to see him 2 nights or so a week and has the rest of her time to spend with friends or whatever else she wants to do...she recently had her 32nd birthday which the two women had organised for her, it was one of the best well planned parties i've ever been to...watching them mingle together you would never guess that all three are sharing the same man...no one feels cheated, and no green monsters lurking either....good for them.
 13karat
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 261
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Posted: 10/7/2009 4:30:23 AM
I have to agree with you Arabianangel - althought I could not share or enter a polygamous relationship, I also understand how others can do it. I was offered a polygamous relationship a few years ago and turned it down.... after much discussion with the people involved.... and I know it could not work for me. However, it DOES work for some people. ALSO, what a lot of people are not looking at in this thread..... what if it was the woman with several men? I have a friend who is in that situation.... she was in a relationship with 2 men - living with both of them. She went to introduce a third man into the relationship, and the first one got very upset. She split with the first, and gained the third. It works for her... and her men.... and she is very open with all parties. Why not, if it works for you?
 Spoken For
Joined: 12/26/2007
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Posted: 10/7/2009 12:31:08 PM
Ok, when I first started reading this, I thought you must be 18 or 20, to be this naive. You want to know "how it would work?" It would work this way. He would have you and his supposed mistress (how do you know he's not really married to her?) and as many other women as he wanted to bring around. Can you really live that way?

You are not so good at sharing, but you don't care if he sleeps with her? If you are ok with him sleeping with her, what do you care if he wants another wife?? The "heart" in these matters is that the man gets to have a "flavor of the night" and you get your share of his affection when he's not giving it to one of the others. If you can live that way, go for it.

He said he wanted to marry you, and you said yes, thinking he was joking? You haven't said a word about how you actually feel about this guy, just that he likes to pay for your stuff. Have you done any research about where he comes from? In many of those countries (especially the ones where they can have multiple wives) a wife is just another possession, something that they own.

I would be very careful about this if I were you.
 Spoken For
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Posted: 10/7/2009 12:40:23 PM
The only one that would miss me would be my mom but she wouldnt care as long as i was taken cre of........

This is not the '50s! We do not have to settle for any old kind of offer of marriage to just anyone, in order to be "taken care of." Take care of yourself, and marry someone because you are so in love with him that you cannot imagine living the rest of your days without him!

I think this guy is only using the polygamy lifestyle as an excuse to be with more than one woman.
What other reason is there to live this lifestyle??
 Spoken For
Joined: 12/26/2007
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Posted: 10/7/2009 12:52:20 PM
Prince Vlad, would you be willing to let a new "husband" or two join your "family?"

 mjouhar
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 265
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Posted: 10/9/2009 3:34:59 AM
There is a polygamy dating site:
http://www.2or3or4.com
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
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Posted: 10/9/2009 7:03:40 AM
Ah yes, polygamy...where you can have many women......all with a headache.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 10/9/2009 7:22:02 AM
polygamy: marriage in which a spouse of either sex may have more than one mate at the same time

So a woman could have many men - all of whom are watching the game at the same time! Several of the poly relationships I know about consist of one woman and two men. Some I know do consist of one man and two (or three) women. It seems to work for them, but they share the same cultural background, which I think differs from the situation the OP has presented (and I didn't review the posts, sorry).
 brightestblue
Joined: 8/28/2008
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Posted: 10/9/2009 7:59:17 AM
People! The OP confessed to this thread being bogus over three years ago. Or at least that's what I was able to glean from the following:


Well In my original crativity my "guy' was a muslum and can only have 4 wives. Thank you all that are open minded to the fact that not every life iss for everyone. I never ment to have people get so worked up all I wanted was their opinions of yes or no. I respect everyones views as their own and look forward to the day that we can all think out side the "BOX" that marriage is mainly a pice of paper controling you to the government not your SO and their ways and ideals of how we all should behave, or eles there would be no such thing as divorce. There are good and bad marriages all over this world it all depends on whom your with and how much respect you can have for each other. As in alot of arranged marriages they tend to usualy grow to love each other.
 SeaFather
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 269
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Posted: 1/7/2010 12:30:55 PM
Islamic Polygamy Dating Site
http://www.2or3or4.com
 PrinceVlad
Joined: 6/23/2005
Msg: 270
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Posted: 1/10/2010 5:34:07 PM

Prince Vlad, would you be willing to let a new "husband" or two join your "family?"


No that is forbidden by G-d not by me. Our view of marriage is based upon our faith, thus to call it a marriage it must conform to the definitions of our faith.

As to fair or not fair, I don't ask or care. I make an offer that is acceptable to my G-d, myself and my existing wife. Other than my future wife/wives it is no one else business and thus I don't seek their opinion.
 perplunged
Joined: 11/5/2009
Msg: 271
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Posted: 3/7/2010 7:06:09 AM
I feel the best thing you can do is follow your higher spirit. If you quiet your own mind completely ( not easy to do for most people) than your own higher spirit can guide you.
If you quiet your mind frequently--- even for brief moments throughout the day-- you can 'feel' when your higher spirit sends you messages and promptings---- could be through books, people saying certain things, nature, certain movies. Almost any source could send you guidance if your heart and mind are open.
As for those women dealing with it. It is more of a collective mindset. The more a person thinks of others instead of only themselves---- the easier it is to share. --Art
 Lucky_57
Joined: 9/17/2009
Msg: 272
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Posted: 3/7/2010 8:30:04 AM
Approximately 1000 years ago, a famous Jewish scholar, Rabbi Gershom, formally banned polygamy and reinforced the then current monogamous standard. Also at that time, the monogamous standard was officially sanctioned into Jewish law. An edict was then enacted that outlawed polygamy for all eternity, which was binding on all European Jewry. This law and edict are still in place at present and have been the absolute Jewish norm for more than a thousand years.
 AndrekaJean
Joined: 2/18/2013
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Posted: 2/23/2013 4:43:07 AM
Men are nature ..natural born polygamist.I am sorry to bust ur bubbles women.There r 12 women to every 1 man.What does that say? So even if u believe u have this 1 man bargained to just u or that 1 women for the rest of his life.Women r out of they're minds.I wish we had polygamy marriages allowed worldwide.This would stop alot of divorces and keep families together.PPl dont get involved in polygamist marriages due 2 moral reasons.It is more of a means of survival.Not allowing the Government to provide for single attached families whos offsprings r from the man.I totally endorse Polygamy.I know I may get alot of responses by women.But most men know what Im talking about.Even if she believes she has this man all to herself..which we all (women)would love.Truth is..they r still going 2 cheat.So atleast when they cheat,they dont go out of the marriage and do this he keeps himself between his wives.Unlike the infedelity that goes on out of control today..where married men freely go 2 strip bars or picking up hookers, searching for his need.Although I dont approve of that.But what can women unknowingly do 2 stop this?Either way you r still sharing your man.Get use to it.If hes not cheating now..most likely hes going to or already has atleast once in a lifetime.
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
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Posted: 4/17/2013 3:48:48 PM
Didn't that Jeffries guy have like 60+ wives .
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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Posted: 4/17/2013 4:07:46 PM
Kayo_is_Okay wrote:


You are stupid if you do it. You can't marry him when he is married to someone else in the States my dear. You will be abused and controlled not only by him but by her too. He wants his cake and eat it too.


Actually, with the rise of Islam in the USA, it will not be long before polygamy is accepted, and the laws changed.
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