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 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 143
How important is a THREESOME???Page 6 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)

Likely he will find it extremely difficult to fine another women that will go along with it so it is not something that will happen more than once or twice.


Ha Ha... don't count on it! it's much easier to find a woman for a threesome than you might think! Easier in fact than just finding one to hookup with when you're just a single guy!

When I was with a girl who liked FFM threesomes I found women would try to make me work for it until I told them that really I'm just interested in sex with my GF and her...They would switch gears and all of a sudden be down with it!

It was like they were all " You gotta court me proper....oh, a threesome? Oh hell yeah!".
 larissan04
Joined: 5/14/2011
Msg: 144
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 5/20/2011 8:06:33 PM
the whole 3-some thing is and should remain a fantasy. it's one thing to experiment with this sort of thing while you are in college or something, but to bring it into a marriage? no way. that is asking for HUGE trouble. sure, there are people that have open relationships, etc., but unless you are a swinger then don't mess with your marriage by bringing something like this into it. you made the right decision, op, and your ex is a complete jerk. he obviously has/had some sort of sexual addiction problem.
 EverybodyCares
Joined: 1/20/2010
Msg: 145
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 5/20/2011 8:17:21 PM
anenigma: I cannot fathom why any guy who had you as his love would ever want to engage in a 3some. It makes no sense.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 146
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 5/20/2011 8:45:35 PM
I must be getting old.
Takes all my time and effort just to get a two-some.
:-P

But not not all guys are into that or think it important.
One hot babe will do for most of us.
 recreator611
Joined: 1/29/2011
Msg: 147
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 5/27/2011 4:42:59 AM
In a situation like this knowing just whats expected is a major thing....seen it split couples as one finds an extra person more attracting than the one their with....thus splitting a marriage or relationship....can be touchy....
 MsSookieStackhouse
Joined: 4/26/2011
Msg: 148
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 5/27/2011 5:28:43 AM
The last guy I dated wanted to throw a 3rd into the mix...he didn't care if it was a man or a woman. It just wasn't my thing. I wasn't aware that he was into "the lifestyle" until that point - but apparently when he was married it was something they did.

It's just not for me though.
 FunILGUY
Joined: 10/23/2010
Msg: 149
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 5/28/2011 9:57:46 AM
Threesome could be fun with right people, I was drunk once and had a 2 some with 2 woman... was a lot of fun,

I would be open to it with a female and Male ,

it was totally unexpected when it happened.
 OjosAzules777
Joined: 1/23/2009
Msg: 150
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 5/29/2011 11:30:06 PM
The guy's a****if you ask me. Yes-he has some character standing by you but 3 somes are the things you do with 'other girls' and not your GF or wife. Some may do it and love it-Ive done it and real love is not worth a 3 some.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 151
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 5/30/2011 12:10:36 AM
^^^^^ So some girls are good enough to fvck but not marry?

Just your OPINION.....others may feel differently, you very much CAN love someone and have threesomes.
 vagirl11
Joined: 3/14/2011
Msg: 152
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Posted: 6/10/2011 11:56:40 AM
I have to agree with you. As long as you both agree that's whats the big deal! I know several couples that do that and their marriage is great!
 Goodguy40002
Joined: 6/3/2011
Msg: 153
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Posted: 6/10/2011 12:18:37 PM
One man and one woman is all you need.If you love ech othet,you don't need a threesome.That is cheating and is just wrong.Be faithful to each other or get a divorce,but no adultery.Our society is sexually perverse today and needs to change and live for God and moral values.Just my opinion.
 ComplekCity
Joined: 1/17/2011
Msg: 154
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 6/10/2011 12:36:15 PM

One man and one woman is all you need.



Says YOU - I don't want ANY men !
But seriously, who made YOU the authority on what everyone else needs ????


If you love ech othet,you don't need a threesome.


WTF ????
That's like saying " if you love eachother you don't need to skydive " - it's not about LOVE - it's about FUN !

Get a clue !


That is cheating


How is it cheating if both are right there doing it right in front of eachother ???


and is just wrong.


Says YOU . How is it wrong if everyone involved agree to it ?


Be faithful to each other or get a divorce


Why ? If they're having fun seems to me the marriage is going great !


Our society is sexually perverse today and needs to change and live for God and moral values.


You're listed in your profile as " non religious ".....WTF ????


Just my opinion.


Glad it's not mine !

But have a good day !

 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 155
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 6/10/2011 5:53:18 PM
^^^^ I agree! Some people just can't stand other people having fun!

I can't even comprehend the mind of someone who presumes to know the mind of another....it's the ultimate arrogance to assume you know more about what someone thinks than they do!

On that note....you ABSOLUTELY CAN love someone and enjoy sex with others too if everyone involved is agreeable.
 N10SE
Joined: 7/27/2008
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Posted: 6/11/2011 3:04:39 AM
That's a fantasy for many men, with exception I think. Ever wonder what he may have said if hou had agreed to the once a month threesome so long as the third wheel was another man? I'm an observer of people,, who they really are, what they truly want.. and have been propositioned the same as you and likely many women have about this. I've never seen a man accept a threesome when it involves another man. It isn't a fair situation that I can see nor does it make for a solid relationship between two people.

I think most of the time if the third wheel is a woman then she is probably hoping to gain something more than just sexual gratification. One woman told me that she wanted the guy in that situation and agreed to it because she thought he would dump his wife.. it didn't happen and she was hurt. Another told me that the guy was giving her an allowance each month and that it didn't tie her down. Once I worked with a woman whose husband wanted a threesome and she and the third wheel woman decided they both liked each other better than they did him and left together.

It doesn't seem like too many people in life can love one person enough to just want that person for the rest of their life and do whatever is necessary to keep that relationship. Oh well!
 ComplekCity
Joined: 1/17/2011
Msg: 158
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 6/14/2011 8:10:43 AM

how important is it for you to find yourself on the outside, looking in?


Isn't that what everyone who watches porn does ?

But in this case it's LIVE and your sweetheart is acting all NAUGHTY !
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 159
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Posted: 6/14/2011 9:22:32 AM
Well a threesome would be fun, but I think the only way my fiancee would go for it is if the third was my fiancee using a handpuppet. Although that might be interesting in its own right, I guess it doesn't really qualify as a threesome.
 catamount11
Joined: 2/18/2011
Msg: 161
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Posted: 6/16/2011 4:16:38 PM
I find the whole thign to be respulsive. I do not like to share my lover with anyone. I guess I am just selfish though and afraid of STDs....
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 162
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Posted: 6/16/2011 7:02:14 PM

Ever wonder what he may have said if hou had agreed to the once a month threesome so long as the third wheel was another man?


If that's what she wanted....I'd be fine with it...as long as he's straight or at least kept MY heterosexuality in mind and respected.

Any time you involve others it has to be well communicated what their role is.
Are they going to be part of the relationship or just a sex aid?
 kcv56
Joined: 11/28/2010
Msg: 165
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Posted: 6/17/2011 2:59:00 PM
Ok i'm going to guess it's another woman and the 2 of you???? You expressed no interest in women. So you should bust his chops and tell him you found a young stud and he will be joining you every month and see if he still wants to do it.....LMAO your better off with out him. If you were teenagers and not ready to start a life together I could see just trying it but you seem like you need someone that knows what marriage is all about..........
 mscrystal83
Joined: 6/3/2011
Msg: 166
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Posted: 6/17/2011 6:42:44 PM
to me a 3 some is not at all important, yeah its fun if your into that sort of thing, but im not one to share
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 167
How important is a 3-SOME???
Posted: 6/20/2011 12:12:06 PM
Not at all...
If I'm with what I consider an Ideal partner....All I can _Handle_ is ONE!!
If, after a relationship is established, and there's a curiosity (Trust factors in, too)
to experiment with a third party...Go ahead...P l a y!
But "Important"...??
N O T !

 blacktie63
Joined: 7/20/2009
Msg: 168
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Posted: 6/29/2011 8:25:48 AM
I would never sacrifice my relationship for a threesum but what if you love them both?
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 169
How important is a THREESOME???
Posted: 6/29/2011 8:53:13 AM

I would never sacrifice my relationship for a threesum but what if you love them both?


Choose wisely? It is the other's love and fidelity for you that hangs in the balance, not yours for her, them or IT.

I'm one of those visited by the Fantasy, and often, but the visions have never been cast/staffed up/acted out IRL. My 3some of choice is MFM, mostly cuz of the phsyics and # of pegs for # of her holes. And I suspect a woman's capacity for love, and lust, is, um, big as a house. lol
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 6/29/2011 10:29:54 AM

I would never sacrifice my relationship for a threesum but what if you love them both?


That's when you check out the polyamory threads! A good relationship isn't worth risking over fulfillment of a fantasy. Of course, not all partners or spouses are opposed to the experience, either, so you have to gauge their response or ask tactfully about their opinion.

I've been in poly relationships, and I've experienced threesomes. They are great experiences if you have the people with the right attitude - otherwise, expect drama!
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 171
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Posted: 6/29/2011 10:33:13 AM
My 3some of choice is MFM, mostly cuz of the phsyics and # of pegs for # of her holes. And I suspect a woman's capacity for love, and lust, is, um, big as a house.


I have to agree with your conclusions, and I have seen it for real. An uninhibited woman's sexuality is awe-inspiring.

However, since I'm greedy, I prefer FMF, but it's not as easy to arrange.
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