Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
Show ALL Forums  > Broken Hearts  > POF liar or not?      Home login  
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 1
POF liar or not?Page 3 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
Here I am again back on POF to ask for opinions on my situation.
Chatted for 6 weeks on here with someone before meeting them. Met this fellow and really hit it off, had alot in common and we liked each other. Continued to date until we both decided to take profiles off POF. He assured me on several occasions that he was not dating anyone else only me and didnt need to keep his profile on now. I have been putting everything I have into this relationship so it would continue and progress. The last time we were together he mentioned the fact that he was still in contact via email and msn with old girlfriends. I thought this was odd because he told me that his ex's all cheated on him and broke his heart. So why in gods name would you want to stay in touch?
Anyway, something just didnt add up. I checked Lava life and found that he has just moved his profile to there and has recently updated his picture. I phoned him immediately and told him that he had lied to me and I knew about his Lava life profile and obviously he was still keeping feelers out, I must be filling in time until someone better comes along.

He was obviously upset and assured me that he was leaving the door open incase him and I didnt work out becasue thats how it always happens for him based on past. Thought it was too soon to close the door on other profile. Said he was never going to meet anyone while with me just if we didnt work out or I dumped him. He then took his profile off Lava, said he cared about me and wanted to continue seeing me? Is this guy playing me or is he just insecure about being alone and fears the worst....that I will dump him like past girls?
Appreciate any feed back.
Joined: 9/8/2005
Msg: 2
view profile
POF liar or not?
Posted: 2/20/2006 7:43:25 PM
Hey there...

I've been in this situation, and I know how much it sucks !!!
You want to trust him, and the stories he gives you in a warped twisted way make sense !
Be strong....he's obviously a player and waiting around for the next woman to come along, meanwhile keeping you on the burner until she shows up.

Maybe I'm wrong....and for your sake I hope I am....but I just know that I've been there.

good luck !!!

Joined: 1/31/2006
Msg: 3
POF liar or not?
Posted: 2/20/2006 7:55:29 PM
I once had a crazy boyfriend that I did not meet on a dating site. Apparently while I was asleep or in the other room he was checking out his profile on other dating sites, and had his picture posted on the "hot or not" website. Unfortunately, he was not smart enough to delete the history list. When I confronted him about it, he said that it wasn't him but I am awfully suspicious so I must be cheating on him. Then I dumped him. So, happy endings for all!!

The point - this guy may be a closet homosexual like the young man I am talking about above. Or he may have self-esteem issues like aforementioned male. His excuses are crap and you should definitely take a step back and analyze where this is going.
Joined: 8/10/2005
Msg: 4
POF liar or not?
Posted: 2/21/2006 8:41:30 AM
I feel that if he's a one womans man he'd have no need to have his profile up anywhere on the internet.
If things don't work out between you two, it's not like the dating sites will be gone should you both go separate ways.
How can one concentrate and give 100% to someone they claim they want to be with when there constantly giving attention to other websites, and giving woman the green light as if you don't exsist.
I'm quite sure when he gets a response he's not saying ummm, I have a girlfriend, or I'm interested in this girl.
Doesn't sound like he's ready for a serious relationship.
wishing you well in whatever decision you make.....
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 5
POF liar or not?
Posted: 2/21/2006 8:59:48 AM
I agree with messsage two but I would stop seeing him. he has already PROVED he lies so why try to brow beat a confession out of him ?
Just walk without a word... he does not even deserve an explaination in my eyes.
Joined: 12/16/2005
Msg: 6
view profile
POF liar or not?
Posted: 2/26/2006 11:09:08 PM
girl!!!! attention here please!!! let him take his lave life and enjoy, he is soooo playing you, don't email him or any contact, let him wonder about where you have gone!! do you really want someone you have to keep tabs on? surely not!!!
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 7
POF liar or not?
Posted: 4/2/2006 10:57:08 PM
I have to agree that if you made a mutual decision to take down your profiles, you should rethink your opinions of his character. If he took the new one down what's to say he didn't just move sights or change user names. In a relationship trust is of the utmost importance, I would hope he no longer enjoys yours. I think should I make this agreement with a woman, and I were to find her profile somewhere, I would end it right then and there. Life's way to short and the pond is far to full to waste time on questionable people.
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 8
POF liar or not?
Posted: 12/26/2007 7:24:45 PM
How about this one...a guy I was seeing has his profile up and says it's his DAUGHTER doing it. He says he isn't looking and doesn't even have the password to log onto the site.
Sooo...I created a profile with a friend's pictures and just VIEWED his profile...He makes first contact, we have a nice little chat on the IM, gives me his Yahoo ID and actually CALLS "me" at my work number (that he didn't know)... Guess what... It wasn't his daughter on the phone.
He said it was deceitful...I say I played the player. BUSTED!!! Ahahaha.
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 9
POF liar or not?
Posted: 12/27/2007 3:44:07 PM caught him and all your doing is prolonging the inevitable...why put yourself through all the pain and suffering your surely destined for? Why in the hell do people ask for advise they all ready know the answer me

Read the "Laws of Attraction"
Joined: 5/13/2007
Msg: 10
POF liar or not?
Posted: 12/27/2007 4:09:42 PM
My goodness, my guy did the same to me and eventually I learned he was married to boot!, even though he professed his love for me daily and even sold his house, apparently to move up to where I lived. He also kept up contact with old girlfriends he seduced also while married and I discovered that he was leading them on too.

You are lucky you found out now....bail and don't look back. I wonder if he's the same guy I went through this with??????
Joined: 8/3/2007
Msg: 11
POF liar or not?
Posted: 12/27/2007 4:15:19 PM
Funny.....I just had almost the same thing happen to me recently.

I was dating a guy for 3 months, things were real good ( I thought ) and yet I had this nagging "gut" instinct that something wasn't quite right. I have never been an online profile stalker, but something just told me to double check on his motives. He told me the only time he comes here is to read and delete messages.

Lo and behold I found out, in a very painful way, that he was still actively pursuing other women here. That hurt alot. If he had only been honest and told me he was still looking then I would have had more respect for his honesty than finding out that he had openly lied to me.

I think that most of us here are serious in wanting a trusting relationship with someone, and yet these "players" continue to ruin it for the rest of us.

Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 12
view profile
POF liar or not?
Posted: 12/27/2007 4:25:06 PM
The only mention of time that I saw on here is 6 weeks of internet chatting. To me, that doesn't count. How long did you actually date in real life before this happened. I realize that he was still dishonest about things no matter how long it was, but if you had been dating less than a few weeks, I'd cut him some slack on this. You just can't know something will last until a while in. However, he could have easily hid the profile without deleting it.
Joined: 11/10/2005
Msg: 14
view profile
POF liar or not?
Posted: 12/27/2007 5:57:14 PM
Lately, it seems that all I've been talking to are guys like you just described. They say they are looking for a ltr, but how can you get to know someone when your on several dating sites and constantly on pof???
Please guys, give someone a chance and get to know each other to see if something can grow. You just can't do that by talking to many people at the same time. Gosh, how can you keep track of who your talking to and what information your sharing.
He totally sounds like he's playing you. Move on, don't continue to feed his over-inflated ego.
And guys, if you only want to be on these dating sites to keep on saying "NEXT", then be man enough to state that on your profiles. Stop leading unsuspecting people on, saying one thing and doing another. NOT COOL.

Thank you, and good luck in your search.
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 18
POF liar or not?
Posted: 2/18/2008 5:27:27 PM
Profile should only be removed when you & he marry (period).
 marj spirits
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 21
POF liar or not?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:03:59 AM
hi..he isnt fact hes so confident he has guts for doing so....the perfect description for that guy is that.he's a liar...womanizer too i guess..if he does respect you and love you he will do everything to please you..and wont hurt you..well these dating sites are just dating sites i mean if he is really inlove with you...these doesnt matter at all for him now that he have you.erasing and leaving these dating site wont hurt at all as long as youre doing it for the one you love...should have been that way but hes doing the opposite....his excuses are not acceptable for a a one man woman like me..i know u are too thats why u feel that way...were on the same situation and you know what these kind of men dont deserve us...there are far better in store for us..dont cry girl you can make it.....God bless
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 22
POF liar or not?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:11:23 AM
It's possible he's just insecure and afraid you'll dump him, and wants to keep his options open.
Joined: 7/4/2007
Msg: 25
view profile
POF liar or not?
Posted: 2/28/2008 9:08:27 AM
Sounds like a liar to me. He's obviously not 100% committed to this relationship if he's making back-up plans already. It's a bad sign when someone does this in the early stages of a new relationship. Wouldn't he have needed time to get over his ex's before moving on to someone new if was truly broken hearted over them? Seems like he was the one doing the hearbreaking with his revolving door approach.
Show ALL Forums  > Broken Hearts  > POF liar or not?