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 TheDancingQueen
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 226
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I don't know if it is a plus or a minus.

I do think it gives guys an opening to approach you and talk to you if you are involved in an activity they can relate to themselves.
 OceanChick
Joined: 9/29/2006
Msg: 227
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/13/2006 3:40:02 PM
I've been a tomboy all my life.As a child 99% of my friends were boys.I had female friends,too,but I preferred being with the boys.I did everything that boys do-except the obious.LOL.Even today as a woman I still love to get down and dirty,walk around in the
woods,fish,camp,and go 4-wheeling.I won't wear dresses and skirts;just jeans and a tee-
shirt.I prefer walking barefoot,I love drinking,and I do pass gas often.LOL. My boyfriend
wants me to wear dresses and skirts-says I really look good in them.I did go through the
girly-girl stage for awhile,and thank God it passed.The only time Iam going to wear a dress is when my boyfriend and I get married!
 vanguy1001
Joined: 11/20/2006
Msg: 228
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/13/2006 5:06:53 PM
I have to say that I'm honestly shocked that so many men seem to go for the full out Tomboy's.

As some have said, they like a woman who can "girly" up sometimes. I think I'm in the opposite boat on that one. I like a woman who will usually be nicely dressed, makeup, hair done, etc. I like a woman that enjoys shopping and has more shoes than will fit into any one closet. But she would have to enjoys sports - both watching and doing, and wouldn't be above getting into a water fight while washing the car... that kind of thing.

I don't think I'd be much attracted to someone that wants to go fishing or camping every weekend. I think my preferred getaway would be going and sitting on a beach in the Caribbean somewhere, sitting in the sun and sightseeing. I would be attracted to someone who can take their car to a mechanic and not necessarily get taken, and probably wouldn't be attracted to someone who can give their car a brake job.

Guess I like women 95% girly and 5% tomboy
 cutie99
Joined: 9/16/2006
Msg: 229
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/14/2006 6:55:27 AM
I've been called a tomboy on more then one occasion. The best way I describe myself is. I'm one of the guys, but very much a lady!
 kitten_playing
Joined: 8/25/2006
Msg: 230
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:41:57 AM
hey sassyfox-i'm with you. i DID take shop in high school (had to-they had a "trans-fender" swap thing as a requirement-boys had to take one semester of what was considered a "female elective" like sewing or cooking and girls had to take one of either autoshop or woodshop-i took autoshop-the instructor was under the car and i was suppose to loose some thingy to do an oil change-apparently whoever tightened it had a little more strength than me so i did what any self-respecting girl would do...i hit it with the wrench (hey, we tap hard to open bottles against the counter, don't we?) i broke something and oil poured all over the instructor-my bad......
 crtkdguy
Joined: 1/30/2005
Msg: 231
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/28/2006 10:19:23 AM
Definite Minus!
If she is one of the guys and has a lot of guy friends that is a major red flag.
 Chromie
Joined: 10/20/2006
Msg: 232
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Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/28/2006 11:20:28 AM
Well I love being a tomboy...I don't climb trees or nothin but I can fix things around the house...fix my truck...go muddin...camping and fishing (I even bait my own hook haha). But when it's time to look like a lady I do what I have to do and look the way I'm supposed to. Living by myself I'm used to getting out in the yard and getting dirty and sweaty...but then I go clean up and smell like a girl should smell.
 Surfo43
Joined: 1/13/2006
Msg: 233
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/28/2006 12:19:42 PM
I like tom boys , more stuff to do with eachother , I like dirt and extreme sports , if she can do suff like that with me very cool, even conversation in intimate things these women have alot more in common with guys ...

It is not the finxing or the climbing tree thing , it is having more in common with a guy in his life, women are confusing and frustrating to understand, a tomboy chick is alot easier to understand , it is to me a girl that is still a girl that understands guys and really loves guys and his stuff. Not saying that other women are not like that , it is my experience.

My wife was very feminine and feely touchy, cooked and babied me , but was all tomboy for alot of stuff, she really understood what a guy was and what was important , yes she had alot of guy friends as well as women, I had the same we trusted and had no problems with the gender or closeness of friends, understanding and trust is very important, I think tomboy girls are great , they do not need to act like a guy ... example ...like my wife, i miss her.
 Be gone
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 234
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/28/2006 12:48:55 PM
VERY hot. Nothing sexier then a woman that can enjoy your toy's with! Or doesn't mind getting dirty in a fun way once in a while.

Though, "extreme" women bikers are kind of a turnoff for me. Most seem to butch.
 panthers89rk
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 235
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/28/2006 12:58:53 PM
Minus,
I dont need a women to share all of my hobbies with. I would like her to have her own hobbies because some alone time is important. In my experience tomboys are a little meaner and do not like sex as much women who are more feminime
 Chromie
Joined: 10/20/2006
Msg: 236
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Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/28/2006 1:05:04 PM
^^^Maybe you're messing with the wrong chicks? I dunno...I have a problem with not getting it enough...
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 237
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Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/28/2006 8:05:18 PM
What tom boys has he been around... all the ones I know are very sexual... and know what they want. "tom boys not wanting it as much as the girly girls?" Now I have heard just the opposite.. the feminine ones don't want to mess up their hair or break a nail... heck we'll hang from the ceiling fan if you want us to!!!
 icequeen66
Joined: 11/30/2006
Msg: 238
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/28/2006 8:40:08 PM
With 3 older brothers, I definately am a tomboy, and very proud of it. I understand cars, love to do yard work, camping (in the woods) fishing, sports, motorcycles, the whole gambit. But, I have to agree that most men do stereotype women. They think we are stupid when it comes to cars and technology. Hell, I'll rebuild your computer for you from the casing up. I hate it when guys do that. Especially car salesmen They just fry me...
 3wheels
Joined: 12/25/2006
Msg: 239
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/31/2006 9:02:21 AM
hay
my kind of women,not afriad to do what has to be done,and what she wants,you know i have meet a few gals who ride cycles on this site,and my hat is of to them,god bless them.
now that i have said that,i am sure there are those out there that i will not make there
favorites list.thats o.k.jsut because i ride a trike and love life some see me as werid,not so.
and dont worry about spelling thing,use male nurses are the worlds worst.
ride free on three
 3wheels
Joined: 12/25/2006
Msg: 240
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/31/2006 9:02:53 AM
hay
my kind of women,not afriad to do what has to be done,and what she wants,you know i have meet a few gals who ride cycles on this site,and my hat is of to them,god bless them.
now that i have said that,i am sure there are those out there that i will not make there
favorites list.thats o.k.jsut because i ride a trike and love life some see me as werid,not so.
and dont worry about spelling thing,use male nurses are the worlds worst.
ride free on three
 NASCAR-6-FAN
Joined: 2/13/2006
Msg: 241
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/31/2006 10:28:57 AM
women that are tomboy's are totally sexy !! there's a plus and minus side to it though , the plus is obviously there are more activities to enjoy with a woman , offroading , working on the truck/house , seeing her in overalls while she's working on the truck , lol the downside , hell.. there aren't any !!! unless she doesn't like looking like a woman when the ocassion presents itself.. I say a woman that's a tomboy is the best of both worlds.. :
 ChocolateFlower
Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 242
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 12/31/2006 8:38:51 PM
I find that men say it's a plus but then it become's a problem.
I can't fix a car, but I can fix anything in the house, hang drywall.
I've been a tomboy all my life.
Maybe I've been dating the wrong guys.
One example that sticks in my mind, my ex and I purchased one of those wardrobe things for his daughter, and she insisted I put it together because everytime daddy puts something together it falls apart. He got so upset, that he started yelling at the both of us.
The child was use to me assembling everything around the house and fixing all the electrical appliances. He said it made him feel like less of a man in front of his daughter.
I never could figure that one out. I never measured a man's manhood based on what appliances he could assemble.
That's just who I am, that will never change, come on I grew up with seven older brothers and a dad that were all in construction .
 SPECIALLADY28
Joined: 10/23/2006
Msg: 243
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 1/10/2007 6:42:02 PM
I am a tomboy but also like to dress like a lady. don't mind getting dirty though. I use to build tree forts and now I even built my own home and can run chainsaws, any carpenter tool and even a backhoe. I find alot of men are intimidated by tomboys. At least the ones I have dated. They feel intimidated. I am very good at pool and my son is a champion pool player. What I am saying is I can't change who I am. This is the way God made me. And the guy that said tomboys don't like sex as much is full of you know what. Nothing could be further from the truth. You deffinetly lead a sheltered life. Thats like saying men that cook don't like sex as much as those that don't. See how rediculous that sounds?

bonbons
 whitedahlia
Joined: 12/15/2006
Msg: 244
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 1/10/2007 6:52:13 PM
I never thought I was a "tomboy" until I tore out the floor in my kitchen, (3 layers of tiling left by past owners) ripped out all the carpeting throughout my place to reveal beautiful harwood floors, and painted everything.
I also realized I was one when I did not mourn the demise of my long fingernails after the kitchen episode.
WD

PS: I only had someone replace my kitchen floors because I did not have the expertise to cut lino and put it in myself.
 Serendipityone
Joined: 7/23/2006
Msg: 245
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 1/10/2007 7:05:44 PM
I love to climb trees and hike for miles and do things that challenge my physical strength. I know how to use almost every power tool Sears ever made and I work on and fix my riding lawn mower. If that makes me a tomboy so be it. I wear lots of pink!! I don’t know how to work on cars though and have never changed a tire in my life and don't have plans to learn how, at least not in this life
 CuriousCreature
Joined: 1/2/2007
Msg: 246
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 1/10/2007 7:10:17 PM
Tom boy here
I find most men are intimidated by me because of my strength and tomboy ways.
I think its rather amusing, but its who i am.
The problem i think most men have with tomboys
is alot of us are not in touch with our feminine aspects as well.

I love getting dirty, working hard, construction, fishing, camping, roughin it,
but most of all i just love living, being in touch with my masculine side makes
living that much more enjoyable. A woman is who i am, Im in touch with both, and love it!

Balance makes it all more appealing to alot of men. Not that i give a sh*t!
 Limestone_lady
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 247
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 1/10/2007 9:34:20 PM
I definitely am a tom boy. I own/operate and do specialized work in a masonry construction/restoration company. I can operate all the heavy machinery, throw around all the materials, and perform all aspects of my trade as well/better than the majority of men. I am an accomplished millwright and carpenter. I do not speak like the menfolk, but they respect me.

Outdoors activities? You're on! I'll bet I am better gutting fish, climbing cliffs etc.

I am also all woman when it counts. Love flirty skirts in the right situation.

My male friends are constantly drooling over my power tools and workshop.

I just suck at electrical....
 JohnnyVegas71
Joined: 1/2/2007
Msg: 248
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/6/2007 11:58:58 AM
I find the BEST way to analize a situation is to reverse it and put yourself in the other person's shoes. So, would ladies like to see their man dressing like a woman and interested in female dominated hobbies etc.? I imagine the answer is no. I, for one, am interested in being with a woman that dresses and acts feminine and I think most guys agree. It is okay if we have different interests as long as we respect and support each others. Therefor, to answer your question, I think Tom Boy's are a BIG turn off just like most women find sissy guys to be a turn off. Hope this helps and doesn't offend.
 Mr J Man
Joined: 11/5/2006
Msg: 249
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/6/2007 12:06:44 PM
Huge plus....but only if she's nice to look at. if she's a big bertha, its a no go....
 Trimalerus
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 250
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:01:28 PM
It's a definate PLUS in my book, most of my girlfriends have been tomboys, and I find them to be quite sexy & girly as well. It cant get much hotter than an attractive woman wearing a big men's shirt or getting a little dirty. I wouldn't want a woman that could beat me at arm wrestling, but her having the those little twig arms that some girly girls have is a turn off. I also used to cross-dress and I got more attention & compliments from women than when I dress normaly. I guess it just comes down to personal preference, the uber-jock guys seem to prefer waifish twiggy tiny girls and the same seems to apply in reverse. That just leaves more tomboys for men like me!!!
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