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 diamondincnd
Joined: 1/17/2006
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Hmmm wait a minute...... Were you even refering to me, or your self?
 ~SpiffyKat~
Joined: 8/16/2005
Msg: 77
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 12:54:26 AM
^^^All of you ...:)This thread has been so much fun.Thanks for giving all of us tomboys a place to play
 diamondincnd
Joined: 1/17/2006
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Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 12:59:28 AM
Well thank you. I'm having a much better day now then I was before.
Oh and thanks for comming out to play
 pamelaluva
Joined: 2/8/2006
Msg: 79
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 1:42:02 AM
You know...I have lived in this dichotomy of tomboy/girly-girl for as long as I can remember. Growing up with 9 brothers and in a commercial fishing family gave me no choice but to be a tomboy. I was mercilessly teased if I whined or complained about anything (covered in fish scales? quit yer cryin' and finish guttin'!), so I just learned to shut up and 'take it like a man', so to speak. haha

Now while I am very comfortable around the opposite sex and enjoy doing guy stuff, I find myself fighting off the urge to be 'just one of the guys' all the time. I like being a chick and what comes with it; boobs, wearing skirts and heels, whateva. And I have found that no matter HOW independent I am when it comes to maintaining my car or fixing things around the house, there is a little part of me that actually welcomes help from a man. Yes, initially I might get a little miffed cuz I know I can do it just fine myself, but when I surrender, its a great feeling being taken care of.

Now is that wrong? To like that feeling? Seems in this day and age, women can be so darn independent and to accept help from a man might imply that you are needy, or clingy, or helpless. I beg to differ.
 shadow750
Joined: 2/19/2006
Msg: 80
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 1:45:14 AM
Gotta be good to just say screw it go ahead and i'll sit and relax for a bit.....sounds like you do enuff
 Wraith67
Joined: 7/17/2005
Msg: 81
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 1:54:59 AM
Actually, Pamela...

It is not wrong to like that feeling as it is not wrong for us guys to feel needed. It is not easy do "define" how things should or should not be due to time and circumstance....

What I mean is, I like it if a lady I am involved with says... " I think my car/truck is acting funny,could you take a look at it? " or even... "Would you like to help me with giving my/our car/truck a tune-up?" ....Heck, even "I need to change the oil in my car/truck, would you mind starting dinner? " ... All are acceptable variables, my friend...

It's also quite nice to split up the chores between the two so that once they are completed, me and the lady I am with could get cleaned up and go to dinner or a movie...

So many variables and so many circumstances, my friend.....
 Wraith67
Joined: 7/17/2005
Msg: 82
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 1:57:23 AM
And, for the record....

I would be happy to change a transmission with you any day, CountrySugar
 rebecca31
Joined: 2/1/2006
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Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 2:08:29 AM
YOU GO SISTER!!!!!!! I am a tomboy girly girl. I can't live in the malls! I like to shop, but only when need too.... I like makeup, but seldom wear it. I rather be fishing, camping, swimming, doing other guy stuff....
 diamondincnd
Joined: 1/17/2006
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Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 2:33:29 AM
Thanks to the womens movement, This day and age women can do any thing they want to. (In North America at least). Jobs are not only for just men or just women any more and I like it that way. once in a while us women will come a cross a job were the employer wont hire you because your a women but this day and age you can fight back against a sexest employer. Its a shame that more women wont get their hand dirty or not worry about long finger nails. I personaly think it looks silly when a girl wears 2 inch long, brightly colored finger nails. Yuck!!!
Go a head, get dirty.
( thats what a shower is for) lol
 TheGlimmerMan
Joined: 12/22/2005
Msg: 85
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 2:43:52 AM

YOU GO SISTER!!!!!!! I am a tomboy girly girl. I can't live in the malls! I like to shop, but only when need too.... I like makeup, but seldom wear it. I rather be fishing, camping, swimming, doing other guy stuff....


The G-Man drops to One knee and says please marry Me.................

I'll even let you clean My Fish..... <----can ya clean this thanks...
 pamelaluva
Joined: 2/8/2006
Msg: 86
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 2:53:16 AM

Its a shame that more women wont get their hand dirty or not worry about long finger nails. I personaly think it looks silly when a girl wears 2 inch long, brightly colored finger nails. Yuck!!!


So are we talking high-maintenance here? Because I know of many a high-maintenance guy (though they probably don't wear the brightly-colored polish, lol!). I wonder if there's a correlation between high maintenance and an ability (or INability) to change ones oil? hmmm *thinks hard*

Does that mean that if I support the woman's movement I'm not allowed to wear nail polish? I'm not sure it has to be so black and white.

Both can exist. A woman can be an independent tomboy, all the while embracing what makes her feminine. But the term 'feminine' is subjective, and so this is where our differences lie.

OK..shutting up now. Me thinks its time for bed.
 LordOfWar
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 87
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 4:06:35 AM

its a great feeling being taken care of

You're immune to feminist propaganda. That's a true independent woman! And thanks for not posting the hourly rates for repairmen in your area
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 88
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:00:35 AM
I worked lived on a homestead in the country also , all them girls that I met were tomboy types , they were the best , weekends all girlyed up with dresses at the parties otherwise riding dirt bikes and camping with me .
 CountrySugar
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 89
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:06:51 AM
are those the ones you had to pay? *rollin eyes*
 lonelyinbama21
Joined: 12/16/2005
Msg: 90
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:07:24 AM
HEY, IM A TOTAL TOM-BOY-BUT I CAN DRESS LIKE A PRINCESS WHEN I NEED TOO.
IM A TOTAL COUNTRY GIRL AND ANIT AFRAID TO GET DOWN AND DIRTY OR GRESY,
SO WHAT A LITTLE DIRT, OH WELL
GIT-R-DONE!!!!!!
AMANDA
 diamondincnd
Joined: 1/17/2006
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Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:14:23 AM
Well pamelaluva Ummm I never said anything about high maintenence. All i was saying was, thanks to the movement we women can work in the so called guys feilds of work. I never said any thing about not being able to wear what you want. IF you read what I said.

I personaly think it looks silly
the long nai's andl polinsh is up to the individual. I'm Just not fond of it.

I dont understand, when some people read the posts they only see what they want to see and not what is written. Hmmm well I guess it was late when you posted that pemelaluva so i guess tierdness got in the way there.
Your forgiven.
 YX32
Joined: 7/10/2005
Msg: 92
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:33:17 AM
I'm a tomboy by nature...for my 12th birthday I cried when I got my first tool box...I was so happy...I built treehouses, climbed trees, played backyard flag football with my neighbors, even tackle for a game in high school (I was making a point...'cept the point sort of hurt a lot...hehehe)...but I also love to dress up in that perfect black dress with nylons and 3inch heels...have manicured nails which are most of the time long...I leave the male roll to the fellas, and love to be protected by a sexy strong man...I'm a tomboy who also enjoys the perks of being a woman...how's that?
 RitzNB
Joined: 3/16/2005
Msg: 93
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:57:21 AM
I think alot of men are attracted to a woman who's a bit of a tomboy. I guess there's something appealing about a woman who can fix a car or do home repairs herself. However, I think most men like a balance. They want their special lady to clean up well also. In other words she can put on a dress and be just as feminine as the next lady.
 pamelaluva
Joined: 2/8/2006
Msg: 94
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:59:01 AM

Hmmm well I guess it was late when you posted that pemelaluva so i guess tierdness got in the way there.
Your forgiven.


Gee...thanks.
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
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Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 11:01:20 AM
LOL.. coutnrysugar.. I thought I was the only person around who uses he term "girlie girl".. too funny...
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
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Posted: 2/24/2006 11:13:26 AM
It's ok.. Diamond already said she was having a bad day when she wrote that... we forgive her, after all.. she is the one who started this wonderful thread.

I for one have all sorts of HOW TO FIX STUFF books... I am poor therefore i either have to fix it, build it or make sure I know someone who can. I love to "barter" for stuff too. I love to cook so nobody does anytype of work for me that they do not get some type of payment, even if it is just a really good meal. I tell men when they start dating me... "I ain't no foo foo girlie girl" Now I can clean up might nice but I usually do not have the time for that. I can remember when I was younger and worked office jobs.. I loved shopping Maas Brothers, Dillards and other fancy department stores, NOW... hell.. I have orgasms walking through Home Depot or Lowes!!! My friends know, If I tell them I'm "stopping by Home Depot" I might not be home for days!!!
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 97
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 11:30:20 PM
no country , those were not , those were kisck ass friends .
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 98
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 11:34:32 PM
it is not about fixing stuff at all that makes a tomeboy woman, it is about being in tune with being a guy , that is not a bad thing , but or a guy that is tune with women stuff , well women see that as gay , I have had flack about that , talking about fashion , talking alot , like shopping , boy that turned off women , for a while they thought I was their gay friend .

Not gay at all , just guy all around that had too many female friends in the past .
 HUNflower
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 99
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/24/2006 11:58:27 PM
Sddude.

U just said something I never realized. I never looked at it that way. Never even thought about it. Heh, but u're right. Why can't men talk about fashion or whatever. I just personally never came across a male who talks about stuff that woman do. Not that I talk about fashion, I couldn't care less, I more go shopping than talk about it, but I see ur point. I actually like that. I think I could make a great connection with a guy who talks about woman stuff just as much as I can talk about guy stuff cause I do.
 Manda_Moe
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 100
Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 2/25/2006 12:41:44 AM
Im tomboy all the way,.. not very strong,. but oh well,... men dont like it they can screw them selfs. yeah im all up for looking good somtimes,.. but thats ***sometimes*** lol
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