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 rocknrollmunkey
Joined: 11/17/2005
Msg: 5
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?Page 3 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
She sounds kinda "needy" to me...

Sleep is awesome...

So are porn vids.
 BCgurl
Joined: 2/6/2006
Msg: 6
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I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 9:12:57 PM
Guess you'd have to wonder if you really want to be with someone who actually thinks you're "not that into them" - could always just be a misunderstanding to be cleared up and laughed about later....
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/3/2006 9:16:45 PM
personally, would love having a man to just sleep with sometimes.
 rocknrollmunkey
Joined: 11/17/2005
Msg: 13
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 9:23:58 PM
ok so some crazy broad throws lamps and frying pans at you and you still stuck around for more?

wow...
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 16
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relationship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 9:37:47 PM
sO why not crawl into bed and sleep with her instead of alone?
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 20
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 9:53:51 PM
Oh god...NOT a 20 MINUTE drive




holy


what a sacrifice











but did you give her the chance to come to you?????/
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 22
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 9:59:38 PM
sigh


and men wonder why we get pissed off
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 25
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 10:02:23 PM
well, not yet





but I think you owe the woman an explanation/apology
 rocknrollmunkey
Joined: 11/17/2005
Msg: 26
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 10:03:11 PM
I still don't get it. Why should she be pissed off? Who cares!!

The guy needed sleep!

They were seeing each other the next day... whats the big deal in one night?
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 27
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 10:04:57 PM
Because he could have asked her to come crawl in bed with him




but yeah...if he was going to see her the following night ( holyshit 3 nights in a row!!) then yes, she should have been cool about it
 rocknrollmunkey
Joined: 11/17/2005
Msg: 28
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 10:07:56 PM
He could've asked her to crawl in bed with him, yes.. BUT if he wanted a good nights sleep that defeats the purpose.

I don't think he needs to apologize to her, for what? For wanting a good sleep cause he was tired? It's better that he got the sleep instead of staying up late again and being an ***hole to her if he was tired and cranky.

Just my 2 pesos...
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 30
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 10:25:38 PM
but give her the choice



I missed the bit about 3 nights in a row....would have altered my response.











As far as I can tell... most men are more likely to commit to 1 night in 3 weeks than 3 nights in 1 week
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 32
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/3/2006 10:37:17 PM
I missed part of the original post ( rum and diet will do that)

I was thinking in terms of of a 2 night ....encounter .....and him bailing because he was too tired













guess I shouldn't assume all "relatonships" are as pathetically dysfunctional as my own
 trophyboyfriend
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 36
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/4/2006 12:03:11 AM
Suggestion:

you sleep on your back. She is awake on top. Everyone is happy.
 debonair1
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 37
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/4/2006 12:32:26 AM
Ok so here's whathappened to me in 2000, I was engaged to a woman. We did not "officially" live together, however, I did spend most nights there. When I did sleep there all She (yes she, and I know what you guys are going to say- I'm crazy) all she wanted to do was have sex like 24/7, plus I was working , so I had this one friday night I was getting off (going home) early I told her on Thursday night that I was tired and I was just going to my place to sleep ,I needed sleep (I was 42 she was 35) she seemed to understand. I talked to her again on Friday afternoon, I phoned her from work. I told her I was still bagged, I needed sleep. I got home on friday Night at about 6:00 PM I came home to find that she had candles lit up in my home, she had secret notes all over the house, she had a "secret Place" set up in the back yard (kind of like a tent)??????

I dumped her that night. what part didn't she understand? Was I wrong? The next day she phoned me like 100 hundred times ( I had to phone the phone company to get her to stop). Maybe I was wrong, maybe I should've just jumped her bones like she wanted me too! I was just so tired!

What do you girls think? I already know what the guys are going to say!
 Missy
Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 38
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/4/2006 1:09:26 AM
C'mere Cat, you can sleep with me - ummm I mean......if you'd gone over to her place, you'd resent yourself for not being true to yourself or worse, you'd have fallen asleep on her couch and she'd be pissed at you for that reason. Tell her you're sorry if you disappointed her, but that by going over to see her after her late shift really through your body out of whack and that you needed to replenish your sleep banks in order to see her again and be the man she knows you are and not a sleep deprived idjit.
~Missy~
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 40
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/4/2006 8:25:29 AM
This thread kinda reminds me of an incident I had with a kinda girlfriend I had for a short period of time a few years ago. As some of you may or may not know,,,,I like fishing,,,,a bit. Well, it was this time of year, and this time of year has steelhead in the rivers. This friend of mine wanted to me to come and spend the evening at her place, dinner and stuff. I agreed,but I did tell her that I was going fishing in the morning, and would be leaving fairly early for the river. Well, the night was long and I don't think we actually shut the eyes till after 1.When 3:30 came around, I was up and at em, getting myself ready. She rolled over and asked where I was off too???? "ummm, fishing dear, just like I told you yesterday". Well she made a big fuss, saying she really did'nt think I would go, especially after,,,,"last night". The discussion got louder and louder, and I was a little stunned at her actually not believing me. The long and the short of it is, I never did see that young lady again,and it was a shame. She did make a good dinner and ,,,,,stuff.

Now we all know why Walts goes heavy on the explanation on his addiction to flyfishing,cause,,,welll,,,,,,,he is addicted.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 42
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/4/2006 8:43:33 AM
Under the circumstances, it seems she was more than a little insecure and a whole lot needy.
 Eclectic Elf
Joined: 12/2/2005
Msg: 52
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I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/4/2006 12:42:36 PM

^ Guilt? What's that?


it goes hand in hand with having a conscience -- based on what you post, that too is probably something you're unfamiliar with....
 andiedandie
Joined: 9/24/2005
Msg: 63
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 3/4/2006 8:56:57 PM
Ok...Rule # 1...in any relatinship should be....DON'T ASSUME ANYTHING!!... God knows I've been in relationships....where you have a conversation with the guy...and we'll use sleep as the example...even if we had plans the next day... if you (man) are tired... (and I get tired...believe me I do...on your side bud...totally I am)... tell them your tired, as you did but say in the same sentence... "I WANT TO ....AND WILL...SEE YOU TOMORROW".

Sounds to me like this is a breakdown in communication...us woman have got to remember men think like "K.I.S.S." (Keep it simple Stupid)...so they say only what they think they need to... you needed sleep...and you told her that...

BUT... Us woman are a little more complex...for us...the thought hasn't been completed... We like run on sentences... with all the details!! lol And the men..." I NEED SLEEP"

This is not all to say that woman or your gal are needy...we simply just think differently then each other... why do you think the book by John Gray is it??... "MEN ARE FROM MARS, AND WOMAN ARE FROM VENUS"...was so damn popular...
 RandyRockit
Joined: 6/3/2005
Msg: 67
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I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 4/14/2006 9:52:12 AM
Who needs sleep...lets watch the sun come up!
I do have a thang for Taurus fishies :)
I also love all my bro. and sisters.
Peace!
Does chocolate cause zits?
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 75
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 4/15/2006 8:20:28 AM
Gak!

I feel like I just went through someone's underwear drawer!!

Wouldn't the last post be better as PERSONAL correspondance?
 a_vamp
Joined: 4/24/2004
Msg: 77
I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 4/16/2006 12:06:18 AM
Woah! Noticed this thread a bit late… Seems like its already evolved into something “personal”. Am not gonna read the whole thread but would still like to chip in my 2-cents on the 1st post if the OP doesn’t mind..

Um... IMHO....Yes, you need sleep. That’s an un-arguable fact. So fair enough, its definitely "OK" to want to sleep.

However, you told her you wanna stay home and sleep on the day RIGHT after you've slept with her without a clue to her that she WILL see you again... that's not very “OK”…

I know ya tired but hmm... sorry bro, you were indeed a bit “insensitive” on that Saturday. You may not mean it but it was indeed a bit harsh to say that to a woman who was probably still reminiscing the way your arms felt around her the night before. Naturally, she felt “used n dumped” after hearing what you said… Its got nothing to do with whether she’s a “needy” or not.
 57LEBOWSKI
Joined: 3/2/2006
Msg: 81
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I need sleeep <------- enough to kill a relatioship ?
Posted: 11/18/2007 3:19:19 PM
this brings back some not so fond memories,a long time ago i remember being kept awake to talk, night after night,,i seldom got to sleep before 2 am,,then had to get up for work at 6.i was a zombie for months, it was the start of a tumultuous relationship.
her mood could change in a millisecond.. i suspect the sex with your girl is great, so it's up to you how long you can put up with her bullshit.
 Dumpling-Girl
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 82
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Posted: 11/19/2007 9:25:05 PM
I think maybe if you had concentrated a little less on the idea that she's being "unreasonable" in not understanding your need to sleep, and concentrated more on whether she is feeling badly or not, then the two of you could have communicated better. You obviously saw that she was feeling insecure about the relationship when you told her you needed sleep, but instead of wanting to make her feel better, you just got offended that she didn't want you to get sleep too. From her point of view, it looked like you weren't too tired to go over and spend the night (presumably have sex) the night before, but when you actually have evening plans (like a date), then you call last minute and say you're too tired. Why shouldn't she wonder if your feelings are waning? That shouldn't be a big problem in itself. It probably is in how you reacted to her reaction that really brought things down. If you had been understanding and managed to reassure her of your feelings, and showed her the next day that your feelings were just as strong, then it would have all turned out. Was she suffering from insecurity? Of course. But that doesn't mean she's not worth dating. It's really not that hard to reassure a woman, and that's all she really needed. I don't think she needed you to come over that night. I think she just needed you to be understanding of her feelings. Apologize for cancelling plans, and being considerate of her feelings. Even from your post, it sounds like you feel like you are entitled to cancel plans if you feel tired. A lot of people don't operate that way, and will push themselves to follow through on their committed appointments and dates even if they are tired, or at least feel badly when they do have to cancel on someone. From her point of view, she was probably so infatuated at that point that she wouldn't ever be cancelling on you just because she was tired. She'd probably just want to relax with you if the tables were turned.
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