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 deajr65
Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 654
Is separated single?Page 13 of 37    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37)
I feel being seperated is recovery time....Remembering who you were and who want to be..

Theropy..........And you never know what can happen...
 swarthy
Joined: 8/5/2005
Msg: 656
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/18/2006 5:47:53 PM
to me the definition of being single is no strings attached like never maried no boyfriend or girlfried or even divorced to me is single, being separated to me is married but living separate lifes., no pun intended but like the saying goes "Is not over untill the fat lady sings"
 hazel,eyes
Joined: 5/12/2006
Msg: 657
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/19/2006 5:16:57 AM
ok if im not classified as single ill give you my exes phone # and you can tell him im still married and that its not over betwwen us yet cause the fat lady hasnt sang yet,, ill laugh at you when you when he tells you where to go and how to get there
 vrb1955
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 658
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/19/2006 5:34:56 AM
You are still legally married in the eyes of the law and certain churches . In the state of PA. We have a little thing called NO Fault Divorce..If you are serious about dissolving the marriage it's less than 500.00 to get one.


Pitty poor Sir Paul McCartney..no pre-nup, a 1.5 billion fortune , and child support to pay for the next 18 years ..he should have just stayed married
 iam_devilwoman
Joined: 5/9/2006
Msg: 659
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/19/2006 5:43:16 AM
If they have been separated for only a short time, then you risk that they might get back together. On the other hand...someone in my shoes, been seperated for 8 years, he has his life and I have mine....divorce, I can't afford a "crook" and he won't pay for one..tried the "free" thing but with that both parties have to agree on everything, right down to the way he dots his i's, and although I would be getting the sh*tty end of the stick here I have agreed to give it all to him just to get it finalized. I look at myself as being single.
 pam626
Joined: 5/17/2006
Msg: 660
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/19/2006 5:57:45 AM
in my book....OH YES!!!! I am seperated by my choice...but unfortunately have to wait until the $##% agrees to something...or the judge will decide. Some people...seperated is not by their choice so I think that they will have a harder time meeting someone..
 bigcubsfan
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 662
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:52:49 PM
yes! seperated means that your on your own once again!
sepersted meaning not together! divorced means no
leagal ties together. my opinion, seperated is a word
that makes it ok to go out with other guys! im a big
time believer in either marr or not. please dont argue or
yell at me, its only my opinion.

jeff
 sassyvgirl
Joined: 4/2/2006
Msg: 663
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/19/2006 8:50:39 PM

I feel being seperated is recovery time....Remembering who you were and who want to be..

Theropy..........And you never know what can happen...


I agree with that....however, I do understand that there are sometimes extenuating circumstances that keep people legally married for longer than they would like...I just don't beleive that money should be one of them...just my .02
 carcar68
Joined: 3/17/2006
Msg: 665
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/20/2006 12:59:55 PM
Good one Christina!!! I agree with you.
 edm_liz
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 666
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Is separated single?
Posted: 5/20/2006 6:01:33 PM
my divorce cost me $175 dollars, and an afternoon of paperwork. If they don't bother getting a divorce, there is a reason they are hanging on to that person....and it's creepy.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 667
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Is separated single?
Posted: 5/20/2006 6:05:59 PM
"What's going to change during the year that I HAVE TO wait before the divorce is finnal?"

A year from now, you can look back and see for yourself what has changed. You will probably be surprised.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 670
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Posted: 5/21/2006 6:33:36 AM
How can separated be single when almost every sentence separated people write contains the word "We". When we become I, then you are getting a lot closer to being healed and ready to move on.
 mai_ling
Joined: 5/21/2006
Msg: 671
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/21/2006 8:18:30 AM
separated=separated
divorced=divorced
single=single
widowed=widowed

separated doesn't not mean single and does not mean divorced.
 mofo8578
Joined: 5/5/2006
Msg: 679
Why not bring up a regular 'bloke'?
Posted: 5/24/2006 7:05:30 PM
So what if Sir Paul didn't sign a pre-nup? In my eyes he's still obligated for child support, but other than that, screw it. The simple (yes, simple) fact of being married shouldn't give all rights away to what you've accumulated over the years outside of that. Far too many woman (I know I'm gonna regret saying this, lol) beleive they deserve half of their husbands assets, even though they (the woman) had nothing to do with accumulating those assets. I'm all for splitting an empire built together, but I'll be damned if I'm responsible for a womans lifestyle after she decides to leave. If she wanted to maintain that lifestyle, stay with who you had it with.

*disclaimer*: I do not think of all women this way, only those who are guilty of it.
 mofo8578
Joined: 5/5/2006
Msg: 680
Don't blame your "money grabbing" lawyer.......
Posted: 5/24/2006 7:07:51 PM
you picked him/her.
 mofo8578
Joined: 5/5/2006
Msg: 681
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/24/2006 7:11:52 PM
"What ever happened to separation meaning that the couple is just not living together but still working on trying to fix the relationship?"


Whatever happened to two people calling it quits, and not have the gov't or morality police step in?
 lizross2
Joined: 5/28/2006
Msg: 689
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/28/2006 11:28:03 AM
Hello everyone,

I am separated and have been for almost 4 years. The reason I am not divorced by now is the money thing. It is very expensive to get a divorce. But, I will get one eventually. I do not look at myself as being married anymore. Although, I am married in the eyes of the law, I am not in my heart and I think that's what counts. I am not bothered by my husband. That in itself is a long story.
 Kytasau
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 690
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/28/2006 11:32:08 AM
Depends on how long they have been seperated and/or how emotionally involved they still are with the partner they're seperated from.
 Frank44010
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 691
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/28/2006 2:15:36 PM
I'm in the "separated" catagory and it appears to be a state of limbo instead of flux. My marriage is finished - the paperwork is not.
 TampaLady
Joined: 3/20/2006
Msg: 693
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/29/2006 12:57:28 AM
Separation is not only a legal grey area, but can also be an emotional grey area. For some, the marriage was really over long ago and it's just a matter of crossing the T's and dotting the I's. For others, the emotional battle can continue for years with no guarantee that a divorce will ever occur.

Not everyone thinks they need an adjustment period after a separation or divorce, but I think everyone benefits by having time to settle into a new life.

I'd rather take a chance on a man fresh out of a marriage, than one who's never committed to a marriage at all. (For reference: I'm 51 with a 20 year marriage behind me. Any never-married man I'd be interested in has a long track record of never making the ultimate commitment.) Dating someone who's separated is risky, but I think it's possible to get to know the individual and their circumstance before deep emotional ties form.
 YippieRiyiya
Joined: 5/19/2006
Msg: 694
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Posted: 5/29/2006 8:44:11 AM
Not just No...but hell NO! Been there done that. Sometimes there really is no love in the marriage and both partners would like out but it is difficult to split up the assets of a long term marriage and start over. I think most will choose to stay in the marriage to protect what they have earned materially. Meantime "we" the other person get older with less options.
 crabstuffing
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 696
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/29/2006 9:04:53 AM

Seperated is far from single. Pending divorce is far from divorced. Newly divorced is far from single too.


SO TRUE.
 flsoldier
Joined: 5/28/2006
Msg: 697
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/29/2006 9:10:09 AM
No matter how long you've been separated, if you're not divorced, you're not single.

Everyone has their personal preferences and views this differently. Myself, I state plainly in any profile I've ever written that if you're "married but separated" I'm not interested. Don't contact me.

I know people say there are financial reasons, personal reasons, the kids, etc, blah, blah. That's fine and good and the reasons may be valid for you, but it's not something I'd have any interest in being a part of.
 OrchidDaisy
Joined: 3/17/2006
Msg: 698
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/29/2006 10:39:40 AM
Each situation is individual. I married a rocket scientist who abandonned me right away and has lived in another state ever since. In this case - I was only married on paper and an annulment should be easy...... BUT, if you are wanting to see someone who still LIVES with their ex, or has KIDS with their ex (especially young kids...) Then you have a whole different ball of wax and you should absolutely wait until the divorce is final. Why? There is a special thing that happens psychologically once a person is actually free - they could suddenly really want to explore - and only have been using you to get through their situation. (Just like how men leave after getting through school - they have that degree and want to upgrade the woman also...) IF he gets a divorce - and then he pursues you continually - then you know it's real and good. Don't push - let it all work out naturally... you'll see his true desires... Hope this helps - Justine
 Bikeman_
Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 700
Is separated single?
Posted: 5/30/2006 8:37:21 AM
some separated people are more available to date than others. in the same respect some single and divorced folks are more available. evaluate on a case-by-case basis. hmm that neatly sums up my opinion.
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