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 RANGER FAN
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 26
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29 is a grown adult. Go enjoy. Dont let age bother you at all. :)
 Playfulnfunn
Joined: 1/21/2006
Msg: 27
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:20:26 PM
The last two guys I dated were in their 30's.
So, age doesn't bother me.
 ROSETTA1963
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 28
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:29:00 PM
AGE IS JUST A NUMBER AS LONG AS U BOTH LEGAL GO FOR IT. BE HAPPY
 Take_a_Lap!
Joined: 7/21/2007
Msg: 29
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:35:19 PM
9 years are you kidding me. I'm not datimg anyone unless they are at least 16 years younger than me. My dad was 18 years older than my mother.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 30
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:38:28 PM
I prefer to date only people with at least a 150 year age difference. Either younger than -114, or older than 186. Either way, makes no difference to me.
 cowtrucker
Joined: 5/20/2007
Msg: 31
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:49:05 PM
What is Age anyway? Its just a number. Maturity or lack there of, is what you need to focus on. Do the two of you make each other happy, and fill the void in your hearts? Do you have things in common, strong enough that would last into the future?

Yes, I agree, when you are in your 20's it makes a big difference, however, once you get past the drinking and partying, have a child or two, go through a divorce or break-up, and experience a little bit of life's joys and struggles, that's when maturity sets in...

We all know women tend to be a little more mature than men, so I would say go for it! Give her a little time and get to know her, and let her get to know you. There may be some things you remember from your childhood that she may not have experienced, but the fun is teaching her things about life she may not know.

Personally, I prefer the older male. I get along better with them, and tend to have more in common. If it seems to be a problem with either you or her, I would have an open conversation and talk about it, both the pros and cons, and together, (if she is something you are interested in, and vice versa), make the decision, together, of what happens next...

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 NatGoat
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 32
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:07:44 PM
Personally , I wouldn't have a problem with a 20 year difference . .
. . on the Younger side, that is . .
That's Still older than my Kids . . but there is a Maturity Factor, too . . !!!
It's a rare woman, indeed that looks Exceptional .. much beyond 50 . . !!!
- Now . . Jane Fonda . . ?? . . Great at _70_ . . !!! -
 AmALilDevil
Joined: 3/20/2006
Msg: 33
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:05:49 PM
By now, I would hope you have gotten an answer to satisfy. But...I figured I would note something I haven't read on any of the replies. My parents (ages 19 and 24 at my birth) were married for only 7 years before they divorced. They each remarried years later. My stepfather is 11 years older than my mom AND my dad is 12 years older than my stepmother. Each have been married for over 20 years. I personally think it's a better thing to have such an age difference. It seems to have worked well for them anyways.
 sleepless in vic
Joined: 7/5/2007
Msg: 35
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 6:31:16 PM
i dont think its to young i dont get along with males the same age or younger thna me at all i think there to immature. I dated someone 17 yrs older than me for 4 yrs and if i hadnt moved to vancouver island we would still be together
 Take_a_Lap!
Joined: 7/21/2007
Msg: 36
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 6:54:28 PM
Thisnicworks.....Ritchie Blackmore's wife of 15 years is 7 younger than his son.....just wanted to add that.
 darkjedi1
Joined: 8/8/2007
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 8:14:42 PM
My parents are 9 years apart so i dont see a problem with it. My mom was 21 and my dad was 30 when they got married.
 captainbaud
Joined: 7/4/2006
Msg: 38
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 10:50:16 PM
Who cares about age? As long as the person is mature enough to handle you, go for it.
 sassyansweet
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 40
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/6/2007 9:18:05 AM
Nope not in my books!!! Age is a number....JUST a number. If u have chemistry and get along great why not...life is too short to worry about trivial things! Good Luck and enjoy!!!!
 duty1234
Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 41
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/6/2007 2:16:55 PM
Nope not in my books!!! Age is a number....JUST a number. If u have chemistry and get along great why not...life is too short to worry about trivial things! Good Luck and enjoy!!!! ............I AGREE WITH YOU ONCE AGAIN SASSY HEHE
 panmankb
Joined: 4/14/2007
Msg: 42
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/6/2007 2:55:17 PM
My first wife was 10 yrs younger and the second 9, had no age problems at all. I have dated girls 20 yrs younger and 8 yrs older at times. It was some connection that was needed to make them work. I have had girls just 5 yrs younger say I was too old so go figure!
 nebula22
Joined: 8/14/2007
Msg: 43
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/6/2007 3:01:09 PM
my last girlfriend was 31 years younger than i am. there is a girl right now that is 30 years youner than i am that i have turned down repeatedly for the last 3 years that is calling me and says that she loves me and wants to be with me for life. she is pretty and the only reason i turned her down is because she was a spoiled rich ****. But now she has grown to be a better person and i may finaly give her a chance.. Peace
 ironhand555
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 44
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/6/2007 3:17:24 PM
ohh heck no! 9 yr differance i will be ok,, dont worry bout it,, just need to get the having kids disscussion between yourselves,, you might need to re think children at your age,, you'll almost be 60 when they graduate lol
 SparkintheDark
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 45
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/25/2007 9:19:18 PM
If a man or woman is under 18 ... and the other person is 18 or older = bad news. Otherwise, according to quite a few people on these message board, everything else is fair game, A-Ok, ant not weird.

*Shrug*

To each their own opinion I guess!
 SingleGuy4912
Joined: 7/25/2006
Msg: 46
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/25/2007 9:39:41 PM
Judging a person by their age is the same as judging a person by their skin color. Until you know the individual, all you're doing is making a decision based on stereotypes.
 masked944
Joined: 11/19/2007
Msg: 47
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/26/2007 8:00:37 AM
You are worried about 9 years. My boys mother is 17 years younger than me. Current gal I run with is 20.....they both picked me. If you both are comfortable with each other dont't let it bother you.
 northeast25
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 48
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:03:54 AM
No. I don't think 9 yrs is a huge gap especially if both people are around 25-30 yrs older. I think a very large age gap such as 20-25 yrs could cause problems in a relationship. When I was 25-26, I dated a woman who was about 20 yrs older than me for 4-5 months. She was fairly attractive, had a great personality, shares some common interests with me, but we had different long term future plans largely because of the age difference.
 Adam 4 Coffee
Joined: 5/31/2007
Msg: 49
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:35:20 AM
My dad is 13 years older than my mom. I don;t think age matters. On average usually the male is 3 years older than the female. or could go the other way around. Age and time have no meanings love has no boundaries. I am 26 but would date a 45 year old if we cared aboptu eachother. I dated a 39 year old once. Its not a big deal my friend who is 25 is dating a 35 year old woman. she is awesome. Age, height, weight. If you judge someone by these things and choose nto to dat ethem becuase of this then you are shallow. Love has no boundaries. People date who they prefer. And women are mroe fickkle than men.

My requirements are that you are not moridly obese. Chubby is ok. If you are middle ages its ok as long as you look decent. If there si attraction I don;t think there is anything wrong with age. I guess I am not as picky as some women.

Its ok for a girl to date an older person as long as they are not married and chaeating on them with you. Don't be a home wrecker now!
 andrea713
Joined: 3/28/2007
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/26/2007 6:35:54 PM
Age is mind over matter/ if you both don't mind it doesn't matter. IF both people have the same intrests and maturity go for it. I have dated men my own age and as much as 11 years my senior. Not much difference.... it is all about compatability.
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