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 gr8_honest_gal
Joined: 1/7/2006
Msg: 101
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Why is there so much emphasis put upon age? Really it's only a number when your mature... yes 25 and 16 is a bit od a gap there. I think your only as old as you feel. If you hold yourself well and are able to be mature enough to connect mentally on the same level, age shouldn't be a factor.
 tallboy62
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 102
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/30/2006 11:33:01 AM
I rarely connect with women who are much younger than me. Unless I'm kidding myself for sex, but who does that? Way different head space.
 daria123
Joined: 6/9/2006
Msg: 103
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/30/2006 11:41:47 AM
[I am 38, and she is 29]

Older guy and younger girl, no big deal, it has been done like that for ages! I wonder is it all right with 6 year difference, when he is younger...
 Violet Tigress
Joined: 2/25/2005
Msg: 104
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/30/2006 12:06:43 PM
If you're even asking, I'm guessing you aren't comforttable withh it.
 Playfulnfunn
Joined: 1/21/2006
Msg: 105
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:20:26 PM
The last two guys I dated were in their 30's.
So, age doesn't bother me.
 ROSETTA1963
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 106
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:29:00 PM
AGE IS JUST A NUMBER AS LONG AS U BOTH LEGAL GO FOR IT. BE HAPPY
 rosesforyou
Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 107
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:30:03 PM
38 and 29

If your both comfortable with it, then it's fine. Age should not be a big issue at those ages.
 jackie48
Joined: 6/25/2007
Msg: 108
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:34:29 PM
As long as your both happy go for it!!!You cant worry about what everyone else says follow your heart
 Take_a_Lap!
Joined: 7/21/2007
Msg: 109
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:35:19 PM
9 years are you kidding me. I'm not datimg anyone unless they are at least 16 years younger than me. My dad was 18 years older than my mother.
 orareroseo
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 110
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:35:40 PM
the guy I'm dating is 8 yrs younger then me.....but.....poor guy....he does have a hard time keeping up w/ me........lol
 rosesforyou
Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 111
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:37:19 PM

The last two guys I dated were in their 30's.
So, age doesn't bother me.


In your case I would date you in a heartbeat fbarbiedoll if you lived close to me. Many many women your age just let themselves go, no makeup and they just stop caring. Your a very attractive woman who cares about your looks. Makes all the difference in the world. I'm 36 your 46. 10 years would be no big deal for me.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 112
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:38:28 PM
I prefer to date only people with at least a 150 year age difference. Either younger than -114, or older than 186. Either way, makes no difference to me.
 cowtrucker
Joined: 5/20/2007
Msg: 113
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:49:05 PM
What is Age anyway? Its just a number. Maturity or lack there of, is what you need to focus on. Do the two of you make each other happy, and fill the void in your hearts? Do you have things in common, strong enough that would last into the future?

Yes, I agree, when you are in your 20's it makes a big difference, however, once you get past the drinking and partying, have a child or two, go through a divorce or break-up, and experience a little bit of life's joys and struggles, that's when maturity sets in...

We all know women tend to be a little more mature than men, so I would say go for it! Give her a little time and get to know her, and let her get to know you. There may be some things you remember from your childhood that she may not have experienced, but the fun is teaching her things about life she may not know.

Personally, I prefer the older male. I get along better with them, and tend to have more in common. If it seems to be a problem with either you or her, I would have an open conversation and talk about it, both the pros and cons, and together, (if she is something you are interested in, and vice versa), make the decision, together, of what happens next...

CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas
 tenderkiss46
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 114
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:01:25 PM
No, a nine year difference doesnt mean anything. Yes, if she is like 13 or 15 or whatever. But if she is like 19 and you are 29 that doesnt mean anything. Some men like the women younger, and some women like their men younger. It all depends on the preferences. My friend she is 26 and her husband is 43. that is 17 years. but so what? Look at it this way, she is almost 30 anyhnow.
Good luck and dont worry about age ....
 NatGoat
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 115
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:07:44 PM
Personally , I wouldn't have a problem with a 20 year difference . .
. . on the Younger side, that is . .
That's Still older than my Kids . . but there is a Maturity Factor, too . . !!!
It's a rare woman, indeed that looks Exceptional .. much beyond 50 . . !!!
- Now . . Jane Fonda . . ?? . . Great at _70_ . . !!! -
 loyal T
Joined: 8/10/2006
Msg: 116
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:26:21 PM
Two thoughts came to mind in seeing this: no problem if I were 98 and she were 89. First is if one had alzheimer's that so COULD be a problem in dating anyone younger. The other is, why bother at that age? LOL. Oh wait, a third thought came to mind: EW! In between too young (illegal age range) or too old (needs a respirator to breathe even)then if you have things in common and it is more than just lust, why not find out?
 tokico
Joined: 5/4/2007
Msg: 117
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:49:50 PM
I am casually dating someone 14 years younger than me. Niether of us are interested in sex at this time and we have been dating since last Feb. We go out to a few clubs for drinks, shopping malls for afternoons, Starbucks and a walk, It's not so much the age difference for me but the feeling of being attracted to a much younger person. And for her it's the feeling of muturity and financial security. We are talking about long-term and although I have reserved feelings about it. For now it's very refreshing and uplifting.
 rosebuds57
Joined: 1/21/2007
Msg: 118
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:03:45 PM
Nine years is not that much of an age difference.....as long as both of you are over 18.
 AmALilDevil
Joined: 3/20/2006
Msg: 119
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:05:49 PM
By now, I would hope you have gotten an answer to satisfy. But...I figured I would note something I haven't read on any of the replies. My parents (ages 19 and 24 at my birth) were married for only 7 years before they divorced. They each remarried years later. My stepfather is 11 years older than my mom AND my dad is 12 years older than my stepmother. Each have been married for over 20 years. I personally think it's a better thing to have such an age difference. It seems to have worked well for them anyways.
 BOT TAK
Joined: 8/4/2006
Msg: 120
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 5:56:08 PM
9 years are you kidding me. I'm not datimg anyone unless they are at least 16 years younger than me. My dad was 18 years older than my mother.
maybe it's why you have such a success in dating
 cmsweet
Joined: 2/25/2007
Msg: 121
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 5:58:01 PM
38 and 29 is fine as long as u are both fine with it. Both consenting adults! Good love is hard to come by!
 thisnicworks
Joined: 6/22/2006
Msg: 122
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 6:11:53 PM
My father was 10 years older than my mother. I was 6 years older than my wife of 23 years...have an uncle that's been married for 30 years to a woman 30 years younger...when I was 52 I dated a 26 year old for a long time but she had kids ,I had kids...so now we're just best freinds. My oldest daughters is 25 and with a 37 year old. Age doesn't mean anything if you're into each other. In my opinion age can be a problem when other issues are involved . If I married a 24 ear old it would be rediculous because she'd have a step daughter a year older than her. But 38 and 29 is nothing my friend
 FrancoisC
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 123
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 6:12:44 PM
If a female is under 30 she certainly needs a lot more than a 9 year age gap-she needs at least 15 - 20 plus, this gives the man a chance to "grow up."
 serre1
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 124
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 6:22:38 PM
I had a relationship for four years with a man 8 years younger then me. It was a blast! Still think the world of him.
 chelsea_hou
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 125
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 6:27:16 PM
9 years is nothing if your ok with it. When I was in my twenties and thirties I would have dated 9 years older. Forties and just now turning fifty I would not date 9 years older, but I would date 9 years younger.
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