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 thegreatmoo
Joined: 10/20/2007
Msg: 176
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my parents are 20 years apart 9 = nothin
 Cupid Is Blind
Joined: 11/17/2007
Msg: 177
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/27/2007 10:13:01 PM
Lord I hope not...I'm 38 and would loves me a 29 yr old! hehehehe
 amaritaly
Joined: 10/20/2007
Msg: 178
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/27/2007 10:24:11 PM
I have dated guys who are 10 years older than me.
 AManofAdventure
Joined: 12/6/2007
Msg: 179
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/27/2007 11:44:02 PM
Yeah I'm just wondering what other people are going to think, mentioned to a couple friends her age and they were saying "oh you should find someone older what are you thinking?" But it's not an issue with us and I don't notice her being young when together. And she's probably more mature than I am!

I have a good friend who is my age who is engaged to a girl who is at most twenty-three. That is a twelve year age difference there. I am sure there have been some snickers (I know at least one person who has) but they are quite evidently meant for one another.
 sprngrstar
Joined: 8/29/2006
Msg: 180
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:22:36 AM
Typically 9 years is too great, but I don't count an individual out, I'm merely less inclined to invest energy into the relationship. Now if the person finds a way to make me think differently I wouldn't feel like a hypocrite either. There's nothing wrong with a sexy older woman who knows how to make her surroundings compliment her. There's also nothing wrong with a mature younger woman that can't find a mature SO in her own age range. I guess it depends on you and your other person...how do you feel about it?
 Matchu1974
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 181
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 10/7/2008 4:05:03 PM
I have dated Women More than ten years difference in both directions! As Long as 2 people have things in common then what does age have too do with it? Age is merely Another Number in our lives! If A person looks 20 and acts like they are 50 How old are they? And If they are 50 and act like they are 20? And who says that one can not be with the other? Nobody! Our Society is so stuck on the ideals of age! But in many cultures Women that are barely old enough to procreate are getting married too men that are old enough to be their father worse yet their grandfather! Anyways I feel that it is just our society that looks down upon people who feel that any age difference is an issue! Well guess what! Too bad! If 2 people have the one thing that is most important (love) Then who cares if they are 30 years apart! Heck I know of a guy who is 65 and is married to a woman that is 23! And He is broke as heck so don't be thinking its for the money! okay I have said My 2 cents worth! Going back to sitting here doing nothing!
 Sepia777
Joined: 2/26/2008
Msg: 182
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 10/7/2008 4:24:01 PM
They say age is just a number and that is totally true... Why feel pressure to fit into a "cookie cutter" image of a couple:. the woman one year younger than the male...
Life isn't always like that...

When I was 24 I dated a guy who was 39 and ,I have also dated a guy considerably younger than I ...age was never an issue...It really has no bearing on the two people involved if you both care about each other and are mature..

If your gf was like 21 or 22 I would say it could possibly be a problem only because at that age you are still evolving growing and changing so much...at ages 38 and 29 you both have reached an age wherein you both pretty much are matured and know what you want, right?
 jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 183
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 10/7/2008 5:22:08 PM
I was 8 yrs. older than my second wife and it lasted 16 loooong years. LOl 9 yrs. isn't too bad she'll be 61 when you are 70, that should work, provided you are together that long.
 Romany.
Joined: 10/19/2008
Msg: 184
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 11/26/2008 8:55:10 PM
When you get older, age gaps become less and less of a problem. If age wasn't an issue, how do you feel about this person? Just date for awhile and see what comes of it! :)
 someotherdude
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 185
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 11/26/2008 10:03:31 PM
I hope not my last "special friend" was 21 and I am 37.
 gcdeb
Joined: 7/25/2008
Msg: 186
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 11/26/2008 11:39:27 PM
My last relationship, he was 9 years younger than me. It lasted for 6 years and we never had a single argument and and are still the best of friends.

I wouldn't see a huge problem with 29/38, regardless of which person was older.
 76dragon
Joined: 7/23/2007
Msg: 187
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 11/27/2008 3:56:30 AM
Age isn't as important as feeling those sparks, one of my best relationships was with someone 9 years older
 SmarmyBob
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 188
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 11/27/2008 12:16:14 PM
I think 9 years is too little. You should shoot for at leaast 10 years longer. 15 is ideal.
 AussyKat
Joined: 10/9/2007
Msg: 189
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/1/2009 2:25:35 PM
I'm 45 he's 36. He thinks I'm 35, and evrytime I try to tell him I'm 45, he thinks I'm lieing. I love him to death, and I am worried that when he realizes that I'm telling the truth he may freak out!
 soliebtdielerche
Joined: 1/11/2009
Msg: 190
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/1/2009 3:00:33 PM
It shouldn't be a problem in your case, if the two of you are in similar life circumstances. For example, do both of you have a stable job? If she has children, do you have experience with children? If you've had a divorce, has she been in a long term relationship that ended, or is she divorced also? Those are some things to consider.
 cmsweet
Joined: 2/25/2007
Msg: 191
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/1/2009 3:14:41 PM
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
NO WAY.
Maybe if you're 27 and she's 18.
I think once you hit 45, fifteen years is probably a better rule.
It all depends upon the people involved!
 *Sassy Redhead*
Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 192
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/1/2009 7:05:31 PM
Are you both consenting adults? If the answer is yes....then NO problem. If you have things in common and like each other go for it. Personally, I wouldn't date a guy 9 years younger then me but then that is MY choice.
 stealth122148
Joined: 8/14/2008
Msg: 193
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/1/2009 7:38:07 PM
My sister married a man 10 years younger than her.

They will soon be married 21 years.

They are happy and still enjoy each others company.
 NullusTabulaRasa
Joined: 3/4/2009
Msg: 194
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/1/2009 9:04:01 PM
But the Sun is still around…..
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 195
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/1/2009 10:00:26 PM
The love of my life was 9 years younger. It wasn't too much for either of us, in fact, it was never even discussed to any real degree, it just was. Too bad fate/destiny or whatever can be so cruel sometimes ~ I'd still be with him and he'd still be 9 years younger.
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 196
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/1/2009 10:25:41 PM
Better than my 13 yr age difference. I was married to someone 13 yrs older. I typically date guys 7-13 yrs older. Sometimes there is a bit of a gap in interests, but it's OK.
 riotdorque
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 197
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/2/2009 7:15:37 AM
My first husband was 7 years my senior.

It really just depends on each person's maturity level.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 198
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/2/2009 7:32:31 AM
for me that would make him either 35 or 53... (typing it out to see it in print so i can think more clearly, lol)

um... yeah, i think that'd be fine - as long as all the right reasons (compatibility/outlook/attitude/interests/etc) were in place

neither is young enough to be my child or my parent, so why not?
 Teddybears
Joined: 7/23/2006
Msg: 199
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/2/2009 9:38:00 AM
I dated a girl that is 10 yrs older than me. It was a good experience and I realized I like the maturity. Now I'm not sure if I could date a girl my age or younger.

If its just casual, then I don't see a problem dating a girl 9 yrs younger. Enjoy.
 dwf44
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 200
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/2/2009 9:46:53 AM
No. I think age ONLY could be a problem when the age gap is really huge. Such as 15-20 yrs or more.
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