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 Celrian22
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 201
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The women's nearly 30 I would usually say thats a pretty big age gap. But if she's happy and your happy. All the power to you...
 mentalninja
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 202
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/3/2009 2:34:35 AM
I'm 29 and my man is 44 and we have a great relationship. It all depends on whether you "click" or not. If you do, then don't worry about age.
 Gaddflye
Joined: 9/10/2008
Msg: 203
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/3/2009 7:48:28 AM
Let's see, the time tested rule of thumb is half the man's age plus seven years so 19+7=26. She is close enough at 29. My grandfather was 16 years older than my grandmother (35 and 19 when married), my father 7 years older than my mother (28 and 21 when married) and my son is 12 years older than his wife (33 and 21 when married). My grandparents were happily married until they died within a few months of one another. My parents and son and his wife are happily married.
 BOT TAK
Joined: 8/4/2006
Msg: 204
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/3/2009 12:50:10 PM

My grandfather was 16 years older than my grandmother (35 and 19 when married), my father 7 years older than my mother (28 and 21 when married) and my son is 12 years older than his wife (33 and 21 when married).
I think what keeps such couples together is not experinced enough woman. Older women know the difference between great sex and just plain and simple and won't settle for less than good...when I was 19-21 I really didn't care about sex...in my 40-s I was not dating much older men to not get into disappointment.
So, as far as you get a 19-21 y.o. virgin is good for you. If you get a 30-40 y.o. woman - it's a totally different ball game...Hurry up when you are in your 30-40-s!!
 Bigrockinguy
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 205
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:53:54 AM
My parents are 11 yrs apart in age,and have been married for 47 yrs this year,so no age shouldnt be a major factor,as long as you both love each other,and have at least some interests togther.
 Lori922
Joined: 5/29/2008
Msg: 206
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/4/2009 12:13:44 PM
My sister is 17 years the junior of her husband and they have been happily married for MANY years. I've had relationship with a man 10 years my senior and it was the best so far...age had nothing to do it....it was all about our common interests, etc.
 tall.cold.1
Joined: 10/18/2006
Msg: 207
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/4/2009 1:30:40 PM
You (the guy) being 38 and she being 29 shouldn't be a problem. Especially when you do the math and divide your age by 2 and add 9 to it (19). In your case that would be 28 (what the minimum age of the woman should be in your case), so go for it!
 theprof2
Joined: 3/31/2009
Msg: 208
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/6/2009 12:04:35 PM
If the age difference doesn't make a difference, there is not difference......
 mydoggie
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 209
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/6/2009 12:33:01 PM
If you make a big deal out of it, then sure.

But, if you don't, then you worried about nothing.
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 210
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/6/2009 2:01:04 PM
I assume the same attitude works for women dating men 9 years younger? Cool.
Bring it 35 year olds ! lol
 Whodoguru
Joined: 1/13/2009
Msg: 211
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/6/2009 8:32:27 PM
The difference isn't so much the number as it is the attitude. My late wife & I were 12 years apart and married for 20 years.
 stevelfun
Joined: 10/23/2005
Msg: 212
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/7/2009 4:32:08 PM
No

I dated a woman half my age and we got along famously.

I don't think age means a thing - it is the 'mind-set' or spirit the person has.
 sharpe14u
Joined: 3/31/2009
Msg: 213
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/7/2009 5:07:08 PM
I dated a man 23 years older than me for 8 years! To me looking back seems like a joke now, but it was not so bad when I was dating him. The difference came in to play when he basically retired. We enjoyed a lot of things together, well I did anyways, till I found out he was cheating on me, usually depending on the person I think is what makes the difference, what works for one might not for the other.
 thecheekychick
Joined: 10/18/2008
Msg: 214
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/7/2009 5:24:24 PM
its totally ok... If she is done with school, then you two can work out!
 just_jessi
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 215
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/7/2009 6:20:14 PM
it depends on maturity levels.
 cvmurrieta
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 216
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/7/2009 7:00:32 PM
I have the same situation.

I am going to talk to the 29 year old woman at a welcoming party next week
 sharpe14u
Joined: 3/31/2009
Msg: 217
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/8/2009 8:05:39 AM
Now in my opinion thats a real classic jerk not being honest right off the bat? Did you not tell her to bait her in , what do you think she might think about your big fat lie?
 Love me, love my music
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 218
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/8/2009 9:23:16 AM
My personal belief is that age is largely just a number. We are all shaped by our experiences and outlook on life. I dated a man 16 years my junior and one who was 17 years my senior. These days I have been asked out by men who are within five years of my age either way, which works well. We grew up in the same era so there's more common ground than we'd have if one of us was significantly younger or older.
 uniquelyordinary
Joined: 2/5/2009
Msg: 219
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/9/2009 7:45:40 PM
I just read a fellow’s profile where he stated the ideal age of the women men should date is “half your age plus seven”. He got this from a local radio talk show host whose demographic is 18 – 34 year old males. Said owner of profile is 54 looking for a 34 year old lady. Give or take a couple of years.

Me? I just can’t keep those 92 year olds from beating down my door!
 nizhoni1
Joined: 3/25/2009
Msg: 220
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/9/2009 8:40:12 PM
my parents have been married 55 years and there is a 13 year difference
 SensitiveRock
Joined: 5/8/2008
Msg: 221
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/9/2009 9:28:11 PM
Same here ... piece of useless trivia from a Men's Mag. Starting at 22 years of age, the youngest lady a guy could date and still be seen as socially acceptable was half his age plus 7. I would like to see that social demographic. So at 22, acceptable is 18 (11+7) and for a lady of say 40, that would be a guy of 66. Not so sure.
 meghanlh
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 222
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/9/2009 9:43:36 PM
I think it only matters when it comes to the age of the younger person. If they are above 25 I don't think it matters who old the oher person is! Most woman are mature and know who they are by 25. Good luck!
 smileforgzus
Joined: 2/27/2009
Msg: 223
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 6/23/2009 6:58:36 AM
My fiance is 20 years older
 waterwatereverywhere
Joined: 6/16/2009
Msg: 224
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 6/23/2009 7:32:09 AM
Oh good grief, no!! Go for it!

 ShortBlonde1985
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 225
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 6/23/2009 7:51:45 AM
This is a silly question!!!
Theres no problem at all!!!
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