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 Ineedyounow35
Joined: 9/20/2010
Msg: 153
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?Page 4 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
"Yeah, but they've migrated within our society. They are evil and having their way with young bucks.............."

I hear they(cougars) are pretty elusive though, and one has to be a pretty good shot to bag a cougar or two, let alone stuff one as a trophy! In most places they are considered a protected species and are on the endangered list. Also using the typical 'here kitty..kitty.. call" will not attract one. Unless she is really hungry of course...

LOL! Sorry but I could not help myself with this response.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 154
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 5:16:54 AM
Cougar is a term that started out as a derogatory label for older women who prey on insecure or unattractive younger men. Boys really, who are struggling in their interactions with women their own age. It was quickly hijacked by women who are older, who still get attention from young men due to their continued attractiveness or just happen to have a relationship with someone younger. It doesn't really mean any one thing anymore. It's a passe` term.
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 155
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 6:28:16 AM
insecure or unattractive younger men. Boys really, who are struggling in their interactions with women their own age.


I disagree with this, and let it be known that I am def NOT a cougar. From what I have seen, these young men prefer (for whatever their reasons are...) an "older" woman, and have no issues with society/women their age.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 156
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 7:03:38 AM

I disagree with this, and let it be known that I am def NOT a cougar. From what I have seen, these young men prefer (for whatever their reasons are...) an "older" woman, and have no issues with society/women their age.


Occasionally, yes. But it's not the rule by any means. Throw sour grapes into the equation, and you can explain away some men's preference for what they can get over what they can't.

I'm a guy. I know what a lot of other guys say about this issue. Things they'll never say to a woman. Most would have sex with a much older woman only for the experience of having done so, or because they are in a dry spot for what they would prefer. There are guys out there who will latch onto an older woman for financial reasons or because they need a mommy, too. Some who will play them for all they are worth. Just like some women do to men. (And for some women, it's worth every penny while it lasts, but isn't pretty when it ends.) Older women and young men are rarely healthy relationships. Though they aren't impossible.
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 157
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 7:28:52 AM

Occasionally, yes. But it's not the rule by any means. Throw sour grapes into the equation, and you can explain away some men's preference for what they can get over what they can't.

I'm a guy. I know what a lot of other guys say about this issue. Things they'll never say to a woman. Most would have sex with a much older woman only for the experience of having done so, or because they are in a dry spot for what they would prefer. There are guys out there who will latch onto an older woman for financial reasons or because they need a mommy, too. Some who will play them for all they are worth. Just like some women do to men. (And for some women, it's worth every penny while it lasts, but isn't pretty when it ends.) Older women and young men are rarely healthy relationships. Though they aren't impossible.


Oh, I have many guy friends and I know they love the idea of "hitting" an older woman, as they do "hitting" any punnany! lol

There are many variations of this; Sugar Daddy, Sugar Mama, Gigolo and they each have their own dynamics........of this I know.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 158
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 2:36:05 PM
"I disagree with this, and let it be known that I am def NOT a cougar. From what I have seen, these young men prefer (for whatever their reasons are...) an "older" woman, and have no issues with society/women their age."
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Sabro: do you seriously think that a guy who's WAY younger has ANY interest in a much older woman? There's no future in a such a relationship to begin with. It's 99% about a guy's sex fantasy that he's picked up from porn sites, i.e., to screw an older woman - and it's up to her to either choose an experienced MAN or an inexperienced little boy (which it is in comparison - if we're talking about big age gap) That's about it. *laugh* I read a funny post somewhere that went something like, "they'd even bang a hole in the wall with some hair around it" - referring to young guys/boys. Funny as it is, it's definitely true. Any woman who spreads em' has no reason to flatter herself too much, that's for sure. As a guy I should know what I'm talking about. :)

As for the previous poster who wrote: "insecure or unattractive younger men. Boys really, who are struggling in their interactions with women their own age."
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I don't know about "unattractive and insecure", but I would agree that girls/women their own age are often too demanding and their expectations are unrealistic - and the guys/boys are still, or SHOULD be, in the process of growing up and getting to know "the game" - obviously they're not there yet - hence easy prey for an old cougar who's been around the block so many times that it would make his head spin. An older woman who's into this stuff obviously enjoys the attention and if she even looks twice at a much younger guy she only has one thing in mind - and we all know what that is. What surprises me about this phenomenon is how inexperience can attract more than experience for these individuals - apart from the taboo in the first place - it's not generally accepted and never will be.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 159
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 3:31:18 PM

I'm a guy. I know what a lot of other guys say about this issue. Things they'll never say to a woman. Most would have sex with a much older woman only for the experience of having done so, or because they are in a dry spot for what they would prefer.

^^^ I feel there is no reason to bring this issue into the equation because most older women seeking younger guys know exactly why they are pursued by younger guys... and vise versa.

My definition of a cougar is simple, "It's a woman who dates men at the age she wants to pretend to be." It's kinda like faking an orgasm - but she's trying to fake others into thinking she's happy being used.
 jezebellpgh
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 160
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 4:20:18 PM
I think its gross to be a cougar. Chasing after men who are young enough to be your son or nephew, ewwwwwwwww
 Delete_Me_Please
Joined: 11/10/2009
Msg: 161
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 4:31:21 PM
Seven pages of posts where everybody provides their own definitive answer for what a cougar is... and they're all different definitions. The only element that's common across the board is that it's an older woman who has sex with a younger man so it would seem that any other criteria ("she must be over/under 40", "the age difference must be 10+ years," etc.) is superfluous and non-essential.
 24suburbs
Joined: 10/8/2010
Msg: 162
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 7:36:19 PM
I don't consider myself to be a 'cougar.' Although I often date younger men. I don't exclusively date them. I also date some men around my age as well.
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 163
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/12/2010 7:52:56 PM
Sabro: do you seriously think that a guy who's WAY younger has ANY interest in a much older woman? There's no future in a such a relationship to begin with. It's 99% about a guy's sex fantasy that he's picked up from porn sites, i.e., to screw an older woman - and it's up to her to either choose an experienced MAN or an inexperienced little boy (which it is in comparison - if we're talking about big age gap) That's about it. *laugh* I read a funny post somewhere that went something like, "they'd even bang a hole in the wall with some hair around it" - referring to young guys/boys. Funny as it is, it's definitely true. Any woman who spreads em' has no reason to flatter herself too much, that's for sure. As a guy I should know what I'm talking about. :)


Ok, I realize as a guy you "should know what you're talking about"...........

However, this is NOT the case in all situations. For example, Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore, Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon are married (to name a few).....and have many years between them.

I'm not saying that for some it isn't an "experiment, and a greater percentage may fall into this category...but don't rule out that they may actually love their "cougar"/have a solid relationship and/or marriage.

Of course wtf do I know being a "woman"...................
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 164
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/13/2010 5:20:32 AM

However, this is NOT the case in all situations. For example, Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore, Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon are married (to name a few).....and have many years between them.


Not really the best example. Both are reasonably attractive women, regardless of age, with money and power... Both men have benefited from the union in their careers. But Ashton just got caught cheating. And Nick cheated on Christina Milian, chances are he's doing it with Mariah, too.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 165
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/14/2010 5:30:50 PM
*Laughing my ass off* How the *bleep* can someone compare bizarre Hollywood relationships to those of average people? Please! They marry their own parents or pets for crying out loud. Demi Moore's career is over because of her age. The movie as well as other industries is a tough business for any woman over 30 almost - unless you're an absolute "elite" actress who still gets roles like Meryl Streep for instance. All others are considered washed up, old hags who belong in nursing homes.

Oh by the way, the last I heard (not that I care the least) about Ashton Kutcher was that he started dating a 21 year old chick (he's 32?) and that his relationship with Moore was an OPEN relationship from day one. Besides, I don't blame the guy. At 32 (almost my age) having a relationship with a 40+ year old woman makes no sense whatsoever. Cougar or not, but at the end of the day they all stand in line ALONE as long as men their own age won't do.
 Ayesha40
Joined: 2/2/2010
Msg: 166
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/14/2010 9:02:15 PM
I agree with the men here. Women do age much faster than men. Where I come from a man can always marry a much younger woman. Too bad for the men in the West, where I come from, a man can marry a girl as young as nine years old as long as she has started to menstruate, and the man's age is not important.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 167
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/15/2010 8:47:28 AM

However, this is NOT the case in all situations. For example, Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore, Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon are married (to name a few).....and have many years between them.


I also agree that Hollywood, sports stars, and music stars isn't part of any equation of me comparing couples, period. What they do is way and I do mean way outside the norm of any couple. Money can pay for many things to "keep them young". Even then the spouse or s/o doesn't always stay with them. Even the ones that seem perfect. We as a public do not see the actual person, we only see what they want us to see.

I think the name cougar is overrated. Its just a title and one I don't like because I don't like basing a mass of women on the term. In fact I don't like any term given to any gender. But that's me.
 broncsbuff
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 168
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/17/2010 2:29:57 AM

besides who else is going to teach the younger men in the bedroom.


sigh...

age has nothing to do with how good you are in the bedroom....I have had some dead lays older and younger...
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 169
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/17/2010 7:12:53 PM
^Try "it" with a 60 year old, and see if she can prove you wrong?
 broncsbuff
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 170
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 10/17/2010 7:28:50 PM
ok fine....

I will try with Reba McEntire.....

 frobin2
Joined: 11/15/2008
Msg: 171
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What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 7/23/2011 12:10:25 PM
My friend just finish an ebook called The Cougar Manifesto, that breaks how to date, attract, and hook up with cougars CONSISTENTLY!

The guys name is Fred Moody, and we called him the Cougar Hunter, because when we go out to bars, 95% of the time, the first cougar he walks up to he ends up going home with.

True story - One time he was talking to this older woman with her husband. When her husband went to the bathroom, she grabs him and started making out with him hardcore.

He's great at explaining what it takes to date and hook up with cougars, and I've gotten success myself just from learning from him.

Do yourself a favor, and go to www.COUGARMANIFESTO.com and pick up a copy of his ebook. Even check out the video, he looks like an average dude..nothing special about him but hes getting more cougar tail than he knows what to do with.

Go to www.COUGARMANIFESTO.com right now. The book is only 12 dollars...mad cheap
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 173
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 7/31/2011 5:18:04 PM
go play Larry the Lounge Lizard, now imagine a female avatar.
 ExperientialB
Joined: 7/21/2010
Msg: 174
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/4/2011 4:00:55 AM
Love the thread -for my 2c worth I think there are 2 types:
one is the flashy, trashy big hair, short skirt types that seem to be the popular image - they seem to be in their 30s from the ones I've seen (yes a gross generalisation!)

And the REAL cougars -
who hate the label
are naturally successful, happy, attractive femine women
who just naturally attract younger men with no effort or thought - it's like breathing
who are hunted by the younger men, but at the end of the day make the decision whetehr they want to play/interact or not.... that's the real power
they don't try, they just are
and they are real, vulnerable, sexy and human.
if a guy is lukcy enough to catch a real one, they don't tend to let them go!

to me, that's the real cougar. i visualise them as just sitting under the bush watching the rest run around - if the man finds them they chose, but they don't push their profile. The rest are just wannabees. if you're not keen on the label, but always attract younger men, you;re the POWER cougar girl!!

Cheers
Bridget
 lady_lydia79
Joined: 4/17/2011
Msg: 176
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/5/2011 5:27:55 PM
roflol. that was an awesome response. I like the term panther, too.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 179
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/6/2011 10:50:08 PM
Come on. Over thirty? You must be joking. More like over 45.....
 cutelilblonde
Joined: 4/18/2010
Msg: 180
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/7/2011 12:34:17 PM
Well the term cougar actually came from a movie in the 70s. Where as Suzanne Somers co played a small part, where as she was this beautiful single woman in her late 30s, early 40s driving this sharp looking Mercury Cougar around and all the young unexperienced men thought she was hot and wanted her. That is how the term started. And to add to that most women around 40 to 50 have high sex drives that is more compatible to a man in his early 20s to early 30s. One of gods little jokes. But the term cougar stuck referring to older beautiful women, like a 10 or 9 numerically speaking that are young looking. I remember when the term began, lol
 LoginID123
Joined: 7/22/2011
Msg: 181
What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/11/2011 10:03:30 PM
ding ding ding... Mycroft is correct!

40 & over & interested in younger guys. Nothing else.

It doesn't have anything to do with dress or what kind of relationship they want.
Some famous cougars: Demi Moore, Susan Sarandon, Geena Davis (has twins with cubby hubby 15 years her senior), Sharon Stone, Halle Berry, Cher, Sheryl Crow, Madonna. All of them married their cubs. So, no stereotyping please.
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