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 charlie_girl
Joined: 11/28/2005
Msg: 35
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I enjoy meeting people both on and off the internet, with both presenting different and similar challenges. I do agree however, that this is the easiest way with more to choose from. I do not agree, as someone else mentioned, that one should not show their photo. Nor do I agree that a couple sincerely interested in getting to know each other better, should email for 2 months! Two or three emails and couple of phone calls should answer all questions, enough at least, before taking the meeting. I'm here to meet someone, not to have an email buddy.




off topic:

artfuldodger:

..is it me or do women seem to get older sooner . i mean women in general look much older than guys the same age . honestly some are just plain shot out looking. now please im just being honest . dont bomb me with emails that implicate me in some terrorest plot to undermine all women. but really the ones ive seen at 35 look 50 and at 45 look 65 .i hope this has just been my perception . this has been going on for some time now ...


Yes, it's you... your perception. And seemingly, in my opinion, a narrow one.
 magicfingers1
Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 36
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 3/22/2006 2:20:04 PM
Days of whine and roses..........or...where is the love?
I wonder if the staff ........at any of these online dating sites...... actually take the time to read what the actual customers say amongst themselves...I would be willing to BET... they don't!..and if they do it is just "the way it is"..is the common attitude! To a degree, this is true, but most of the sites are structured in such a way that it lends itself to alienation and deception.

Take for instance all the ridiculous screenames that are used....either they are significant , or they are not!. Then silly profile question like...... Turn-ons?-.... Turn-offs?.....my ideal first date?!.. (Can you say junior-high)?............. But back to the user forums.........The ratio of men to women is hotly debated ........but ranges from 6 to 1.. to ...20 to 1! ..........All the men are crying about either total lack of response from the women they e-mail, or they complain about not getting anyone to meet with them in the "real" world.

Here is a list of actual excuses posted by anonymous visitors to a popular free dating site.

no time...funeral just came up...having surgery...recovering from surgery...appointments...business meetings...relative had baby...have a job...going to the gym...looking after grandma...looking after relatives baby...phone out of order...scared...emotional distress...seeing friends with benefits...can't bring the dog...no cash...too far...too tired...can't make up mind...personal crisis...will meet in future...too soon.... you deserve someone better...and............... (last but not least..i couldn't make this up!) the dog ............ate my car!
 charlie_girl
Joined: 11/28/2005
Msg: 37
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 3/23/2006 3:57:48 PM
Speak for yourself.

As for me, I believe that it ain't over until it's over, and until that time actually does come, I plan on enjoying life's banquet.
 PrettyWoman1952
Joined: 3/2/2006
Msg: 38
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Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 3/23/2006 4:03:22 PM
tedsme: I certainly wish you well. You are a very attractive man and seem to have your head on straight. I'd certainly enjoy your company! Kathy
 JA of OC
Joined: 7/9/2006
Msg: 39
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/9/2006 1:47:31 PM
The older we get, the smarter we are (hopefully) and yes, this does narrow our choices. For me, I see what I failed to avoid in the past rather quickly.
 3rd rate
Joined: 7/9/2006
Msg: 40
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/9/2006 1:56:19 PM
It's not only challenging, it's impossible outright. The best that can be hoped for is to be initially mistaken for someone better, enjoying what few sparks can be had from a well worn stone and a smither of flint. Then, cold rushes back all a round like water drowns a man.
 classact504
Joined: 7/8/2006
Msg: 41
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/9/2006 7:51:43 PM
I think dating at 49 is even more fun then when I was younger. Maybe I am just not as uptight about the whole dating scene as I was when I was younger.

What hasn't changed as that most men want to talk about sex after one date. Sorry but if I have to sleep with you to get a second or third date you are too shallow for me.
 cdn_guy
Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 42
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/9/2006 9:01:48 PM

For me, I see what I failed to avoid in the past rather quickly.


Dunno, maybe it's just me ... but I think that sentence should be sitting in a book of quotations, somewhere. Good work, ja of oc

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 southgatez1
Joined: 7/4/2006
Msg: 43
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/9/2006 9:28:43 PM
Hey
all I can say from my experience is GOOD LUCK!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 44
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/9/2006 10:16:54 PM
...Indeed it is. You'd think as we mature it would get easier, we would have perfected this whole dating thing....not so. I've been out of the dating arena for too many years to mention and things have changed. Theres all these rules and books and talk shows....when to call, how long to wait, who should do the pursuing, its gets complicted. It doesn't help when you've been brought up from the old school, things are done differently today. Look where I am, happily tapping away on my computer hoping to meet my match. How crazy is that? If someone told me 10 years ago that I would be on a dating site .........


...maeflowers
 justmeinnc05
Joined: 8/12/2005
Msg: 45
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/10/2006 4:52:06 AM
You are a very confusing man. In your post you say that under 30 is too young for you, but in your profile you say you are looking for women between the ages of 22 and 52.
 beachesofnc
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 46
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Posted: 7/10/2006 7:13:02 AM
Hey tedsme...did anybody ever tell ya you look like "Tool Man Tim"? I always thought he was hot ! Anyway, I hope you're not into this internet thing seriously looking for the love of your life; you'll be disappointed. Rather, come into the forums, chat a bit and look at it with the attitude of making new friends and getting to know people. I have learned to keep my expectations low and that way I'm not as disappointed as often. I have talked to some great people and made some pretty decent friends; but as of yet, I haven't found "the one". Good luck to ya !
 horselady48
Joined: 1/10/2006
Msg: 47
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Posted: 7/10/2006 12:44:43 PM

If someone told me 10 years ago that I would be on a dating site .........


I couldn't agree more. I got talked into this by some friends because I was a workaholic & not getting out to meet people. That's all changed now. I'm dating & it's definitely CHALLENGING but a necessary means to an end
 b_michael
Joined: 4/23/2006
Msg: 48
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Posted: 7/10/2006 4:53:30 PM
What if...
Now that we are older, we are set in our ways.
We are less willing to compromise on what we are willing to accept in a mate.
We have a hard time picturing ourselves with someone else afte X years with another.
We compare any new person with our idealized ideal mate.
Our idealized ideal mate doesn't exist.
What then....???
Do we grow old alone? Do we finally realize at somepoint that someone is better than no one? I've got questions, who's got answers?
 cdn_guy
Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 49
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/11/2006 7:52:29 AM
Wise words, greeneyedlady -- and so nice to see you back posting again and stopping by to visit us here. I couldn't agree with you more. I fumbled my way through words something to that affect when I wrote out my profile. Let's just get together, like a couple of friends would get together ... pick a place to meet, both people bringing a few ideas on what to do to the table and see what happens. The first date to me (and geez, it almost feels intimidating calling it that) ... the first date is just a continuation of getting to know the person. The friendship has usually already been established through e-mails, phone calls, and the like and getting together in person is just the next step. I have no problem (really) with going to a concert together if that's what my 'date' really wants to do, but mostly I'm there to meet her and to talk with her and in venues where the 'house' entertainment takes centre-stage, this is often difficult. So I say, let's just put us both together in the same spot at the same time, each with a few ideas on what to do and let's see what happens. If there's a chemistry thing going to happen, we'll have no trouble finding something pleasant to do.

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 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
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Posted: 7/11/2006 8:07:54 AM
Well I have had a lot of luck meeting nice women near my age here. Have a ton of female friends..unfortunately they live across the country in one direction or another... There are some very nice ladies here..just have to either let them come to you or you find them...

You are a nice looking guy so should have far less trouble getting women than I did..

Good luck

 horselady48
Joined: 1/10/2006
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Posted: 7/11/2006 8:58:40 AM

If there's a chemistry thing going to happen, we'll have no trouble finding something pleasant to do.


This actually works. On a first meeting [I don't call it a date any more], we agreed to meet for coffee at a spot that was mid way between both of us [local fella]. It went extremely well so he ordered lunch - I couldn't eat, I was too nervous. After several hours of talking, he asked if I would like to go somewhere else for a drink which turned out to be supper. It was a great first MEETING that turned into a great first DATE
 creamykisses
Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 52
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/11/2006 9:06:49 AM
I would like to ask did anyone notice this thread started back in march
the Ot 's last post was in march and if it hadn't been fo Ja oc it would have died... so whats been going on with ted??? and I am glad to see his thread didnt die....
 cdn_guy
Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 53
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/11/2006 9:20:36 AM
Yes, creamykisses, I did notice that -- and I also noticed that he posted the thread the day he joined plentyoffish. Methinks he quickly found out that he was interested in many of women over 30, under 60, with very little baggage, and not jaded that were also interested in him. Prolly just embarassed (or wa-a-a-ay too busy) to come back on-line and talk to us again ...

Nice fish pond in here, ain't it Ted?

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 creamykisses
Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 54
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/11/2006 9:46:26 AM
CDN I know you asked good ole ted but I have to answer ... I adore this fish pond
always look forward to reading your thoughts posted among us fishies here ...
 holly9
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 55
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/11/2006 9:47:26 AM
[Maybe it's time we abandoned the notion of dating and all it's eventual confinements and possible liabilities.]

I'm beginning to believe this, garry1949.
 creamykisses
Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 56
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/11/2006 9:54:34 AM
HOllY .. NOOOOOOOOOOOO we have too much to offer our other fishies never give up ... those were some very famous words... from a very adored man... never give up!!
 InTampa46
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 57
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/11/2006 11:03:27 AM
Sometimes I think I'm an odd duck in a pool of fishes. If success is meeting some great people and creating close relationships, I have had lots of success. Now if success is finding the elusive "One," not quite. I look at my mom (77) and one of my older sisters (56) and they are extremely happy and meeting people for more than 10 years. I too have been divorced for 10 years and started with a personal ad the weekend after the divorce was final. My very first date was with someone 18 years older and looked old enough to be my dad. It was a pleasant and fun time. Remember to enjoy the ride and you won't miss getting to the destination so badly. Sometimes I even think that one of the guys I've met in the past might be the one in the future, so never burn your bridges. They may even be your contact to your future wife. One of the guys I met on yahoo told me about this site. Meet anyone you click with and have fun with no expectations.
 kitten 62
Joined: 5/10/2006
Msg: 58
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 7/11/2006 1:08:28 PM
dont loose the faith tedsme....shes out there for u...
 Nomad123
Joined: 8/23/2006
Msg: 59
Dating at this age seems challenging (48 years old)
Posted: 8/27/2006 8:24:58 PM
Sure there is nice people out there... but seems that soooo few want to take the chance.

Gone fishing maybe they'll bite?
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