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Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 13
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Doesn't bother me one bit. He was cheating with her (a longtime friend of mine btw) before we split up and they married 4 days after the divorce. They both did me a favor in the long run and I am a happier person for it.
Joined: 1/25/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 3/6/2006 9:46:47 AM
Oh believe me, if I had the choice, I would NEVER be around my ex-husband...however, we have children together, so it is kind of a necessity. I have had to deal with him a lot less since I put a 365 day restraining order on him. Now he is too scared to say much of anything to me.
Joined: 4/17/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 3/6/2006 9:48:31 AM
It tore me apart cause my ex turned gay.
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
Msg: 16
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Posted: 3/6/2006 9:48:38 AM
I've never seen it, I set the bar too high.

I try to be happy for people, however much of a b*i*t*c*h they mighte be.
Joined: 11/9/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 3/6/2006 10:35:19 AM
Great thread carol27 If there isa a duplicate I haven't seen it.

My ex left me for the new partner. For the benfit of the children I am put in a number of situations where he is around. I try and grin and bare it but in truth I find the whole experience humiliating.

Why? because i am left feeling like the looser with a capital "L". I choose to have custody and care of the children, choose them over entering into relationships so I am left being companionship

I think I wouldn't feel this way if there was someone in my life to balance off those feelings...but there isn't and there won't be for a while. I know I am not the "Looser" in reality but it sure erks at me to be reminded of ease in which me and the kids were abandoned. Truth is I have nothing against the guy...I just don't want to be in the same physical location with them when they are together....yet alone having to styomach being with my ex alone.

 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 18
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Posted: 3/6/2006 10:52:29 AM
I'd love to see him with someone new...he would then be done bothering me
Joined: 1/25/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/6/2006 11:10:05 AM
When I seen the girlfriend yesterday...I recall my only thought was...."You better be nice to my kids ****...or you will have me to deal with."

Other than that, I don't have anything against her.

So far so good. As long as she treats my children good...I don't have a problem with her.
Joined: 11/28/2005
Msg: 20
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Posted: 3/6/2006 11:10:18 AM
LMFAO @ Felanie's post. SO TRUE! When my ex got remarried, I felt much the same. "HOPE YOU ENJOY CARING FOR CHILDREN!!" Hee hee.
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 21
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Posted: 3/6/2006 11:46:45 AM
My ex-girlfriend got back together with her previous ex-fiance. I had to swallow a little bit. But after the moment passed, I realized that I was glad that she was going to be happy, and be taken care of.
 Summer Teeth
Joined: 2/6/2006
Msg: 22
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Posted: 3/6/2006 11:49:55 AM
There are too many politically correct answers here. Sure, there's a part of you that wants the ex to be happy, but there's usually a part of you--some evil genius general--who wants to say, "Nuke her!" and then push the red button.

Nuke! Nuke! Nuke!
 Robby 2
Joined: 3/5/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/6/2006 1:45:50 PM
My ex lead me to believe that there was still a chance for us once she figured out who she was, and what she wanted out of life.

She had chosen to partake in a drug with a friend and then drove that car across town. I got pissed and pulled the ring. I let her mother know what was going on. A week later i put the ring back on her finger and told her she could do whatever she wanted as long as she was safe, and with me. Two weeks later she gave me the ring back.

I was still emotionally attached to her, thinking that this poor girl was so confused and lost.

The campground that we stay at in the summer, and met at, has a gathering. She walked in with him, and my phone started to ring.

I had left her with a car, thinking the reason she knew she had it was because she was still cared about it and loved. I was worried about her, and how she would make it to school, and make it to work.

I called her mother at 9 at night and said i wanted the car back immediately. I called her and she said the reason we didn't work out was because she wanted to have "fun". Which was bullsh*t, we had fun without any requirements from any substance.

It hurt that she said that. It really did. But i got the car back, and she still doesn't think she did anything wrong. Her excuse being "I told you you could have the car back anytime you wanted". But she knew that was not the reason she had it. I guess for the whole weekend they were looking for who called me, which proves to me that she knew she was doing something wrong because she got "told on"

I warned her that if she ever started dating again i would probably flip, i had assumed that she was confused and wanted to find herself, and she was scared, here she was out doing drugs and with another guy, while in my car.

What really sucks is i remember her in such a positive light, how she was when she was with me, that i can't hate her, and i still wonder how she is doing, and what is going to happen to her.

I have been where she is at. Thinking that the friends that were giving me drugs and alcohol were true friends. A few of them were, but i never wanted to be anything more than what they were.

I hope one day she sees the light, sees what she lost, not so much materiallistically but love wise, she will have trouble finding anyone that loves her as much as i did.
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/6/2006 1:52:15 PM
I think i have only seen one of my exes with someone new. Considering that he meant a lot to me it did hurt but it didn't bother me too much. This is mainly because i knew that i had a special place in his heart and no one else could replace that. If it had been an ex that i was glad to be away from i doubr that it would have effected me the same way. If anything i would wish him the best
Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/6/2006 3:06:37 PM
Honestly, it really tore me up. After all this was the man that I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. I had no idea what to I run up to her and tell her to run as far away as she could as fast as she could, or run up to her and give her the biggest hug for taking this loser off my hands......

Joined: 7/29/2004
Msg: 26
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Posted: 4/12/2006 2:18:29 PM
god I'd hope the guy the last girl I dated had a huge trust fund and likes to be a pet monkey . Once the real girl came out....relationship ended. Lasted a whole month. I'd feel bad for the poor b@stard.
Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 27
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Posted: 4/12/2006 2:18:35 PM
Oh man! I would give ANYTHING if my ex would just date. I'd be soooo happy for him if he found a tiny bit of love and contentment in his life. Nothing would make me happier than if he would let himself go enough to form an assemblance of relationship with someone that matters. Whew! That would be beautiful!
Joined: 5/16/2005
Msg: 28
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Posted: 4/15/2006 7:31:06 AM
Seeing my ex with a date . Wow that brought back memorys. was I mad hell no . I laughed till I couldn't laugh no more . They came by my place to let me know that they were on a date and asked if I had a news paper. So he could cut out a coupon so you could buy one dinner and get the other free, Talking about a real spender. i did give my ex some advice drop the billionare before he broke her
Joined: 3/8/2004
Msg: 29
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Posted: 4/15/2006 7:51:07 AM
No problem at all. If I am at the point where they are an ex - anything, they are no longer of any interest or concern to me. I don't wish them anything but the best, and certainly no misfortune.

When I am no longer with a person, it's normally for a very good reason. At that point, they return to being like anyone else I walk past on the street.
 Not just a member
Joined: 9/14/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 4/15/2006 8:55:43 AM
I was relieved to know, I was no longer the sole object of his affection.
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 4/20/2006 11:06:00 PM
Nope, I wasn't bothered either. I didn't care for the first one, but she went by the wayside quickly and he replaced her with someone wonderful. I almost felt bad that I didn't feel bad!!!
Joined: 2/1/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 4/21/2006 12:30:27 AM
one mans trash is another mans treasure...........
Joined: 8/9/2005
Msg: 33
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Posted: 4/23/2006 8:24:26 AM
The idea that you despise your ex husband is very telling of inner pain that you have not dealt with. Even if he was a **stard and kicked your ass all the time (or whatever your issues may have been). Once you've truly dealt with the issue, you should reach a point when he just doesn't matter any more. It sounds like this is where you are.
We all have better things to do than pack unpleasant feelings around for someone from our past. As long as those memories cause anger feelings, we have work to do on ourselves.
Joined: 8/18/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/23/2006 10:30:52 AM
when I found out my ex's new girlfriend was pregnant.. I was estatic.. it was undescribable joy.. cause finally.. he was tied to someone else and no longer had a reason to toture me with the bullshit of lets work this out.. after 5 years you'd of thunk he would have given up..

finally did.. our relationship has never been better.. and he bring over his little girl so that her and my daughter can maintain a relationship although the mother of this child is a **** on wheels... i accept this little girl as my daughter sister and she is always welcomed in my home..

so I was very happy about it.
Joined: 3/12/2006
Msg: 35
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Posted: 4/30/2006 5:58:28 PM
as I was reading your post, I thought to myself, baggage, she still loves him, cant let go and all that, then, as I continued to read, I knew my idea was wrong, and may I say ma'am you seem ready to enter into a relationship whenever you choose to. You are over it.
your future is yours.
Joined: 9/7/2005
Msg: 36
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Posted: 5/1/2006 2:03:23 AM
It does not bother me to see any of my EX's with new people. I do however have one ex that can't stand seeing me with a new girl. She is the one that broke off that relationship after cheating on me. Since the relationship ended she has had 2 children by 2 different guys, been merried, and divorced. It reaaly pi$$#$ me off when she sees me with a new female and starts her shit just to stop whatever she sees going on. All we have to be doing is talking and she buts in.
Joined: 5/15/2006
Msg: 37
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Posted: 7/18/2006 7:50:58 PM
My ex came up from Tennessee and asked me to remarry him. I didn't really give him an answer, but he knew the answer was no. Shortly thereafter, he asked my girlfriend out for a bike ride. I didn't know till the day of their date, they were bringing her kids over for me to watch. All was fine, till I looked out the window as they departed on his motorcycle. Just for a moment, she looked like someone else and not my friend. One month later, back in Tennessee, he got married to someone new.
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