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 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 51
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......Page 3 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
Sure are lots of assumptions here...
that this woman wants to TEACH or SUPPORT A MAN !!!!

@d money is a resourse like any other... and it is a source of personal power
to do as one wishes. In that way it is...
That it makes someone better, no

but it does mean the person with it has personal power to do as they please, as its a resourse... like education or a number of things
 Tin_Man
Joined: 1/23/2005
Msg: 52
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/8/2006 8:33:17 PM

Cause I had a damn good time and he sucked at playing second fiddle. It was funny.


an example of an attitude that would cause problems.

If two people are in a relationship that is supposed to be about each other, one treating the other as a "second fiddle" regardless of why they think they should be able to, is going to cause problems. The cause of the problem would not be that the woman made more money, but that she thought she could treat him that way as a result.

Hell would have thawed after the freeze before I would treat my partner that way... or allowed her to treat me that way... regardless of who made more money.
 islandseekr_
Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 53
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Posted: 3/9/2006 2:03:19 AM
Men (women too) tend to put up a facade about how secure they are. However, I am only going to address the actual question here related to men being able to handle a woman such as you describe.

I think you will find that most men cannot handle this type of woman. I base my response on the fact that I have questioned many women about their experiences with men. After some period of time into the relationship women are frustrated find that her new partner is indeed insecure, and this is revealed in true real behavior and is not a core value for her partner. It's to bad that most people put their own personal integrity aside to become likeable to a potential suitor.

There are signs of insecurity that can be undiscovered. This will take due diligence to discover, which we seem to fail at when we meet someone new. I say have integrity and lay all out on the table and if it works, then great, if not then great too. To lie is not the method to use as this will be discovered at some point and then how can anyone trust you after you have lied. The best method is to come from complete integrity, if the man can't handle it then move on, your better off. There are men out there that are very secure with whom they are and can handle anything, and they are not the majority. Be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished in life and do not be afraid to be who you are. Walking on eggshells at the being of a potential relationship is very unhealthy.

Review this web site for potential signs of insecurity: http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/Abuser/signs.htm

peace...
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 54
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/11/2006 10:28:11 PM
post 132..... excellent post.
I also agree..... thanks for posting
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 55
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:10:20 AM
good point ^

thanks for posting and I agree
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 56
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:19:32 AM
Its not that she is being vauge ^
its that most investors do not really
get into nitty gritty about their work... except
maybe with their broker.

How can anyone ask something like that? do
you go around asking someone how much money they have
and want to inspect it and how its working? That is a rather private matter...
dont you think?
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 57
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Posted: 3/12/2006 10:22:12 AM
what do you mean by controlling stuff?

I think what you will see is she is someone who is in control of HER LIFE...
she does not wish to control yours !


what do you consider controlling stuff?
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 58
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:37:44 AM
oh really? so you think everyone who has money
is the same then.

Interesting.

You did not read the threads first page.... she lives a very simple life....
and she does not love money.
I guess most people do not understand this... as most people
love money and seriously misunderstand it.
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 59
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:41:11 AM
flux you are wrong....
money is a tool and can only buy things.....
and not everyone who has money lives an outlandish lifestyle.
have you never read the book "The Millionaire next Door"

?
you should.
It might give you some insights you have no knowledge of.
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 60
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:18:11 AM
I feel sorry for you ^
and be careful what you wish for....
you just may get it.....
only not in the form you may expect.
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 61
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Posted: 3/12/2006 11:49:50 AM
green thinking cap must be working....

if you want proof read the 6 pages and you will see
MOST is most correct



you should see the emails I got concerning this.... most men admit
they would be very resentful... guess they just didnt want to post it
here
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 62
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Posted: 3/12/2006 12:12:09 PM
drk, you know not many people see it as you do.

I agree too many put too much emphasis on it and greed takes over.
There is being balanced and centered and respectful that life can
take some twists and turns.
 rrlarry
Joined: 2/11/2006
Msg: 63
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Posted: 3/12/2006 12:33:53 PM
finanancially secure, not at all , would let me know that she has had her mind on her future instead of just the spur of the moment. hell of a lot better than living beyond your means and using credit to get by.
 baseball467
Joined: 5/27/2005
Msg: 64
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/12/2006 6:55:42 PM
i didn't read all of the posts but op is this imaginary women actually you?
 unk
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 65
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/12/2006 8:33:06 PM
I don't see your problem. I see confusion on your part whether love equals money and vice/versa. I'm retired(since age 42) And made my own future happen,why not EXPECT the same from 'her'. If it's yourself wer'e talking about, Post a real picture and see your responses. I don't see my money as a point to date or have relations, I did it for myself. If 'she' did the same, why can't I meet her. "Love in times of no money is better than money in times of no love" ct.
 veni vedi vici
Joined: 12/9/2005
Msg: 66
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/13/2006 4:49:08 AM
this woman is you isn't it?let me ask you a question?do you like being with this person?does he make you feel good about yourself?do you have fun and do things together?i say if you really care about this guy everything really shouldn't matter at all or else thinking to much about this will stress you out and it will put a strain in your relationship is that what you really want?
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 67
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Posted: 3/13/2006 12:16:57 PM
no this is not me... its a friend and she
says she has a lot of trouble because men become insecure...

From what I have seen... I guess she is right

Again its not about her money or income.
Its about mens response to it and her when they find out she
retired at a young age.
 kindapicky
Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 68
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Posted: 3/17/2006 2:50:05 PM
Make me uneasy, heck not teach me...lol
Jealous, no blessed.
Next am I attracted to her for more than friends....lol
 Billbug
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 69
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/20/2006 10:38:24 PM
Perhaps she is a lady of the night? I would certainly like to know how she survives her lifestyle. Does it not make you curious? It does, or you would not have posted the question......
 sparticuss
Joined: 5/9/2006
Msg: 70
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Posted: 7/17/2006 6:27:27 AM
Fran Gal

The only times I've heard of this causing clashes is if the girl has a problem with a guy who makes less money than she does.

And then it causes serious problems.


The rest of the stuff that either helps, or wrecks relationships has nothing to do with money and everything to do with attitude.
 Witchypoo
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 71
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 7/17/2006 10:41:12 AM
I am happy to say that pretty much describes me.

:))
Witchy
 puppy666
Joined: 5/20/2006
Msg: 72
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 7/17/2006 1:31:02 PM
THE OLD $$$ ISSUE. IF A LADY (WOMAN) MADE MORE THAN I, THAT WOULD THRILL ME. POVERTY TAKES UP MOST PEOPLE'S TIME ANYWAY. I AM FORTUNATE AT THIS TIME IN MY LIFE TO HAVE A STEADY INCOME WITHOUT LABORING AND SHARE MOST OF IT WITH STRANGERS,TIPPING,GROWNUP KIDS,GAMBLING,AND OF COURSE FOOD,SHELTER,SEX,INTOXICATION. I NEED TO SPEND MORE ON SEX. IT'S EXTREMELY HARD FOR ME TO FIND A GOOD WOMAN, SO I TEND TO BE ALOOF AND SOLITARY. THAT WILL CHANGE WHEN I START TRAVELING THIS JANUARY. MOST WOMEN WOULD KICK THE MAN OUT OF THE HOME IF HE WASN'T PROVIDING $$$ FOR THE HOUSEHOLD. MONEY CHANGED CIVILILIZAION FOR THE WORSE. WE WERE SO MUCH BETTER OFF WHEN WE WERE TRIBAL SUBHUMANS. NOW ALL WE'VE BECOME IS PLASTIC IMITATORS OF TELEVISION. GIVE ME GIVE ME GIVE ME. THE 10 TH COMMANDMENT: DO NOT COVET THY NEIGHBORS GOODS DOESN'T APPLY IN AMERICA. OH WELL, I AM OVER MEDICATED AND NEED TO GET STONED. DO ME A FAVOR,AND CAST A SPELL ON ME!
 brules
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 73
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Posted: 3/16/2007 6:46:36 AM
I do not see the problem

An articulate woman who is sucessful

This would make her more attractive rather than make me uneasy
 kpr 2
Joined: 9/24/2006
Msg: 74
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Posted: 3/16/2007 6:54:27 AM
i would have no problem with that
 lovableladywanted
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 75
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Posted: 7/3/2007 5:19:58 PM
.... I would ask her what time shes dancing at THE PINK PUSSYCAT
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