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Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 109
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I don't think so. Maybe I'm foolish, but I believe that if two people truly love and care about each other, the sex will work itself out.

not always, Iwarrior.... I was married to someone with diminished drive due to some health problems and medications. When the sexual intimacy erodes, so does the emotional intimacy...pretty soon, you're left without the bonds that united you in the first place.
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 112
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Posted: 4/7/2006 10:19:44 PM
hmmm....i think sex is WAY more than 5% of a relationship, and if that doesn't work between two people, there's really no point. somebody said there is a connection between sexual and emotional intimacy and i agree completely, it's all connected. also, i think there are people who don't really want to be 'trained' (as someone said), which really means knowing and understanding your partner, and don't really take that much interest in sex -- this kind of person is absolutely incompatible with those of us for whom sex is a really important part of the relationship. i think, no, i KNOW that if i don't have a good strong active sexual relationship with dude, there is no way i can feel close to him... it's just not possible. ...and i am not talking about "performance" or "skills" it's about personality more than anything else. soooooooo, yea, sex is part of compatibility and therefore a reason to leave a relationship...imho.
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 114
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Posted: 4/7/2006 10:46:32 PM
yes! communication in the bedroom (as elsewhere) that's it! but isn't it weird how some people are so uncomfortable talking about sex? it seems to me a lot of people are like that. i can understand being that way in public or with people in general, but with your intimate partner? it seems like you should be able to talk about E V E R Y thing, otherwise what's the point???? i don't get it...
 Wild Heart
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 117
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/8/2006 1:31:16 PM
Depends how long one is together, but if the person is not open to talking about it or improving it - then hell yes it's a good reason!!! Being out of touch with your sexual self is never a good thing unless a health issue is involved.
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 121
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/8/2006 5:24:11 PM
lmfao ^^^^^

yes and it may be a reason to stop breathing too
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 125
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/8/2006 10:11:06 PM
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?

Yes. Not just yes, but, HELLS YES!
Joined: 2/26/2003
Msg: 138
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/11/2006 2:36:56 PM
Having been in a relationship that went bad partly because of bad sex, I must say this:

If everyone you've been with has been "bad", it's probably YOU that's bad.
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 141
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/11/2006 5:31:22 PM
If the sex was always bad.....there would NOT be a relationship......with me anyway.

If the sex "got" bad ? Figure out why and try to fix it.
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 148
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Posted: 4/12/2006 5:29:18 PM
Bad sex, If you like the other person then no I see no reason to cut it off without at least trying to work on it.... Of course when it doesnt work out, you can all come **** at me for saying that!
Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 162
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/14/2006 7:19:32 AM
let me ask you a question ladies...since it is always a lady asking this it ALL the responsibility of the MAN to make sex GOOD.....I thought that sex involved 2 people..if it is always the woman complaining then maybe they should shoulder some of the blame here..MOST men are scared to death about being BAD at sex or being that partner that Sweet Sensations talks fact MANY men WANT to be that STUD that SHE BRAGS as he says in Jerry Mcguire...HELP ME HELP YOU...would you want us as men to just let you fumble around with our c ocks or be bad in bed and then go post some forum on a website about how BAD you were...or would you rather help out...or take the bull by the horns and make sex good.....I realize there are sometimes that it might not get better...but I am just tired of hearing the complaining...most women would rather complain about it then fix it and help their partners out..MOST MEN WANT TO PLEASE YOU...but you know your bodies better than we communicate......listen the FACTS ARE SIMPLE..Many of us have NO IDEA HOW TO PLEASE someone the first or second or third time we have sex with themm..WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT and like different is not just INSERT PART A IN HOLE B..ok? get a grip..more to it...WAY MORE...but it takes 2...and believe me Ladies ALOT OF A MANS PERFORMANCE IS BASED UPON HOW SEXY YOU ARE TO HIM....we are the physical creatures ladies are the mental BE MORE fact not only that ASK HIM WHAT TURNS HIM ON THE MOST...and vice versa men.....that part ofg sex should be SIMPLE and make it far more enjoyable for everyone...QUIT COMPLAINING....ENJOY..!!!! that is what it is is not an item to RATE....come on...LOL..that is what American Idol is for ..if you wanna RATE something wathc that TV show and vote for you RATE the best
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 163
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Posted: 4/14/2006 8:38:26 PM
xxx2931, i think it goes without saying that good sex happens because of two people and is obviously not shouldered by the man alone. no way. i agree completely. but, i think there are people, men and women, who are just not that into sex, or just not very physical. and i absolutely positively could not disagree with you more :-) with regard to your statement that men are physical and women are mental. i am a very very physical person, always have been, i don't think that's based on gender, it's an individual thing.

but yes, as you say, communication is the really crucial thing. i am not shy about talking about sex with my partner, i'm a very open person in that way and most ways, but there ARE a lot of people, men and women both, who don't feel comfortable doing that, and/or who don't really want to put any effort into working on the sex together, as a team if you will. that is important if the sex is going to be really good. and at the same time that requires a level of intimacy people cannot always reach together -- there are men with whom i simply cannot open up, for different reasons. (the last guy i was with for example? we were just "built" completely differently in terms of our sexual personalities, and i knew really quickly that i'd never be able to make it work with him, let alone open up to him.)

you're right, you don't know how to please us until you get to know us; but the same goes for us, a woman doesn't know at first how to please a man until she gets to know him (and that's not only true in bed, it's true overall). but if people don't communicate about sex, or if they are "just not that into it," i don't see how the sex is going to get good. and i have been in relationships where it didn't get good.

Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 165
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/9/2007 8:36:24 PM
hell ya......................................................................................
if there is no sparks in bed.. poof it's over
Especially if they are un-trainable
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 168
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Posted: 4/9/2007 8:54:27 PM
There are people that just AREN'T sexual. Period. No amount of "time" or "communicating" or "mood setting" will help. They just aren't sexual creatures.

i totally agree, just, well said. and yes, i have experienced it also. most unpleasant.

and yes, i say again, bad sex is a good reason to stop dating. :-)
Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 169
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/19/2008 12:03:02 PM
If the person is willing to see if they would enjoy that is acceptible, I love the oppotunity to bring my lover out of her shell and experiance new things and positions.
I have been told that many men have not discovered that the whole thing is about pleasuring the Lady you are with, not just their orgasm.
Fore play is ALL the fun.
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