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 Bandito
Joined: 11/9/2005
Msg: 26
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?Page 2 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Personality type is independent than gender...always has been. I think perhaps what you refering to is really been the benefits of Women's Lib allowing more alpha females to break through the glass ceiling in politics and the workplace.
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 27
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 9:35:59 AM
op
if you are intimidated by women who are in control of their lives.....
you can easily ( and I do mean easily ) find the more clingy, needy type
woman. They are in far more abundance and the typical average Joe cannot
handle much more anyway.
It takes a truely strong and amazing man to break out of the societal BS
of gender roles and conditioning to make a strong relationship with one of these women.
...... and..... Not many people
are truely in control of themselves or their lives.. so they try to find
someone to either fix or control... and avoid fixing themselves.

If you prefer a needy, clingy, confused woman... you have a great selection
out in the world.
 Bandito
Joined: 11/9/2005
Msg: 28
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:29:46 AM
^^^bring them alpha's on ...but make sure they have a sense of humour please
 Indigo Rose
Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 29
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:39:54 AM
^^ack !

Not sure..just let me kick some of these sniveling, groveling boys outta my way.
I'll get back to you on that alpha female business.
 goodguy4uladies
Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 30
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:46:50 AM
Alpha Male and Alpha Female are the two strongest members of any group. What an Alpha female needs to do is to find a Male who can be the more submissive of the coupling and that's difficult as most men she surrounded by would be Alphas, as well.
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 31
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:50:05 AM
a strong woman has no use for a weak and submissive man

that is an insult to imply that
 K-5
Joined: 11/21/2004
Msg: 32
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:55:44 AM

Yes there is Alpha female. Always has been. A dominant female will arise in any female oriented setting. The charachteristic has to do with a leadership pecking order. Now there is a gray area with respect to a buisness setting. Alpha is a biological and genetic term. It has been widely miss used. I look at it with respect to lets say pack animals. The alpha wolf wants the entire pack to survive but he has, by presence and brutality when needed, claimed the breeding rights to the females. This is a genetic encoding. The alpha needs no approval or praise or any other thing from the opposite sex........other than sex. Breeding rights.
The pack follows because he is thier best chance at survival. Alpha's in a survival setting kill, hunt, are sometimes savage. I can see this in humans as well. When the Alpha female is Alpha in buisness it is something different. However when it come to sex and relationships she will be most happy when the man she is with is very Alpha.
She will have more sex partners than most women but it doesn't come from a neediness or a need for a man's approval. It comes from something else. She just takes what she wants.


WOW^^^^^

Actually, I think they might have a problem because alot of men tend to be insecure, especially with such ambitious women. BUT!!! I said BUT, if they run into a man that is secure with himself, then they'll probably get along, their will be some head butting, but they'll probably last, but the guy will have to be very very secure. I tend to see alot of these type of women either having very strong men or the complete opposite, but hardly with the ones in between..........................but I could be wrong

Now, can someone give me some tips, on my post on this issue????????.................
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 33
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:00:05 AM
see.... this is how it is.....
it is not about a woman being dominent.... or submissive.

it is about a person.... who is in control of their lives. Someone who has
grown both personally and professionally....
overcome many obstacles and become WHOLE.

A person such as this does want/ need or appriciate someone who is
not in control of their lives. Someone who has not learned to be personally
responsible for their actions.. to be accountable.. to be able to stand
alone in not only choices but all ways.

A person who has become in control of their lives, male or female.....
wants someone who is that way too.

It is unfortuante not many are... and tend to be halves looking for a whole
to complete them, make them happy... and live in very ignorant type reasoning
and logic.
A whole person wants a whole person... problem is they are hard to find.
You have many who pretend to be responsible, accountable and all.... but in
fact few are.
In fact I have found. most men say they want an independent woman...
then resent her for it.. because in fact this means.. she is independent
of "needing" a man.

 goodguy4uladies
Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 34
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:13:45 AM
I didn't mean in a physical sense. I meant a man that is willing to put up with her long hours at the office and the constantly being on the cell phone and such. He has to be secure in that type of relationship where he isn't the main focus and an Alpha male is all about himself so an Alpha male wouldn't be good for an Alpha female as they are too self-involved.
 Bytronix
Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 35
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:16:58 AM
Is there such a thing as a right wing democrat?
I would have to say yes.

For some reason I would have to think of Hillary Clinton.

If you can imagine it, odds are it probably exists.
Question is, does it exist in fantasy or reality?
Then, the question after that would have to be which is more apropriate?

(Yeah, I know, my spelling sucks. Should all websites include auto spelling checkers?)
 SexySexy2005
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 36
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:17:51 AM
frangal... I can relate to your post word by word. This was the exact cause of my last relationship break up. I was always independent, fierce, highly analytical and strong in my personal life. I went into a profession that rewarded these traits. She was my exact opposite... never achieved anything in her life, no clue where her life is going. Opposites attract, but once attraction fades away they have nothing in common. I look forward to relationship with my female counter part... if I can find her. A woman who has fought many battles in her life and won.
 PJ Pisces
Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 37
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:23:28 AM
Maybe it's not that Alpha Females have a hard time securing long term relationships, as you put it, but rather they aren't willing to lie down and settle for anything less than they deserve...hmmm?
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 38
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:23:38 AM
good guy
you have confused long hours at work and talking on the cell phone
with independence and someone who is control of their lives.

PJ I think that is true.. even if they settle, it never works out.. LOL
How could it?
It can't...
 Rouxx
Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 39
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:23:55 AM
OP: Your restrictions are SO very limiting!

So says this Alpha Female!
 K-5
Joined: 11/21/2004
Msg: 40
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:25:43 AM
I agree with Fragnal..................
 Rouxx
Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 41
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:28:06 AM
Fran: LOVE the purple!!

OT: As there are many "types" of everything......... in what context are we talking about "alpha females"?
 goodguy4uladies
Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 42
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:28:23 AM
Frangal, hon. Read the origal thread posting.
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 43
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 11:30:35 AM
I did... he doesnt know what hes talking about

hence my posts to straighten him out

There is only competition when the man is weak... thus, he
( as in any man who feels he needs to enter into competative mode
with his partner)...... and ends up calling
her some degrading thing like "alpha female"


 keepingit
Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 44
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 5:43:06 PM
The term Alpha does not apply to anything other than a single dynamic principle called survival.
Take a group of people and dump them off for real. Any crappy place will do. A survival order will develope. Instinct.
A male will arise that seems the most calm and collective and able to think. He will LEAD. A woman within the group will also LEAD. It is about basic pecking orders. Breeding rights. Food, shelter etc. What is interesting within that group is that most if not all women will feel a loyalty and draw towards the male leader. If a member of the group does not help the survival of the group and/or tries to lower the survival of the group the Alpha will drive them off or kill them. I would. In a heart beat.

Work is a different matter altogether. I find that people who are overly forceful or dominating are doing nothing more than overcompensating for thier insecurities and weakness. It quite interesting. When one gets overly so I just terminate them. The people there are not there for the goof ball insecure quazi Alpha.

Most of those that are considered Alphas are actually insecure runts trying to make thier way by overdrive. An Alpha doesn't give a rats ass.
When a woman comes into contact with certain men they get turned on. These charachteristics are mimicked by lower end males that are quite ruthless and mean to a woman. In turn she triggers and can't stay away from him. It's a genetic program. Tell you anything that you want to hear and do it in a way that is almost invalidative and it promps her to turn on. These guys are pozers and when women get attached to men like this they can't break away. It a genetic program.
A real Alpha is miles above this. He is so certain of his existence that there is nothing you can do to shake him. If you threaten him....he will crush you. If you hinder his survival you will really be sorry. This applies mostly to other males. A woman is just discarded.

Want to know the truth ladies? If there wasn't a law and we were basic survival these pozers would be dead. The real Alpha kill them off generally. They are alive because there is a LAW against this.
 blue sunshine
Joined: 12/23/2005
Msg: 45
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 6:07:20 PM
Wow Keep!!! I've decided that maybe I'm just dominant and not necessarily Alpha! I'm not a killer...it's all about peace n love in my house!
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 46
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 6:14:55 PM
I'm not worried about how jungle life is....

and I have weapons to even the score if needed

real life doesnt work that way as with animals... we are not animals

well at least some of us aren't
 keepingit
Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 47
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 6:34:49 PM

Wow Keep!!! I've decided that maybe I'm just dominant and not necessarily Alpha! I'm not a killer...it's all about peace n love in my house!


oh don't take it that serious elizabeth. If it was a survival situation you would. I'm not saying we are animals but I am saying that these bodies are from this physical universe. So it really isn't about a jungle. No one is going to whack anyone. But that is what Alpha is. The leader. Leaders really do have to make tough choices. There has always been a little saying that I use when someone won't make the call and live with it....."What makes your head more precious than mine?"
When someone says to me..."I don't have any real enemies." That says a lot to me. Leaders have real eneimies. An Alpha is a true target. Being a target has made him Alpha.

A man a little more Alpha than you are is a huge turn on for you. Just his presence. I know you have been around some real ones. When an Alpha type woman feels submissive, in a romantic way, towards a man it changes everything. Hell she could be his boss at the shop the rest of the time but when it comes to romance she trusts him to take her to nice places. If he goes abusive? He's a pozer.
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 48
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 6:42:04 PM
this kinda thinking must come from reading too many comic books
when young or watching those action packed violient cartoons

 keepingit
Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 49
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 6:43:09 PM

real life doesnt work that way as with animals... we are not animals

well at least some of us aren't


Well I wasn't talking about all aspects of life. I was talking about dynamic drives that forward biological bodies. No one said that we didn't have a soul. You know as well as I that the best looking guy in the world can disqualify himself the second he opens his mouth to you. Guys trying to buy affection and coming across as needy is the exact opposite of Alpha. A woman will turn off in a heart beat. It is consistant. Personalities have nothing to do with it. Now on the other hand if he approaches you in an Alpha manner the sparks are going to fly. You don't really get to choose what or how or whom. It just happens. You have never questioned your feelings before....why start now? It is an emotional response. It's romantic because he is just like the man in the novel. Half tender half savage. You can smell his wildness at times. YOu know exactly what I'm talking about. Well that is "triggered" in you.
 blue sunshine
Joined: 12/23/2005
Msg: 50
Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 3/12/2006 6:54:03 PM

A man a little more Alpha than you are is a huge turn on for you. Just his presence. I know you have been around some real ones.


You're soooooo right......just haven't had one in much too long! But, that's another thread....in a different category and i'm just not going there,lol. But, Keep, you're right...and when you're right, you're right! Whew.
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