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 I-am-Rei
Joined: 9/11/2009
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would you ever date someone who has an std?Page 12 of 15    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15)
I haven't considered cold sores as a STD. I thought it is just a simple skin disease? So it could be transfered if you have cold sores and then have sex. But aren't most skin diseases transferable? Sorry I know this sounds stupid but please educate me on this.
 Elgalawaat
Joined: 11/24/2008
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would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 7/31/2010 10:56:32 PM
No way in Hell. Who wants to get himself in trouble.
 cheaterj
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 336
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/2/2010 7:05:43 AM
Cold sores are most definitely an STD called oral HSV-1

During oral sex, a person with oral HSV-1 can transfer it to another person's genitals. This is true even if the person does not have a visible cold sore at the time - which is why the spread of Herpes both type 1 and type 2 is greater than you think -

Most of the posters here probably already have it and don't have a clue - self-righteous **stards- passing it along and then refusing to date people that others like them have unknowingly affected. Sad really.

The people who get the symptoms get ****ed over three times - they have to deal with the outbreaks and the stigma and the lack of sex- the symptomless people who infect them just get to ****.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 337
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/3/2010 5:35:07 AM
I have never had a cold sore ..but when I was a teen before we ever heard about herpes ...I dated and kissed and had sex with a girlfriend who had them all the time .... and yes I have kissed her when she had one ... I have never been tested for herpes ...but do realize that I could have it ...

so if you including herpes and other non fatal STDs ... I would definately date a woman who had one ... we would be careful and use all reasonable precautions ... but I think your danger is greater from the ones who dont know they are infected
 Fresh fish is best fresh.
Joined: 7/29/2010
Msg: 338
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/3/2010 5:40:47 AM
I am sure most probably already have, but got lucky and did not contract anything. Let's not be naive here. Those illnesses are out and about, and they have to come from somewhere. Also from what I have read in the other forums, dating does not equal making love, dating is just dating without any physical contact, but of course everyone tells the truth these days.
 NYRon1967
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 339
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/3/2010 12:38:03 PM
Well a few years ago i had a first meeting in public with a nice lady, we ate lunch and walked around port jeff (nice by the water town) for three hours. When it came to say goodbye , i was going to give her a quick kiss goodbye and had every intention of seeing her again, till she dropped the bomb on me. She had/has AIDS.

That was the end of that!
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 340
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/3/2010 12:56:52 PM
No.

But really, with the high infection rates, is it inconcievable that any of us have gone on dates with someone who's infected? Lots of people don't even know they are, you know...
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/4/2010 3:37:05 PM
When I started dating my G/F it was an issue that came up... She had been a swinger and knew that it placed her in a high risk category. They always used condoms. She has had a couple of STD's in the past when she was swinging and one of her Ex's was dying with AIDs... (He died last year finally...) So when we started dating, we didn't get involved until both of us had gone through a full range of testing and then another round of testing 3 months later to make sure.
That's about as close to dating someone with an STD that I ever want to get...
 sarniafairyboy
Joined: 6/19/2010
Msg: 342
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/4/2010 4:11:23 PM
^


I don't have one just wondering how many people would date a male/female if they had contacted an std from a previous lover.




I wouldn't personally cuz I don't want anything just wondering what ya'll think of it.


err, I guess the OP means, if you KNEW that the person had an STD ?

many people who say they would not, probably HAVE dated someone with an STD (that they were unaware of)
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 343
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/4/2010 4:15:42 PM
Giving someone a label as "sleeps around a lot" because someone had an STD is wrong.

It really depends on the disease. For example, AIDS would be one where the other person would need to know how it was contracted. What if this person got it through birth or throught a transfusion or with the first "boy" they slept with (watch the movie "The Kids" for a scary reality).?

Herpes is an STD, however when people disclose that they have this, it is generally flares in the genital area they are disclosing.

Until my mid-20's, nobody ever told me they got cold sores on their lips as a disclosure statement before sex. As one poster stated he starting getting them at age 3.

This is one of the reasons that I feel people need to discuss their risky sexual behaviour in addition to any possible STD's.

I don't think I'm that worried about cold sores, as long as you are safe, understand the facts and are willing to take the risk that your partner is a non-shedder. I think half the people I know get cold sores, but so far none have said they get genital outbreaks.

Many of those half people with cold sores I know? They are married or in a relationship. I guess they are not the ogres many people on here think they are :)


trust is one thing but lieing is another.


Most men just ignore the conversation or belittle any discussion about STD's. I know.
 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 344
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/4/2010 4:40:46 PM
Date them? Yes I would.Have sex with them? No absolutely not!
 m_church
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Posted: 8/4/2010 5:31:29 PM

Until my mid-20's, nobody ever told me they got cold sores on their lips as a disclosure statement before sex. As one poster stated he starting getting them at age 3.

Yeah I knod of think they are a little over rated as STD's too... sores on the genitals...
Yep gonna be a problem... but cold sores on the lips?
I've never had them... but I knew loads of kids with them as I grew up... my G/F tells me she got her first one around age 4....
She still gets them about once a year....
 m_church
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would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 8/4/2010 5:33:43 PM

Most men just ignore the conversation or belittle any discussion about STD's. I know.


Very true... With guys it's often a case of No symptoms, no pus, no itching... It's all good... If it fell off, THEN they'd maybe go to the doctor...

Mind you, we're all guilty to a certain degree of minimising it until we know people who have had one... Hmmm This gives me an idea for a thread...
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 347
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 5/11/2011 5:32:22 PM
Too many people play Russian roulette still even in dating, sex just happens and people that say there " clean " can still carry an std and NOT EVEN KNOW THEY HAVE IT. All it takes is one time to have sex and boom std on ya like that (curable or not). To answer OP's Question, Depending on what the std is. Dating someone with HIV couldn't do it, it's too risky and life threatening. But as for the rest most std are curable and can be worked out. While the person is going thru an std outbreak there will be no sex, no kissing, no foreplay till they're cured from the outbreak.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
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would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 5/12/2011 3:20:22 PM
i dated a woman who had herpes but i didnt know until we started dating. well, i tried to help her with her herpes problem. all she did was lie and cheat ****ing every guy and made out with every girl out there. i got myself tested but i didnt catch it thank god even though i really loved her when we had so much in common. it only lasted for 2 months and i dropped her. she did recently contacted me then stopped talking to me i wonder why lol. no, that is a deal breaker i will not date anyone again who has an std. if they want help as to how to treat it using alternative medicine, i will be glad to give them that information.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 349
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 5/12/2011 11:57:40 PM
Do ankle-biters count as an STD?
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 5/13/2011 8:06:02 AM

Do ankle-biters count as an STD?

We used to call them ankle-biters too....(LoL)

"Kids"
1... "Kids" are an STD with a 9 month incubation period.
2... "Kids" take 18 years to get rid if it...
3... "Kids" Affects your social life...
4... A lot of your friends will avoid you once you have "kids"...
5... You spend a lot more time at the docotor's office with "kids"...
6... They leave lasting physical changes to a woman's body...
7... Future partners may not want to be with you once they find out you've had "kids"...
8... You find you end up missing time from work once you've had "kids" especialliy if you're a woman...
9... "kids" can lead to headaches and sleepless nights...
 Bookbelle
Joined: 10/24/2008
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would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 5/16/2011 1:58:13 PM
If I liked them enough, then yes.
Dating someone who has an STD doesn't necessarily mean they'll pass it on.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 352
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 5/16/2011 2:00:51 PM
Why stop there, why not date someone with Ebola, or the drug resistant versions of TB, or leprosy.

So no, I would not date someone with an STD.
 CountryPolk
Joined: 3/10/2011
Msg: 353
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 5/21/2011 6:30:53 PM
hell no hell no

No STD plz !
 Jay504702
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 354
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 6/12/2011 7:50:31 PM
It depends on the std.. stuff happens, condoms break.. and there is always a chance of them not knowing they have something or their previous not knowing. Ignorance isnt a crime unless it is intentional IMO. Besides there are meds for most and they are curable.
 catamount11
Joined: 2/18/2011
Msg: 355
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 6/13/2011 2:44:26 PM
So here's a question. Do you guys consider someone who gets a cold sore or has been exposed and had a cold sore before to have an STD? I'm talking about one on the mouth.
 gliding262
Joined: 3/14/2010
Msg: 356
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 6/17/2011 9:31:41 AM
I have had cold sores all my life, as far as I can remember. I didn't contract it from sex that is for sure, so no I don't like being labeled as having an STD. That being said, folks who get them don't think too much about it, however some folks act like those who get them are lepurs.

I get cold sores, I tell folks, most are cool with it. But I still believe in mutual testing. Some of posts to this thread really marginalize folks and considering how many folks are posting to this thread a good number of the "no ways" probably have something and either don't know or are in denial.

Check out a herpes dating site, most of the folks on them look just as attractive as ones on "normal" sites. Heck some are pretty hot, and I would never expect them to have herpes or anything else.
 MsMarcy30
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 357
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 6/17/2011 10:24:49 AM
No i wouldn't date someone that had one.
 808md
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 358
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 7/28/2011 2:47:45 PM
lol...very judgmental group. HPVs are so common that at least 50% of sexually active men and women get them at some point in their lives.

So many of you have probably spread an STD.
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