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Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 259
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# There are over 100 HPV types.

# About 30 of these types are sexually transmitted and cause genital HPV.

# Genital HPV is spread through skin-to-skin contact, not through an exchange of bodily fluid.

# Genital HPV cannot be entirely prevented by condom use.

# This virus is often asymptomatic -- people usually don't know they have it.

# About 5.5 million new genital HPV cases occur each year -- this is about 1/3 of all new STD infections.

# About 20 million people -- men and women -- are thought to have an active HPV infection at any given time.

# Nearly three out of four Americans between the ages of 15 and 49 have been infected with genital HPV in their lifetime.

# HPV can be contracted from one partner, remain dormant, and then later be unknowingly transmitted to another sexual partner, including a spouse.

# Though usually harmless, some types cause cervical cancer if not detected in time.

# About 14,000 cases of cervical cancer are diagnosed in the United States each year.

# Over 5,000 women each year die of cervical cancer in the United States.

# The best way to screen for cervical cancer is a Pap test, which may be done alone or in combination with an HPV DNA test.

# The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommend that sexually active women and women age 21 and older should have an annual gynecologic exam in addition to Pap tests at regular intervals (the frequency of Pap tests can vary depending on a woman's age and the type of Pap test being done).

More info can be found here:
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 260
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/23/2007 9:15:44 PM
Very well put. I would say the only way to prevent contracting an STD is having no sex at all. Condoms don't protect you
Joined: 7/8/2006
Msg: 261
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Posted: 4/23/2007 9:40:05 PM
Hey Buddy I really am allergic to latex. My dr said not to use lambskin but they do make 1 condom that is latex free. It does however state that it may or may not save your from std's but many dr told me thats what they use in the hospitals and it's a barrier thats free of latex. The FDA doesn't want to test them because of the fact that the test is very pricy and not enough people have an allergic reaction to it. I do and to tell you the truth it's not a good allergy to have. The condoms are thicker and don't have much give to them. It's made the same way a ziplock bag is made............serious..........

no glove no love
Joined: 7/8/2006
Msg: 262
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would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/23/2007 9:42:31 PM
yes vaginal warts can lead to cervical cancer
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 263
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/23/2007 10:04:51 PM
I suppose I would only date someone who had an std if I had the very same sdt and he or she was aware of it and had no problem with it.
Joined: 3/15/2007
Msg: 264
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/23/2007 10:33:01 PM
wtf kind of question is that?? if you wouldnt sleep with someone that had std's why do you think others would? im pretty sure no one ever wants to get one and it's very unfortunate that people do especially when its something that cant be cured
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 265
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/24/2007 10:41:56 AM

There are currently five ways to diagnose herpes. It is unlikely that your doctor will know about all of them. Thus, it will be to your advantage to print out this page and take it to your physician’s office when you go for testing. In addition to identifying whether an individual is infected with herpes, a test ideally should also provide 2 other pieces of information: 1) location and 2) the type of herpes simplex (HSV-1 or HSV-2). Type and location are important for assessing transmission risks (e.g., partners with the same type of HSV are unlikely to contract the same type again [regardless of locale]. However, they have a good chance of contracting a new type of simplex).

1. CLINICAL EXAMINATION and an assessment of your previous symptoms (history) are very poor at detecting herpes. HSV symptoms are easily confused with other diseases (even by experts) or may present atypically (redness rather than sores), so it’s quite possible to get an incorrect diagnosis on this basis alone.

2. VIRAL CULTURE - Although this test has a high rate of false negatives (~50%), it is the most valid test available. Unlike blood tests, it requires the presence of active viral shedding (e.g., open sores). This test can distinguish between HSV-1 and HSV-2 and has the advantage of being able to identify the location of infection. If you get this test, be sure that your doctor requests that the culture be typed (e.g., HSV-1) – most labs will not report type unless specified.

3. POLYMERASE CHAIN REACTION (PCR) - PCR testing also requires the presence of active viral shedding. However, PCR is a more sensitive test than viral isolation and is also type specific. PCR is now available for commercial use but it may not be available at your doctor’s facility.

4. NON-TYPE SPECIFIC BLOOD TEST - Certain types of blood tests, like the older ELISA, will detect herpes, but it can’t distinguish between the two types of herpes simplex (HSV-1 & HSV-2). HSV-2 is the type usually associated with genital HSV infection, while HSV-1 is the type usually associated with oral HSV infection (i.e., cold sores). However, both types of HSV can infect either location. Non-type-specific ELISAs may be useful if patients have no history of HSV infection. However, because a significant proportion of the population is infected with HSV-1 (~70%), non-type-specific tests are usually inconclusive at determining secondary HSV infections (e.g., HSV-2) due to the amount of cross reactivity.

5. TYPE-SPECIFIC BLOOD TESTS - such as the Western Blot, *Focus Technologies HerpeSelect ( recommended) ELISA or Immunoblot test for both HSV-1 and HSV-2 and can distinguish between the two types of HSV. Active viral shedding is not necessary (unlike PCR or Viral Isolation) in order to detect HSV infection (even if you are not currently having symptoms). There is only one U.S. lab that processes blood samples for the Western Blot (University of Washington) so you may have to wait a week or more for your results (For Canadians, the WB can be processed at lab Virdae Clinic).

NOTE: Blood tests for the long-term IgG antibodies are generally reliable only after 12 to 16 weeks of infection. Please be aware that all blood tests have an error rate and that false negative indications are possible, while false positive indications are almost nonexistent. Within the first few weeks of infection, detection of early antibodies (IgM) may potentially be useful for diagnostic purposes (absence of IgG, but presence of IgM may indicate a new infection). IgM testing is limited in value because, at this time, it is not type specific.

Blood Test Information:

For information on the Western Blot, HSV Type-Specific serology, contact the University of Washington Community Services at (206) 598-6066. They can provide information on the test, ordering instructions and interpretation of the test results.

If you’re located in Canada, you can order the Western Blot from Virdae. See also their info page on the Western Blot
Joined: 4/16/2007
Msg: 266
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/24/2007 11:12:28 AM

I am not 100% sure on this but i am sure the genetal warts and herpes virus are two different things but dont quote me on that i could be very wrong.

They are different.

Warts tend to be persistant (not go away). I used to have warts on my hands, but through a mix of liquid nitrogen and a beetle extract they will removed (even the scar of the big one is almost gone).

Herpes is a virus that infects your nerves. It stows away far under the skin. When you have a "Flare up" the virus has propagated to the surface and has started to multiply as a pimple like mass. When the pimple breaks, it releases billions of the virus. That is why herpes is most infectious during a flare up. Mono is a type of herpes I believe, except it only flares up once (but it can still be infectious for the rest of your life, but again, it flares once so you feel sick with cold sores for three days).

While a person deserves to have a life. I really don't want to get an STD. Personally I think it is socially acceptable to have a date where a couple goes to get blood tested together (if someone doesn't feel comfortable getting tested with me, they definitely shouldn't feel comfortable having sex with me).

There are other ways to get an STD than sexual contact though (it just isn't as common). I plan to always use a condom during sex in a relationship. I might stop using them when I'm married (depending on the other options for contraception), but I am also inclined to use a condom during any sexual encounter that I don't explicitly want conception. I like the tightness of a condom, it helps maintain an erection before and after ejaculation, plus there is a lot less clean up.
Joined: 3/25/2007
Msg: 267
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/24/2007 2:52:12 PM
ok this is compleatly off subject but you would have to be the first guy i have ever meet that likes having sex with a condom on. Most guys prefur the bareback approach as you can feel a hole lot more. But i guess you seem very safe and maybe have never tryed it without so you wouldnt really know the difference but that is a good thing u guess at least you are safe.
Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 269
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Posted: 4/24/2007 5:20:31 PM
I wouldn't if I knew... but the likelihood of someone both knowing and sharing that info is pretty slim.
Joined: 3/25/2007
Msg: 270
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/25/2007 1:05:34 AM
I think you can say you wouldnt but put yourself in their shoes what if you had one would you want to feel as isolated as you guys are making them feel would you want people to think this about you. Like it has been said before alot of the time the people who have caught the std or sti have not warrented it and dont deserve it. I think it is really unfair to be this harsh towards them as i know alot of people with them and they are no less of a person to me and i would not for a second judge them because of it or exclude them for it. And i dont think they should miss out on things in life like a relationship sex and the chance to have children!!!!!
Joined: 1/20/2007
Msg: 271
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/25/2007 2:39:34 PM
"EVERYONE has the right to make the decision as to if they would want to date someone that had an STD or not! Of course we do! But when stuff like this gets posted and people are like no never blah blah blah... It is just making those people with the STD more uncomfortable with sharing the fact that they have one! In my personal opnion! Ya you have every right to not want to get an STD from your partner, but when you are saying that you would never become romantically involved with a person with an STD then you are making those people find that they can not share this information with the person that they are closest to and then in the end you are going to f*ck yourself by pissing them off! "

i like your attitude!!!!! and i agree 100%
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 273
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/26/2007 5:26:53 PM
i just couldn't but anyone reading this please don't lie to us clean ones now being afraid we will leave you..we will mostly but please let us know.
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 274
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/26/2007 5:27:45 PM
well if it was something non curable i mean
 Squirrel Hunter
Joined: 11/12/2006
Msg: 275
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/26/2007 7:04:52 PM
The Varicella zoster virus (VZV), also known as human herpes virus 3 (HHV-3), is one of the eight herpes viruses known to affect humans (and other vertebrates). Primary VZV infection results in chickenpox (varicella), which may rarely result in complications including VZV encephalitis or pneumonia. Even when clinical symptoms of varicella have resolved, VZV remains dormant in the nervous system of the host in the trigeminal and dorsal root ganglia. In about 10-20% of cases, VZV reactivates later in life to produce herpes zoster (shingles) and its associated sequelae including post-herpetic neuralgia, zoster multiplex, myelitis, herpes ophthalmicus, or zoster sine herpete.

VZV is closely related to the herpes simplex viruses (HSV), sharing much genome homology. The known envelope glycoproteins (gB, gC, gE, gH, gI, gK, gL) correspond with those in HSV, however there is no equivalent of HSV gD. VZV virons are spherical and 150-200 nm in diameter. Their lipid envelope encloses the nucleocapsid of 162 capsomeres arranged in a hexagonal form. Its DNA is a single, linear, double-stranded molecule, 125,000 nt long.

The virus is very susceptible to disinfectants, notably sodium hypochlorite. Within the body it can be treated by a number of drugs and therapeutic agents including aciclovir, zoster-immune globulin (ZIG), and vidarabine

Uh Oh!!!! Better ask potential partners if they have ever had Chicken pox!!!! Cause they have HERPES!!!! And thats an STD!!!

There is only one STD that I will avoid in a partner and that is HIV.......everything else is just a fact of life....get of your holier than now high horses people!!!
Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 276
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/26/2007 7:17:29 PM
did you know in Orange County California more than 80% of sexually active people have at least one strain of HPV (human papilloma virus) there are more that 100 different strains two being a high risk only effecting women by causing cervical cancer men can be carriers if infected of every strain. then theres the low risk strains which are ewwww warts . HPV can be transmitted even when a person wears a condom all it take is skin to skin contact.
This information i learned from working in a OBGYN clinic and to answer your question there is no way i would date someone with an STD ive seen em all and there nasty icky gross you dont what to mess with that $hit.
Joined: 4/11/2007
Msg: 277
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/26/2007 7:51:34 PM
You should avoid having sexual contact with anyone who has an active case of an STD; however, statistics and hard facts don't lie...... if you infect five thousand individuals with a common strain of the flu and one thousand others with a common STD, untreated, more people will die from the flu than an STD. Contracting an STD carries a lot of negative stigma with it, and did you know that in the U.S. up until the 1940's, about 30% of all cases of heart disease were the result of STD's and rheumatic fever? Aortic regurgitation, aortitis.
Joined: 2/20/2007
Msg: 278
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/26/2007 8:15:41 PM
Only 1 Monique , what kind of question you ask. What's the problem with the question? Illuminate your consternation /discombobulation at the OP's question.

I think its a valid question that permits one to reflect what they would do should the object of their affection have an STD.

Perhaps proactive thinking is better then reactive thinking, would you not agree?

WTF is your problem with it> curious.........................
Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 279
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/26/2007 8:33:34 PM
If they were honest and up front about it I would socialize with them and maybe go to movies or dinners or some such thing but sex would likely be out unless there was some safe way to practice it. So, they'd more likely be friends than 'dates'.
 Squirrel Hunter
Joined: 11/12/2006
Msg: 280
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/26/2007 9:23:41 PM
You know what? I would rather a potential partner show me the results of a psychological evaluation than their STD tests. I would take Herpes and a healthy relationship over a bunch of crazy ex wifes and girlfriends with the emotional roller coasters they can put you on.

Like no one has had a failed relationship? If I could go back ten years and have a choice between gonorrhea or a happy family........gonorrhea it is....big deal!! a little burning when you pee, pop some pills and your back in the saddle in a couple weeks. For that matter give gonorrhea before you give me a damn cold or the Flu not nearly as much suffering!!
Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 281
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/27/2007 12:03:15 AM
So darn true at Steamroller... so many more important things to worry about or think about in a relationship... considering the stats on STDs the chances are... you already have dated and/or slept with someone who has one....
Joined: 8/7/2006
Msg: 282
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/27/2007 12:09:26 AM
no. Not a chance. I like sex, and would not feel comfortable having sex with someone I know has an STD.
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 283
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/27/2007 1:59:20 AM
absolutely not!
Joined: 3/25/2007
Msg: 284
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/27/2007 2:14:02 AM
Well for all you people writing off those who have one when you get one and wonder why no one will want you take a look at yourselfs now and then you might see how harsh it is to be so judgemental.

Like i have said time and time again its not fair to judge people for something tehy might not know they had or for something they caught from someone they trusted. Unless you sleep around and dont care about your safty dont take safe options then maybe it is warrenetd but other wise no.

I think it is fair you have your own opinion but maybe it is better left to ones self!!!!!!!

Imagine how a person who had one who might be reading this thread would feel just think about it!!!
 nacho cheese
Joined: 4/16/2007
Msg: 285
would you ever date someone who has an std?
Posted: 4/27/2007 2:17:55 AM
This is why there are ommunication breakdowns. People are afradi. Imagine you meat this onderful lady, you think she is the woman of your dreams. you lay in bed talking one night and she said the she had somehting bad happen to her and she got an std. Not major one but it is done all cleared up and whatever. You flip out and be a****for no appearant reason. I would have to ultimately think about it myself, but i mean to just flat out say no... Wouldn't do that.
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