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Joined: 7/11/2005
Msg: 26
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How is this for a danger sign. They make plans for you to come over for supper the following day. You call them that mid-morning and ask if you are still on for supper. They tell you "I don't know. I might have to go and help my brother. Let me call you back in 30 min." You wait and you wait and you call them back after 2-3 hours and get no answer. Finally they call you 1 hour before you are to leave and tell you no.
Joined: 2/19/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 3/15/2006 4:32:11 AM

9 Your date is unconfortable with eye contact(shifting, looking at the floor ECT.

Disagree, only because I'm a submissive personality and I don't keep eye contact with anyone, not even my clients. The only 2 exceptions are my mom and best friend.
Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 28
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Posted: 3/15/2006 6:41:52 AM
-how about they keep reminding you of their "fear of committment".
-they seem to be always busy on weekends and will only see you during the week
-they are very romantic and loving when they are with you but when they are not around, you feel like he doesn't exist, because he doesn't call to say hi.
-it seems that they can always call and contact you but you can never contact is either turned off or they don't answer and when you asked if they got your message, acts innocent..

they declare that you are their soulmate and fate has brought you together even though you haven't even met yet!
Joined: 3/8/2004
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/15/2006 6:43:33 AM

Some great wisdom there.

A partial addition re cell phones. If the cell phone bills ( including logs of all call made) suddenly start to vanish from the pile of bills to be paid - start packing.

That was the first concrete tip off for me.
Joined: 2/9/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/15/2006 1:53:48 PM
Add to just about to dump you....

1. Stops calling/emailing as often as they used to.
2. Emails are short and direct and less "chatty".

These are just two that I can think of off my head that my ex started doing when she was getting ready to dump me.

And definitely, if you see some new friends, look out...
Joined: 11/27/2005
Msg: 31
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Posted: 3/15/2006 2:26:10 PM
"9 Your date is unconfortable with eye contact(shifting, looking at the floor ECT."

I'm sure that in some cases people who are normally comfortable with direct eye contact may change their behaviour to stop doing this, and that would be a sign for sure.

But many people judge those who are not comfortable with direct eye contact as being shifty or untrustworthy, and this is unfair. There are a variety of reasons and conditions that would make direct eye contact uncomfortable for some people.

I for one, can look someone in the eye for a second, but then must look away. I tend to look at the bridge of someone's nose, so they think I'm looking them in the eye, but those who know me realize that's what I'm doing, and they are ok with it. I am an honest person, but simply cannot maintain eye contact because of a neurological difference that is not obvious to those who don't know me well.
Joined: 2/17/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 3/15/2006 5:50:16 PM
Re: Tom.....u nailed alot on the head...1 thing though.....I ask what a guy does for a living....I am not going to date a loser..or moocher.....he needs to be financially secure.. i am....p.s.....there r guys out there who r gold diggers
Joined: 3/12/2006
Msg: 33
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Posted: 3/15/2006 6:10:21 PM
IM still shy and yes i agree avoiding eye contact is a defence mechanism for us shy people Im still (at 46)trying to overcome that CHALLENGE
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 3/15/2006 6:11:50 PM

7. Goes through a surprising number of "D" cell batteries

I see nothing wrong with that one.....don't hate.

Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 35
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Posted: 3/15/2006 7:08:02 PM
Danger!? Let's see:

1. Alone dates no longer seem to be possible, just meet ups with friends as a group.
2. Primary form of communicating becomes electronic.
3. They seem to be overly interested or quick to mention your female friend or friends.
4. Longer dates gone by seem to become shorter and shorter in length.
5. They are talking to mutual friends more than they talk to you.
6. They make little your terms of endearment by brushing them off.
7. Their conversation seems strained or distant.
8. Your ideas for dates don't fit their desires.
9. Them finding differences in opinions with passion seeming to want to cause conflict.
10. They begin insulting you and your likes.

10 Good Sings!!

1. They seem to want more time with you.
2. They remember small things you share and make certain to mention them to let you know they are listening.
3. They are considerate and thoughtful to make sure you are onboard with dates and adventures.
4. They like to be close to you and somewhat affectionate (sometimes difficult for men, but when they do it, you know).
5. They are giggley around you.
6. If you are walking down the street, they want you to be near to them (not in front, back or a person away (the block).
7. They share with you about their friends.
8. They want to know more about you and your life.
9. Although it doesn't have to be a year into the future, but they seem to want to plan something with you a month or so in advance.
10. They really want to introduce you to their guy friends and family.

I think we need a 10 Good Signs post! I will post on a different forum.
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 36
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Posted: 3/15/2006 7:22:23 PM


10. Always talking about how they don't need a relationship
9. Was first in line for half price chocolate the day after Valentine's day
8. Laughs at anything
7. Goes through a surprising number of "D" cell batteries
6. Actually gets work done at work
5. Can suddenly keep up with discussion of last night's show
4. No longer avoids dessert
3. Is on time Monday morning
2. Sticks finger down throat and makes gaging noise at the sight of couples

And the #1 way you can tell someone is not in a relationship


Please change number 7 to "AA" batteries...and you are bang on! :)
Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 37
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Posted: 3/16/2006 2:27:33 AM

Message: Hmmm... good ones... how about these:

1) Sends you flowers on Valentines
2) Tells you he thinks you are the most wonderful person he's ever met
3) Says he feels like the luckiest man in the world to have you in his life
4) Talks about all the great things you are going to do together

Apparently those were red flags that I was about to get dumped 4 days later.... so I would include those on the list of "danger signs" for sure!!

Wow. I guess I don't have anything to say.
Joined: 11/15/2005
Msg: 38
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Posted: 3/16/2006 4:39:22 AM
she doesn't shave her legs
she only wants anal to remain a virgin
she never seems to have her period
she refuses to receive oral or for that matter anything below the belt line dealing with the front bum
she has high cheek bones and a hard jaw line
she has hairy arm pits
she sometimes has scruff :S
Joined: 2/3/2006
Msg: 39
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Posted: 3/16/2006 6:21:37 AM
"IF you are talking to a potential date on the phone, and you hear the computer keyboard constantly clicking, or far to slow on the I'm,(other than server trouble) Chances are you arent the only one being played. To me it's also rude. I deal with one on one, after all, if I can't give her my undivided attention, I'm not showing her any respect"

I have had this happen to me allot.
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 40
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Posted: 3/16/2006 7:03:38 AM
Lol, here is a good one. Happened to me today.

You get this email every morning saying happy monday or whatever it is. You fuss and say it sounds like a form letter, so suddenly, you get more personal emails. Lol, until one morning you get this form one again and at the bottom of it, he has accidentally left another woman's email to him at the bottom, forgot to erase it.

I just sent her an email and asked if he had sent her my email, like he sent me hers, lol.
Joined: 3/3/2006
Msg: 41
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Posted: 3/16/2006 10:37:20 AM
OMG... This is definitely a great beginnings for a book, and I'd bet you'd make more money than Dr. Phil selling it.... okay I have to put my two cents in......

How about one worded answers or sounds.... Yes (Yeah, K, Uh-huh)... No (Nope, uh-uh, umm), Maybe.... To me this is just signs of not being interested.

P.S. I consent to the use of my thought if a book is published..
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 42
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Posted: 3/16/2006 10:52:29 AM
that was so entertaining and true thank you for sharing.
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 43
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Posted: 3/16/2006 10:54:56 AM
Have to disagree somewhat on the "not looking you in the eyes." Some cultures (mine) consider it rude to stare at the person speaking....
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 44
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Posted: 3/21/2006 7:36:17 AM

I have a truck battery and jumper cables, but alas, I still cant make em' fall in love!
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 45
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Posted: 3/21/2006 7:53:01 AM

I stand corrected on that one, I'm the kind of man who will look anyone in the eye. I didn't allow for shyness.
Great counter point!
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 46
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Posted: 6/4/2006 10:14:51 AM
so the concentrating on one person is silly because no one does it............

Well Buddy- I'll change my username to NO ONE.

I DONT multi-task girls
Joined: 12/13/2005
Msg: 47
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Posted: 6/4/2006 10:26:37 AM

you forgot the notorious adams apple
Joined: 6/2/2006
Msg: 48
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Posted: 6/4/2006 10:44:20 AM

If you think if all they wanna do is stay in every night, all they want is sex, you are totally wrong.

That's not always true. With what I've experienced, that's exactly what it means. Cuddling leading to sex.
Joined: 3/2/2006
Msg: 49
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Posted: 6/4/2006 12:45:33 PM
I'm gonna try for 10 sorry if I run out
1) Lack of time (5 mniutes a day is not much if s/he trully cares)
2) If they constantly talk about their ex (is it really over?)
3) Lack of effort (unwillingness to go see you)
4) Lack of honesty (if you catch the other in lies more than once)
5) If they agree to everything you say then they may be merely trying to impress you
6) If they constantly ask you for something ie money etc
7) If you meet offline and their profile remains up and shows they check msgs often
8) If you disagree on EVERYTHING
9) They do not return messages/texts/phone calls
10) Cannot look into your eyes when speaking of relationship status etc
11) If after a month you do not go out together in public

Tombstone Tom: I like that you posted this up here and most of it is true --- If you were a girl i'd ask if you dated my ex BTW Girls beware of Matt B (located in Toronto, crime: womanizer)
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 50
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Posted: 6/4/2006 7:49:34 PM
I got such a kick out all these posts. Sad but true on most of them!!
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