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Joined: 5/6/2006
Msg: 51
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I usually avoid this question if asked too. When I do answer it, I usually only give a part truth -- for example, if I were a doctor (which I am not) I wouldn't say I was a doctor, but rather that I work in a doctor's office.

I ain't gonna be no one's sugar momma.

I don't see what's wrong with asking someone what they do for a living. I don't want to date a striper or an escort. I am an Engineer and I make good money and I don't care what a woman does for a living as long as she is doing something moral. I usually tell my dates what I do for a living before I ask them.
I can see your point about people that are looking for money, but no one borrows money from me before I really trust them and I have known them for a long time.
Joined: 3/11/2006
Msg: 52
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:31:56 PM
I have never understood why people get so defensive when asked "so, what do you do?". I always ask, since many times it gives you something interesting to discuss. I am always out to learn and if they have a particularly interesting occupation I may learn something really cool. I have never asked this because I wanted to estimate their income. I assume most don't, though I know there are some who do.

I can't even imagine the nerve it would take to ask someone you were dating to borrow money. I don't even borrow from friends. That would be a definite sign to run screaming!
 blue sunshine
Joined: 12/23/2005
Msg: 53
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:37:35 PM

) Sends you flowers on Valentines
2) Tells you he thinks you are the most wonderful person he's ever met
3) Says he feels like the luckiest man in the world to have you in his life
4) Talks about all the great things you are going to do together

Apparently those were red flags that I was about to get dumped 4 days later.... so I would include those on the list of "danger signs" for sure!!

Oh MY!!! That's just sad...but I laughed! I'm sorry; I couldn't help it!! Sweet, you deserve a hug! lol
Joined: 8/7/2004
Msg: 54
Top 10 danger signs - Internet Dating Games
Posted: 7/8/2006 6:35:30 PM
That was a good message posted by justskippingstones.

I've encountered alot of the same things she has posted. Nobody likes being alone or feeling like they are unloved. Many singles/divorcees seem to have set expectations of someone they haven't even met! The end result is always failure, like expecting to win the lottery & it never happens. What I get a kick out of is these guys rated like a 1, 2, 3 or 4 and they want a Barbie doll... I don't think Ken or Barbie ever posted a profile - time for a reality check.

My favorites are the guys who have been on the singles sites for years (God knows how long) and are still looking? These are definitely the Internet Dating Gamers so beware!

I've decided to just go out on single dates only... as their "friend". I look at it like this... Would they kiss, caress, talk sweet to or have sex with one of their buddies? Probably not, so if I'm just their "friend" I expect to be treated like one of their buddies.
Joined: 7/5/2006
Msg: 55
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/8/2006 7:15:50 PM
How about this one. She agreed to take me to have my hearing aid repaired. Turns out I had to have a new one ordered. She said "I'll wait here for you. When I went out to look for her... she was gone! She told me later "I was using another friends car and had to leave" Did not even try to locate me. Needless to say that ended our friendship.
Joined: 6/27/2006
Msg: 56
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Posted: 7/8/2006 7:24:42 PM
What if a guy you've been dating, on-line only, tells you he loves you. Are you supposed to believe him. Answer that one guys!!!
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 57
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/24/2006 11:13:39 AM
Hey Donna

you wrote
What if a guy you've been dating, on-line only, tells you he loves you. Are you supposed to believe him. Answer that one guys!!!

Ive had that happen. absolutely not. how can you be in love with Mpegs, text and dll files? I have to be around the woman, and then it's a slow process. it's many things, Her eyes, personality, the little faces she makes, the smell(sounds primitve but true) body laguange, and a host of other things.

Speaking of the scent,Ive found that to be very true with women, Guys try this...when you go on a date, of course be clean, but use little or no aftershave, then on another date really put it on.(has to be the same woman) guage her reaction toward you.
She will be far warmer to you without the aftershave. Aftershave seems to throw your natural scent off, and confuses her scences. This sounds silly, but absolutely true. Scents appear to activate endorphins in the brain. The reaction can be from repulsive all the way to attraction, or anything in between.

Oil derived from the Male elk will drive women nuts. I didnt believe this, until a friend of mine gave me some and suggested I try it. If there ever was a "Love Potion # 9" thats it.

Joined: 2/9/2006
Msg: 58
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/24/2006 1:22:27 PM
One of the most SURE signs you are about to be dumped is simply a lack of communication.

The phone calls stop
The emails stop
They don't take your calls or your calls go to VM.
They don't reply to emails

Once the communication is stopped it's over.
 blues clues
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 59
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/24/2006 2:38:55 PM

I am so glad I chanced across this forum. A lot of posts were funny and so very true! I don't have anything to add thats insightful but want to say thanks to those who've posted!
Joined: 5/15/2006
Msg: 60
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/24/2006 6:29:32 PM
1. When he's the only one in the bar laughing hysterically at his own jokes.
2. When he calls you and has phone sex by himself while talking to you.
3. When his mother tells you what looser girlfriends he's had in the past.
4. When he says he broke up with his girlfriend a year ago and it's only been two weeks.
5. When he gets drunk often and has a gun collection.
6. When he tells you how busy he's gonna be on the weekend, two weekends in a row.
7. When he's asked your friend out on a date, not knowing you were friends.
8. When no sooner you get in the car with him, he hits a kid on a bike, cuz he's so nervous.
9. When he says he's single and doesn't offer his number.
10. When he talks bad about his ex girlfriend's kids.
Joined: 3/2/2006
Msg: 61
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/24/2006 6:54:57 PM
here is one for as you can tell I am a truck driver but here goes you work and stay gone all of the tyme or I hear truckers or owners as myself make good money
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 62
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/29/2007 10:50:52 AM
tomestone......i agree with all that you said except, wanting to know what you do for a living?.....i find it interesting and sometimes tells you alot about the person your chatting with.....if you think about it......something you forgot how about the one who never gives you too much information....only talks on a cell address......MARRIED....and wants a little action on the side....i hate people who cheat on a relationship
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 63
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Posted: 7/29/2007 12:09:41 PM

10. He is NEVER available on weekends.
9. Never takes you to places he has frequented with his wife.
8. He is only available in daytime hours.
7. Wants to meet at your place.
6. You never meet his friends.
5. You never meet his family.
4. You can't call him.
3. He never invites you to his place.
2. He is never available for any function that you may want to attend,
such as a family gathering...(ooooh, that means meeting your family)
1. Has to leave you because he has to pick up his kid at school (that
means be home before the wife gets home.)
Joined: 4/14/2007
Msg: 64
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/29/2007 12:25:41 PM
You know there is a problem , when he text-messages you and doesnt call!!!
Joined: 7/4/2007
Msg: 65
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Posted: 7/29/2007 12:33:24 PM
hysterical! very true-
 Southern Kitten
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 66
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/29/2007 12:35:23 PM
I have to disagree with the number nine under the taught 10 dangers games. I have social anxiety to start with so it is hard for me to make eye contact with anyone. But as for the other ones I totally agree with you.
Joined: 7/4/2006
Msg: 67
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Posted: 7/29/2007 3:33:53 PM
You hit the nail on the head with both lists Tom--and I'm talking about an 18-year marriage. Of course, if I had paid attention to the voice inside my head--I knew what was happening, I just didn't want to admit it. We don't necessarily get wiser with age, but we do get experience.

Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 68
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/29/2007 5:01:59 PM

I personally prefer a nice night in, cuddling up on the sofa with some movies and some takeout, sex has nothing to do with it. I just ain't a normal outdoor person, all there is to do outside is clubs and pubs and those in my opinion are boring and way too loud to be enjoyable.

Outdoors doesnt have to be camping, fishing, pubs, and clubs. 99% of people will quickly tire of staying home every night....THINK OF FUN THINGS TO DO, or you will be looking for a new GF I feel.

And like the OP, if your BF or GF stops thinking of fun things, or rejects your ideas for possible dates, dum dum, dum dum..
Joined: 6/26/2007
Msg: 69
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/29/2007 5:18:25 PM
Good points. No arguments from me on what you have written.

Relationships do take time and this is something I wish more men (from a woman's viewpoint) understood. All the men I have talked to or went out with have dumped me (not even had a second date ) because I was not willing to have sex the first meeting. Guess I wasn't worth their time, and that's ok. It's their loss, not mine

Good luck to everyone and God Bless you in your search.
Joined: 7/15/2007
Msg: 70
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/29/2007 10:02:10 PM
Dont beleive a word he says trust me that way u dont have your heart broken
Joined: 10/30/2006
Msg: 71
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 7/30/2007 8:07:18 AM
Stay away!! you don't need that kind of hurt!! Move on.............
Joined: 5/31/2007
Msg: 72
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 8/27/2007 10:41:03 AM
What I haven't heard is 10 reasons to dump them.
1. You have your first date conversation is going great their friend joins you and all
sudden your date starts talking about sex with you and your panties.
2. They dance with 2 women both are over 300lbs and come back and ask you if your
3. They meet you for the first time and tell you your very sexual. You have on jeans
and a T Shirt.
4. God gave them signs and they have never meant you.
5. They offer you surgery for a quickie.
6. They tell you they want to make their X girlfriend jealous and would you help?
7. Their picture is 10yrs old and they don't understand way your confused about what
they look like.
8. They ask you if you would like to go to a swinger party.
9. You meet them several times and finally go to their home and notice the bath room
looks like a woman decorated it oh and there is makeup everywhere.
Least of all my Male friends wanted to put their 2 cents in so here are some of theirs
10. They tell you they believe in free love.
11. They want to go to a strip bar because they are bi-sexual
12. They go to the bar and sneak a few shots whenever they think your not looking
13. They bring their own bottle
14. They tell you the parts of their bodies that are pireced.
12. They send pictures of them
13. They haven't brushed their teeth in a month
14. The bring presents on the first date
15. They want presents on the first date
My all time favorite after dating this gentleman several times he asked me out to a very nice eatery but since I had already eaten I declined and had a drink it was very busy conversation was flowing and he left to pay the bill made it halfway home and said they couldn't find the ticket so I didn't pay them. I made amends the next day with my credit card and told him so. He tried to redeem his self by saying he would pay me back half of the ticket. I said half but I didn't eat I had a five dollar drink.......
This is what I have learned about the new world of dating. I take my time. I date different people until I find the right one. Some people are just meant as friends some I wouldn't walk across the street for. The one I am looking for is a keeper. I don't lie about dating different people if they can't handle that then I say goodbye or suggest being friends. I have no expectations of anyone until I know them well enough to have one. Never introduce them to my family until I am sure they are quality. Have many social settings to see how they behave. I am not a player. I am looking for the right one. But I am taking my time to find one. Smiles Sherrie
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 73
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:32:48 PM
Haha! These are great and I agree, sooo true. Thought I'd add one.
Danger sign that you are going to be dumped :
( Haven't seen each other in 3 months and you've been doing is talking)
" I love you, make love to me, right here, right now" and he says: " We're talking, we haven't talked in a long time, why ruin it?" O.0
3 weeks later and 2 weeks before wedding and he says its over.

Joined: 3/28/2005
Msg: 74
Top 10 danger signs
Posted: 9/10/2007 11:26:04 AM
Tom, soooooooooooooooo true, what your saying. The walkin ahead of ya, is a major turn off. Thanks for that, didn't see that comin. Guess I was blinded by the wall that was in front of me. Readin these forums lately, has really opened me up on things, I wouldn't even think of, what people are really up to. What happen to simple respect and old family values? Did we all just fall off the face of the earth?
Joined: 8/27/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 9/10/2007 3:43:58 PM
You've been on several dates but all they give you is their cell #...and you've never seen their place.

They are never available on holidays.

They have a white band around their wedding finger.

They hint about needing money.

They ask for money.

They aren't friends with ANY of their exes.

They get jealous or controlling.

They are nasty to servers.

They want sex before dating exclusively.

Just some of my personal ones.
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