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 **~renegadeoutlaw~**
Joined: 4/23/2006
Msg: 51
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["Hasta la vista baby" comes to mind. ]

I am with you on that one JSP61!!! My feeling is I really don't give sh*t who or what my ex does as long as he pays me what he owes via the court order and stays out of my hair. - He has moved away from here, so I really don't have to worry about seeing him with someone else!

I just know he was damn lucky to have me and will never do any better. He left for some welfare skank whore who has 3 kids all by different men and later on, she left him for some other welfare idiot! Amazing what happens when you think the grass is greener on the other side!

 BluEyesNSmiles
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 52
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 6:20:26 AM
HER IS ONE FOR YAS ... LOL ...
I got married at 16 and devorced him at 19 .. I vowed to never get married again and I didn't , it was suposto be forever ... Im 45 and still single .... He on the other hand is married to his 5th wife now ... I found this out 2 yrs ago and when I did I just danced a lil jig ... knowing it wasnt me ... LOL ... I'm just the 2nd wife with his only 2 kids he was married to for 2 yrs ... How do I feel about him getting engaged ? ... How should I feel ? ... LOL ... I still love him , but he is doing his thing and its kewl ... I say just wish the ex's love , joy and happiness ...
 knipknip
Joined: 10/30/2007
Msg: 53
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 3:46:25 PM
I think: Good thing, GREAT!

So my 'ex' is getting married in June, I am invited to the wedding, I have been helping him find Kilts for his wedding, both my sons are best man/groomsmen and since his new lady in his life doesn't have anyone to give her away my eldest son is standing up for her. My sons' girlfriends are her assistants. LOL now that I call a family affair LOL...

oh yeah! my other 'ex' is also invited to the wedding. We are just like "Friends"

 Saltolibre
Joined: 6/4/2005
Msg: 54
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How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 5:19:58 PM
Wish them the best..Ultimately it will all make sense. My ex wife remarried some years ago and has had 3 kids sense then.. I find myself caring for them almost as if they were mine, simply because they are the brothes and sister of my own son that we had together..There is no point in living in the past, seems a lot of people do these days...
 jetty65
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 55
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 6:15:23 PM
I just found out the man I thought was my soul mate and lost to another is getting married this summer.

Im torn between wishing something would happen to stop it to im glad that cheat is out of my life.

Its too bad we cant just be friends I don't like her I never did Ive know her longer then Ive known him.
 alanswmmr1
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 56
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 6:34:28 PM
This happened to me not too long ago as well. Even though she and I hadn't spoken or seen each other in over a year, it still felt like someone slapped me in the face. It took about a week for me to get past it. I think the main reason it hurt so much was because it brought back old feelings that I wasn't prepared to handle. It also made me question why I wasn't the one she was marrying, and why I hadn't found someone yet. I guess I felt like a failure or something.

Anyway, it passed and everything is just fine now! Like everything else, time heals it.
 sasyecat
Joined: 10/6/2006
Msg: 57
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 9:53:20 PM
When the one that got away, calls in the middle of the night drunk, to tell you he got married the week before. Then you find out he actually got married a week later???
6 months later he calls 15 times wanting to see you!
Then calls 4 months later begs for 3 hours to see you, then tells you he should have married you!
Then 8 months later calls says he is divorced. Then calls every weekend saying he wants to see you.
Then finally comes to see you and he's drunk, with a bunch of lame a$$ excises.

I don't think it was about sex, cause he never got any!

If I didn't I think I'd
 tigerlily1
Joined: 12/20/2007
Msg: 58
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 10:10:16 PM
Relief...............
 maybe301
Joined: 2/20/2007
Msg: 59
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 10:20:04 PM
lol funneeeeeeeeeeeee
 BluEyesNSmiles
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 60
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/13/2008 10:55:42 AM
Reading all these stories realy is good for the heart ... just knowing that others have been threw so much and are making it fine ... I am seeing why some ppl STRESS in their profiles they wanna be freinds FIRST ... friends are less likely to hurt you and you have more time to know them first ... Does kinda take the luv at first sight thing and blow it all to heck ... lol ... Not that I thought it would ever happen to me , just some ppl say it has for them ... I just wish we could go back to when true luv was realy there ... ya know the ole getting to know someone and not giving up because ppl dont wanna deal with things and just grabbing someone by the hand and never letting go ... O' I sound mushy now
 outofthedesert
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 61
your ex advertises to you that they are engaged
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:01:18 AM
I would be thrilled, especially if she lived 3000 miles away and he was moving there...............
 SouthernRoses
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 62
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/13/2008 1:38:11 PM
I had an on again off again bf that did that twice. First time after we split up and he got engaged, it didn't work out and we got back together. This time, he's in another state and if I'm not mistaken, they are married by now. It hurt because I always felt like we would eventually settle down and realize no one else would put up with us. It has takend me several months to get used to it, but as long as she is good to him and his girls, I'm happy for him. I've moved on and eventually, I'll find the one that is meant for me.
 fly0nthewall
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 63
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:17:49 PM
Depends on the ex. Most of them, I would be happy for them. One or two of them, I'd feel a little sorry for the woman who ended up with him, but it wouldn't bother me in the least. Exes are exes for a reason.
 outofthedesert
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 64
your ex advertises to you that they are engaged
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:18:23 PM
Had a guy (boyfriend-not husband) contact me that I was in love with, but he chose to marry someone else. The only thought I had was thank goodness it was not me, he had cheated with her.
 billybobjimbo
Joined: 6/18/2006
Msg: 65
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/13/2008 5:49:44 PM
I would feel like a pinecone was removed from my backside! And there would be certainly alot less ****ing at me from even 250 miles away. Of couse I would worry about my children though.
All I would hope for the sake of my 2 children was that he was sane, had a good job, and would treat my kids well. I also hope he is deaf so he does not have to hear about her conplain about how everything is every0ne elses fault. And he has real thick skin so he can take the mental beatings everyday. And dosent mind her sleeping around.

However I have come to realize that nobody is as stupid as I was 13 years ago to even THINK of making her a significant other. I guess that pinecone is not going anywhere...
 Bondgyrl
Joined: 7/21/2007
Msg: 66
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:15:53 PM
Which ex?? heheheheh
The main ex, father of my only child, I would hope to be in the bridal party. We just outgrew each other as lovers but are now the very best of friends. In fact I can honestly say that we get along Better Now than we ever did as a couple! We still have the occasional disagreements but no where near as bad as before. I have even been helping him find someone so I would be extremely happy if he managed to find someone more suited to him than I was.
 ciaobaby71
Joined: 2/24/2008
Msg: 67
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/14/2008 10:33:11 AM
More power to them...I'd wish them all the best!
 PaulC_DJ
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 68
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How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/14/2008 10:43:58 AM
its worse when you see your allmost ex wife 6months pregnant and engaged to the bloke who used to be your best mate.....
 PaulC_DJ
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 69
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How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/14/2008 10:46:18 AM
were not even fully divorsed yet and shes having his kid and engaged and gettin my little kids to call him dad allready now how am i supposed to feel now???????????
 l.cipher
Joined: 10/20/2007
Msg: 70
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/14/2008 12:53:36 PM
Hmm...as I always say, I don't generally post to forums, but every once in a while these things catch my eye and I feel like I have something to share. In this case, I can give two examples of how I feel/felt in the situation.
The first situation was w/ my ex-fiancee, approximately 9 years ago. We had one of those whirlwind relationships, and were engaged within 9 months, but never finalized things (I think the fact that her father and I almost got in a fist-fight had a lot to do with it, but she was getting loopy towards the end anyways, and we were both going through a lot of life-changing experiences - mine for the better, hers for the worse; this was after we had to stop living together for financial and other reasons). After eighteen months or so, it was over and we parted ways amicably. The last time I saw her, she had a child w/ some chump (really insecure, snotty little prick that she had under her thumb and he was terrified to death of me somehow jeopardizing their relationship by even talking to her...downright hilarious). The kicker was that they'd gotten strung-out together (word of mouth from a mutual friend whose apartment they'd robbed), despite the fact that when I first met him, he told me that he was totally straight-edge and had a huge cross and "Christian Soldier" tattooed on his back. All what I said was "there but for the grace of God go I...". I can't say that I don't occasionally miss the person she used to be, but that was then, this is now. C'est la vie.
The second is my ex-wife being "engaged" (while we were still technically married) to our old roommate (who I'd thrown out because he couldn't stop smoking crack and/or get a job). When I separated from her, and locked her out of the my house (technically in both our names, but she hadn't paid a single cent on it, nor a single bill since we'd been in it, so I'd say it's mine, and she didn't contact me to get her possessions until months later anyways), she hit the streets with this cat and got strung out on that glass d**k with him (the reason I'd separated from her is for catching a felony dope case and then lying to me about it, though there were a multitude of other reasons that had been building up for years before that last straw dropped; I'm not entirely innocent, but I didn't do the completely stupid things she did), and she also robbed my house twice (stealing items that I'd owned long before I was dating her, let alone married to her). I forgave her for this when she finally got into a rehab (which she had to do or else look at a long - at least in her eyes - prison sentence), but the guy that she is with now is on my "to-do list" if I ever see him (since I'm pretty sure he helped rob my house). So my feelings about her and all that are mixed. I'm friendly with her, and wish her well (to the point where I promised not to actively hunt this guy down), but I still hope that being clean (or at least enough that she has to be in order to not violate the sweet pre-trial probation deal she received instead of the usual two to ten that I would have received if I'd done the same stupid BS she did) will open her eyes up enough that she doesn't marry this idiot. But you know what it comes down to in the end? It doesn't keep me up at nights (well, I'm an insomniac anyways, but that's besides the point). I've moved on, case closed, end of story. If they want to and succeed at the happily ever after, cool, whatever. Myself, I'm concentrating on my company, taking care of myself, casually looking around for my tattooed, smart, sexy companion, and putting things back together (hey, a six-year relationship and marriage leaves you with a _lot_ of crap to clean up, as tax season recently reminded me). I'm sure all this is a bit more than everyone wanted to hear, but the hell with it, I drink too much coffee and type too fast (occupational hazard of being a computer scientist).
Before anyone starts in on me with a "drugs seem to be a common thread in..." speech, know this - regardless of government propaganda, illegal drugs aren't any different than legal ones (alcohol, tobacco, etc.; look at the effects of Prohibition if you want a direct parallel to the current drug situation in America). Personally, I don't care if I ever see another drug in my life (except for my Guinness and Tullamore Dew - you'll get those when you pry my cold, dead fingers off a pint of stout and and a glass of the finest Irish whiskey ever made, along with the coffin nail that will be hanging from my lips). I don't care if other people get high/drunk/whatever, only if it wrecks their life.
I think the best statement made here is "Life goes on"...maybe I'm posting the wrong stuff, because my heart was broken a long time before either of these two relationships (I chose to just post the two most "involved" ones as examples), and I've never bothered trying to super-glue it together and pretend that life is all sunshine and roses (I just swept the pieces together, dumped them in the hole where my heart used to be, and moved on; so far, it appears to be working, as my blood hasn't stopped flowing, I can have meaningful interactions with other people, and I only get maudlin on Valentine's Day - which I hate for being a BS holiday invented to keep Hallmark in business; side note...I DO have a tattoo of a heart w/ a big X through it on the inside of my right wrist, but I like it and I'm happy with it _and_ my life). I guess what worked for me in all cases - including the one that _really_ broke my heart - is letting go of the bullshit. At least on an emotional level. By that, I mean, you'll never forget any significant relationship, but don't tear yourself up about the "One That Got Away" or go on about how she/he was THE ONE. There ain't just one...or else you and I wouldn't be here (and if I need a further reminder, all what I do is think about all the people I've known that were married to the same person their entire lives, including family members, and look at how miserable they've been and how sullenly they spent most of those years). Having said that, I _am_ a closet romantic and wish that there were someone whom I could spend the rest of my years with happily, but I'm not holding my breath.
 Case of the Punx
Joined: 1/3/2008
Msg: 71
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/14/2008 12:59:16 PM
Hehehe. Mine was pregnant before the engagement. It felt like victory!!!
 graysam
Joined: 9/22/2006
Msg: 72
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/14/2008 1:01:19 PM
Pitty for the next poor girl! lol
 wallflower1
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 73
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/14/2008 1:05:49 PM
Life goes on!
Make your ex's as history as possible. It's only fair to to you and the new lady that will be coming into your life. That way you will have new space to develop something wonderful.
Say right now..."Today is the first day of the rest of my life." Visualize the path of what you want for the rest of your life and get on it.
Whatever is in the past and the pain that goes with it belongs in the past.
Whatever is over and done with in the past is over and done. Close the box. Feel free again.
When you do that, then ask your thread post question again to yourself. You will be amazed at how much you really couldn't care less.
 akmusic
Joined: 1/27/2008
Msg: 74
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/14/2008 1:35:49 PM
Well I would be glad, that mean they can't terrorize you anymore and you can move on with your life and find someone who is tru\ly worthy.
 Pondside
Joined: 12/12/2007
Msg: 75
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/15/2008 10:23:05 AM
In response to the op’s question:
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