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 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 51
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My one ex got remarried seven DAYS after the divorce was final. It was a wee bit of a shock, I have to say. What was even more shocking is that she married a man younger than my oldest kids!

He can have her. She deserves him.
 tenbears17292
Joined: 6/25/2005
Msg: 52
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How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 3:18:21 PM
It would of been OK if she hadn't gave my the equivalent of a 2000 dear john letter by while I was out of town on vacation putting on her myspace page that she was engaged. And that she has a firefighter as a b/f. I'm not a firefighter. The firefighter was suppose to be a old friend from her home town. I did some what expect something was in the works because he had moved out on his wife (something that she neglected to tell me )Women get me they complain how men cheat on them but don't see it when they are doing it to others.I really knew something was up when she complained about her son when he meet this guy telling her Bit ches and H oes he went through the same thing recently. So he just called it as he seen it .
 firegurl61-17
Joined: 11/22/2006
Msg: 53
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 3:19:14 PM
Wait till the gal finds out my ex sleeps with strange men on business trips too!
 gonzofanmel
Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 54
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How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 3:56:07 PM
One of my exes not only got married but now has a kid. And even though things ended badly, it still stings a little bit.

But I'm happy for him if that's what he wants. He's out of my life anyway.
 reckless abandon
Joined: 11/10/2007
Msg: 55
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 4:16:52 PM
Who cares. An ex is and ex for a reason. If they find someone who truly makes them happy then good for them. I've been invited to two of my ex's weddings. One I went to because I knew the guy she was marrying and the second I didn't because of the reason I was invited. It wasn't a good reason and I don't think her fiance would have been too cool about. That marriage didn't last.
 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 56
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 4:28:45 PM

If you can honestly say that you gave it your best shot there's nothing left to do but be happy for her. The "what if's" will drive you crazy.

Msg.42
True,true,true!!! You and me are in the minority here dude!
I was only married once,20 years and have two great kids, the relationship for the most part was successful and only the last 2 or 3 years it went south. She has since remarried and I wish her well! I really do and why not? To stay bitter is self defeating because it is only cheating yourself! Yes ,thats right!
And if by chance you have a s/o a new -bee in your life they also will be the brunt of your bitterness and anchor dragging lifestyle too, why? Because you have decided not to move on, you play part time lover and friend, your not whole and live with part time feelings and part time reservations for another.. sound familiar...
Life goes on and so should you unless you enjoy living in the past and the rut you call life.

We all have had unpleasant things happen in out life but who hasn't? It's not a life sentance [bad luck] but Life still goes on, let go and live it again!
 TehTech
Joined: 4/6/2008
Msg: 57
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 4:35:27 PM

Well, I was engaged once and he cheated and got her pregnant so we broke up. Long story short he put MY ring on HER finger and married HER. Needless to say they are now divorced. That's why I strongly believe in what goes around comes around.


omg how can you give someone a ring that was intended for someone else?!!! and that stupid woman still married him anyway?!!!!

wow...
 mjsmamma
Joined: 1/9/2007
Msg: 58
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 4:39:34 PM
My ex married the first and only woman who replied to his match ad. They were married a year and a half after our divorce. At first I was hurt because it looked like I was too easily replaced, even though I was the one who asked for the divorce. But, after I thought about it, it helped me see that I was right in leaving; he didn't want a great, loving marriage, because he wouldn't work to make a fantastic partnertship, he just wanted a to be married.

Also, the first guy I had a serious relationship with after my divorce got engaged to the person he met right after me. He was ready to be married, as he hinted at marriage and children and the whole package with me, but he was an alcoholic and I told him I couldn't be serious with someone who had a drinking problem.

It was an awesome, painful learning experience for me; during my marriage I knew what I wanted I just couldn't stand up for what I wanted, I just ****ed about it. This time I knew what I wanted and I didn't ****, I just said, this is what I have to have, and I didn't settle.

Sometimes when your x gets married it has nothing to do with how good or bad of a person you were, people get married for all kinds of reasons, and many times it doesn't include love.
 Red_N_Blue
Joined: 10/1/2007
Msg: 59
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How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 4:40:02 PM
I wish my ex got engaged..really.
 Beach ambassador
Joined: 3/8/2008
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Posted: 4/10/2008 4:57:49 PM
I could not be happier! My ex-wife is engaged to be married in the fall of 08 and her new hubby can support her since I have for the last 4ys! since we broke up. I am going to laugh all the way to bank! Just move on because she has!
 RhondaBonda76
Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 61
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 4:59:44 PM
I had this happen not to long ago myself. My Ex husband "tried" to give the original engagement ring that i had to his new GF. She found out about it when my Ex brother in law..... Whom i still talk to, to this day, told her it was mine. LOL. Needless to say that they are not getting married now. HAHA. I would be happy for him to remarry. He just needs to be faithful to whomever he is with. And with him it is not possible at all.

So men never change. Some men learn from their mistakes.

But for the thread. I just found out that after 2 years with someone that my Ex is ..... getting married to someone else. I was basically his slave. Cooked , cleaned, and got ignored. I have never felt so free in my life. Cause now he is someone else's problem. He now i can really close that door behind me and put stuff in front of the door so it never ever opens again.

*Rant off*



 **4SLUUT**
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 62
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 5:01:33 PM
Get over it...should have taken the chance with them before you were an "X"...thank the good Lord they are now someone else's problem!!! If you didn't want them for marriage at the time...must be a reason why!
 Twistiepearz
Joined: 11/25/2007
Msg: 63
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/10/2008 5:35:34 PM
They're all engaged or married.. and I LOVE it.

Of course.. they end up miserable and wanting to come back within 2 years or less.. but I do so hope at least the one of them I don't keep in touch with is happy and healthy and grounded.

It's a life and if mine is included... not a single one of them were the *one* for me, as I wasn't the one for them either!
 beehearnow
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 64
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/11/2008 5:20:41 AM
i would feel bad for her...because I know she will be yelled at and belittled, presented to mutual friends as being "all screwed up" and very possibly be emailed a link to a thread on here where her personal history was distorted and presented as a "please give me advice" post by him.
 NERO1
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 65
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/11/2008 9:54:53 AM
Yeah that can be hard, OP. One of the (very few) girls I ever truly was "head over heels" for myself, albeit yrs ago, got married just this past Dec. I knew of the date of it, etc, thought a lot about it on that day, but, what can you do? Part of me wanted to just let her go, and part of me wanted to follow her into the parking lot of her work and strangle her with a pair of pantyhose, leaving some sort of bizarre "calling card" behind. J/K!!!!!

No, in all seriousness though, if she's happy then I am as well, for her.
 Straight Christian Lady
Joined: 6/14/2007
Msg: 66
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/11/2008 10:25:05 AM
YAY!!!! I'm free ... that mess is all hers now, and since she seems so happy, fill their boots!
 JSP61
Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 67
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/11/2008 2:29:02 PM
"Hasta la vista baby" comes to mind.
 QUICKSILVER217
Joined: 11/22/2006
Msg: 68
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Posted: 4/11/2008 2:29:31 PM
Delighted, hope she really takes him to the cleaners in a way I never did, its only a matter of time.
 **~renegadeoutlaw~**
Joined: 4/23/2006
Msg: 69
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 6:00:12 AM
["Hasta la vista baby" comes to mind. ]

I am with you on that one JSP61!!! My feeling is I really don't give sh*t who or what my ex does as long as he pays me what he owes via the court order and stays out of my hair. - He has moved away from here, so I really don't have to worry about seeing him with someone else!

I just know he was damn lucky to have me and will never do any better. He left for some welfare skank whore who has 3 kids all by different men and later on, she left him for some other welfare idiot! Amazing what happens when you think the grass is greener on the other side!

 BluEyesNSmiles
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 70
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Posted: 4/12/2008 6:20:26 AM
HER IS ONE FOR YAS ... LOL ...
I got married at 16 and devorced him at 19 .. I vowed to never get married again and I didn't , it was suposto be forever ... Im 45 and still single .... He on the other hand is married to his 5th wife now ... I found this out 2 yrs ago and when I did I just danced a lil jig ... knowing it wasnt me ... LOL ... I'm just the 2nd wife with his only 2 kids he was married to for 2 yrs ... How do I feel about him getting engaged ? ... How should I feel ? ... LOL ... I still love him , but he is doing his thing and its kewl ... I say just wish the ex's love , joy and happiness ...
 kamaboko
Joined: 2/17/2008
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How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 1:09:42 PM
I don't mind it at all. That's why they're called an "ex".
 knipknip
Joined: 10/30/2007
Msg: 72
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 3:46:25 PM
I think: Good thing, GREAT!

So my 'ex' is getting married in June, I am invited to the wedding, I have been helping him find Kilts for his wedding, both my sons are best man/groomsmen and since his new lady in his life doesn't have anyone to give her away my eldest son is standing up for her. My sons' girlfriends are her assistants. LOL now that I call a family affair LOL...

oh yeah! my other 'ex' is also invited to the wedding. We are just like "Friends"

 Saltolibre
Joined: 6/4/2005
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Posted: 4/12/2008 5:19:58 PM
Wish them the best..Ultimately it will all make sense. My ex wife remarried some years ago and has had 3 kids sense then.. I find myself caring for them almost as if they were mine, simply because they are the brothes and sister of my own son that we had together..There is no point in living in the past, seems a lot of people do these days...
 jetty65
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 74
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 6:15:23 PM
I just found out the man I thought was my soul mate and lost to another is getting married this summer.

Im torn between wishing something would happen to stop it to im glad that cheat is out of my life.

Its too bad we cant just be friends I don't like her I never did Ive know her longer then Ive known him.
 alanswmmr1
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 75
How do you really feel seeing your EX get engaged?
Posted: 4/12/2008 6:34:28 PM
This happened to me not too long ago as well. Even though she and I hadn't spoken or seen each other in over a year, it still felt like someone slapped me in the face. It took about a week for me to get past it. I think the main reason it hurt so much was because it brought back old feelings that I wasn't prepared to handle. It also made me question why I wasn't the one she was marrying, and why I hadn't found someone yet. I guess I felt like a failure or something.

Anyway, it passed and everything is just fine now! Like everything else, time heals it.
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