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 romanticlady64
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 451
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Yes it can be possible but of course you wont know for sure until you actually meet. You can fall in love with that persons personality. Looks do matter but its what's inside that really counts. Lets face it with age looks fade and if you dont have someone that you can talk with .....then your back to square one.
 alpinette
Joined: 6/21/2006
Msg: 452
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/24/2006 4:44:15 PM
yes yes yes yes i do believe you can a few years back i fell in love with a guy i met on the internet but he lived in another state he would email me such beautiful emails and chat with me until wee hours in the morning either by phone or on the computer he would burn me cds with love songs on them and i could talk to him anytime i had a problem and basically he was and said everything i needed to hear or see in emails yes the sound of his voice made me tremble he was like my soul mate and made me forget my troubles when we talked so yes i believe you can fall in love with someone without meeting them first i think your falling in love with his inner beauty first it sounds like and sometimes thats better sometimes as they say looks can be decieveing say you meet a really nice looking guy and im not saying all good looking guys are this way just some and hes a real a** a jerk if you know what i mean and then there is the regular guy you may not give the time of day to that is the sweetest guy in the world but you wont give him a chance so good luck chat later alpinette
 Fluffles
Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 453
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Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/25/2006 1:23:47 PM
Be wary, this happens to women who begin relationships with men in prison all the time. Those relationships usually cancel out within 30 days of the man's release. Problematically speaking, you should also realize that you may have a problem with intimacy and may be relagating your social life to unattainable men. Hmmm?
 lenacay
Joined: 6/3/2006
Msg: 454
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/26/2006 7:18:00 PM
I don't want to bash the people who wrote in and said it can not happen, but without a connection of the soul the sex will be empty and meaningless. When you fall in love with a person because of shared experiences, personality, intimate thoughts that is much deeper than whether or not you find them sexy and have some momentary chemistry in bed. It is the love on the level that you seem to be experiencing with this person that will sustain your relationship for years to come.

The question I would be asking myself is whether or not this person would be the one I would still want to be with if sex was not a possibility at all. If the answer COULD be yes than that is the person I would definitely want to be with.
 trknon
Joined: 5/1/2006
Msg: 455
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/26/2006 7:24:35 PM
You are falling in love with what someone you don't know is telling I could tell you I am a millionaire with 8 cars and several bank accounts and dine at only the finest places, it takes time to get to know someone take your time
 GigglyOne
Joined: 6/19/2005
Msg: 456
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/26/2006 7:28:49 PM
I don't think you can fall in love with someone you've never met. I know I have liked people I have never met a lot. But never fell in love with them. Although, recently a guy I know in the States told his girlfriend that him and I are soulmates. Long story short, she was in love with a guy she's never met, but has only seen in dreams. And he told her that him and I were soulmates. We've never met, but have talked on the phone for hours for months, until the phone bill got outrageously huge. So it's happened to people, but I think it's a bit weird and I don't understand it.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/26/2006 7:33:44 PM
Be optimistic and cautious at the same time. You probably know him much better than someone you would have dated for the same amount of time. The chemistry will probably be there even if it perhaps wouldn't have been if you had initially met face to face because you have built up the butterflies without the physical contact. If someone is going to lie, he is going to lie. If someone is going to even unintentionally present himself falsely, which happened to me recently (yes the same supportive love you just the way you are thing and then when things got a little difficult, he bolted), situations will arise that will bring everything to light. Even if you date somebody extensively, until you live together, you don't know which of those cute traits that you originally liked are those that you will start to hate and become deal breakers. Make sure your bullshit detector is on and proceed. You can either spend your life expecting the worst and not really living or hoping that things will work out but with a healthy sense of skepticism, then you are at least sometimes pleasantly surprised. Enjoy what you have and worry about it when there is something to worry about. Even if things don't work out, the blissful period has been wonderful and you have some nice memories on a rainy day.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 6/26/2006 7:34:20 PM
Be optimistic and cautious at the same time. You probably know him much better than someone you would have dated for the same amount of time. The chemistry will probably be there even if it perhaps wouldn't have been if you had initially met face to face because you have built up the butterflies without the physical contact. If someone is going to lie, he is going to lie. If someone is going to even unintentionally present himself falsely, which happened to me recently (yes the same supportive love you just the way you are thing and then when things got a little difficult, he bolted), situations will arise that will bring everything to light. Even if you date somebody extensively, until you live together, you don't know which of those cute traits that you originally liked are those that you will start to hate and become deal breakers. Make sure your bullshit detector is on and proceed. You can either spend your life expecting the worst and not really living or hoping that things will work out but with a healthy sense of skepticism, then you are at least sometimes pleasantly surprised. Enjoy what you have and worry about it when there is something to worry about. Even if things don't work out, the blissful period has been wonderful and you have some nice memories on a rainy day. Also, years ago I thought a friend's sister was insane. She was an army brat and started corresponding and telephoning a guy (pre-Internet) that she had known as a teen. They were unable to meet because he had gone into the military and they married without spending any quantity of time actually physically together. They have been married now for more than twenty years, lol.
 matisse808
Joined: 6/1/2005
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Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/26/2006 7:53:38 PM
No, but it's possible to fall in love with the subconscious idea you've created of someone. Most people believe the lies they tell themselves quite readily.
 flowerchild1963
Joined: 3/29/2006
Msg: 460
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/26/2006 8:01:54 PM
No. Not possible. You can fall in love with the idea of what you have imagined that person to be, created in your mind by the pieces you have collected through conversations. But to really be in love you have to spend time with the person. Get to know all their habits, quirks, etc. Even the smell of their skin. Intimacy is also a factor. Although some would categorize that in the lust deparment, I believe it plays a major role in the "in love" feeling. Love is the whole package, not just communication. That being said, if you start with communication and it's really good, then everything else usually falls into place.
 silentwhisper2u
Joined: 9/3/2005
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Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/26/2006 8:03:37 PM
I think that you can fall in love with someone without ever meeting them. I think that love is not cemented by the physical touch but by the emotional connection. I can sense another 's touch by the words he shares with me......"I will kiss you till the warmth of my lips takes leave and the transfer to yours is complete. I will feel the softness gain warmth and the sweet wetness of your lips tingle my very soul." Only words but if i close my eyes can i sense that feeling the answer for me is YES. Can a blind man find a woman beautiful without ever actually seeing her......of course the answer is yes.....we have five senses none more powerful than the other....each can be present or absent but does not make the reality of the emotion love less.
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 flowerchild1963
Joined: 3/29/2006
Msg: 462
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/26/2006 8:06:29 PM

we have five senses none more powerful than the other....each can be present or absent but does not make the reality of the emotion love less


Hmmm.....Something to think about.
 questing41
Joined: 5/8/2005
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Posted: 6/26/2006 8:31:04 PM
Of course you can. (Which isn't to say any one can.)

The suggestions to the contrary I've read so far in this thread are pretty empty and hypocritical...

Anyone can present a false front, either online or in real life (reading this forum you'll see both have happened to hundreds of people here). Does 'Real Life' present you a few other ways to catch a liar? Of course! But that has nothing to do with being able to fall in love in either place.

To deny 'love' can exist because you can't know someone well enough online is to deny *any* protestation of love. You can always know someone better, there can always be a surprise. It's an argument without any clear definition of what is enough, and I can use it against anyone who says they're in love =p So I don't think it's a fair comment.

It goes on and on... knowing someone physically can afford you further information sure. Saying that's enough to fall in love while knowing someone via the net isn't, is both arbitrary and absurd though.

And of course, as I started off saying, what is enough for one person isn't necessarily enough for another. Because it's not enough for you doesn't mean it can't be enough for someone else.

That said, can people mistake something else for love? Without question. That doesn't have any bearing upon whether it's possible though.

Those arguing it's not possible are more truly arguing love itself is not possible. Fabricated prerequisites are just that.

Mmph :) Sorry if I sound heated ;)
 LAKE CO.MAN
Joined: 4/10/2006
Msg: 464
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/28/2006 4:45:32 PM
I think that any one can fall in Love as everyone seems to put it? But do you really know this person? You talk to them here.,And thay feed you like feeding a horse grain.You eat it.You like the taste of it,Why? Because it is something that taste good to us as a food,just as our brain reacts to a person saying that thayLove us.BUT! Do we know that tahaytruly love us? These ladys are words.Wake up up.True Love is with in us.but not from some one who we have only met on here.ONCE! Love is winthiin the eye of the beholder.Not the words of the beholder.Ok?Woeds are meaningless.Been thier done that.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
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Posted: 6/29/2006 4:08:08 PM
shaz That's great to hear. I'll be hoping for you that your meet is a wonderful experience and he's all you hoped for and more. Just be open to him, and learn to ignore all the naysayers and people who just want to drag you down and make you negative. Stay positive and hope for the best!!
 swee10lo
Joined: 4/10/2006
Msg: 466
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/30/2006 10:30:50 AM
i can only agree with your last line...i felt the exact same way about someone that i have met here!i've invested 4 months of my time...everything seemed perfect.i felt like he was my soulmate!all of a sudden, after all this time the phonecalls stopped and also the roses that he kept on sending me just when we were suppose to meat eachother.we already talked about a future together and he even was talking about me moving in with him.i was and still am very dissapointed and hurt.i couldn't believe it.up to this day he still won't talk to me.the last time i tryed to call him is almost a month ago.i don't understand it and never will!this made me lose almost the last bit of hope i had to find love...and like u said...so did one of my close friends...if it seems to good to be true it usually is.any thoughts?because i'm still trying to figure this out!
 swee10lo
Joined: 4/10/2006
Msg: 467
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Posted: 6/30/2006 4:29:44 PM
i wish u all the luck.
 summrgirl
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 468
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/30/2006 7:38:54 PM
Been there, asked that....
And i found out you can fall in love with the "idea" of someone without ever meeting. Its just as easy to misrepresent yourself on the phone as it is online...i found it out the hard way.
i am assuming that you have at least spoken on the phone?? if you have only spoken in im's you're playing with major fire...but until you've seen a person's life first hand you can never truly love all of them. lying works on the phone too.
i wish you all the best in life and love.
 swee10lo
Joined: 4/10/2006
Msg: 469
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/30/2006 7:58:23 PM
thanks for the response! i absoulutely agree with u...but y spend all this money on flowers and all that money on phonecalls???it doesnt make sense.....if there was someone else why go through all this and even try to set up a meeting?!we live 14 hours away from eachother!!!
 Soul Seductive
Joined: 6/5/2005
Msg: 470
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Posted: 7/1/2006 9:03:55 AM
Yes it can happen..it did to me...we talked online and on the phone..and to be honest I was crazy about her...felt like " this is it, she's the one".......didnt end up the way I hoped..but I know its possible
 honeybunn44
Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 471
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 7/1/2006 10:04:00 AM
soul seductive:



yes it possible because it happened to me and we have been together for 5 months now.
 jemia
Joined: 5/17/2006
Msg: 472
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 7/1/2006 11:29:20 AM
Verissa,

I do not want to sound a bit pessimistic, but reading so mouch about the different scammers
on this sight,I will be more aprehensive about any romantic declarations.
Go on romancescammers@yahoogroups.com and you will be amazed of what is going on!
When it sounds too good to be true, it really is. I would be very careful if I were you.
Good luck.

Jemia
 sweetkissess
Joined: 6/21/2006
Msg: 473
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 7/1/2006 11:48:00 AM
I believe that it is possible to fall in love with someone without meeting. But you eventually have to meet them. That is the true test. My new bf is completely in love with me, because of the person I am on the inside and when we met yesterday, wow. There were definate sparks. He is an amazing person! He looked deeply into my eyes, and I thought wow, "he could be the one". He treats me like a queen, opening doors for me and holding hands with me. I was scared to meet him, but I am so gald I did.

For the first time in my life I feel the possiblity of love!!!!! And darn it I deserve it.
We agreed to go slow, so we can really get to know each other much better.
 LolaShy
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 474
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 7/1/2006 1:04:02 PM
Love? Possible. Lust? Definitely. Webcams can reveal a lot about a person. The way he looks at me, so intently, I melt. Looks straight into the cam, and I turn into a giddy teenager. Bites on his lower lip? Hmmmm so cute. When he smiles, I can't help but smile. We talk often, and can talk about anything. Am I in love? No. But I am sooo friggen intrigued....too bad he lives so far away.

I suppose one could fall in love with someone they have never met. Especially with all of today's technology. But to feel his real life touch and kisses, would be the real test.
 Soul Seductive
Joined: 6/5/2005
Msg: 475
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 7/1/2006 3:05:53 PM
honeybunn44 and shaz 1...thank you for seeing my point, from your experience you know its very possible to fall in love with someone you never met , and that you are supportive of me finding someone I can open my heart with...Lord knows, I really cared for that woman and I had the purest intentions with her to.....but she apparently didnt feel that way ....it hurts bad!...but at least we know it is possible!
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