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 redhawk130
Joined: 8/7/2006
Msg: 302
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Don't know what other's intentions are, but I love to please, since I was a youngin, still do and I have to say I enjoy my partner pleasing me too. I do however prefer giving pleasure.
 Myrna43
Joined: 7/6/2006
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Posted: 7/7/2007 9:37:35 AM
Hey, SassieBlond, I know plenty of men over 70 who have a very high libido. As far as your question goes I do not know how to tell if its low libido or just not into anyone but I would reject him either way. I can tell you one thing for sure, I am sooooo glad sex does not have to stop after 60.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 309
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Posted: 7/10/2007 2:34:33 PM
2coldhands ~~ Wrote this a ways back. Fits here, lol!

Kiddles, listen up


Love at twenty is a piccolo,
pleasing and piercing.


At thirty-five, a string quartet,
sweet and mellow


Over sixty?
Full orchestra
Carnegie Hall
Toscanini
harmonics of a lifetime

9/15/2005
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 313
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Posted: 7/12/2007 9:52:49 AM
"PrimeWoman" wrote:

I think it's a marketing device, trying to "sell" their abilities/prowess as if they were doing an infomercial. I wonder how many of their former partners would claim it to be false advertising or that the engine functions well but the steering and linkage are faulty? Personally, that kind of focus from the jumpstart I find tacky.
I totally agree ... I've met some who advertise just that ... "love to please my lady", "I'm not done 'til she's done" ... and while that kind of "advertising" in the profile is quite tacky, I have still ventured out to meet them.

I have found some to be quite selfish, self-centered individuals. IMO if they are exhibiting that kind of behavior while just out on a casual "meet and greet" to have a mere cup of coffee ... I can well imagine that sharing time with them in the bedroom would be a nightmare ... NO THANKS!!!!
 ozziefan
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 323
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Posted: 9/14/2007 11:45:33 AM
It's an individual thing. Some older guys want sex as much as they did when younger, but are less selfish, and urgent, than they were earlier in life. They have learned they get more, and better, sex from a woman if they have pleased her first.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 324
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Posted: 9/14/2007 2:45:19 PM
Well, I'm 49 and still have a strong libido. But my age/libido has never changed my attitude towards sex. The lady's needs before mine...Always has been, always will be.
 yepper1218
Joined: 10/4/2006
Msg: 326
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Posted: 9/24/2007 9:30:20 AM
Firstlight you got that so right. I have alway believed that the women cums 1st she must be taken care of 1st then I worry about myself.
At 56 I still have a strong libido and alway willing to learn new things.
 Mike72801
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Posted: 12/30/2008 4:12:13 AM
Guys don't talk to each other about intimacy like women do, but I would surmise that every man of every age considers pleasing their partner important. People are different and intimate pleasure is experienced differently. Our partners need to know how and why our sensory and emotional stimulus works and nobody knows knows better than we do. We have to communicate what works and what doesn't. If our partners aren't making the grade it may be our fault. Or the erotic zones are so different they are never going to align.

I think most people have figured this out.
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
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Posted: 12/30/2008 4:24:09 AM
Oh Mike.....indeed tis not so and not always the case with the older gentlemen either, even tho we're hearing some glowing reports here . It's a choice to be interested in that aspect and not something that comes naturally to all in the time line of life.
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
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Posted: 12/30/2008 2:56:29 PM
Actually I'm kind of curious about all that.....
If a man does have a waning Jr. .....does he have waning sexuality? Does his desire for sex lessen and does it become a question of touch and being touched, body intimacy? I've had little experience with this so I really don't know what a man needs a woman for if he's not excited about the idea. I also get this picture in my mind that a Jr. is like a cats tail....you know what he's thinking by how it twitches....so how would I know what he was thinking about what was going on? I mean half the fun is knowing you are desired.
 Ellis112
Joined: 12/12/2006
Msg: 339
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Posted: 1/2/2009 2:29:56 PM
I think that the old standards of how you treat the person that you are with still stand true.

1. When you are out with a person, be out with them, dont be looking at other women.
2. Pay attention, talk to them , find out likes and dislikes.

And than pay the same attention when you are alone.

I held this lady's face the first time I kissed her, The old Cary Grant style, she was 32, I am 57. She said that she had never been kissed like that. She said that she knew that she had my full attention.

Yes, as I get older i need a few more naps. lol
 doyle5900
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 340
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Posted: 1/12/2009 6:38:22 PM
I have no idea what you said.. or meant ?
Please be direct...forget being coy..
 Mr. Mac
Joined: 8/2/2008
Msg: 351
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Posted: 1/29/2009 11:28:11 AM
Now this is something to which I can relate... if I take you query as I imagine it was intended then at least for me I believe that by this point in my life I've come to realize that meeting my needs first is not likely to inspire the passion in my mate that will likely lead to my own gratification overall... I mean slam damn thank you mam isn't really where it's at is it... taking the time and a slow hand is far more likely to generate the like in return. Where a young man might rush to his pleasure a wise older man will meander about the path and trust that just maybe, just maybe a woman if properly inspired will find ways to show what true pleasure is? Just some thoughts... do with them as you please...
 sailor-
Joined: 3/16/2008
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Posted: 1/29/2009 11:56:03 AM
well now, after reading this one sure makes a man sort of wonder?what happened .as a man in his 65 th year still trying to find a partner and yes ,all equipment still works,just fine .may not be a machine gunner any more but still works.so what is it with women when they look at me?what is it they are after ?also sorry for getting of the path here.just kind a wonder what happened to this good looking lady with her,and hubby? vic.
 brighteyed guy
Joined: 9/25/2008
Msg: 356
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Posted: 2/25/2009 11:22:04 PM
Does the libido drop? Maybe not to such a low point of not wanting a regular and vigorous sex life, but I'd say yes it does, at least to the point of no longer feeling the need for an endless string of conquests.

I definitely noticed a drop in my libido, but not in a dramatic way. I noticed it most in the area of mental and physical stimulation. I'm less likely to be raring to go simply because I get a glimpse of flesh. Well... ok, sometimes I am , but not all the time! I am also far more inclined to be a much more calm and patient lover, enjoying the thrill of the connection (talking, cuddling, caressing) as much if not more than the act itself.

Pleasing her ? Um that's simply a given in my book, and is something I am more aware of since my 40s. I'd much rather it be mutual though. I'll take off the charts mutual pleasure or intense love making over the oft fantasized string of vixens any day.
 ptercar
Joined: 2/20/2009
Msg: 357
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Posted: 2/26/2009 4:33:10 PM
Hi Cotter, it is truly refreshing to see that some women actually understand us "older guys"
Thank you!! SLOW DOWN enjoy your partner all of her mind and body..jmo
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 2/26/2009 9:22:38 PM
I derive intense pleasure from pleasing my partner. It excites me knowing that I'm exciting her.
 ForeverLong
Joined: 11/22/2007
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Posted: 3/1/2009 6:38:17 AM
Pleasing a woman sexually is my priority, it's very satisfying and exciting to see her having quivering mind blowing orgasms. No low libido here.
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
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Posted: 3/16/2009 3:41:31 AM
I think the younger; get in, get off, get out mentality simply slows down enough later on life for a lot of men that hadn't taken the time before to smell the roses and enjoy their sensuality.
Some men are born with this talent, but in my experience it wasn't all that common on the average.
 tallyover
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 364
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Posted: 3/16/2009 3:51:37 AM
Why question the "pleasing" that older men have to offer? Could it be that experience has made them better lovers rather than limitations? Doesn't the wham bam thank you mam sex from younger days pale in comparison to mature love making?
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 368
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Posted: 10/4/2009 11:48:00 AM
I dont think it is always a maturity issue, some people have more depth than others. Some men and women never mature in some avenues of their life. To assume that everyone is like you and has found a greater depth in relationships can lead to misunderstanding...I had relationships in my 20's with men who treated me as a equal and not a plaything.

As an example, a man (52) that I dated for four months at first seem to do everything he could to please me, it was amazing until I realized he was doing it for the wrong reasons...he wanted to control and at the end honestly admitted it. In that moment of honesty I told him how much I enjoyed his touch and he then said that he touched me for his pleasure not for mine.... I have always touched the other person for their pleasure, never ever considered it otherwise....so atleast I learned something.

I think when you are with the right person it isnt about libido...its about having the type of chemisty that romance and flirting is a 24/7 things...it isnt something you do late at night when you are in bed together and cant sleep...you make it the priority in your life to make sure the other person knows they are who you want. It isnt a one sided relationship where the female is the sperm bank, it is a relationship where two open and honest people allow the other person in.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 371
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Posted: 10/5/2009 2:20:03 PM

my looks changed. I am that 1 in 4 of men whose hair gets goofy, partly bald, receding, whatever you call it. I also gained a few pounds, and look older, the way people do. This means I am not anywhere near as attractive as I once was. Compared to other men, forget it.

I don't live without sex. I masturbate. I live without sex with other people. Pleasing one's partner isn't just about emotions and technique or even love. Women feel badly about themselves if all they can get is someone who looks have degraded to the point mine have. It depresses their own libido. Then, no matter how good you are in bed they can't enjoy it.

It's like having a rusty beater of a car. It makes you feel shabby, no matter whether it runs good or where you drive to. Hi libido + low sex appeal = no play.


Find this sad in so many ways. After trashing yourself, you moved on to trashing women (assuming that no woman can see anyone except for looks). I think most of us (Lard, I *hope* most of us) of either sex, by our age, have learned, finally, that it's what's inside the present, not the pizazz of glossy paper and glittery bow, that is important: mind, soul, self. . . .

My guy is shortish, bald, and chunky -- much more of a station wagon than a Maserati, lol! And there is not one molecule of that body I don't love. As for mind, self, and soul -- simply put: I adore him, and all his parts. And have waited for a quite long time to find him. Nor do I feel badly about myself. Ever. Can't even begin to imagine why I would.

But perhaps you're right -- I also drive a 15 year old Escort, and it makes me feel good, good, good: it gets 43 mpg, it still doesn't burn oil (I have *never* had to add oil -- at oil change they take out what they put in last year), the insurance and taxes are low, I have no car payments, and it has never once let me down. So I don't see either a man or a car (or the house I live in, or the clothing and jewelry I wear) as anything except for what they *are*. . . . In this case, the bright, interesting, honorable, funny, caring, tender, sexy man that I love.

You have made yourself feel like 99ยข ~~ I feel like a million bucks!

"Life is a banquet... and most poor suckers are starving to death!" -- Auntie Mame ...

 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 372
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Posted: 10/5/2009 2:28:55 PM
^^^^ on the quote

One of the men I loved the most was the least attractive, his beauty was on the inside and the connection was out of the world. Some women see with their heart not their eyes.
 dave91741
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 373
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Posted: 10/5/2009 2:41:28 PM
^^^^^^ WT & SE Thanks .The best aphrodisiac is the emotions that the ladies above displayed in their post . They care about their partner .My libido today is driven by emotions and it has slowed to where it does not run my life ...
 LOVESTRUCK_wannabe
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 374
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Posted: 10/5/2009 3:12:33 PM
Whenever I read/hear that men are super into pleasing their partner (no matter what the age) I groan - and not in a good way - because it always seems to translate into: "I like eating p^ssy. I mean I really, really like eating p^ssy. In fact, my entire repetoire consists of doing so. Therefore you'd best like it too coz that's all you can expect from me."

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