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 tallyover
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 364
Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????Page 16 of 16    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16)
Why question the "pleasing" that older men have to offer? Could it be that experience has made them better lovers rather than limitations? Doesn't the wham bam thank you mam sex from younger days pale in comparison to mature love making?
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 368
Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 10/4/2009 11:48:00 AM
I dont think it is always a maturity issue, some people have more depth than others. Some men and women never mature in some avenues of their life. To assume that everyone is like you and has found a greater depth in relationships can lead to misunderstanding...I had relationships in my 20's with men who treated me as a equal and not a plaything.

As an example, a man (52) that I dated for four months at first seem to do everything he could to please me, it was amazing until I realized he was doing it for the wrong reasons...he wanted to control and at the end honestly admitted it. In that moment of honesty I told him how much I enjoyed his touch and he then said that he touched me for his pleasure not for mine.... I have always touched the other person for their pleasure, never ever considered it otherwise....so atleast I learned something.

I think when you are with the right person it isnt about libido...its about having the type of chemisty that romance and flirting is a 24/7 things...it isnt something you do late at night when you are in bed together and cant sleep...you make it the priority in your life to make sure the other person knows they are who you want. It isnt a one sided relationship where the female is the sperm bank, it is a relationship where two open and honest people allow the other person in.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 371
Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:20:03 PM

my looks changed. I am that 1 in 4 of men whose hair gets goofy, partly bald, receding, whatever you call it. I also gained a few pounds, and look older, the way people do. This means I am not anywhere near as attractive as I once was. Compared to other men, forget it.

I don't live without sex. I masturbate. I live without sex with other people. Pleasing one's partner isn't just about emotions and technique or even love. Women feel badly about themselves if all they can get is someone who looks have degraded to the point mine have. It depresses their own libido. Then, no matter how good you are in bed they can't enjoy it.

It's like having a rusty beater of a car. It makes you feel shabby, no matter whether it runs good or where you drive to. Hi libido + low sex appeal = no play.


Find this sad in so many ways. After trashing yourself, you moved on to trashing women (assuming that no woman can see anyone except for looks). I think most of us (Lard, I *hope* most of us) of either sex, by our age, have learned, finally, that it's what's inside the present, not the pizazz of glossy paper and glittery bow, that is important: mind, soul, self. . . .

My guy is shortish, bald, and chunky -- much more of a station wagon than a Maserati, lol! And there is not one molecule of that body I don't love. As for mind, self, and soul -- simply put: I adore him, and all his parts. And have waited for a quite long time to find him. Nor do I feel badly about myself. Ever. Can't even begin to imagine why I would.

But perhaps you're right -- I also drive a 15 year old Escort, and it makes me feel good, good, good: it gets 43 mpg, it still doesn't burn oil (I have *never* had to add oil -- at oil change they take out what they put in last year), the insurance and taxes are low, I have no car payments, and it has never once let me down. So I don't see either a man or a car (or the house I live in, or the clothing and jewelry I wear) as anything except for what they *are*. . . . In this case, the bright, interesting, honorable, funny, caring, tender, sexy man that I love.

You have made yourself feel like 99ยข ~~ I feel like a million bucks!

"Life is a banquet... and most poor suckers are starving to death!" -- Auntie Mame ...

 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 372
Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:28:55 PM
^^^^ on the quote

One of the men I loved the most was the least attractive, his beauty was on the inside and the connection was out of the world. Some women see with their heart not their eyes.
 dave91741
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 373
Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:41:28 PM
^^^^^^ WT & SE Thanks .The best aphrodisiac is the emotions that the ladies above displayed in their post . They care about their partner .My libido today is driven by emotions and it has slowed to where it does not run my life ...
 LOVESTRUCK_wannabe
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 374
Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:12:33 PM
Whenever I read/hear that men are super into pleasing their partner (no matter what the age) I groan - and not in a good way - because it always seems to translate into: "I like eating p^ssy. I mean I really, really like eating p^ssy. In fact, my entire repetoire consists of doing so. Therefore you'd best like it too coz that's all you can expect from me."

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