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Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 3
Is this a blow off?Page 2 of 2    (1, 2)
well I think the fact that you mentioned "spark", just want to mention something about that word. I think that too many people seem to always want there to be this out of the world expericance when meeting soemone and we expect so much out of another person that we end up messing things up for them and ourselves. Now, I am not suggesting that this was indeed the case here. but when you said that you went on dates before and ussually there was no second date because there was no "spark" then that gets me alittle skeptical on the motivation one has when dating. I am not trying to imply anything here, but alot of times when this sort of thing happens it is because we expect too much and don't realize that the other person is a human being who has flaws and we always SEEM to want them to be how WE want them to be or else things don't work out.

That is the wrong approach to take and it is destined to not work because of (in many cases) unrealistic excpectations.

With you OP, I would just try to get in contact with this guy and just try to get to know him forst and formost before you expect too much out of him , and that goes for everyone. I hope things work out for you but at the same time it's good to give soem sort of advice on issues that i feel we as a society can use when looking for a mate and dating.
 carrie bradshaw
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 7
Is this a blow off?
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:34:00 AM
I am the only one who has not read that book.
It has just been a couple of days. There are thousands of possible reasons of why he has not called. Maybe he wants to but is nervous, maybe someone is ill, etc.
I would be nervous too and cleaning my shoes.
Good luck. Let us know if he calls. I hope he does.
Joined: 9/3/2004
Msg: 11
Is this a blow off?
Posted: 4/4/2006 8:23:43 AM
Call him a bunch more times. Ten times per day. Men like that.

PS, don't take dating advice from a guy that's been on a dating site for over a year

Hey, I'm in a silly mood, what can I say.
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 29
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Is this a blow off?
Posted: 2/18/2011 2:50:57 PM
^^^^^ how patient do you want her to be..... she posted the OPost 5 yeas ago

I peeked at the OP's profile and saw she is just getting over a LT relationship... I wonder if it was with the guy she asked about in 2005??
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