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 dsleeth
Joined: 12/30/2007
Msg: 281
Would you date a guy without a carPage 7 of 16    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16)
I think it would depend on the circumstances, but in general, no. A man needs to have a vehicle for himself. I am not into babysitting men, so he must have his independance that way.
 dsleeth
Joined: 12/30/2007
Msg: 283
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 2/20/2008 7:10:10 PM
I agree that it's shallow, but I also wouldn't date or marry someone who doesn't have a licence at least, and who is getting a car. But with men, I have learned that actions speak louder than words. We as women need to believe it more when we see it. Then learn through his actions that we can trust him.
 aGent Lemon
Joined: 11/10/2005
Msg: 284
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Posted: 3/1/2009 11:07:49 AM
Understanding that the post of this thread was made over 2 years ago, I'll just point out to everybody who may need to know... it doesn't mean he any other person wants to be chauffeured, besides... this particular man said he has a licence. Personally, I've been in a very loving relationship myself and couldn't afford a vehicle because of how difficult it was to find work, in fact... my cutie pie at the time even offered on her own to drive me about as a way for improving my chances in getting hired and also asked if she could pick me up and come shopping with me, meanwhile I was rather fine just taking the taxi, a bus or paying a friend for such favors, although they say I'm too nice of friend to accept any money, but I still would dignifiably make it up to all them somehow. Actually... of all people... I never asked her or even expected to be driven anywhere. She was simply beautiful altogether, it was only unfortunate that she was afraid her dad wouldn't let me marry her because of 3 reasons, I'm not religious... that my skin pigmentation is of a medium brown... and that I don't have a car yet. In regards to religion, I have proven to numerous of scholars why a "Considerate-All-Powerful-God" does not exist from the analysis of a few basic principles no matter what anybody believes. Our loving relationship could've lasted forever apparently, but due to those circumstances... torn apart as we both became... she couldn't take the risk and I probably shouldn't have been so hopeful.
 PlainJon
Joined: 11/5/2010
Msg: 291
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Posted: 7/15/2011 12:47:13 PM
Wow this thread is surfacing again. I started it way back in 2004 under another POF name.
Drivers are getting more dangerous than ever since that posting, and as a passenger or pedestrian I see people talking on cell phone still, texting on cell phone and even women applying makeup or combing their hair.
Some men I have even seen shaving while driving. The distractions of the outside world are making people less cautious and unconcerned about driving safely.
I am so glad I don't drive. I could afford a car so it is not a money issue, just a personal decision.
I have a valid driver's license that I renew every time as it is identification as well.
If someone cannot appreciate my decision then I guess it is their problem though I can see some not wanting to be a chauffeur. Most non-drivers would see someone compensated with gas or money if they did happen to come pick that person up. That is only fair and a decent gesture.
 SleepyMcGee
Joined: 5/16/2008
Msg: 292
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Posted: 7/19/2011 1:29:51 PM
FYI, PlainJon, you don't need to renew a license for it to remain a valid piece of ID.
 italianflag
Joined: 4/24/2011
Msg: 293
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Posted: 8/20/2011 5:38:58 AM
As I explained it in an email once before. The reason I would not want to date someone who does not drive, is because, if it is a first date and it goes south, there is the akwardness of having to drive the person back home in an uncomfortable atmosphere.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 301
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 8/26/2011 7:27:22 PM
Would you date a guy with a car but a longstanding licence issue with the Ministry?

Where he's completely got the Ministry bent over a barrel?

I'll let ya drive my car and meet my mechanics. (one of ems a Standards Advisor for Cascar)

Cant have him; but you can use him!
 onefreeguy
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 308
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Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 9/20/2011 7:31:09 PM
I wouldn't date a guy who didn't have a car. No way, no how.

Mind you, I wouldn't date a guy who did have a car either.
 MN2598529
Joined: 2/25/2012
Msg: 315
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Posted: 7/30/2012 7:32:58 PM

Why don't any of you people use public transit? :|


Exactly. Where I live (in the metro area of MN), I can easily get to the mall, several movies theaters, awesome restaurants, art museums, live shows, comedy clubs, etc relatively easily and cheaply. Do I own some new super-gas efficient car? No. I take public transportation, which (where I live) is pretty damn good. Once the light rail is completed, you'll be able to traverse freely between St. Paul & Minneapolis, and at a much faster speed with virtually zero traffic.

And the buses and trains are clean, usually quiet, and mostly filled with college students or people going to/from work.

For me, and where I live, I can get to almost anywhere within the metro area within an hour (give or take) using public transportation.


So really, when you think about that kind of environment, and a woman says to you, "since you don't drive I won't date you." This should be in the Webster's dictionary under "shallow."
 MN2598529
Joined: 2/25/2012
Msg: 316
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Posted: 7/30/2012 7:38:47 PM

not ALL girls will break up with you for not having a car. my first boyfriend (of 6 years) didn't have a license. didn't bother me a bit. i had a car. and sold it so i could have a nicer apartment and then later, a house. i ride my bike. if it's crappy outside then i take the bus. for most of the people i know this is a completely normal mode of transportation.

a car doesn't change your personality. doesn't make you nicer, cooler, sexier. it can be a status symbol. so perhaps girls who are solely interested in how much you make (which translates into how much you can spend on her) feel that having a car is a necessity. or maybe girls who expect you to drive them around all the time. but i would ask - why don't THEY have a car if they need that type of transportation?

IMHO you should have a car only if YOU feel YOU need a car. don't get one to impress others. they should be impressed with you alone.

:)


Couldn't have said it better myself.
 Trancefan
Joined: 12/30/2011
Msg: 318
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 8/1/2012 10:25:06 PM
Lol @ all the females saying they wouldnt date a guy who didnt have a car.

They are the same females that wouldnt date a guy unless he had a $50,000 + salary job.

gold-diggers, simple as that.

And guys, you dont want to date a shallow woman like that anyways.


and the reality is.. most of the females here are old.. so they expect ppl to have established careers already.

so with that logic.. I kinda understand.. but.. this is dating, not marriage.. we dont owe u anything.


it should be about love & attraction.


for the record, im 21, and I dont have a car yet.


take the damn subway, lazy
 PlainJon
Joined: 11/5/2010
Msg: 329
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Posted: 8/14/2012 6:32:46 AM
Yes the license is cheap...
A car is not. I can afford a car many times over. I just don't feel comfortable driving.
I got my license in 1978 and keep the license up every 5 years.
But insurance is the kicker...Even though I am in my 50's and have never driven, I called many insurance companies and as a first time uninsured person regardless of age it would be almost $6,000 for one year.
Now that is definitely not an investment I would make just so I maybe could get a date out of it.
I'll rent a limo first for a night on the town.....
If it is all about a car then perhaps the other person is not worth it. Just the same if a person in a vegetarian..is that a deal breaker? I wouldn't date him or her because they don't eat meat. We have to accept other people's lifestyle choices and try to accommodate our lives around that choice.
 angelfoxbaby
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 335
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 9/5/2012 12:08:36 PM
lord of war amen to that ,,,if ppl cant date you for you are they arent the type id like to date and i do drive btw,,,lol
 DevilfromToronto
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 349
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 10/1/2012 9:42:52 PM
depends... if he really can't afford a car, or he wants to save some money for emergency, thats ok
 onefreeguy
Joined: 7/24/2008
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Posted: 10/16/2012 3:37:18 PM
I didn't realize that having a car was a prerequisite for dating. No car -> no date? I had no idea.

I actually have a few different cars in my driveway, all my own. Does that allow me to date a different woman for each car?
 kickingfate
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 360
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 11/9/2012 3:39:16 AM
lets flip the question..

would women think its fair if men decided not to date you because you didn't have a car, no matter what your personality is..no car no dates..do ladies think that's fair?

I have a vehicle , but i can say the $900 bucks a month it costs me to own it between car payments, insurance and gas would be a lot nicer looking in my savings account and imagine how early i could retire if i put just $500 of that every month and put it toward a retirement fund. If i lived in a city with good public transport and worked in the city i would be more then happy to sell my vehicle in favour of a monthly bus pass, a mountain bike and maybe a scooter or something.

so IMO any woman who wouldn't date a guy JUST because they don't have a car is shallow, self centred and not worthy of dating anyways because it seems obvious they are most likely very close to the definition of a gold digger.
 Kohmelo
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 362
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Posted: 11/10/2012 8:21:25 PM

$900 bucks a month it costs me

I dish out about $320 between gas and insurance, but my car is paid for. It's also 15 years old. The only time I'm glad to have it is when I do groceries. Other than that I'd really prefer to have everything I need within walking distance.

I think women prefer men with extravagant vehicles because it shows he can handle expensive burdens that are completely impractical and really only fun to drive.
 kickingfate
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 363
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 11/12/2012 5:58:49 AM

KOHMELO: I dish out about $320 between gas and insurance, but my car is paid for. It's also 15 years old. The only time I'm glad to have it is when I do groceries. Other than that I'd really prefer to have everything I need within walking distance.

I think women prefer men with extravagant vehicles because it shows he can handle expensive burdens that are completely impractical and really only fun to drive.





I wish i bought the vehicle because it was fun to drive. i travel quite a bit for work and can expense back mileage and fuel (thank-god) I need the room in the back of the Escape for my stuff i have to take with me(training aids, laptop, projector,books..etc etc etc) and I travel all year and hence i wanted the extra safety of a 4x4 vehicle and being 6'3 and 230 lbs there are not many cars these days built with guys my size in mind (trust me i have test drove many looking for one) so i need an SUV for comfort as well. Not to forget to mention my daily commute just to the office, when im not travelling to clients, is 50km each way and in the winter the roads i travel on in the Stratford area are notoriously bad for visibility and general conditions during even small snow events because its wide open flat countryside.

So I don't know where your comment about impractical vehicles and "really only fun to drive" was heading but i can tell you my vehicle was purchased with Practicality, comfort and safety, fuel economy in mind and "fun to drive" came in last place on my shopping list. Plus i am not willing to trust a 15 year old car when its -20 , blowing snow and I am somewhere in the middle of the country between This little town and that hamlet on some country road barely travelled save for the locals in blowing snow and bad roads.
 Kohmelo
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2012 3:16:26 PM
^^^ dude. relax. it was a joke. about why women like men with nice cars, had nothing to do with you.
 LonelyBandito
Joined: 12/22/2012
Msg: 375
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 12/29/2012 12:36:09 PM
I work in downtown and live in downtown....do i need a car? NO!
when I go somewhere far, simple....I take airplane!
if i have a date i take taxi and pick her up at the same time..
If she wants dinner at my place..simple..i pay for her taxi...if she doesn't like it..no problem! she'll miss her dinner!
 onefreeguy
Joined: 7/24/2008
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Posted: 12/29/2012 9:46:49 PM
Well, I can understand why a woman would like a man who can do most of the hard driving. ;-)
 minoroffence123
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 383
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 7/27/2013 7:45:01 AM
witht he price of gas, insurance and parking, I choose not to drive, I live downtown and can get around much easier with a bike. as for a girl who wouldn't date me because I don't drive, I wouldn't date a girl who wouldn't want to bike around the city
 ladyliscious
Joined: 10/10/2007
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Posted: 8/19/2013 10:30:33 PM
Yes I take the bus and have actually dated others who do the same. A relationship is about alot of things and transportation is a minor detail. Getting together is easy enough if both are willing.
 PlainJon
Joined: 11/5/2010
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Posted: 9/8/2013 9:53:00 AM
Well I have a driver's license and I have never wanted to drive. I could afford a car many times over, but I see so many crazy drivers out there, distracted while texting, running red lights, and the sort that I just do not feel comfortable.
If not having a car is a deal breaker then obviously the lady puts little emphasis on compatibility and what the other person is all about.
 jerryy1956
Joined: 12/7/2013
Msg: 390
Would you date a guy without a car
Posted: 1/4/2014 11:01:45 PM
I totally agree. I've seen many women that rank about equality-well now they've got it. Do they open doors for men-no. Do they drive men around-not many-just listen to the excuses here. If a women's interested she'll make the appropriate sacrifice as I'm sure you would.
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