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 sheerhunk
Joined: 4/19/2007
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Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?Page 9 of 16    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16)
I have had several one night stands back in the 70's back then there was no Aid's fear .
I was fairly good looking back then and it was easy to pick up chicks in Bars and clubs.
I wouldn't even consider these days but back then it was fun .
 JazzDan
Joined: 12/12/2005
Msg: 216
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 8/23/2007 6:51:00 PM
Never. I was in a travelling rock band in my younger days too.

Had the opportunities, but...I was too picky, and I really have no regrets. I don't believe it's wrong if it's what both parties want, and I will never say never.

I
 ncessential
Joined: 8/23/2008
Msg: 219
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Posted: 6/5/2009 10:37:27 PM
I have honestly never had one. I have had lots of offers though. I just do not believe in them myself. I would hate myself in the morning.
So there is my honest answer...:>)
 brynn005
Joined: 9/14/2008
Msg: 221
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Posted: 6/6/2009 11:52:48 AM

I've never had a one night stand; they've never interested me.

Casual sex doesn't do it for me at all. It's too shallow and empty; I need more than that.


I'm with you, Jiv222. I need more than just a casual sexual encounter, also. I've never had a one night stand either, mainly because it's just not for me. I need something more long-term and meaningful.
 brynn005
Joined: 9/14/2008
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Posted: 6/6/2009 12:39:38 PM

Ah the one night stand... So many fond memories...

Seriously though I am somewhat distressed by some of the junk I've read through in this thread, which has brought up a few interesting points:

1) Some people seem to believe that a one-night stand is deplorable simply because you don't keep in contact with the person afterwards, which begs the question, do you count people you dated briefly, then only had sex with once and decided they weren't for you a one night stand? You're no longer talking to them after the act, so how is that any better?

2) People seem to think that just because they "know" the person beforehand that immediately bumps their sexual safety factor up a few notches... WRONG. If anything you could be at more risk, because we tend to take more sexual risks with people we know than complete strangers. The times I did have one-night stands I refused to engage in unprotected oral sex (given nor received), and was far more discriminating about ensuring the contraceptives were properly utilized and disposed of, and scrubbed down thoroughly afterwards... Why? Because I don't really know anything about the person.

Now say I've been dating a girl briefly and things get hot & heavy, then we might start fooling around with that kind of unprotected foreplay (who the hell really keeps dental dams handy ), and the only thing I have to go on is her word that she's clean. Ultimately it all boils down to a judgement call as to whether or not I believe her, and what I can observe from her body. I'm still playing Russian roulette despite the fact I know her somewhat.

Now for all you "I only have relationship sex, so I'm safe" people out there... Let's say you've moved in together, or seriously committed to the point you're using the pill, and no longer bother with condoms... Do you think you're truly safe? Yes you believe you've established a basis of trust and respect, but it only takes a quick search on these forums to find out just how many people have had this trust misplaced... All of a sudden you discover you've been going bareback with a cheater... Now you've REALLY been playing Russian Roulette.

Ultimately the point I'm trying to make is that unless you're accompanying your prospective sexual partner to the clinic for their routine STD testing, all you have to go on is their word that they're clean; given the fact that you like them, you're more likely to want to believe them, and that could lead you to letting your guard down. At least with a random bar girl I don't trust her at all, and will take all the proper precautions, damn well near down to a scalding anti-bacterial/alcohol scrub afterwards

Just my two cents, oh and to numerically quantify the original question: About half of my sexual experiences have come from one-nighters, weekenders, and the like. Not by choice really, just happen to continually bump into out-of-town girls that took a shine to me... As of last STD check before Chrtismas, still clean and going strong



to TigerWoods.. thank you for your very well-thought out response. A bit long, but much appreciated.

L
 2EachHisOwn
Joined: 10/10/2008
Msg: 224
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/6/2009 9:27:42 PM
nooo but ONE day I hope to have a ONE nite stand
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 227
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/7/2009 9:22:53 AM
I'm sure there are some people that never had a one night stand. But I think the majority of people had a one night stand at least once. Some of them may not want to admit it because it was a bad experience.
 ncessential
Joined: 8/23/2008
Msg: 229
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Posted: 6/7/2009 6:34:41 PM
Nope.... Not shy here. Just have not did it.
 Chance1117
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 231
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/7/2009 7:12:17 PM
Never, don't plan on starting...
 Husker Freak
Joined: 5/3/2009
Msg: 236
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Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/9/2009 8:38:19 PM
I have never had one.
 neoevolution76
Joined: 9/5/2006
Msg: 240
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:49:16 AM
Plead the 5th,
Plead the 5th, Plead the 5th, Plead the 5th, Plead the 5th, Plead the 5th, Plead the 5th,
 ImAHotMess
Joined: 7/11/2008
Msg: 242
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/11/2009 4:24:12 PM
Nope, I NEVER have and NEVER will. Not my cup of tea. I cannot be intimate with anyone unless I have feelings for them and am in a relationship with them. It is not for me to judge anyone else if they have, I just know for me, I do not want them. I can't!!
 Uncle Grumpy
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 243
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/11/2009 5:19:25 PM
Sure did in my wild and younger years. Not interested now in my wise? and older years. Although have had the opportunity. Looking for ms right and she will get the goods.
 thecheekychick
Joined: 10/18/2008
Msg: 244
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/11/2009 5:28:46 PM
I have never...
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 246
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:47:32 PM
OP I've never had a one night stand; I was brought up a certain way and I never wanted to do anything to mess up my reputation.

I also have never cheated; I know in todays world it's almost not cool to be good, but sorry, I don't care what everyone else thinks is ok; I do what I think is right.
 thwipp89
Joined: 3/3/2009
Msg: 247
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Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/12/2009 12:26:37 AM
never had a one night stand. i came close once or twice. i'm not opposed to them but i would say it's not really my thing. i'm not a love em and leave em type of guy. it's not really what i'm looking for.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 248
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Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/12/2009 1:24:43 AM
NOPE and NEVER WILL and that's my finial answer!
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 250
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Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 6/12/2009 6:51:51 AM
I have never had a one night STAND. I have had a one night LAY.
 ileft
Joined: 4/25/2008
Msg: 254
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Posted: 8/13/2009 4:45:57 AM
I have NEVER had a one night stand and never wanted to either.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 255
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Posted: 8/13/2009 4:51:25 AM
The OP wrote about fuc.king fwb's, ex's or whatever, etc. In my world that's even worse than ONS. At least in the latter in case you don't continue screwing somebody when it's supposed to be over. I also don't believe in fwb crap either. Such relationships don't work and if it's all about the fuc.king ONS makes more sense.
 2fuzy
Joined: 3/12/2006
Msg: 257
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 8/13/2009 8:20:57 PM
nope never it just never works that way for me
 EgyptianLotus
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 260
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Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 8/13/2009 11:02:48 PM
Never had, never will! Had several offers but it's just not for me!
 R3dh3adang3l
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 265
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 9/17/2009 3:43:32 PM
Is it considered a one night stand if you see them three times but only for that and nothing more???? Dang it, I guess I've never had one either.
 jacob8088
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 269
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 9/17/2009 8:09:10 PM
I had a couple one night stands in the past. With single mothers mostly..lol
 roseyn
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 270
Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND?
Posted: 9/17/2009 8:33:32 PM
I have never.
I tend to be sporadic in CERTAIN parts of life but when it comes to my body, no
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