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Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 115
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Why would anyone refer to himself/herself as an intelligent human being?
Or Smart, Educated, Wise, etc?...Aren\'t you confident enough to prove such without having to ever say it yourself out loud?

You gotta put SOMETHING in these damn profiles to describe yourself.
Joined: 3/1/2007
Msg: 119
Smart Women
Posted: 3/12/2007 5:32:26 PM
Women with intelligence tend to be a lot more interesting. Most women I know base their life on how often they go to the bar or club. They simply coast through life, without wanting to learn fresh material. I'd rather be able to have a conversation about current events such as politics and business, other than the person who died the other day or the crash on the freeway. Perhaps someone who can form an argument using reason and logic, this is especially important when pertaining to a common dilemma or philosophical discussion.

When a woman rivals me, then I will be a happy man.
Joined: 9/13/2005
Msg: 120
Smart Women
Posted: 4/15/2007 10:56:13 PM
If I am looking for a partner/wife, I want a woman with high EQ. Otherwise, a high IQ is very sexy/interesting.
Joined: 8/24/2007
Msg: 121
Smart Women
Posted: 8/28/2007 7:54:53 AM
Intelligence/Wisdom/Cognitive ability are something that everybody has to a degree. The only way for it to get better is for you to be constantly LEARNING, keeping your mind in a state of growth...eventually your mind will re-cognize more and more the patterns it see's, and the rate at which you can make informed decisions increases.

Another highly important part of intelligence is multitasking. Women are traditionally better then this, as that part of their brain (I can't remember which at the moment) is more developed.

My mind, in particular, works as such:

Give me ONE (or a few) highly complex and intensive idea/concepts/problems-easy, I PLOW through the information in a straight line in my mind:

Give me 20 unrelated simple problems/concepts/idea's-My mind has to process them a few at a time, taking considerably longer then the first scenario. And I'll probably forget a few of them. If I try to work on too many, my brain goes nuts trying to run all over,and I crash.

It's not that men/women are more/less intelligent, it's that out minds work differently. I have "ADD" (which I believe is really not a "malady" but an actual trait that is passed down) So my mind is even MORE intensely the expense of losing touch with all that is around me, as my senses shut down, and I burn through massive loads of data. I tend to miss very obvious things, and only notice very complex things that challenge me.

It's great how the human mind works. The most important thing I learned through Neuro Linguistic Programming is this: We all see the world through our own eyes.... our mind filters out information that we have taught it is not important to us. In this way, it is IMPOSSIBLE for ANYBODY to see things in life the same way. How we take the actions, words, intentions of others can be COMPLETELY different then what they mean.

That is why it is 100% your responsibility to make sure you understand and convey clearly your intentions and meaning if others seem to get upset, not understand, take offense etc.

Wow...15 messenger windows, I need to eat, and I have new POF ADD at work

Yours truly,

The Not so Worthy Playboy
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 123
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Posted: 8/28/2007 11:24:09 PM
The smarter the better. Exotic looks don't hurt. Self-evolved a big plus. Married just makes
great long-term-LIMITED friends. "Stars" are good. Congresswomen-types are good.
Normal, avg/hi smarts- w/shapely bods are obviously hot GF/wife material, of course.
Just saying smart doesn't scare me. Unless they're super-controlling, driven to step over anyone for power. I dig the smart, sexy, kinda-principled women. 1 guy's opinion.
Joined: 7/25/2007
Msg: 125
Smart Women
Posted: 8/29/2007 2:37:56 AM
Smart is sexy. On either gender I imagine. I like smart women, as a rule they are wittier, funnier, and make way better converstionalists. I like women who can make me think in different directions than I might usually . Vapid women bore me. You can be an 11 on a scale of 10 and dumb as toast and I won't be too impressed. Smart women tend to be more open minded as well. A good thing for me.
Joined: 12/5/2006
Msg: 126
Smart Women
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:22:01 AM
Well, I don't know about the rest of you men, but after checking out appearance, which is automatic, when I meet a woman, I look at her intelect. Some can be incredibly dumb, and some can be awfully bright. I like the bright ones, since dumb
people always bore me quickly. There's really only ONE thing to do with a dumb one, and since I quit smoking, there's nothing to do after.
Joined: 6/1/2007
Msg: 128
Smart Women
Posted: 9/4/2007 7:28:31 AM
I absolutely LOVE smart women! In my experience they are usually SO much easier to get along with! lol
Joined: 4/29/2006
Msg: 130
Smart Women
Posted: 9/4/2007 11:18:15 AM
"most men find smart women intimidating"

And evern more difficult when you dont know how to play "dumb" nor do you want to learn!...I thinks its a big reason for alot of my rejections
Joined: 4/29/2006
Msg: 131
Smart Women
Posted: 9/4/2007 11:24:05 AM
"if they are in grad school, its either work"

Well, I guess Im dumber than I thought I was!...Seriously, your list sounds pretty stereotyped to me....Having never been married, Ive enjoyed my time alone for the past 45 years....I read an average of 3-4 books a month and have yet to meet many men or women who do that who isnt a grad student
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 133
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Posted: 9/5/2007 7:24:30 PM
There are many different types of intelligences... give me someone with curiosity who is interested in different ideas/thoughts and that usually adds up to someone who'll still be interesting to speak with 30 years from now.
Joined: 2/17/2007
Msg: 134
Smart Women
Posted: 9/5/2007 7:44:03 PM
why is it that everytime a man don't want a "modern woman" type, he is accused of being intimidated by her? i don't like women who are smarter than me, or makes more money than me, or is stronger than me, or is taller than me. now does that mean i'm intimidated by these types of women? NO it just means i don't have an interest in them. i'm looking for the girly girl with just a touch of tomboy. and that's me being serious. now if i wanted to be funny i would say something like; smart hell, give me the ditzy blonde anyday. i love being a smartass. cause if i don't it, some chick will.

Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 138
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Posted: 3/13/2008 12:11:14 PM
I think we scare men.
Joined: 2/7/2008
Msg: 139
Smart Women
Posted: 3/13/2008 1:57:15 PM
I find intelligence to be incredibly attractive. I'm not unique in this by any stretch of the imagination, the replies within this thread are a testament to that.

One thing I've wondered though, is how to properly define intelligence. Are we referring to erudition? Knowledge of scholarly works? Or perhaps an ability to manipulate ideas, both the concrete and abstract? I guess, like aesthetic beauty, I know it when I see it.
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 140
Smart Women
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:07:27 PM

I think we scare men.

Try me. I wouldn't have it any other way.
 LI Fun Guy
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 141
Smart Women
Posted: 4/5/2008 2:21:59 PM
I like smart women.
Joined: 3/16/2008
Msg: 142
Smart Women
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:15:17 PM
There is nothing sexier than a woman who can *ahem* stimulate you in more ways than one.
Joined: 3/11/2008
Msg: 143
Smart Women
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:18:59 PM
I find educated women from all areas attractive, but more so those who are educated in areas I am also educated in myself. I also like women who have a science background. I'd be inclined to ask a woman astronomer, astrophysicist, or cosmologist out for a date rather quickly, if I met one.
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 144
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Posted: 4/9/2008 8:54:34 PM
I prefer women who are intelligent. I like a good, stimulating conversation. With less intelligence comes less talk and, soon, less relationship. Women ask what I do and, after explaining, give me the "Deer in the headlights" routine. If you try to explain it further they fidget and find other things to do, like curl their hair or play with their swizzle stick in their drink. At least those who are more intelligent are better at appearing to be interested in what you have to say.

 Lily 13
Joined: 8/27/2006
Msg: 145
Smart Women
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:52:21 AM
tunesman.....what are you doing for the rest of your life?
It will be a very fortunate woman that shares your world.
Joined: 3/4/2008
Msg: 146
Smart Women
Posted: 4/10/2008 3:26:45 PM
A lot of men will say they like smart women, but what about smarter women? What if the woman is smarter than the man; is he comfortable with that?

I've found in practice that my relationships seem to go best with men who are smarter than I am, which unfortunately whittles things down to a rather paltry percentage of the population. I think men like to be able to impress women with 1) what they can do and 2) what they know.

It's easy for a man to impress me with what he can do, but I'm not easily impressed by knowledge (except knowledge about the natural world - plants, animals, etc.). If only men wanted to impress women with how emotionally self-aware and adaptable they could be. That would steal my heart in the blink of an eye. Emotional intelligence is what really impresses me.
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 147
Smart Women
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:48:15 PM
That's because they only want you for one night, hum...
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 148
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:02:58 AM
I think men are intimidated by women who do not "need" them. Women might love them, and want them. But many women are more than able to function without them. I think some guys tend to look for weaknesses in women, and intelligence / knowledge, is not a weakness.
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 150
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Posted: 4/11/2008 10:12:59 AM
Eh, Life_of_Leisure, you make a valid point aboout why get all haughty about something (which I think actually was Medena's point).
Picking up on your notion of job...
It is all about compatibility. One man's work is another's man's joy. One person's smart is another person's dumb.
It's all relative to who we are as individuals and how we relate with each other.

I am - ahem - a smart woman who thrives on conversation. It's not a man's job to relate with me... if we aren't on a similar wavelength, then we're not compatible because we don't relate well. Not because of one person's failure... just a poor connection.

If one finds they have a consistent problem relating with people, perhaps they need to sit down and do some self-refection. Perhaps they are not perceiving the problem correctly.
Joined: 5/13/2011
Msg: 151
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Posted: 9/30/2011 6:19:58 AM
I know I'm replying to this at a much later date but it doesn't matter. I've just noticed that this one existed.

I've dated many women in the past that have books smarts but had no clue on anything else..and found that philosophy was a waste of time.. I didn't stay with them.

A few years a go I dated a woman that is a few years older than I and she had books , life smarts..and had a philosophical views on many things that mattered in life. The only thing is, she was raised that it wasn't proper for a lady to show those side ..(intelligence, intellect philosophic) .

How did I noticed ..well I had a friends get together one night at home ..we were all talking about everything and anything.. I was studying on her body language say behavior when someone spoke.. I could see that either she would agree or not and wished to say something but held back.

My friends had noticed too.. I approached her after the evening and asked her why she didn't say anything even tho she really wanted..She replied that women even tho they have a great intellect , intelligence that they shouldn't speak their mind case of not agreeing with the one she's with.

Well I had told her that with me my friends and family that it is most important, welcomed and proper for a woman to speak or say what's on her mind or how she felted about anything.. It's important . communications is key ....

Now having an intelligent and intellectual woman in my life matter lots especially if she wishes and wants to freely speak her mind say how she feels.. say what she knows.

There's a saying... Behind every great man there's a greater woman. It's what makes the world spin...
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