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 HawkingJr
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"Where did you hear that?"

My Ukrainian friend, of course. To be fair, her family fled the country during the destabilized period of the mid-90s when corruption and inflation were out of control. However, even though the environment has obviously settled down quite a bit (last year's Crimea crisis nothwithstanding), she says many of the family and friends she knows that are in still in the Ukraine long to be in the US or the EU, although there are obviously the Klitschko types who would rather return to/stay in the madness and help build a better Ukraine.
 gfe0787
Joined: 4/24/2015
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What is the ideal height difference between a man and a woman?
Posted: 4/27/2015 1:14:13 PM
Well, I am speaking for myself.
I am 5'0 (with heels I am 5'5). I think the "ideal" height range for a man for me would be between 5'6-5'10.
That doesn't mean I will reject someone if they're slightly below or above, but the above is just my ideal preference in height. =)
 HawkingJr
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Posted: 4/27/2015 4:23:28 PM
I don't mean to sound too creepy, gfe... but maybe when I was in South Florida this past weekend, I should have just stayed down there.
 ThePig0fYourDreams
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Posted: 4/27/2015 4:31:43 PM
Damn, she's a looker, eh Hawk??

And see? She's not demanding a 6-footer.

Oh, and nice "Office Space" reference, gfe. Loved that flick.
 gfe0787
Joined: 4/24/2015
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Posted: 4/27/2015 5:07:30 PM
It's okay, HawkingJr. I don't think you're creepy. lol. =)
 gfe0787
Joined: 4/24/2015
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Posted: 4/27/2015 5:08:24 PM
Thanks, pig.
Classic, good movie!
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 249
What is the ideal height difference between a man and a woman?
Posted: 4/27/2015 5:30:28 PM

I am 5'0 (with heels I am 5'5).

Wow... you never "settle" for 4 inch heels...?

I think the "ideal" height range for a man for me would be between 5'6-5'10. That doesn't mean I will reject someone if they're slightly below or above, but the above is just my ideal preference in height. =)

If you Only go by 5 inch heels, my initial thought is that you'd be more stringent on a guy's height than you make it out to be. Hey, we all naturally want to tone down what could be "superficial" about ourselves. Over 9 / 10 gals who are in your same boat who'd say the same thing, all other things being equal about the guy, would go for an inch or two "above" VS "below". Sure, more open to go for the "below" to prove some jerk like me wrong, but... just saying. :)

Good news is though, I think it's more that way when a gal doesn't know a guy at all. It's less of an issue when she does.

All in all, as long as he isn't shorter than She (leeway on that if he's muscular), it's not so much how much taller he is than She -- but how tall he is compared to other guys in the room. Otherwise, on a certain popular site where it shows specific height ranges, you'd see gals who are 5'1" have the same Relative height-difference preferences as girls who are 5'7". Gals at 5'1" aren't that far off from gals 5'7" when it comes to minimum height. When it comes to guys they don't already know somewhat, they don't want one of the shorter guys in the room.

I don't mean to sound too creepy, gfe... but maybe when I was in South Florida this past weekend, I should have just stayed down there.

Yes... make sure you look look through the basement window when you track a gal down! It makes a guy look bigger when she's looking up and sees you through it.
 gfe0787
Joined: 4/24/2015
Msg: 250
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Posted: 4/27/2015 5:50:08 PM
Hi norwegianguy123

haha, I do "settle" for 4 inch heels or less. I just used the 5 inch ones as example just because lol. I have no clear reason actually. Most of the time I actually prefer flats or 3 inch heels since they're more comfy for me.

I don't know. I find men of all heights attractive given their features. Some have been 5'5....others have been 6'2.
I *try* to not be superficial bc really I am not perfect. Nobody else is either. I think what matters most is the personality (as cheesy as that might sound lol). I do love my height, so I wouldn't change it for anything. I think guys that are short should be happy with their height as well. There's always someone for somebody somewhere. The only thing is timing...but that's another topic. =)
 Blackwood85
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Posted: 4/28/2015 4:12:51 AM
All things being equal similar looks, similar personality etc...a girl will probably go for a guy who's slightly taller than the other guy. I'm 5'9" or 5'10" depends on who is doing the measuring, if a guy is 6'0" standing next to me that's only a 2" difference but that 2 inches can be all the difference for some women. Not complaining, at the end of the day we're all adults, we can control our dating pool for the most part. I've seen short guys with women who are much taller and I've had a girl send me a message asking why I didn't send her a message since I visited her profile and wanted to meet up with her even though her profile flatly stated that she wanted a guy 6'0" at the minimum. The same thing happened to me on Tinder before except the height was 6'2" I actually told them I was under their height threshold and they didn't seem to care about the details they themselves put down.

Men and women can lament about height and weight being factors but I've seen fat women with plenty of men and short guys with plenty of women. I've been in clubs in which I know I look better than a lot of those men but they're surrounded by women. While my black ass can't even get a dance.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 4/28/2015 7:09:14 AM

Men and women can lament about height and weight being factors but I've seen fat women with plenty of men and short guys with plenty of women. I've been in clubs in which I know I look better than a lot of those men but they're surrounded by women. While my black ass can't even get a dance.


Things like height and weight tend to be more important online. Since people often make assessments about others based on pictures and stats. Then maybe the rest of the profile. Offline, people can get to know you and your personality over time. Plus a woman may not realize a man is 5' 10" instead of 6 ft tall. Unless she is fairly tall herself.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 4/28/2015 7:30:32 AM
I think it's pretty sad just HOW interchangeable people think that they ARE....

If I met two guys with a height difference, I would be attracted to the one that I'm attracted to which could be either, depends on who appeals to me more....

If both are of equal looks, and are articulate and intelligent, have a good sense of humour, well, it's going to come down to who I have the better connection with....

That has NOTHING to do with how tall the guy is....Because HEIGHT IS NOT A DETERMINING FACTOR FOR A LOT OF WOMEN......

But I have learned that there is NOTHING that can be said to SOME posters, about it, because despite ALL evidence to the contrary they are determined to believe that their height IS the deciding factor in their social lives....

I'm starting to believe that it is more to do with projection at this point...Perhaps THEY would choose, say a slimmer girl over one that they like more, who happens to be somewhat overweight, given the choice and think that women are the same way....

While many women may 'swoon' at the muscle-bound hardbody in magazines, or on tv, the reality is that if you look at the average commercial on tv that is supposed to be using 'average' people , the women is ALWAYS in better shape and usually much better-looking than the man....
Which I see reflected in MY local population a LOT....Even MORE so, when I go to the States....

There's STILL a helluva lot of pressure on women to look good and that 'look' is determined by current trends, which, at the moment seems to lean towards 'eating-disorder chic' but hopefully, will move towards a healthier model in the future....
 HawkingJr
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Posted: 4/28/2015 8:12:40 AM
“It's okay, HawkingJr. I don't think you're creepy. lol.”

Oh, you just wait! I’m just warming up. But seriously, I’d move to Ft. Lauderdale in a heartbeat. Probably a better idea than my usual South Florida fantasy of moving to South Beach because I’d probably be dead in less than a week of living there as I WOULD NEVER SLEEP. (Also applies to New Orleans & Las Vegas.)

“I *try* to not be superficial bc really I am not perfect.”

Jermaine Jackson and I respectfully differ on that opinion.

“Because HEIGHT IS NOT A DETERMINING FACTOR FOR A LOT OF WOMEN...... But I have learned that there is NOTHING that can be said to SOME posters, about it, because despite ALL evidence to the contrary they are determined to believe that their height IS the deciding factor in their social lives.... I'm starting to believe that it is more to do with projection at this point...”

So here are the first 10 female responses in this thread to the original question:

The taller the better for me!
I prefer a guy that is at least 5'9" or taller...
I've always dated guys that are at least 6 feet tall
I'm with Carrie on this one...The taller, the better!
Ditto to those who said "the taller the better”
Personally if a guy interests me enough I don't mind if he is a few inches shorter than me but I do prefer a guy who is at least my height (5'9") or taller.
i LOVE a guy who is 6 feet and up to 6 3 ish. i feel feminine around a tall, well stocked guy.
definetly the taller the guy is the better..
Does not really matter as long as he is faithful ...

8 out of 10 claiming height IS a determining factor is not a “lot” of women? Check the rest of this thread and all the other height threads and that ratio will pretty much stay the same (or go higher). So short men are *projecting* -- they’re just imagining things? Or is this some sort of conspiracy – did some short guy make 8 out of 10 “female” profiles just so he could prove some kind of point?

I believe you when you say you don’t care about height -- I believe any woman who claims that. But the overwhelming evidence is that you’re the extreme exceptions, not the rule. If you want to win this debate, you need to go tell all of your “sisters” to keep their opinions to themselves and to quit screwing up your arguments.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 6/22/2012
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What is the ideal height difference between a man and a woman?
Posted: 4/28/2015 10:00:49 AM
Why would 80% of the single men in my area and age group ALL be listed in POF as above-average height?
It's not genetics - or the truth - morals has nothing to do with it - it's supply and demand. Getting ignored based on height happens. So does income and other factors. It's why people lie in here about age and body shape and everything else - because getting caught in a lie means you STILL caught their attention - and that's still more important than being completely ignored.

Of course, in the forum, everyone gets to have their own individual opinions and proclaim them. There's nothing wrong with having an alternative view. Nothing whatsoever. What is wrong is when people BELIEVE their own individual experiences and opinions to be factual for a far wider audience. One jerk boyfriend or psychopath girlfriend doesn't mean every person of the opposite sex is unstable or cruel - yet people LOVE to project their experiences across the rest of the planet through social media and whatever means they have at their disposal.

The real eye-awakening experience is taking yourself out of the picture and observing what other people do. Try logging out and doing searches as a member of the opposite sex. Keep them local and detailed to get exact numbers for the searches instead of "400+" people match and find out what the audience as a whole is doing. You may be surprised.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
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Posted: 4/28/2015 12:11:43 PM

So here are the first 10 female responses in this thread to the original question:

The taller the better for me!
I prefer a guy that is at least 5'9" or taller...
I've always dated guys that are at least 6 feet tall
I'm with Carrie on this one...The taller, the better!
Ditto to those who said "the taller the better”
Personally if a guy interests me enough I don't mind if he is a few inches shorter than me but I do prefer a guy who is at least my height (5'9") or taller.
i LOVE a guy who is 6 feet and up to 6 3 ish. i feel feminine around a tall, well stocked guy.
definetly the taller the guy is the better..
Does not really matter as long as he is faithful ...

8 out of 10 claiming height IS a determining factor is not a “lot” of women?


And by an amazing coincidence, if one actually starts taking the time to carefully observe male/female couples out in the real world, over time one will notice that the man is taller than the woman around 8 times out of 10, regardless of ethnicity. See for yourself.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/13/2015
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Posted: 4/28/2015 12:44:34 PM
The average height is going up all the time. Soon 6'0 is going to be the average height for a man. It must be all those hormones their putting in food these days that's making kids taller.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 258
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Posted: 4/28/2015 2:14:28 PM

The average height is going up all the time. Soon 6'0 is going to be the average height for a man.

There are stories about the Brits average height increasing by 11 cm since the 1870's.
That's 4.33 inches in 143 years, or .0303 inches per year.
The average height of an American Male is 5'9" to 5'10" depending on your sources...
So let's do the math...
69.5 inches to 72 inches = 2.5 inches to go
2.5 divided by .0303 = 82.5 years to go

BOY, I wish I had that kind of optimism.
 Blackwood85
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Posted: 4/28/2015 6:54:44 PM
The average height is 5'9 1/2" for men and 5'4" for women then it varies by race and nationality, the area of the country you grew up in, older siblings tend to be shorter than they're siblings. I think men get upset about height because it's something they can't control and to be rejected because of it is unfair, of course life isn't fair but I can understand why some men would be annoyed by it.

Weight is slightly different, yes I understand weight loss is hard, I understand that obesity is a disease and some people can't fight it but for the most part it is something that can be controlled and prevented, not everyone with weight problems has thyroid issues and in fact it's the weight gain that leads to hypothyroidsm . Really it's about dieting and exercise which anyone can do if they have the discipline, that's totally different than being born short.
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