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 freyalee
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 252
One third of older women date younger menPage 4 of 17    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17)
I'm 56 and I'm for dating younger men but when these 20 something guys contact me I just shake my head. That's a little ridiculous I think. First of all, I can't think of a thing to talk with them about. There is no way I can keep up with them if they want to do a sports type activity. Most of them listen to music that I don't consider music and most of them have never heard of the musical artists that I listen to. And my children are older or at least the same age as most of them. Nope I just can't do it. Younger men to me are 40's or I will consider a mature 35 or older. But then I have met some guys close to my age that have never grown up. And probably never will
 heARTeacher
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 261
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Posted: 7/9/2007 6:06:38 AM
(I think extreme age differences however have a shorter shelf life, both among Older Men/Younger Women and Older Women/Younger Men. Ochun36)
I married a man 18 years my senior. It lasted until his death after 25 years of happy marriage. Compatability isn't a number or a birth date. I would be willing to date someone younger or older if it "clicked". I don't think the "shelf life" of any relationship is a question of age as much as harmony.
 heARTeacher
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 262
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Posted: 7/9/2007 6:25:25 AM
[IT'S A EGO THING THAT A OLDER WOMAN CAN GET YOUNGER MAN..IT MAKES THEM FELL WARM AND FUZZY INSIDE]
bigtrucker059
You don't think it's an ego thing for a man to date a younger woman then? Any time there is attraction between two people there is ego involved because of the way it reflects on the parties involved, regardless of the ages of the parties. Feeling wanted IS "warm and fuzzy".
 Connie56143
Joined: 5/9/2007
Msg: 265
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Posted: 7/11/2007 7:33:24 AM
Well, I guess I am included in the 1/3 that date younger men. I find as I get older I am told I look younger than my years. It just feels more comfortable for me to be with someone that looks in their 30's or early 40's. I am going to be 52 in August and most of my friends are in the 30's bracket for age. I don't have a preference to age as long as the chemistry is there. I do agree that age is just a number and if 2 people have things in common and they enjoy each others company all the time and not just in bed then go for it.
 Hawkdream
Joined: 11/27/2005
Msg: 266
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Posted: 9/8/2007 9:37:41 AM
I wouldn't base a relationship with a man my age (or older for that matter) solely on sex any more than I would one with a man younger. It's a consideration, but surely not the only foundation for a relationship with anyone of any age.
 Randominternetguy
Joined: 12/25/2006
Msg: 277
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Posted: 10/23/2007 4:19:45 PM
Part of the reason is demographics. According to the last census, there are approx 2 available women 45+ for every available man 45+. So if more older women want to date, they are practically forced(taken as a whole) to go younger.

Bob
 passion58
Joined: 6/23/2007
Msg: 282
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Posted: 10/25/2007 9:43:23 PM
Ah yes.. they are called cougars. I have been with younger, for me it was a ego thing. I definitely prefer men my age. They know how to please. It comes with experience.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 290
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Posted: 10/30/2007 11:33:47 PM

Oh good grief, so what if a woman wants to date a younger man? Why is it anyone else's business what she does? People need to stop concerning themselves with everyone else's life and live their own.



...I agree....but then there would be nothing to talk about haha


...maeflowers
 Angelnurse10
Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 291
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Posted: 10/31/2007 4:42:05 AM
I was married to a man for 7 years that was 14 years younger than me. We had a great relationship for a long time. Cheating, or things like that, were not what split us up.
I still prefer younger men. Maybe not that much younger, but atleast 2-5 years.

The men my age, or the older than me, just don't seem to want to do anything.
I know there are older men out there that are still very active, but I have not found one.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 295
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Posted: 10/31/2007 4:41:36 PM

one third date younger
one third date older
one third date those of similar age
I've got the data right here
honest



...Don't believe everything you read....For example, I've learned never to trust some of the stuff they print in the Inquirier....


...maeflowers
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 297
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Posted: 10/31/2007 7:27:13 PM

Control? Could that be why some people are so upset about this age deal? They can't control what someone else is doing? God Forbid someone else have their own ideas in life! Nah, it couldn't be about control could it?



...maybe it is about control....and here I thought it was about choices and the freedom to make those choices....hmmm, but control is all about taking away those choices isn't it, our feedoms, our very existance...taking over our bodies completely....like in the Body Snatchers....oh sorry, sometimes I tend to get a bit carried away... Yeah so I've dated an occasional younger guy, didn't work out no biggie.

...maeflowers
 NancyC123
Joined: 12/17/2006
Msg: 300
One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/31/2007 8:45:04 PM
I've been thinking about this a lot lately and here's my personal theory on this...

Young men in their 20's and 30's, in this day and age, are A LOT more mature than they were when we older women were THEIR age! I think they're more mature,(some, anyway), and more aware of themselves then when I was their age. There's something very appealing about that. Guys these days in their 20s and 30s seem to know what they want. Some are more intellectual and intelligent and, for ME, that's what attracts me to them!

Now, whether they are mature enough to want a full-on serious relationship with a woman 10 years or more older than they are, that's when it gets tricky. I, for one, DO want a long-term lasting relationship that will eventually evolve into marriage - but a guy that much younger than I am, may just want a fleeting relationship - nothing serious for now. So, it can be a bit of a danger zone.

However, the pics on this site of the 20 and 30 year old guys are sometimes so attractive, (and that includes some of their profiles, as well), that I have to shake my head when I notice their age!!! LOL
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 303
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Posted: 11/2/2007 8:12:56 PM

You women haven't heard the new prime age for a man is 55[quote/]

oh really??? good that is "prime" for me...although my current "friend" is 40 and he is rather "prime" if I do say so....love the way he thinks, sense of humor, outlook (positive) on life,a go-getter....professional and cowboy (raises horses for showing)...we can talk for hours on phone (while he is feeding horses, doing chores...ect..)..love a man who can multi-task.....lol...and LOOK SO GOOD DOING IT!!!

and for those who think "wayyyy over age" makes a difference...it still boils down to the people involved.... and besides...as it was said by my age peer (we are both 65 and women) there aren't many men older( and still kickin') available to choose from...

and unless my age is written on my forehead...no one knows it anyway....(of course POF does) so viva' la difference'.....

an 18-wheeler stopping on top of me couldn't keep me down...so what do I care what people say about "robbing the cradle".....it's my turn and I'm playing!!!!


 Angelnurse10
Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 304
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Posted: 11/24/2007 11:28:09 AM
firefighter I think I love you. LOL. Sorry got carried away there for a minute. LOL Your post always make me smile
Your so right, we need not to be so focused on age. If your happy with someone and you have "that smile on your face" because of it, who cares what the rest of the world thinks.
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 307
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Posted: 4/16/2008 11:12:03 AM
I date younger men for two reasons: (a) They ask me out, and men my age generally don't; and (b) They're sooooooooooo very cute
 Gustavo_Astoria NYC
Joined: 2/15/2007
Msg: 308
One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:31:20 PM
I would like to meet that 1/3 of women. I find it hard to meet older women and yes sometimes it can be frustrating liking older women. I've had some friends in the past but that's all they were. I never actually ended in a sexual relationship with them, I still have some friends but what is the key to get you women in bed? Some are insecure about their body or age. Some take for ever to decide...


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Albany NY
 spitfire6844
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 311
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Posted: 7/10/2008 5:54:01 PM
Those relationships are pretty much a joke. The women are dating younger because they can't find suitable guys their age (their contemporaries are dating younger women or foreign women, or are just loners). When you see these older women/younger men couples, they look like misfits. The guys rarely handle themselves with any confidence or class. I saw a couple like this the other day on a busy downtown sidewalk, and the younger guy didn't even follow the custom of walking on the outside (street-side) of the woman. As they held hands, she had his hand in hers and was leading him down the sidewalk. It looked like a mother and son.

These relationships may make sense for quick one-nighters, but they are a total joke for LTRs. A quick look at women like Linda Hogan proves this point. Older women would even be better off finding immigrants or foreign professional men in their same socioeconomic class rather than embarrassing themselves with younger boy-toys. It looks ridiculous.
 Hawkdream
Joined: 11/27/2005
Msg: 313
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Posted: 7/24/2008 5:19:29 PM
Well, since our "contemporaries" are dating the younger women or foreigners, that leaves the younger men for us "cougars". Since I'm not willing to be anybody's "one night stand" or "intimate encounter" (what an oxymoron), and am looking for character, responsibility, intelligence, interesting conversation, depth and similar values, I think anyone who judges others on preconcieved notions based on just one aspect, such as this kind of double-standard is a few bricks shy of a load.
 lexibest
Joined: 12/7/2007
Msg: 315
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Posted: 7/24/2008 6:16:41 PM
Well, guess I am an "older woman"...way older! lol

I will say this about that....I would and have dated a guy younger than I...but I do prefer to date someone within a "few" years of me.

As we age with our partner I prefer someone who is my equal in regards to health and aging....seems if one or both suffer any health issues, etc..the other would be more caring and compassionate. Maybe more willing to sit on the "sideline" for a bit...than to continue to move on without the other.

I think with a greater age difference, either way, the younger of the two might grow impatient and lose understanding in the "golden years"!

Guess my "fairy tale" is happily EVERafter!!
 Hawkdream
Joined: 11/27/2005
Msg: 319
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Posted: 1/23/2009 3:46:52 PM
Well said, Sherri!
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 323
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Posted: 8/24/2009 4:50:46 PM
Did you know that 50% of people who are in relationships are dating someone younger than they are?
 Beccad27
Joined: 4/19/2009
Msg: 324
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Posted: 8/24/2009 7:04:20 PM
From personel experience, it is awesome! They like to do fun things and laugh and there is no huge drama or dilemma's most of the time and they say the same about us!. Heck, I wish there were more out there that will date older women. Anywhere up to 10-12 years, much more than that it can cause problems when you age, I think!
 calendergal
Joined: 2/18/2005
Msg: 330
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Posted: 11/15/2009 1:27:05 PM
I never thought of staying with the younger guys and I think there is no pressure to commit to them but they are fun
 spunkybum52
Joined: 9/8/2009
Msg: 331
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Posted: 11/15/2009 9:27:28 PM
I've been with a few young men myself and find them very disappointing. They lack experience and know how....i much prefer older men. I think older women go for younger men because they think the younger guys are going to give it to them better, and 2ndly for their own ego sake that they can still catch a young guy. Mind you, yes maybe the younger guys have more to give in certain "areas", but a lot of them do not know how to do much more. I don't really like younger guys.

I have received more offers than I can count from younger men, and all of them tell me they love older women. However, a lot of them say in their emails that maybe "you can teach me something". Sweetie, I am not here to teach, I am here to enjoy. I don't like trying to teach a man what to do. I tried that once to a very young man that literally begged to be with me. After a few attempts, and him not learning, I gave it up. I prefer the more experienced myself.
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