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 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
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I'm 5'2" and I've dated all heights, including a couple smaller than I am, and up to about 6'6". Makes no nevermind to me, and usually not to them either. My older brother's nearly 6'5", and has been since about age 13, so I'm used to being around someone much taller. My first really serious boyfriend was about 5'4", maybe 5'5". Others have been all heights. The most serious ever is about 6' even, I think.

Only one instance I can think of when the guy wasn't crazy about me being petite, and it took me forever to even realize it, because I think petite is adorable, so it didn't occur to me. He'd occasionally make some remark about it being okay that I was short. I finally clued in that he didn't really like it and was trying to be nice about it. He was 6'2" - tall, sure, but it wasn't a height I hadn't dated before, and everyone else seemed to like my size. In fact many are surprised to hear that it's only 5'2". Apparently I "act taller," or so I've been told, anyway.

I don't think of myself as "short" - my proportions are pretty nearly ideal, and being naturally flexible and muscular (through, I assure any reader, no real effort, just lucky), my size doesn't limit me in what I can do in any way. So I don't often notice it, myself, except on the rare occasion when I'm surrounded by a sea of shoulders and chests. This really only happens at sporting events, which I very, very rarely attend.

In sum, my experience is that most of the time height doesn't matter. If you're into each other, you're into each other. Just like anything else really. Maybe you have a preference for blondes, or for fine features, or blue eyes; but the person who rocks your world might just be dark-haired, or have bold features, or be brown-eyed... nothing wrong with having a preference, but IMO we should take care not to limit ourselves by them. Might miss out on something good that way.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
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Posted: 3/2/2010 11:24:49 PM
no no Sakhalin Island is off the grid, you have to have special invite to get there, it has been a closed military possession of Russia / Soviet Union since 1942. It is still a closed island, much like Cuba is to U.S. Asian women, speaking Russian. hell I may never come back.
 chuckyB51
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:40:08 PM
Short women want and need tall men to make themselves feel feminine. Tall men want and need short women to make themselves feel masculine.
 Notdesper8atall
Joined: 6/27/2008
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:55:14 PM
"Short women want and need tall men to make themselves feel feminine. Tall men want and need short women to make themselves feel masculine. "


That may be your opinion and your entitled to it but I do disagree. Being 6'2" myself I have no want or need of any woman, short or tall, to fufill such a want or need. I will not dispute that a woman can 'add' to a mans feeling masculine but it is not a need or a want in order for such.

I would suppose that in the case of women, that the feeling is mutual in respects to femininity. But then again I am sure you should ask a few to find out whether or not I am right.
 Taztiger72
Joined: 2/26/2008
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Posted: 3/4/2010 6:56:18 PM

How does a short man who admits to wearing 3" lifts know what a tall man thinks, feels, believes, or bases his masculinity on?
And how do you presume to know what a woman thinks, feels, believes, or bases her feminity on?
Your only frame of reference is that of a man YOUR height.
You are a troll.


I don't believe in cheating on your height personally - like how are you going to get around the issue?
 WeAre1
Joined: 3/18/2008
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Posted: 3/4/2010 8:20:11 PM

"Short women want and need tall men to make themselves feel feminine."

Not this short woman...I feel feminine without needing others to confirm it....and I've always felt feminine, long before the age to date.

(Please be careful not to write your projections and assumptions without adding they are purely your opinion.)
 bsp71
Joined: 11/18/2009
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Posted: 3/4/2010 9:27:56 PM
+1 WeAre1 thats encouraging and good to be yourself and have good confidence in who you are.

Actually, I have only had one time when a date told me that I was "too short" for her and she was rude about it. I just laughed and told her "ok well thats fine cuz you are too fat for me" and that ended that date. Turns out she was into men over 6'5" tall I guess. Funny because I once had a nice date with a tall lady who did not mind that she was taller than me. Of course she was independent and smart- finishing her PhD in bio-engineering at UCSD at the time we were dating.
 Mel1509
Joined: 11/15/2008
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Posted: 3/5/2010 4:43:21 AM
Why would short women need a tall man to feel more feminine? As a tall woman I know being tall makes me feel less feminine, and I feel I need a tall man to make me feel more so...

why also would it matter to his masculinity if a six five man was with a woman of five two or five nine, they would still both be a fair bit shorter than him?
 WeAre1
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Posted: 3/5/2010 5:16:37 AM
maybe there's a speck of truth in his statement for some.....or maybe it's more a case of being with someone taller or smaller can help some people feel more of who they are....in his case he was thinking masculine or feminine, but it could work for any adjective - for example, more intelligent, more loving, more caring, more witty, more funny, more beautiful or handsome (or less of any of these things too).....but to make a general statement like his as if it's fact for all is what I can't agree with....

so, back to staying completely on topic - for me it seems pointless guessing why short women and tall men attract each other.

imo the thread can only be answered by those who do fall into that category in practice....which has happened here, but, sadly, some then took that as an open invitation to put them down for their choices.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Posted: 3/5/2010 10:51:15 AM

Why would short women need a tall man to feel more feminine?

I don't agree with that statement much either... but IMO, there are two factors when it comes to height with basically all women:
(a) Is he taller than me?
(b) Is he not the shorter guy in the group of guys?

(b) is what keeps short women's desired range on height not too far from a tall woman's desired range.

I don't think a short gal would need a tall guy to be more feminine, although a tall guy vs a short guy who's just taller than the short girl, will most likely make her feel more feminine.

It's guys vs other guys. If he's not one of the "shorter" guys in a group, regardless of a woman's height, he passes the test, as long as he's taller than her. SOME girls can be "picky" and want a 6 foot guy just because that IS prized as a better catch by traditional standards. I would say those type of girls are more into self-image (being with a guy who can be considered "tall" by society's standards).
 Mel1509
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Posted: 3/6/2010 6:22:10 AM
however, northern england is a sea of short people. maybe a trip to the netherlands or germany would be in order.

Ha ha your not wrong there!
 Taztiger72
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Posted: 3/9/2010 4:13:03 PM
NO longer here
 Taztiger72
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Posted: 3/10/2010 12:55:18 AM
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 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
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Posted: 3/10/2010 7:24:01 PM
I don't know if I have ever believed that old saying of "for every pot there is a lid to match", but I think that any of us are determined enough we can find someone to spend our lives with. Maybe they wont be the man/woman of our dreams but very few people get exactly what they want. So the tall man wants the short woman. So be it. Let them both have their happiness without taking a temper tantrum. If one person does not want you then just find someone who does.
 chuckyB51
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 3/10/2010 10:16:12 PM

I don't know if I have ever believed that old saying of "for every pot there is a lid to match"


Not sure I agree with this one. In China there are far more males than women so there isn't a woman for every man there. Plus, a man has to be 5'3" or taller to drive and has to be 5'7" or taller to be a judge. Many companies in China have height requirements for management positions. Because of these laws and rules shorter men were getting limb lengthening at an alarming rate and illegal clinics began to pop up. Well, there were so many botched surgeries that China outlawed limb lengthening. It also doesn't help that superficial Western Culture has taken root in China. So back to the orginal post...No, there isn't someone for everyone. The opposite was true after WW2 in the US. Right after the war there were more women than men.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
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Posted: 3/10/2010 10:30:46 PM

So back to the orginal post...No, there isn't someone for everyone.



I never said there was chucky.Quote me correctly at least.I said I don't know if I ever believed that old saying. Oh and chucky we are not in China. It's a communist country and neither one of us lives there and even if we did, IT'S A COMMUNIST COUNTRY.Which means the government will do whatever it feels like. Btching, whining ,and moaning will probably get you what you want in our respective countries, or close to it if you do enough of it, but not there.

You are lucky enough to be healthy,disease and disability free, and don't look like Quasi modo so I suggest you be really happy that you were not dealt a worse hand in life then being short. Trust me when I tell you it can get much worse! But then again I should remember who I am talking too. You refuse to be grateful for what you have and want only to rage continuously at the world. You would rather focus your entire being on the fact that you are not 6'4.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
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Posted: 3/10/2010 11:34:13 PM
I have a friend that is 6-8, that of course was on the basketball team, so when ever we when out drinking and clubbing it was like heres the team.... and oh you must be the mascot. fml

By the notches on his bed and the never ending caste of girls through that side of the house, I have no doubt in my mind who was using who. Most of the time, he didnt even know there names. I was glad when college was over. nothing worse than being the 'short' wing man.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Posted: 3/11/2010 10:34:22 AM

As a shorter man I have a built in "Superficial Woman Detector."

Actually, you're falling in the same trap as some women who are staunchly overweight who cry out "I'm not barbie". They think that any guy who wants a gal who's got a relatively decent body is superficial and bad.

TECHNICALLY, they're superficial. But not in a bad way, because so are they, so am I, and so are you. And there's nothing wrong with that. Sexual attraction for any normal person, requires "superficial" attributes that wets their palette.

Said category of women are bitter because they're not considered dating prospects by a large # of guys. Shorter guys are not considered dating prospects by a large # of girls, relative to the guy's height (and also the girl's).

But that's the way the cookie crumbles. And yes, I do know that said women can lose weight and have a decent body, even if they have a metabolism issue (they think it's just unfair that they'd have to change their diet in an unlikable way, while Sally still gets to go to McDonalds). And I know that shorter guys can't become notably taller by any reasonable means -- but so what? Are women OBLIGED to date you? No, nobody's obliged to date you, nor you to anyone.
 abrethoffreshair
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Posted: 3/15/2010 8:56:15 PM
Im 5 ft & Ive tried both...the short men & the tall men and it doesnt affect me one way or another because its the person inside, what counts. My only problem is the fact that being 5 ft can sometimes be a real handicap...its very hard to reach certain things...thats when I head for my step-stool, lol!
 jmim
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Posted: 4/27/2010 1:23:05 AM

tallness in a man is desirable and shortness is a desirable trait in females. The gene pool of tall men will have lots of short women in it. The gene pool of short men will have lots of tall women in it. This is on average. Undesirable traits flock together.


I do not believe this to be true. Genetics does not understand what is socially desirable.
The men in my family are short. So are the women.

When a tall guy and short women have a kid, the child could end up being short or tall, regardless of sex. In short, an alpha male and alpha female have an equal likely hood of producing an alpha or beta male or female.
 *Eiledon*
Joined: 8/6/2007
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Posted: 5/10/2010 11:22:35 AM
While I acknowledge that there are a FEW valid points made in this thread, they'recertainly only pertaining to ONLY a FEW individuals.

I've read this ENTIRE thread, and find the majority of opinions (, NOT 'FACTS', as SOOoooo many are asserting,) are pure BULLSH1T!

In the British Armed Services, we had it drilled into us, ATTITUDE is what will carry you to success, so much more so than LUCK!

TRUE love knows NO boundries, be it race, HEIGHT, class, sexual orientation, etc.

I suspect that height isn't the REAL issue with a majority of 'short' suitors...

Anybody got some cheese to go with this thread??
 Jinx71
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Posted: 3/20/2013 10:58:28 AM
I'm telling you about it you could be a handsome man but be short and still get passed up because of your height not knowing you could be the best thing that ever happened to her
 tnt144
Joined: 2/1/2013
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Posted: 3/20/2013 11:03:32 AM
Okay, kids, look away..... when you two are laying down next to each other, the height difference will seemingly disappear! Mother nature has her ways!
 MsMaureenw
Joined: 1/11/2013
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Posted: 3/20/2013 5:21:09 PM
Yes, it happens.

I'm 4'11 (POF only had 5' so I could not put my real height). I dated a man who was 6'6 for three years.
 AwesomeKisser
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Posted: 3/20/2013 5:23:29 PM
Sure, why not. Back in school I dated a girl who was 4'11". Last year I dated a lady who was 5'. Much shorter than that might be awkward tough.
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