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 eyesofdeepblue
Joined: 5/8/2008
Msg: 318
Enough already Page 13 of 18    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18)
The__Woody__Bandit,

I think you've misinterpreted the meaning of "Cogito ergo sum". I personally know many talented artists whose works have been featured in exhibits, books with their photos have been published and a few have been commissioned to do work for high profile celebrities. They are real people, they are talented they have arrived and they are humble.

Your statement ~"Perhaps some of you get so upset cause I got more to offer these women than the boys you raised?" ~ is like something a child would say, therefore I feel compelled to respond appropriately by comparing you to my children. My TEENAGE SONS have so MUCH more to offer than you do, first and foremost because they do not exhibit narcissistic characteristics, even though one of them IS an up and coming rock star with quite a following. And even with his incredible talent, he remains humble, grounded and does not build himself up unnecessarily in order to impress others. He allows people to draw their own conclusions about him, and he does not try to convince others that he is so much more than he really is. My children are being taught that it is unattractive and unnecessary to be self centered.

You on the other hand.... must have worn out your welcome with women in their thirties because while you may be an up and coming talented artist / celebrity , any person who sees with clarity could not possibly find your narcissistic rantings the slightest bit attractive. I hope you do create an uproar in the art world over the next few years, but please be sure to pack a couple of rolls of Gorilla Tape and apply some strips liberally over you mouth when you feel the need to boast and brag. My grandparents grew up in the 30's and while you may have the morals and values you view as being somewhat old fashioned, I am certain your elders, as well as mine, would be repulsed by your self-aggrandizing behavior.
 The_Fat_Bandit
Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 319
Enough already
Posted: 6/1/2008 7:57:48 AM
Sorry I'm such an egotistical ass...but how am I supposed to come across when all people do is pick on others that are different. And all the great painters, etc, were egotistical asses anyways, Rembrandt, Bernini, David, Carravaggio, etc. I'm not an ***hole...but being ridiculed by people on POF sure makes you a little angry. When people are not nice and supportive, you have the right to not be nice back.

Sorry but my seemly arrogance is more pride than anything else. After never feeling you weren't much since highschool, I just feel a real sense of pride that I can do something that is fulfilling and people appreciate my talents. And likewise in relationships, I didn't much of myself or measure to women's expectations as being Mr. Hot or Mr. Greatcareer. I've always had a good loving personality, caring, and kindness towards people, but not much more than may be "A Pot To Piss In" as my mother used to put. A poor working class kid finally has the chance to a successful member of the community, instead of some guy with a two bit job.

So yes I've been angry...but hell let me have the experiences the rest of you have had already in your lives...and like me fulfill my dreams of being a good father and husband to some young woman...like I have been hoping I could be since I was nine years old.

And as for Marxism...well I've met a lot of people that have moved here from countries in Soviet Bloc, young and old, that have told me it was better under communism, including those that worked at that famous shipyard in Poland.

I said 12 years ago that we are headed for another great depression....and the way things are going it looks like I might be right, or left in that matters. LOL.

So much for Capitalism and the US winning the Cold War.
 The_Fat_Bandit
Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 320
Enough already
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:35:35 AM
And as for women in their 30s....I have never been interested in them...cause I see only a few years of having children together with women in their 30s...I told you I'm old school...get married young have kids for 15 to 20 years...I figure I have about 6 to 8 children to look forward in having. I'm your typical rightwing Christian guy....with the moral standards and family values but not the religion...I'm a pagan. But perhaps Italian or Irish woman...seems in Catholic Italy and Ireland, witches and witchcraft went hand in hand with many Christians there...something about crystals, and spells, and fortune telling. My Italian Catholic friend's wife goes regularly to a fortune teller, something about old traditions from Sicily.
 eyesofdeepblue
Joined: 5/8/2008
Msg: 321
poor you
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:39:42 AM
Fat Bandit -

You are not sorry that you are an egotistical ass, it is by design. Since you claim to know your value, why is it that you suddenly portray yourself as a victim?

"So yes I've been angry...but hell let me have the experiences the rest of you have had already in your lives...and like me fulfill my dreams of being a good father and husband to some young woman...like I have been hoping I could be since I was nine years old."

YOU are responsible for the choices YOU have made in YOUR life, and yet you come across as having such a sense of entitlement because you are not where YOU want to be. You are the set designer, screenplay writer and director of YOUR LIFE. If you have had nothing more than a 'pot to piss in' that is a direct result of your own actions. At 43 years old, referring to yourself as "a poor working class kid" is outlandish, and a tactic designed to elicit pity.

If by chance you do have six to eight children, I hope they are influenced by people who can teach them to 'evolve' and to let go of things from the past, not to consciously live in the past and portray themselves as 'powerless victims ' in order to make people feel sorry for them .
 The_Fat_Bandit
Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 322
poor you
Posted: 6/2/2008 10:39:27 AM
Sorry...in researching the word arrogant, I found it to be "One who has a false sense of superiority." Since I am superior to many people therefore I'm not arrogant. Yes I have made a couple of poor choices in my, two to be exact that perhaps I would have chosen differently.

However the real reason I'm angry that you wouldn't lay off it and let me having those experiences I'm been looking for is because of the abuse, and putdowns that I have had to endure since I was five years old. Most of my troubles have come from a real sense of insecurity about myself, my appearance, and my career choices, and people who have continually preyed on those insecurities, like when I woman you love to death and would do anything for, turns and says, "No one can love me as much as you do, but I can never love you back cause you don't have a flat enough stomach and don't make enough money. I want a lawyer or doctor that looks like the leadsinger in Warrant." So you go home feeling that it doesn't matter how much you care about someone or treat them well unless you look like a GQ model and have the BMW to go with it you ain't much.

I that was just one of probably a million evil things people have said about me for about 40 years. Physical abuse will leave a mark that will heal in a few weeks, mental abuse lasts a lifetime. And for the past 17 years or so I've always felt I didn't measure to women's standards.

So after all the years of struggling with these feeling and struggling to fit in, I found something I'm pretty good at and I have my pride back. I still struggle with my appearance...but I'm finding that some women don't worry so much about appearance but worry about other things. So I've arrived..or perhaps returned because in school I was the straight A student...and was proud of that and help others that didn't have my abilities.

So I'm saying layoff...cause the BS I've been through no one deserves...maybe it's time I had some joy in my life.

And heck what is it with painters and women...Piccasso had like one wife and half a dozen mistresses throughout his life and at 65 and 67 he had children with one of them. And there is a whole list of painters who had all sorts of women, and many young women always with them.
 CherylCake
Joined: 2/27/2007
Msg: 323
poor you
Posted: 6/2/2008 11:25:59 AM
Picasso, you ain't...and you have to be rich first to live his lifestyle. And the good fortune to be recognized as a great artist sometime before they died. Not all artists get the recognition they think they deserve. It's about the love of the journey of the craft. Not the final result, anyway. Is it fulfilling to YOU. Not anyone else. If others love it, so much the better. Make your own joy, and quit depending on others to give you approval.
Now about your self-esteem issues...can you say,"Overcompensation?" Blue eyes is correct when she said not to blow your own horn. If you're THAT good, someone else will, so let them do it. Looks much more classy.
clue: True power is humble.
 ibscrooge
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 324
poor you
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:33:12 AM
I have to agree that the sparring between the two is funny to say the least and EODB your wisdom and brains are showing too bad you dont live near me I am now going to go drown myself in sorrow....... ok done drowning my sorrow ...... back to the post

I cant abide by that big of an age difference but at the same time what I am looking for cant be found by someone in my exact age bracket? Most women my age have had or dont want children and I was denied this while married to my wife due not to any circumstance but her not wanting them while she said she did at the beginning of the marriage which was a subterfuge. At this point Yes I would still like to have children and yes that is what I am looking for but not with some 18-25 year-old little child themselves. Rather a woman in her 30s would be more to my taste and closer to my ideal. That is also why it will be hard and I understand this as well because most women have had theirs by this time and dont want anymore. I will still look however that will not keep me from haveing a relationship with the right woman of any age should she come along. By the way my ex was a lot older than I am so no age has no sway over how I percieve a woman or her beauty.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 325
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 7/19/2016 10:01:47 AM
Msg 23

"Your gonna LOVE turning 50."



I know right ?
This guy was complaining about women around the age of 38 ????

Geez, I wonder how he feels NOW ?
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 326
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 7/19/2016 11:04:12 AM
Probably in a basement, feeling himself. Where did Gimpy live? I'm told out in LA everyone hides their age.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 327
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 7/19/2016 9:57:24 PM
I don't think people are meant to be with people they didn't get together with when they were young - middle aged people trying to find life mates are trying to fight evolution.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 328
and they might feel the same about us
Posted: 7/20/2016 6:40:39 AM
biologically speaking, you may be correct. But, I think its logically OK. nothing wrong I see with a middle aged person seeking out the proper "oatmeal to eat for breakfast every day". Maybe being older and mature, helps with making a mature decision about what's really important in a partner? But then, i'm not looking to have children, so a childless relationship doesn't seem abnormal to me, even tho yes, it is fighting evolution of the species.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 329
and they might feel the same about us
Posted: 7/20/2016 7:46:03 AM
"I don't think people are meant to be with people they didn't get together with when they were young...

How young is young? At what age do you go from young to old? If the purpose of a relationship is strictly to breed, then there is an age limit. But that doesn't explain why some couples do the "until death do us part" bit, long after their breeding days are over, during the second half of their lives.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 330
and they might feel the same about us
Posted: 7/20/2016 10:57:22 AM
^ How young do you like 'em?

Of course there are women who do a stellar job of fighting this natural process by spending an inordinate amount of time, energy, and money looking younger after their peak breeding years. (All men really seem to have to do to fight the natural order of things is take Viagra.)
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 331
its a great way to prop up that gut
Posted: 7/20/2016 11:54:35 AM
"all men really seem to have to do to fight the natural order of things is take Viagra"

>>>why do you think we insist on getting paid more and pay less for razors? Its our subtle plot to keep dominion.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
Msg: 332
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Posted: 7/20/2016 2:08:27 PM

All men really seem to have to do to fight the natural order of things is take Viagra.


AND if you are married and die of Melanoma Skin Cancer your wife can join the Viagra class action law suit and collect benefits after your death.

Win Win !!
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 333
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Posted: 7/23/2016 11:28:47 AM

I'm 38 and it's hard finding women my age who I find attractive.

Well, this was posted 10 years ago -- I wonder how your luck is running at 48 instead. :)

It's not that I have something against women my age because I think Nicole Kidman, Salma Hayek, Rachel Ray are all really beautiful and they're my age, (give or take a year,) but it's difficult finding someone who has it going when you get to my age. Am I just being too picky or what?

Yeah. Of course Rachel Ray isn't great looking (average but famous) -- so on that level, you're not. But Nicole Kidman & Salma Hayek? Yeah. Far too picky. 38 isn't bad for online dating whatsoever. Average age outside of Tinder, on places like POF & Match -- are great for the mid to upper 30s. It's just when you hit 40 it starts to decline. There are many women over 35 who are good looking. There's just a higher % who let themselves slide -- as with guys -- over time. But if you keep yourself in good shape and whatnot over time -- you'll get that better pick of the litter.

You can't expect the world to revolve around you -- thinking you're still 25 and not keeping yourself in 25 year old shape when you could get cute girls, and expect to get the gals 35+ who Are in good shape.
 ThunderMan84
Joined: 5/5/2016
Msg: 334
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 7/24/2016 8:38:09 AM
LMAO You just summoned the butt-hurt cave people in this forum...
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 335
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 7/25/2016 7:28:23 AM
So find someone your own age who looks young.
 GWSmith
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 336
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 8/21/2016 6:20:14 PM
If your bar is Nicole Kidman, Salma Hayek, or Rachel Ray than the problem is you. You expect more than reality will provide.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 337
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Posted: 8/21/2016 6:49:59 PM

If your bar is Nicole Kidman, Salma Hayek, or Rachel Ray than the problem is you. You expect more than reality will provide.

The first two, yes. Rachel Ray? She's not model looking at all. If she wasn't famous she'd be everything from "cute" to "ehhh" in the minds of mall-watchers.
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 338
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 8/22/2016 3:01:14 PM


If your bar is Nicole Kidman


I just saw Nicole Kidman in a British movie where she marries a WWII guy with huge demons about being torture by the Japanese in what became that other movie over the river Kuwait. She was remarkably plain looking and not hot at all. That is why I believe that most slightly above average women and look super hot with simply some cosmetic changes, a change of clothes, but more importantly a sexy attitude. I believe there's a hot woman inside every woman. And while there are times that women want to be seen as equal individuals there are others where they want to be sensuous creatures capable of driving men man.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 339
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 8/22/2016 3:27:13 PM
I agree Mr. IG. I believe there is a Rhiannon inside every woman. :)

Did you know?

Rhiannon rings like a bell through the night and
Wouldn't you love to love her?

Takes to the sky like a bird in flight and
Who will be her lover?

All your life you've never seen
A woman taken by the wind

Would you stay if she promised you heaven?
Will you ever win?

She is like a cat in the dark and then
She is the darkness
She rules her life like a fine skylark and when
The sky is starless.....


But......wouldn't you love to love her? ;) ;)


Here's to wishing everyone discovers their Rhiannon. :D
 ChrisArtXL
Joined: 3/13/2016
Msg: 340
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 8/24/2016 9:18:23 AM
I've seen plenty of women in their 30s who look great. They work out, having muscle tone helps. But hey, go for younger ones if you can.
 BBEisBack
Joined: 9/16/2015
Msg: 341
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Posted: 8/26/2016 2:48:28 PM
Well baby, there you stand
With your little head, down in your hand
Oh, my God, you can't believe it's happening again
Your baby's gone, and you're all alone
And it looks like the end

And you're back out on the street
And you're tryin' to remember
How do you start it over
You don't know if you can
You don't care much for a stranger's touch
But you can't hold your man

You never thought you'd be alone
This far down the line
And I know what's been on your mind
You're afraid it's all been wasted time
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 342
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 8/26/2016 2:59:18 PM
I went to the animal fair,
The birds and the beasts were there,
The big baboon by the light of the moon
Was combing his auburn hair,
The monkey, he was drunk
And sat on the elephant's trunk;
The elephant sneezed and fell on his knees
And that was the end of the monk,
The monk, the monk!
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