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Joined: 3/23/2006
Msg: 144
Men who like you to chase themPage 8 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
I do want a relationship someday, but I do enjoy feeling wanted. My ex was great at making me the center of her attention. I more often than not do the chasing, but to be honest, I do not like it that much. I feel as though I have to do all the work, and I get little or no play back in return (i.e. no phone calls to me, i have to make the contact). I feel as though I am bugging someone just calling them once every few days.
Joined: 2/10/2008
Msg: 151
Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 2/21/2008 5:45:50 AM
hellofagal, I have to agree. The few times I chased a guy when I was very young, turned out to be a disaster.

They just don't respect you. They do seem to do cruel things and take you for granted just to see how much you will put up with. It is funny though when you get fed up and dump them and then they are suddenly motivated to chase you.
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 159
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Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 2/21/2008 7:29:27 PM
There are a lot of reasons why it just works out better when the guys chase the girl.

A main one is that when men are attracted to a woman, I mean REALLY attracted (and not paying attention because they are willing to screw anything with two legs...blow up dolls, case in point), then they have very strong urges and it's easy to see, and they'll move mountains or whatever to get to the girl. So this is the kind of motivation a guy needs to be involved and a good boyfriend. If a woman chases a guy, then they may wind up getting the guy who has trouble saying no to girls, or the guy who thinks - oh, easy sex, great, or the guy who is not that interested but gets convinced that he's interested because "hey, she's stroking my ego and that feels damn good." Those are all guys who are not that good for the girl, but it is really hard to tell the difference when the girl is chasing.

It takes a very mature guy with a lot of self-control to say no to a girl who is somewhat attractive, but not what they are looking for in the end. It's just better to not be trying to find the small proportion of guys that can do this.

At least when a guy chases a girl, if she doesn't like him, she usually has no trouble letting him know right away. There aren't likely to be months or years wasted as a result, because she'll just say ew, and be done with it immediately.
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 165
Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 2/22/2008 10:19:16 AM
If i have to chase a man i become disinterested and move on.
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 166
Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 2/22/2008 3:16:04 PM
A man chases a woman until she catches him.
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 176
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Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 2:34:08 AM
Chasing men is not something I ever do, if Im interested in you and make it known, that should be enough and making it no need for me to chase you. men that want women to chase after them are insecure and only feel desired but not for any relationship. will not waste my time like that. It we like each other, then lets move foward and cut the bullshit.
Joined: 9/1/2007
Msg: 179
Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:05:27 PM
Hmm...To me no guy is worth chasing... there are way to many men out there to be doing that anyways the guy is suppose to chase the girl been like that since the caveman...
Joined: 10/25/2004
Msg: 180
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Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:08:43 PM
I don't chase men so If they want me they have to chase me!
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 181
Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:11:03 PM
Has anyone ever noticed that women tend to celebrate the changes that shift power into thier favor, but hold tightly to traditional views that favor them, as well. The rules for interaction between women and men have changed with the financial independence of women. (I know that this doesn't apply to all women.) Women who played hard to get 30 years ago, play impossible to get now, or easy for a lot of men to get. When I stopped chasing women, I started catching more of them. It's getting to be more like fishing these days. Put out the right bait, and they'll bite. The best ones seem to run like hell's fires are licking at their heels if you chase them. Show a little disinterest, and they will hook themselves... or not, based on whether you have the right bait for them.

Oh yeah... Cavemen physically chased and took the women they wanted. The strong (Physically) took what they wanted. If you want a guy like that, the prisons are full of them.
Joined: 4/14/2008
Msg: 182
Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:12:18 PM
I think the way women chase is different, but yes, we do it. We flirt, we make ourselves available and approachable... and allow them to think they are doing the chasing. It's a win/win.
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 183
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Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 1:24:03 PM
I dont chase. I like to be chased. If I feel like Im doing all the work, making all the effort, showing all the interest, I will drop that guy faster than you can say "Buh-Bye".
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 184
Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:50:54 AM

Any guy who makes me chase him will, in the end, be dropped.

These men are only interested in feeling desirable. They don't want a relationship with you.

Its not any worse than when the average woman does it.
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