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 homycups
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 422
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1388 Blonde.. You said it best.. Being thirsty.. but waiting for clean waters to take a long drink.. love it!!
 homycups
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 423
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/8/2012 8:37:45 PM
oh and yes.. I paddle my own damn canoe as well.. no one knows how to control their ore.
 waitingforyoutoo
Joined: 7/19/2012
Msg: 424
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Posted: 9/8/2012 9:21:20 PM
Did I miss the canoe rides.... Drat! Oh well maybe I will not miss the white water rafting.
 LG2727
Joined: 1/20/2010
Msg: 425
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Posted: 9/10/2012 8:57:12 PM
Men think about sex all the time and would sell thier souls for it? Really? Are these single men or in a relationship guys? Is that only during intermission of the football games etc. or is that only when they are trying to make you thier next conquest? I'm just not seeing it! I don't know one woman in a relationship that isnt feeling neglected in that area by the guy, so, I think that shoots that theory all to hell.
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 426
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/11/2012 9:19:51 AM

I've been in more than one relationship where my partner would have liked sex more often, but was too inhibited or passive to make it all that exciting for me. I'd have still done a lot for really great sex.


Very unusual from my past experience because men usually are the ones that can go all day all night mary ann.. Okay after the initial honeymoon stage is over might get reduced to 5 times a week..

However those were younger days, maybe things have changed while I have been on hiatus..
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 427
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/11/2012 10:53:02 AM
^^^ Guys sure as hell talk about sex alot.


all day all night mary ann


Now how does that really work? Methinks like the people who say "I have not slept one wink."

Does the honeymoon always end? Seriously, I don't know and will have to find out.

Those relationships where we got along that well we didn't live together so were only together 24/7 for 5 days at most. All day all night I wouldn't get much else done, but on the upside would lose more weight.

5 times a weeks doesn't sound bad for the long haul.
 waitingforyoutoo
Joined: 7/19/2012
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Posted: 9/12/2012 3:06:37 AM
LG with the right woman, a man would have sex no matter what. During a football game, waking up, lunch time on the table, afternoon by a fireplace getting rug burns even and in a car(anywhere/anytime). Men are orientated to have sex...it is the ladies job to keep them interested in it. You stop giving it up or start being I want this position only, then you get boring and its over. You neglect a man with it only when you want it, it gets boring. After a long period of time this does happen in a relationship most of the time. If a mans sex drive is higher then the females either she puts up with him or he leaves/roams.
If a woman wants a man to have sex with them be aggressive and make the first move. A man hates always having to start it. Grab a short dress with no panties pretend to drop something and bend over in front of him. If that doesn't get something started he's into men.
Let me add one more thing: If you just want it in the bedroom at night with the lights out then you set yourself up for failure. No spice=no sex life, just the same old boring routine every time. That does not mean it would not be good, just the same old thing day in day out like a factory worker.
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
Msg: 429
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Posted: 9/12/2012 3:27:35 AM

^^^Grab a short dress with no panties pretend to drop something and bend over in front of him. If that doesn't get something started he's into men.

The mere sight of a vagina makes a man horny? Or else he’s gay? I didn’t know that.
 liberalearner
Joined: 5/3/2012
Msg: 430
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/12/2012 8:31:42 AM
Ok everyone seems to have slightly diff. opinions as is to be expected since we are all not clones. When I was married I had a very able manly man that even into his mid 50's never had a problem "performing". Unfortunately I lost him to cancer. I have had very mixed issues while dating in the last few years. If men in their 50's still think of sex so much what happens physically when they can't get very hard? Is viagra the only choice. I am a sensitive person and assume it is my fault if I can't make a man feel good. After several not so great adventures, I am now more inhibited due to being afraid that i am not good enough for a guy of this age. Is there something I am missing? Does a man get more excited if the sexual activities are out of the basic normal bed? Would i have better luck tipping our canoe and doing it in the water, in the woods near a highway? What are some exciting places that might be more arousing to an older guy? Any advice is appreciated.
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 431
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/12/2012 8:47:06 AM
Now that I am older, I want someone that...we both turn eachother out...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 9/12/2012 11:14:09 AM

Any advice is appreciated.


Well, I hardly think you should believe its all your fault if things don't come together. If you believe the forums, every guy over 40 has trouble getting it up. being 20 years down the road from there has not brought that kind of trouble to me, however, I am beginning the think I am really unusual in the grand scheme of things.

Its been many years since i did it in an open field or up against a tree in the woods, but that is largely because my lady friends felt that the bedroom was more to their liking. However, if you are into those things and the guy is willing, go for it.

In general, however, I would try for the middle of the morning or afternoon as an opportunity for an adventure. I can definitely say that I am no longer the kind of night owl I once was, and I wake up a lot slower than I used to.....

Get him before he has any booze in his belly right after some mutually enjoyable activity involving exercise and fresh air. Sit on his lap on the front porch swing wearing a suitably flowing skirt. Wave to the passing neighbours while he is inside you and suck on a Popsicle languorously. That should do it......
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 433
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/12/2012 1:13:51 PM

What are some exciting places that might be more arousing to an older guy? Any advice is appreciated.


Sex in the mind of men greater than 50 often is only in the mind.

I really don't think your performance in bed should be a worry for you, and I doubt being more kinky right away is the answer.

Men respond most to feeling secure and not under performance anxiety. So doing it outside in a rush is more likely to backfire I would think. Taking it slow and getting to know each other, encouraging the man while being clear what you want should be enough. Even saying something like I have never tried this before, can you show me? Something to the effect that lets the man feel like he is taking the lead.

The first few times shouldn't be a problem for any man unless he has health problems.

I am a little leery of a woman that wants to be chained up in a dungeon the fist time we have sex, There is a natural progression from first experience to becoming more kinky as you both learn to trust each other. If we have to start with the dungeon, then I have to wonder what the progression will be?

At some point after you get to know each other, there are theme hotels that have different sorts of rooms with different themes.

At least this is what I am guessing, I have no experience with men, and only limited experience with sexual experimentation.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 434
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Posted: 9/12/2012 1:16:46 PM

Sit on his lap on the front porch swing wearing a suitably flowing skirt. Wave to the passing neighbours while he is inside you and suck on a Popsicle languorously. That should do it......


Uh huh...yeah. Sounds like a perfect set-up shot for a porn vid..hehe

One thing I know for sure....having a good imagination and willing to be a wee bit adventuresome keeps things new and exciting for you and your partner. *Big shitfaced grin*

...mae
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 9/12/2012 1:23:03 PM
That and often made trips to the adult toy store to see what is there to try, interesting, and somewhat new and exciting!! You can have a wonderful date doing that, talking and sharing what you like and do not like while browsing and checking out what each other likes and does not!

I am all for a good imagination, and a willingness to experiment with those things that just may expand your sexual knowledge and pleasure with or without your partner.....;)

cd
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