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 veryspecialladie
Joined: 3/22/2006
Msg: 76
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Broken lady you have a point there too. I dated a guy for a while and we got to the point of making love and he was tickled because I would never say no when he wanted it. This was great to him but it did not take but a week of his on and please him and back off. Then I would hear how great it was. Maybe for him it was but I was miserable. I realized I could not live my life like this and I deserved a good relationship for the rest of my life or I would just as soon be alone. Quickly I disappeared out of his life and he is still wanting to get back together but I truly will not live my life pleasing someone else if they can't take the time and effort to make sex enjoyable for both of us. This is one of the things I have set at the top of my list in finding a special person that he has to be very very passionate and definitely know how to make love to a woman. I won't jump in bed with someone when I first meet them or anything like that but when we do get to it I want it to be someone I will be able to enjoy making love with for a lifetime or I would rather be alone.
 Bull Rhino
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 77
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/16/2006 6:07:36 PM
Sex will never be good as long as one or both is keeping score, or merely using the other for physical stimulation. The novelty wears off, isolation intensifies. It is when the contact is a kind of spiritual union that sex progressively improves. Instead of two naked people with eyes shut making use of each other, you should be able to lay perfectly still looking into each other's eyes and go someplace beyond time. Then the physical is the dance to love, the music. In this union is the reward promised by lust and hungered for by the human heart. The mechanical aspect of sex is the source of sensation, its enjoyment happens in the mind, and its meaning in the soul. With or without socks.
 HsppyWithLife
Joined: 12/2/2005
Msg: 78
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/17/2006 1:36:35 PM
Instead of two naked people with eyes shut making use of each other, you should be able to lay perfectly still looking into each other's eyes and go someplace beyond time.

Best place I've ever been. That is the real love making, and that connection blows the sex off the richter scale!
 HsppyWithLife
Joined: 12/2/2005
Msg: 79
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/17/2006 1:36:48 PM
Quickly I disappeared out of his life and he is still wanting to get back together but I truly will not live my life pleasing someone else if they can't take the time and effort to make sex enjoyable for both of us.


Did you speak up? I take no offense at direction, suggestions, tips, pointers or requests. It's been said a million times but no-one is a mind reader!

 horselady48
Joined: 1/10/2006
Msg: 80
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Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/17/2006 2:30:07 PM
Responding to the OP - Absof...inglutely !
 SmileyInKamloops
Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 81
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Posted: 5/17/2006 9:41:24 PM
Yep, a whole new wonderful experience from when I was in my 20's.
 kitkat45
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 82
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 5:37:28 AM
As was mentioned earlier, I sometimes think I need to check my "package" to make sure I am a female...I want to catcall at the construction workers...I sit at my desk and squiggle in my chair sometimes....the overwhelming "need" is almost physical pain....Sex over 40 is the most awesome experience...I think that is why a lot of us gals hook up with younger men...cuz we peak at different times in our lives..........
 Ochun36
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 83
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 6:19:34 AM
I sit at my desk and squiggle in my chair sometimes....the overwhelming "need" is almost physical pain.

OMG, I thought I was the only one that did that :-) I have actually sat at my desk at work and fantasized myself to an orgasm.
 luv2dnce
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 84
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 6:51:08 AM
I'm a fair bit older than 40, and I can tell you from my own experience that I think about sex just about all the time and have done since my seperation/divorce almost 8 years ago. Before that, my ex and I had a great sexual relationship, but obviously that didn't keep the marriage together....lol. I think that the reason we miss it so much, is because besides it feeling great (hopefully...lol), it makes us feel desired, wanted, loved and close to whomever we are with.
 luv2dnce
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 85
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:00:54 AM
I hear you!!!!! In both departments.....the loving and the hugs!!!!
 lovingwoman59
Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 86
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:01:21 AM
LOL im 47 with a 35 yr old , what does that tell you about us women over 40 LOL ??Young man says he hasn't had a woman with soooooo much and wants sooooooo much and says I tire him out , hahahahaha he had to take levitra to keep up with me LMAO...men just don't have a clue , do they lol
 maccraig
Joined: 3/13/2006
Msg: 87
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:19:03 AM
Of course we have a Clue...


It was Miss Scarlet in the Library with the Candlestick.
 Ochun36
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 88
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:34:56 AM
That's one thing I have to give to those older men...some of them are so damn witty.

This was hilarious:

It was Miss Scarlet in the Library with the Candlestick.
 maccraig
Joined: 3/13/2006
Msg: 89
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 8:30:52 AM

...those older men...



Ouch! Now where was that embalming fluid anyway?
 shellsmack
Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 90
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:00:21 AM

I want to catcall at the construction workers


Guys with hard hats....oh wow....talk about getting a boner.
 shellsmack
Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 91
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:01:26 AM

I have actually sat at my desk at work and fantasized myself to an orgasm.


Almost made it there once OCHUN.
 Mule
Joined: 1/7/2005
Msg: 92
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:03:17 AM
I actually sat at my desk and fantasized myself into the unemployment office.
 Ochun36
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 93
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:17:00 AM
Ouch! Now where was that embalming fluid anyway?

Oh...I'm sorry I didn't mean it that way. You are a little older then me, so I consider you an older man. Now if I would have said those geezers are quite witty. Then I would say it's time to start building you a pyramid.


I actually sat at my desk and fantasized myself into the unemployment office..

Too cute :-) And I know you didn't have as much fun as I had :-)
 maccraig
Joined: 3/13/2006
Msg: 94
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:25:30 AM
Heh; no older men were harmed in the production of your posts, Ochun.
 imsexyme
Joined: 9/8/2005
Msg: 95
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:35:46 AM
Not sure what to say about this thread, but at least i'm not alone.
 ctrydancer
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 96
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Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 10:27:47 AM
Do I think about sex......all the time! But it has to be after several dates and only with strong attraction. I read that for men sex is just an act, women associate it with love. What cha think?
 shellsmack
Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 97
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 11:17:59 AM

I actually sat at my desk and fantasized myself into the unemployment office.


You're a funny man MULE.
 HsppyWithLife
Joined: 12/2/2005
Msg: 98
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 12:14:46 PM
It was Miss Scarlet in the Library with the Candlestick.

LMAO!!!
 teazin2
Joined: 3/15/2005
Msg: 99
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Posted: 5/19/2006 7:42:08 PM
on the verge of 50 and the past 10 years I really got to know myself,sexually.Unfortunately my other half for 15 years decided to cheat on me with an X of his.SO the past year we've had sex 3 times and I can't get that feeling that I had just found with this man,one i never had before.Can it happen w/in me by seeing other men?i don't even know why we r still in the same house only that it works financially.what to do what to do
 wateradv
Joined: 4/15/2006
Msg: 100
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Posted: 5/19/2006 8:19:38 PM
When I think about all the stuff I could have done in my 20's and 30's...I just didn't have the confidence in myself then that I do now...I can not believe how much my sex drive has gone into hyper drive in my 40's...I am still shy at first, but boy, once I get going, once a day is not enough! Thank god my ex-boyfriend thought it was of the utmost importance to please his partner...lol During my period I wanted to have sex 2-3 times a day, and thankfully, so did he! But unfortunately he wasn't around very much, so I"m starting all over...I hear ya on that squirming-in-your-seat stuff..glad I have a private office and can shut the door!
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