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 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 405
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I love sex w/ a nearsighted man...when he takes his glasses off, I am all blurry & can appear to be a Goddess when naked...
I had a man like that for 3 years, then he got lasik ;0(
 still-a-frog
Joined: 2/3/2012
Msg: 406
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 8/20/2012 11:11:04 PM
I am free now and now and maybe later, yep later as well come to think about i am waiting for you! x
 still-a-frog
Joined: 2/3/2012
Msg: 407
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 8/20/2012 11:12:00 PM
where do i find you!
 still-a-frog
Joined: 2/3/2012
Msg: 408
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Posted: 8/20/2012 11:13:56 PM
i wear glasses loike coke bottles lol x
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 8/21/2012 9:29:12 AM
I am "inspired" by the "right" man....note, I did not say, "strange" men, or "multiple" men!
 Littlelady1964
Joined: 7/11/2012
Msg: 410
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 8/21/2012 9:56:17 PM
I am exactly like you, but unfortunately, I don't have a man.
I have a friend who I did go out with and OMG the best ever! but, emotionally he is not ready.
I am tired of the guys on here that use the LONG TERM status as a ploy to get woman but are only after sex. If the conversation starts off right away asking if I like sex or telling me their****size, then really.....is the guy wanting long term? lol
 K9BITESME
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 411
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 8/21/2012 11:51:13 PM
I am exactly 40, and never cared for it in the past as much as I do now. I even found out I have a bit of a wild/freak side to me. lol. I will spare you the details, but I guess it's true what they say, we want it more when we are older.
 kiminAylmer
Joined: 4/18/2012
Msg: 412
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Posted: 9/5/2012 8:50:02 AM
Hahahaha your crazy Beachesofnc, I hope that the cold shower helped. Your grandma was right. Oh by the way the sack of bran is adjusted acording to age. Good luck
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 413
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/6/2012 2:25:49 AM
I am far more active now and had more sex with my ex-fiance in 2.5 years than I did with my ex-husband in 25 years. Turned out that he was gay which explained a lot. But I digress...

After a long drought, one is always thirsty. But not all waterholes are healthy or drinkable, so until I find that one clear stream I want to drink deeply from, I'll just paddle my own canoe.

And PantiJam, I live near you in Cedar Rapids...there are none in Iowa that are looking for marriage. Those that are have no money or are in poor health which is why I plan to relocate to a bigger population region next spring.
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 414
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Posted: 9/6/2012 8:04:21 AM

After a long drought, one is always thirsty. But not all waterholes are healthy or drinkable, so until I find that one clear stream I want to drink deeply from, I'll just paddle my own canoe.


Interesting since I might well be paddling my canoe in a different direction myself soon.. Just got my condo evaluated and am considering some tropical island in the sun.... If remote enough maybe there are some men that are not on the internet.. Heck and we might establish a real soulful connection...

Besides I will not need to worry about too much of a wardrobe down there so I might just bankroll a few pennies.. lol

nativerock
 3dogsandme
Joined: 5/18/2012
Msg: 415
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/6/2012 8:21:13 AM
More then when I was younger to be sure and I think that is because life is less pressured now. But more when it is the right person. I dont think about it as randomly or indiscriminantly as I think men do. I could be wrong about that.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 416
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/6/2012 8:32:46 AM
My limited experience is that women 35-40 are dreaming about sex 2 weeks out of 4 and are insatiable when they find the right man.

For most there is still a keen interest all their lives, but for others not so much past 50, for both men and women. For men interest doesn't always traslate into ability.

Though like some men have mentioned on other threads, it does seem like when many woman are in their early 20s they are more willing have a fling with a man they wouldn't consider when they are 35 +, they get more choosy. I doubt that has to do with libdo.

Of course individuals always differ from the mainstream, but there are general trends.

I am not an expert, but this has been what I have seen.
 TD625
Joined: 2/11/2012
Msg: 417
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Posted: 9/6/2012 9:16:48 AM
Yes, I'm with you. It's always on my mind.
 60s_kid
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 418
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/6/2012 11:22:42 AM
This is certainly an eye opener. I love a positive forum!
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 419
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/6/2012 11:35:26 AM

I am sure that many of you out there, like me, have experienced those that were good in bed, showed it often, and wanted it returned just as much. And, I am sure that there are many out there, like me, who cared about some, loved a few, and yet, their sex drive and desire far differed from yours, or waned over time, no matter how hard you tried to keep it fresh, enjoyable, and often. The end result for me at least, is that I need an active willing partner that wants me as much as I do them, shows it in every way possible, desires it in every way possible, and works as hard at pleasing me as I do her.


Well I disagree with you.. I believe a great relationship is built on a great friendship.. It is normal for a couple[''s sex drive to calm down a bit after sometime of being together.. If you do not have a great love for one another you will not work it out.. or especially now in our last chapter if your partner is ill most likely you will be long down the road in search of another..


Once you have that equal in and out of bed, all the rest just falls into place and it does not need to mean marriage, or living together, but rather......a meeting of the minds, body, and soul that is just right for the two of you.......OK!! I am thinking about sex again, so still within that one minute range.....;)


Although sex is important in any relationship it should not form the crux of it.. Remember you spend a whole lot more time out of bed together than in it.

namaste
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 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 420
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/6/2012 7:53:54 PM
I remember when I hit 37 got divorced met my future husband and never looked back--I think once a woman has experienced a great connection that nurtures her sexuality and her emotional, mental and physical needs it is easy for us to accept our own sexuality--just because we might not be actively involved with someone at the present moment doesnt mean we wont be happy to take it all out when we meet the right guy later on

To me sex for the purpose of having sex to get off I can take care of myself and do a better job at it than most men --but finding that right person and kissing them, tasting them, touching them--and having them kiss, taste and touch you--well then it becomes about two people being together and that is about the best stuff on earth! Its not one dimensional--it isnt flatline--it involved extra senses and emotions
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 421
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/6/2012 8:37:14 PM
I remember when I hit 37 got divorced met my future husband and never looked back--I think once a woman has experienced a great connection that nurtures her sexuality and her emotional, mental and physical needs it is easy for us to accept our own sexuality--just because we might not be actively involved with someone at the present moment doesnt mean we wont be happy to take it all out when we meet the right guy later on


I married my husband at 17 and we eventually divorced while I was in my early thirties...he had been my only partner. For me, our sex life was lacking. Most of the time I just wanted it to be over with so I could go to sleep. Every once in a while he would take me just to brink... and then it would be over.
For years I used to think it was me...and he re-inforced that thought process by calling me"frigid" (that was THE word back then) lol.

However, when I met my second husband a few years later, I found out that wasn't true..... he awakened feelings/a fire in me that I didn't know existed. It was then that I realized what I had been missing all those years. What a difference in being with someone who knew what he was doing in the bedroom. Wow!!!!

You're right giggles....we just need to find that right person that we are compatible with. I know that if and when I meet him I am willing to give a 100 percent of myself...in all ways.


...mae
 homycups
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 422
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Posted: 9/8/2012 8:36:20 PM
1388 Blonde.. You said it best.. Being thirsty.. but waiting for clean waters to take a long drink.. love it!!
 homycups
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 423
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/8/2012 8:37:45 PM
oh and yes.. I paddle my own damn canoe as well.. no one knows how to control their ore.
 waitingforyoutoo
Joined: 7/19/2012
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Posted: 9/8/2012 9:21:20 PM
Did I miss the canoe rides.... Drat! Oh well maybe I will not miss the white water rafting.
 LG2727
Joined: 1/20/2010
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Posted: 9/10/2012 8:57:12 PM
Men think about sex all the time and would sell thier souls for it? Really? Are these single men or in a relationship guys? Is that only during intermission of the football games etc. or is that only when they are trying to make you thier next conquest? I'm just not seeing it! I don't know one woman in a relationship that isnt feeling neglected in that area by the guy, so, I think that shoots that theory all to hell.
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 426
Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 9/11/2012 9:19:51 AM

I've been in more than one relationship where my partner would have liked sex more often, but was too inhibited or passive to make it all that exciting for me. I'd have still done a lot for really great sex.


Very unusual from my past experience because men usually are the ones that can go all day all night mary ann.. Okay after the initial honeymoon stage is over might get reduced to 5 times a week..

However those were younger days, maybe things have changed while I have been on hiatus..
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 427
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Posted: 9/11/2012 10:53:02 AM
^^^ Guys sure as hell talk about sex alot.


all day all night mary ann


Now how does that really work? Methinks like the people who say "I have not slept one wink."

Does the honeymoon always end? Seriously, I don't know and will have to find out.

Those relationships where we got along that well we didn't live together so were only together 24/7 for 5 days at most. All day all night I wouldn't get much else done, but on the upside would lose more weight.

5 times a weeks doesn't sound bad for the long haul.
 waitingforyoutoo
Joined: 7/19/2012
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Posted: 9/12/2012 3:06:37 AM
LG with the right woman, a man would have sex no matter what. During a football game, waking up, lunch time on the table, afternoon by a fireplace getting rug burns even and in a car(anywhere/anytime). Men are orientated to have sex...it is the ladies job to keep them interested in it. You stop giving it up or start being I want this position only, then you get boring and its over. You neglect a man with it only when you want it, it gets boring. After a long period of time this does happen in a relationship most of the time. If a mans sex drive is higher then the females either she puts up with him or he leaves/roams.
If a woman wants a man to have sex with them be aggressive and make the first move. A man hates always having to start it. Grab a short dress with no panties pretend to drop something and bend over in front of him. If that doesn't get something started he's into men.
Let me add one more thing: If you just want it in the bedroom at night with the lights out then you set yourself up for failure. No spice=no sex life, just the same old boring routine every time. That does not mean it would not be good, just the same old thing day in day out like a factory worker.
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
Msg: 429
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Posted: 9/12/2012 3:27:35 AM

^^^Grab a short dress with no panties pretend to drop something and bend over in front of him. If that doesn't get something started he's into men.

The mere sight of a vagina makes a man horny? Or else he’s gay? I didn’t know that.
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