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 DeagleNINja2
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 126
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Nope, never ok.
With all the men/women in the world there's no excuse for this trashy behavior.
 Ezbthdrcy
Joined: 11/3/2008
Msg: 127
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 4/25/2009 6:00:21 AM
Never, ever ok.
 angelblueyez
Joined: 2/28/2010
Msg: 128
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/7/2012 9:39:34 PM
so I'm not actually replying to this message but saying that I came here for advice on the subject as my best friend and ex-fiancee just recently met through me and there is attraction there yet they are not sure what will happen with it. I'm not ok with friends dating exes but she thinks it's ok. It's been a while since we broke up but the ex and I still talk and some lingering feelings there so I feel it would be better for her not to approach it considering how I feel. any thoughts?
 amore01
Joined: 2/14/2012
Msg: 129
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/7/2012 9:41:48 PM
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NEVER,EVER!!!!!!!!!
 moutainbreeze
Joined: 10/19/2011
Msg: 130
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/7/2012 10:20:46 PM
NO. Run away from that. You are being used to get back at your best friend. Be wise, avoid that drama.
 jmark4
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 131
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/7/2012 10:50:58 PM
for me? no I would never do that.
 RunningFool7
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 132
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/7/2012 11:43:09 PM
No...but it sounds like she date him before you did soooo, you dated your friend's ex? Right? Sorry, you suck. LOL. *beer*
 nightowl2004
Joined: 1/18/2011
Msg: 133
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/8/2012 12:58:49 AM
NO FREAKING WAY. THE END.
 angelblueyez
Joined: 2/28/2010
Msg: 134
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/8/2012 3:14:59 AM

No...but it sounds like she date him before you did soooo, you dated your friend's ex? Right?


No, she didn't, they just met for the first time recently if you were referring to my message there RunningFool7
 CJinCentralPa
Joined: 2/14/2012
Msg: 135
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Posted: 6/8/2012 3:44:33 AM
LOL...yes by all means its a perfect idea...

...you can sit with your friend and talk about all the cute noises your new boyfriend (her old boyfriend) makes when you are bumping uglies and watch your good friend's face change and just imagine how much she hates you in her head.

Its not like women are naturally catty and uber competitive or anything.
 Jaimes004
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 136
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/8/2012 9:43:43 AM
If someone does that, they were never best friends to begin with.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 137
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Posted: 6/8/2012 9:45:58 AM
Is your best friend armed....member of the NRA?
 sugarcoat69
Joined: 7/18/2012
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Posted: 8/18/2012 10:45:11 PM
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.NEVER.Stay away form the ex 's
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
Msg: 139
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/18/2012 10:55:46 PM
OMG the people on this post , is like a stroll down memory lane,lol...This post has to be at least 4 years old if not older...
 betteroffsingle
Joined: 7/24/2012
Msg: 140
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/19/2012 3:59:55 AM
I'm going to say it depends on the time involved. I dated a girl for over 3 years. We were engaged to be married. Ten years after that relationship dissolved my best friend came to me and asked if I would mind if he went out with her. I didn't mind at all, told him to go for it. They dated about a year or so before it went south. He and I are still best friends, no problem.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 141
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/19/2012 7:43:59 AM
It could work out if both friends dated each others ex. But then again, maybe not.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 142
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/19/2012 10:54:48 AM

I'm going to say it depends on the time involved.

I agree. Here's my factors involved:
- How long since breakup
- Single/Marital-status of best friend
- Length/seriousness of their relationship
- If he got dumped or not; pain effect
- Current state between them now

About 95% of the time it's not under consideration. 3% of the time, it's a possibility but not a good idea. 2% of the time, it's fine.

In other words, as a general rule of thumb -- Don't Do It.
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 143
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/19/2012 11:03:13 AM
Most of time the answer is no. But there could be a few exceptions. Such as they broke up many years ago or the relationship wasn't that serious or didn't last that long.
 betteroffsingle
Joined: 7/24/2012
Msg: 144
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/19/2012 11:03:17 AM
The guy I'm referring to is my roommate now. The girl lives in FL now and she and I talk every once in a while. No bad blood between any of us but there was a tremendous amount of time that passed before they got together.
 AUC_MMDCCV
Joined: 2/15/2011
Msg: 145
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/19/2012 4:08:05 PM
My ex became my ex by walking into my office one morning and announcing: "I'm leaving." That was OK by me. It was then all over.

Next thing, her side of the bed isn't even cold when she 'phones my mate: He happened to be at my house when she called. Now, there's a long story and a bit of a twist which I won't bore anyone with here (it's irrelevant anyhow), but after three months or so my mate confesses to horizontal dancing with my ex. Told him it wasn't a problem with me, it was irreconcilably over (which he knew anyhow) and he could have her (which he knew also).

They dated for about a year 'till she dumped him as well.

In the aftermath, my mate and I could never figure out whether she contacted him cause she fancied him or tried to get me jealous and chase her back or to attempt to humiliate me by sleeping with my mate (all conjecture tied up in the long story and a bit of a twist ).

Anyhow, we're still the best of mates. Choosing between a fickle ex girlfriend of two years and a mate of 30 years was no contest. Appreciably, we stayed mates while he was dating her. His ultimate loyalty was to me: she requested him to stop seeing me and he refused that request. I think she dumped him because whilst dating her, he went on a seven day cruise with me. He informed her of that a day or so before he and I departed.......

I guess what I'm saying is: a total ex is a total ex. Anyone, including friends or associates, should be welcome to them. Otherwise it's simply ego getting in the way.
 AnAustralianWoman
Joined: 4/26/2012
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Posted: 8/20/2012 9:10:36 AM
My best friend would spent every other weekend at my house after my ex husband walked and left me with 3 children to raise.
We had many in deapth conversations about how I still loved him and so forth, and she kept telling me he was a loser and so forth and I continued with my life and even had a new boyfriend.
When my ex mentioned a few thing's (about the new boyfriend) the alarm bell's rang. Only my best friend had this info. I put two and two together then confronted her.
I said what I needed to say and never spoke to her again. They also didn't speak or see each other again after it all came out.
It's Betrayal at it's best and cannot be sugar coated. There are unwritten rules...either you are loyal to your best mate or you betray your best mate.
It becomes a triangle and someone ends up hurt....
 abmccray
Joined: 8/3/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2012 12:23:34 PM
The question is "why would you?"

It's not worth dating someone that could hurt a friendship, when there are billions of other people out there you could date. Why would you be so desperate - this isn't high school with a ridiculously small pool.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 148
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/20/2012 12:54:26 PM

Msg 154: It's Betrayal at it's best and cannot be sugar coated.


How is it betrayal? Your ex is single and your friend is single and both are adults. To me, betrayal is a spouse having an affair while married. It seems like people who strongly oppose this arrangement still haven't gotten over their ex. Otherwise, why would you care what your ex does or who he/she is sleeping with? If you still care who is sharing an ex's bed, you're not over your ex, and need to find a way to move on with life instead of forever fuming about the past. It would be easier and better to have an ex date a total stranger you don't know, but life doesn't always work out that way.
 starfromAlabama
Joined: 6/6/2012
Msg: 149
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/20/2012 1:03:12 PM
no, never cross the line when friendships are on the line
 Greg19899
Joined: 10/10/2011
Msg: 150
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/20/2012 1:09:00 PM
It's a toss up..if she is really nice, and I like her..it depends on the state of their relationship, kids, friends, etc.. We are all on her for romance..I guess the question I would ask the nay sayers is this..would you deny yourself the chance for true love? What if she/he were the one spark you felt you had been missing?
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