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 Ahhh!
Joined: 3/11/2006
Msg: 76
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^^^^^Yeah, i've gone out with a few of these guys who didn't want a girlfriend, they wanted a taxi driver they could f*ck. So, I hear ya on that one...but, if a girl (not saying you, any girl...) will not date a guy b/c he does not have a car and that's the only thing he's got against him..then, I don't agree with that.

( I once dated a guy with no car ...short version: he asked to borrow my car to go to Montreal to visit his sis who was due to give birth any day. I said no (we had only been dating 3 months, didn't trust him that much yet), then he suggested the two of us go there for the wknd...(kind of obvious he needed me to drive him) so I said ok. Later that night he called to tell me his sis went into labour and he had to get there right away 'could I lend him $100 for train fare. Well, yeah, ok...it's only $ right??? Glad I chose to lose $100 than my car..he never came back from Montreal. I heard from a guy I briefly met through him, that he was really married and it was his wife in montreal expecting a baby, not his sister.
 snowbunny1973
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 77
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 10:52:00 AM
I dated a guy without a car, and i found it very difficult because i had to do all the driving. If we wanted to see each other it was up to me to drive downtown, he never wanted to take the bus over to see me (on the north shore) and that didn't work for me. It actually caused problems and I ended up breaking up with him.

Get some form of transport, a motorbike or something even? if you want to date girls outside of downtown that is...
 cup77
Joined: 12/23/2005
Msg: 78
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 11:26:35 AM
You got some good points and having a car is a bonus (I love my car).But to say you
will only date men with cars is like a guy saying Ill only date women that can cook
and give great blow jobs.
 cup77
Joined: 12/23/2005
Msg: 79
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 11:27:39 AM
having a car is a bonus (I love my car).But to say you
will only date men with cars is like a guy saying Ill only date women that can cook
and give great blow jobs.
 daylillies
Joined: 9/26/2005
Msg: 80
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 1:40:05 PM
^^^ an you dont require good cook an head???..lol..plz if she couldnt do either,...you would drop her pretty damn fast...


alot of people go thru divorces an seperation to loosin what they worked hard for before...but dammit....i got nothing from mine...i walked away with just my clothes...but i built myself bac up again...an got a good job...a car...an etc...without havinf to rely on anyone but me....am tired of hearing most excuses...poor me syndrome...get off the pot...my ex took it all...so what...get another.

 TurgidBoil
Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 81
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 3:22:07 PM
Oh screw a car. I own my house outright and have zero debt. All the materialistic pricks and ****es on here are pathetic. If a car for you defines a person, I'm glad we haven't met.
 daylillies
Joined: 9/26/2005
Msg: 82
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 3:25:19 PM
^^^^^^ wow...you need to get laid..lol...easy....whats with everyone lately...snappy..judgemental...an rude.anyways...it has nothing to do with being materialistic....i drive quite a distance to work an back....so i do need my car to make a living so i can pay my bills an my mortagage....cause no one else will.
 TurgidBoil
Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 83
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 3:31:33 PM
^^^
That's your situation, not mine.
Basing a person's worth on belongings is truly petty. Not only is my CHOICE not to drive based on an economic decision, but also political. Motor vehicles are one of the worst 'investments' one can make.


~Drive to work, work to drive.
 optimismnlaughter
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 84
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:57:11 PM
I agree with Daylillie...you all need to a big chill pill and get out of the house tonight!! If all you are worried about in someone's value....Pleaaaaseee, if all you worrying about in someone's value is how far someone is willing to drive you around..geesssh....then this thread has gone no where....Let's go dancing Daylillie***this is getting too serious.. lol...

I will meet you later for chatting please, this is getting way too stuffy in here...love you girlie..

I have had this situation come up twice now though and I don't have a reliable car to take a guy places, so he has to love me for my lovable self...awwww.
 puppyluv123
Joined: 1/9/2006
Msg: 85
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 5:13:34 PM
OK, look at it this way...

Some people live "downtown" and don't need or have a car. Good for them, although I guess you can only walk so far so your dates would be limited to the same places unless you wanted to cab it somewhere.

Some people don't live "downtown" and everything is driving distance. Where I live you can't go anywhere without driving and cab service in the smaller areas is really bad. You have to call for one and they might show up but it takes a while.

I prefer a man who has a car, I wouldn't date someone that didn't. Thats my preference.
There are, apparently, others on this very site that say they don't care.

So, if you don't have a car, don't sweat it, there are people who are ok with that!

Personally I love the freedom my car gives me, I can just go out on a beautiful day and go for a drive along the lake, of hop in the car and visit a friend. Whatever I want to do, I can do it, and whenever I want, spur of the moment.

Everyone has preferences, its not shallow its just the way it is.

Seems like the bitter people on here are the ones with NO CAR. Get over it, date someone who doesnt care. Leave the rest of us to our preferences.

PS, see my pic? I LOVE my car.
 TrackMan391
Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 86
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 5:20:42 PM
This issue of a guy not having a car might be a problem here in America. Historically, the country was built on an independent spirit, and face it, a bus passenger is anything but independent. But if all women in the world flat-out refused to date any guy without a car, then wouldn't Europe have no population by now? After all, we're all human; so Europeans must find have found a way to date using buses, trains, and streetcars. The only reason why a car is a prerequisite to dating is because public transportation is so looked down upon in our society. And on a personal note, I had my first girlfriend before my first car. So it is possible. As an added bonus, I can now name the nearest train station for most of my hometown's attractions.
 TurgidBoil
Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 87
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 6:02:21 PM
Well this has been stated several times, to each his own.
I've been car free since 2001 and get a hoot out of riding my bike past the car lots with the prices on the windows and the gas stations with cars waiting in line. I like Greyhound, I can get a 1 year pass for $260 and travel all over my state as much as I like, I check my folding bike as luggage. If need be, I can rent a car. What I don't like is the $5000-$7000/year cost of ownership a late model car would cost. Who says you can't ride bikes on a date? Oh it might be a problem if you smoke 3 packs a day, but then I doubt we would be dating anyway.

~"To attack the pedals may be strenuous over the short run, but is an expression of trust in one's own powers, for with the bicycle everything depends on the self. Those who wish to control their own lives and move beyond existence as mere clients and consumers -- those people ride a bike."
 puppyluv123
Joined: 1/9/2006
Msg: 88
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 6:10:38 PM
^^^^^^^Ya, well maybe in Florida riding a bike on a date might be fun.

Try that in Canada in the dead of winter. Brrrrrrr


LOL
 TurgidBoil
Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 89
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 6:19:02 PM
Point taken. You could ski though, eh?
 iridecentelf
Joined: 2/24/2005
Msg: 90
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Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 6:21:36 PM
A guy I date does have a car, lives and parks it in the middle of Boston's Back Bay, walks the 5 minutes to work but uses it to go to his clients places and to get out of town. When he comes up to visit me, I drive him around. We walk when I go down there. lol Works for us. But I would be a little put out if I always had to drive to see him (its about an hours drive) and I'm not sure my car could handle the wear and tear anyway.
 RabidWolverine
Joined: 3/17/2006
Msg: 91
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 8:32:13 PM
Man it makes me so annoyed when women figure every guy wants them to drive him around and drive to see him.
I dated someone years back who lived in Londond, Ontario...I NEVER NEVER expected or even asked her to drive to Toronto to see me and drive me here and there. Gues what ladies..I jumped on the greyhound every weekend...I finished work at 7:30am, walked over to the bus terminal and jumped on the Greyhound and went to see her all weekend. She NEVER once came to Toronto to see me. Did it annoy me that i did that? Not at all. I always looked forward to it. She offered to drive me home one Monday morning and I said no, I will take the Greyhound, only a 2 hour nice ride. Listen to my discman or read a book. Wow that is so low is it not? So I do not own a car, and yet my god the guy took the initiative to go see her out of town.
She broke it off because she didn't like that i didn't have a car BUT she never was a taxi, and when we drove somewhere in London I paid for the gas..yep sad and low again I guess eh ladies? I guess I should have had the car and drove to see her.
if some women would get off thier high horses and see that there are many guys who even though they do not have a car will in fact be the ones to go see you all the time...oh but wait that is still a guy not worthwhile right? because he does not have a car.
A car like the clothes and type of job makes who the guy is these days. Sad how it is this way. And to those who live in small rural areas, if I did I would own a car, i live and work in Toronto, so there is the reason I do not. My conveniences are at my doorstep.
 TurgidBoil
Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 92
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 8:40:38 PM
RabidWolverine
I'm with ya brutha!
 optimismnlaughter
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 93
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 8:52:41 PM
Hey Rabid,,,I understand that ur saying bein negative but I was trying to back up Daylillieas ...the point ^^^the car being an investment^^^after Daylillie I just didn't figure this ... ^^^drive to work, work to drive^^^ we would all be here in the neverending POF forums, in a negative sense, not sooo
it just sometimes is a distance factor for me anyway....and ppl. have some things to work thru in their lives whether it be, personal problems, health issues, whatever. We get over it. And hope I to find someone to do this with .. I just keep find recovery ppl. or disabled...I am magnet for it.. smile... I think I have over come most all of my personal demons...Its hard to find someone to know ... after so many years of being on my own...

It was nice to see you on here Rabid, take care .
 KCNewf
Joined: 3/3/2006
Msg: 94
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 8:56:53 PM
The thing is it's rare that people choose not to have a car. If that be the case then I would date the guy. It's in all likelihood that there is something behind not having a car, like losing one's license for various reasons, getting one's car repo'ed, bad credit, or no money. So my gut feeling would tell me to run(drive!!) away if the other person didn't have wheels of some sort. If you are an energy conservationist then I might bite the bait for awhile :)
Sounds real convenient to hop on a greyhound all the time when you have control of your own vehicle. Just a thought. The greyhound sounds all but convenient to me. We definitely should be taking the mass transits once in awhile, I just always miss the darn bus!
I did date a guy, shortly, who didn't have a car, he shunned it, but come to find out on my own that his truck was repossessed.
 TurgidBoil
Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 95
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 9:08:22 PM
Ah well, let's post a barely legible responses and add lots of emoticons.
X 2
 optimismnlaughter
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 96
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 9:42:37 PM
Blah blah blah x 2, with ... no favorites.. or emoticons... in my profile either. am I bothering just you, I anyone else.??? Don't worry you have chased the last of me out here..so you will you be happy TurgidBoil.. I am not sure why you had to state your negative tones and I was only stating a point to Rabid.. he would have seen it sooner or later.

You really do need to get laid buddy, why are you so rude..LOL....as it was has been brought up earlier, maybe find a date in here instead of running your mouth off at the keys...can't you take a hint??
ok, lighten up I am out of your way... so you can make fun of the dyslexic...seriously...!ol. sooo there You can do something with that and make maybe X2 the fun of it or whatever....have a good night...lol.

I think you guys should have a thread to go to just beef in on Friday & Saturday nites..when you don't anyone to come pick you up....cause you don't have a car LOL that's JMO
 daylillies
Joined: 9/26/2005
Msg: 97
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/21/2006 12:19:58 AM
thanx Optism(hugs)....but were wasting our time hun. does it really matter if we have a car or not...i mean really...i can think of better things to really worry bout. very petty to behave this way. you dont have a car...thats great...thats ur choice....not gonna sit here an waste my time or justify as to why i do....... hope you find ur answers..


rapid..i dont have a problem with anyone not having a car hun...i was merely suggesting...i dont like being taken for granted an to be expected ...cause i have a car....and thats my choice....thats all. i truly respect the fact you made a great effort rapid....it shows class on your part.(hugs)
 RabidWolverine
Joined: 3/17/2006
Msg: 98
Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/21/2006 5:07:31 AM
ya even though a guy shows class and makes an effort..he is tossed away to the wolves because oh my god..he does not own a car. It is like the other women I have met or talked to that say "You rent? You loser own a condo or a house then we can talk"
Ya well for myself I am a single guy, no need for me to be buying a house or a condo at this point. But again car, house/condo and then the inevitable "tyoe of job/income" is the 3rd judgement. Unreal how those 3 things seem to make the man either a loser or worthwhile...but in ever woman's ad never does it state either of those 3 things, always "I want to meet someone who is down to earth, treats a woman right.
I guess car, house/condo and job/income is what that means?
LOL
Hey I live in the east end of Toronto I would take the bloody subway in a snowstorm or the coldest day of the year to see a woman if she lived in the west end..big deal...Oh ya I forgot, women seem to think men do not make an effort. So many replies state how women are sick of being a taxi, having to drive to the guy's place etc. Well guys like me exist..just never given a fair chance.
 christini
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 99
Dating a guy with no car...my two cents!!
Posted: 5/21/2006 6:19:47 AM
For me, there seems to be a whole new breed of men who live in their moms basements, dont work fulltime or go to school and dont have a car. If you dont have a car for ecological or logistical purposes, then who cares! If you dont have a car because it cuts into your video game funds, then it becomes a turn off. It is the men who mooch for drives, or want to drive *my* car, want me to drive their friends home etc... who are the ones who give carless men a bad name.
 Peachy1977
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 100
Dating a guy with no car...my two cents!!
Posted: 5/21/2006 7:16:48 AM
Wait, why are those of us who go to school getting lumped in with those who don't work, and live in their parents' basement? I work two jobs so I can afford to go to school, and have my own place. I did have a choice...live at home, or ride the bus. I chose the bus. According to a lot of people on here that was apparently the wrong choice.
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