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 startle
Joined: 7/22/2008
Msg: 1096
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even though average looking guys have a great reputation...they are the nice guys who no one gives a chance to...this is not always the case...you can chat up one these average guys and ending regretting it...they can be very vindictive if it doesn't end up working out...a cute guy has options...he just leaves ..moves on ..no problem...the average looking guy has to throw a few parting shots....
 startle
Joined: 7/22/2008
Msg: 1098
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:36:33 PM
division77...let's just say...homely...they have a chip on their shoulder...so watch out...in fact, any guy the least bit ordinary is dangerous...if you just stick with all those horrible "players"...you can have fun...without the drama...
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 1099
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:31:32 PM
We're busy with hot guys.

Duh.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 1100
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 11/8/2009 1:15:09 AM
OP, same reason hot guys don't want avg looking girls!! Why should they if they can get better? It's all about he/she who has the most to offer reaps the greatest rewards! Sometimes that's money, sometimes it's career, sometimes it's looks, sometimes it's... - or a combo thereof. Whatever it is though, if you wanna play with the big boys, you gotta get a bigger stick! (That was a bad pun - yikes!)
 jldude
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 1103
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 11/15/2009 5:18:05 AM
It's nature man. The more attractive a person is, the more they know it, and the pickier they are in partners. And the more "options" a person has, the less they value each of them. Not rocket science. People will say don't settle, but what you supposed to do? I say date who you can get and learn to like them, or at the very least work on yourself while you have their support. People don't like to face reality but there are damn sure "leagues" and the like. Jessica Beil would never fall for me on the street, that's why I have qualities that make up for it once a patient girl gets to know me. I've settled before and it sucks, but it's a means to an end. How do you expect someone to give you a chance if you never gave someone else a chance?
 minako79
Joined: 1/15/2009
Msg: 1104
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 12/8/2009 7:51:30 AM
bring it on! average guys are likely more of my avenue lol, i suggest they stop being shy and start asking the girls right away.

average guys know how to treat a woman better than your alpha male type.
 aSydneyMale
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 1107
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 12/8/2009 11:15:13 AM

At some point you have to really throw out the whole "no one wants me because
I'm too nice" theory and look at yourself and figure out that maybe it is you...and
maybe it's not because you're "too nice".

So true. The anger and bitterness in the 'I put her on a pedestal and made myself her own personal doormat' threads is pretty pronounced.

You can't get a woman by being a 'nice guy' and treating her like a 'princess'. You're not treating her like a real person, she becomes an object of fantasy.
 Looking For......
Joined: 7/23/2008
Msg: 1112
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 12/8/2009 4:11:46 PM
like that may have already been mentioned.

the average is the new "hot"
 letsgocanes11
Joined: 6/4/2010
Msg: 1117
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/17/2011 6:01:25 AM
I don't get this and find this post to be somewhat ridiculous. I'm nothing special when it comes to looks but I have an awesome personality, a great career, and an awesome family. I know that I have things to offer a person. I feel it is all about confidence and how you portray yourself. Any guy can snag a decent looking girl as long as he takes care of himself, dresses decent, and has some things going for him....
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 1118
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/17/2011 9:16:27 AM

to me looks are nothing. its wether you feel comfy with them and not feel awkward in any way and see a future..

Not trying to be argumentative or pick a fight, but guys, don't believe that first sentence. The second part is good if the women is in relationship-hunting mode especially... and looks aren't everything, but it doesn't have to be everything for it to be a deal-breaker.

If a guy's 4'10" with a hunchback mangled teeth, but a spectacular "personality" she wouldn't think twice about spending time with him or getting to know him anyway.

On the flip side though, if you're an Average Joe and have enough "at bats", and you make yourself a good catch on paper and take care of yourself and maximize your looks in the clean-cut dept., etc, and with some basic game, you will be able to get a girl who's considered very cute & beyond Avg Jane by almost all guys.

If they don't know you whatsoever and you're a stranger -- what else does one have to go on, but looks? And it's natural to be into looks... and everyone is... some more than others... some more picky, etc. -- but when it comes to meeting strangers, it's of a higher order in terms of getting the foot in the door -- no question about it.
 italianoblue
Joined: 12/11/2010
Msg: 1119
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/17/2011 9:31:14 AM
From the start TS put the P on a pedestal.

She is "hot"

He is "average"

Self defeating.

You are a person. She is a person. Simple.
 Cdn_Iceman
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 1120
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/17/2011 10:45:00 AM

If a guy's 4'10" with a hunchback mangled teeth, but a spectacular "personality" she wouldn't think twice about spending time with him or getting to know him anyway. -confident -realist
1) thats not a average guy 2) that guy you speak of if he has cash or fame the ladies will be lining up, look at Verne Troyer

The problem with most " average joe's" is they are insecure, intimidated by a attractive woman, ive seen plenty of average dudes with extremely attractive women but if you talk to these guys one thing you will notice about them, they are confident.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 1122
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/18/2011 10:57:23 AM

1) thats not a average guy

I wasn't responding about average guy -- but about the gal who said that looks don't mean anything to her.

that guy you speak of if he has cash or fame the ladies will be lining up, look at Verne Troyer

Sure, you can get technicalities out of anything. However, Verne Troyer is better looking than a hunchback w/ mangled teeth, and women wouldn't be lining up to do Verne Troyer, but the fame will make him have some in that line willing to, sure. Technically, a hunchback w/ mangled teeth (and lets throw in back hair) could have some fame & and an E! Entertainment rumor about a huge slong and he could get girls to "try him out". Take away fame/status & other ubur-rare oddities -- and what do you have? Something inarguable -- looks are very important to everyone.... it's not the only attribute but it's multi-dimensional and not to be ignored.
 sweetlikesugarcane
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 1123
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/18/2011 6:31:05 PM
A better question is "Why do average guys go after hot girls instead of average girls?"

If you are selecting a partner based on her looks why do you take offense if the female does the same???????
 BrookfieldMan
Joined: 2/6/2011
Msg: 1127
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/9/2011 6:24:00 PM
msg 1123
"A better question is "Why do average guys go after hot girls instead of average girls?"
If you are selecting a partner based on her looks why do you take offense if the female does the same???????"






^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^absolutely correct!!!^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

average guys want to find out what it's like to be with and to screw hot women.

if you've never experienced it i can tell you it's really overated.

they're not as much fun as average or simply pretty girls and they're more worried about their image, how they appear, being the star of the show or having their makeup or hair messed up. they don't want to kiss you because it will mess up their lipstick.

other guys are all over them when you're not around telling her how she can do better and what they have to offer. they don't put forth as much effort in the sack because they never had to.


guys- be happy to have the average chick. if you must have a hot chick get one but don't fall for her.


signed,
the voice of experience
 changingtide
Joined: 3/6/2011
Msg: 1129
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/11/2011 4:02:13 AM
I guess the question can be reversed as well: Why do hot guys never ask an average girl out?
 Anne_Shirley
Joined: 2/23/2011
Msg: 1130
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/11/2011 9:31:08 AM
They do. But most average looking guys rule themselves out first, and won`t approach them.

Think Marilyn Monroe and Arthur Miller.... it happens.... although sometimes, as in this case, it does look odd.
 cityfangels33
Joined: 2/26/2011
Msg: 1131
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/12/2011 10:55:51 AM
well i am good looking . and i will tell you its not because i dont give average guys a chance . its because of how they act . i go by the personality and how someone treats me . i dont care if your average or hot if you dont know how to treat a women forget it .
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 1132
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/12/2011 5:25:32 PM
If a woman is hot then why would she want just an average joe? She could have Mr hotbody.That would be like being a billionaire and buying some crappy little house over the huge beautiful mansion.
 CompuG8r
Joined: 10/4/2010
Msg: 1134
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/13/2011 8:12:38 AM
If a woman is hot then why would she want just an average joe?

Well, I've got a couple of theories to answer this question:

1.) Maybe the guy is confident, funny and comforting.
2.) Perhaps the guy actually listens to her.
3.) Possibly the guy is smart and wise.
4.) Maybe the guy cooks. I hear that some ladies dig that.

The bottom line is there could be any number of reasons that a very attractive woman could be attracted to, and have a long meaningful relationship with, a not so physically attractive man. It is very true that you can't judge a book by its cover. Those that don't take the time to open the book and discover the treasures inside, just might miss the happiness they've always been seeking.

Frogs can actually be princes you know; and vice-versa.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 1137
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/14/2011 1:11:23 AM

1.) Maybe the guy is confident, funny and comforting.
2.) Perhaps the guy actually listens to her.
3.) Possibly the guy is smart and wise.
4.) Maybe the guy cooks. I hear that some ladies dig that.

While those things are certainly nice,but if you don't want to knock boots with the guy then it's never going to progress pass friendship.Besides a man who is hot can be and do all those things as well,so if a woman is hot why choose the average joe when she has the options to find the entire package.Looks,loving,smart,and a great listener all rolled into one hot package.
 ferfoxache
Joined: 2/4/2011
Msg: 1140
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/15/2011 9:45:41 PM

It is very true that you can't judge a book by its cover.

Sure you can.
If you date online you are doing just that.

Unless of course you are simply attempting to date every single person signed up on this website.

Otherwise you are judging by just the cover. Maybe even less than the cover if you have an age and location range.

Don't understand why people seem to think personality and looks are two separate absolutes. They are intertwined and interrelated.
To an extent your looks influence your personality, your personality influences your looks. How people treat you is heavily influenced by how you look, which in turn affects your personality.

Not to mention you do it everyday in life. It takes 30 seconds or less to work through that computer of a brain every person you even remotely catch a glimpse of whether or not you want to romantically pursue them. You discard tons of people immediately, judging them unsuitable for further action.

Also the thing about book covers is they usually have a little synopsis of what the book is about.
Which people read and determine if they want to know more.

The thing about the book analogy is it is somewhat limited and can be abused. Simply because it presumes one party is a human being, and another a book, to be used, read, learned from, discarded, shelved, or compared and contrasted with other books.
Whereas the analogy would be more appropriate if it was somehow worked in that while you are reading their cover, they are reading yours.

I wonder if a more appropriate book analogy is when you find an author you like you tend to stick with it. That could be why people keep dating the same type of people (like douche bags) over and over and over and over again.


Frogs can actually be princes you know; and vice-versa

And frogs can be frogs and princes can be princes.
And some frogs can be sub or uber frogs and princes can be sub or uber princes.

And sometimes frogs can make themselves look like princes and get a princess to kiss them promising them they will turn into better princes if they do so, and if there is a failure to do so then the woman wasn't kissing hard enough.

And sometimes princes can disguise themselves as frogs as a means to get a princess to feel sorry for them and kiss them in hopes of turning them into better princes, which they then adopt the behavior of for a while, and in the meantime the princess is really a frogette dressed as a princess, and in the ensuing confusion of who is what 20 years and 2 kids have passed.

And just tons more combination's.


Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?

Because no one owes anyone a chance.


If a woman is hot then why would she want just an average joe?

Because attraction, dating, and mating is based on more than simply self image and self determined level of attraction.

Because "hot" is subjective in practical application.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 1141
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/15/2011 11:36:43 PM
There will be an "average guy bailout' stimulus package along anytime soon. Congress is voting on it now. Until then, amuse yourself with porn.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 1142
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/26/2011 5:21:05 PM
^^^^^^^^^ same reason a Ferrari will inspire lust and desire, where a chevette never will.
 tanzkity11
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 1143
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/26/2011 9:34:12 PM
That is funny why do average guys just want hot girls but they dont give a chance to the average girls....................what is that about..........you are average so why go for something that is above your league..............and when you do get a hot girl you become so insecure because you are average and you are always looking behind your shoulders for the hot guy who is going to take YOUR HOT GIRL....................wow talk about chasing your own tail............go ahead and enjoy your quest for a hot girl..............
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