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 GerberData
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 1144
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I think this question always comes back to knowing exactly what really is on a dating website.

I'd say 95% of the women on here are EXTREMELY shallow and selfish. That is why they don't have men currently. The good ones are already in relationships and doing what it takes to maintain them. The remaining ones have no interest in working on a real relationship.Thats why you don't get responses from them, etc. Thats probably a good thing though for you. I met one of them on here, invested in a relationship, and guess what? It ended because she was so shallow and selfish! One nice thing is that they are easy to spot on here. They have a laundry list of qualifications on their profiles to let you know not to contact them because you don't meet their expectations. They say things like "Had my fun" or "pursued my career" and are "now ready for a serious relationship". AVOID THESE LIKE THE PLAGUE! The choose themsleves over all else before; trust me, they always will.

The remaining 5% are emotionally broken, have tons on baggage, etc. There are VERY FEW on here that are truly dateable. If you don't have the time to find these (and it will take time and likley a few failures), get off these sites.
 broncsbuff
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 1145
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/27/2011 12:39:04 PM

I'd say 95% of the women on here are EXTREMELY shallow and selfish


I dont know if it is that extreme. I will say a good percentage of them are. I dont hate me for it though, when your a good looking female and get tons of messages on here, your allowed to be picky I guess.


There are VERY FEW on here that are truly dateable.


I agree. Like I said before, I really cant blame them. Im sure they have tons of guys emailing them. If your getting 10 emails a day, the first "weed out" process is gonna be your picture. If she doesnt get a little "bump" of your picture, she doesnt even read the email.

Or you actually do get a response and have to go thru three weeks of texting and emailing before they even agree to meet for a 5 minute coffee...

if your a hot girl, you dont owe it to average guys to give them the time of day.
 poferette
Joined: 2/11/2011
Msg: 1146
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/27/2011 1:02:25 PM
Why do hot guys only go out with younger women?

I don't go out with someone I don't find attractive. When I get to know someone, they can become more or less attractive. I hope that I would become more attractive to the right man.
 Argentum Crinis Philogus
Joined: 4/3/2007
Msg: 1147
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/27/2011 5:34:51 PM
Greetings,

It's wiring, genetics, etc. nothing more. At the primal level of the limbic brain, females assess males for security, quality genetics, and what level of security they are likely to provide. Males assess for the ability to produce healthy babies with positive attributes to increase long-term survivability. With regard to males, it makes no difference whether one has sired children or their chronological age. If they have a libido, males will always seek the healthiest looking female partner with which to breed.
Further, with regard to looks. Females will rarely partner with a male who is lower on the "looks" scale without some overriding quality, e.g. wealth for security. Recent research indicates that males and females will partner with mates who are at the same level of a 10-point scale, when all else is equal.

So males who want to rise above their physical attractiveness scale had better have an overwhelming level of something else the female strongly desires to override the male's attractiveness deficits.

Best,

ACP
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 1148
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/27/2011 5:54:04 PM
@GerberData:

I'd say 95% of the women on here are EXTREMELY shallow and selfish. That is why they don't have men currently. The good ones are already in relationships and doing what it takes to maintain them. The remaining ones have no interest in working on a real relationship.


Wow...nothing like hearing from a bitter person with a non-scientific survey. May I point out a few things to you?
1) YOU are on this website, and apparently don't currently have a female partner. So are you shallow, selfish and unwilling to maintain a real relationship? By your own standards, that must be the case.
2) Some of us have had wonderful, successful and lengthy relationships that were cut short by the deaths of our partners/spouses, or by other circumstances such as job moves where one partner could not follow the other. We know how good it CAN be - so we take our time and keep fishing. That doesn't mean we don't want a relationship. In fact, we probably want one even more than you do, but not with just anybody.
3) Your attitude is unattractive. A man with your negativity is easy to spot - and avoid. Good luck with all that.

 cenomeno
Joined: 4/21/2010
Msg: 1149
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/27/2011 6:26:45 PM
Most average girls have a distorted idea of "beauty", especially if they're online. Because of all the attention they're getting from horny men. There is nothing worse than an average woman who thinks she's the hottest thing on this planet. They're average and have the attitude of a princess.

therefore, I rather go after the hot one as I am going to deal with her "attitude" either way.
That being said, average doesn't mean good personality either. I've known extremely evil ugly ducks in my time.

my $0.02 ... proceed .....


 springnmystep
Joined: 3/18/2011
Msg: 1150
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/27/2011 6:56:30 PM
Hello all,

Just as men, I have to have the "eye" connection first. Unfortunately on the computer that is all we have, then the words follow.

What I think is a "hot" guy, my friends turn up their noses. So meaning of "hot" is what you want it to be.

I just want to make sure that since I have put myself out there, I want it to be the best that can be, both visual and psuedo audio (my words). I made sure that I did not use the less than flattering pictures of me. I also chose my words so they were meant to touch not torture.

Good luck to all of you and your "hotness".
 ultragain
Joined: 2/28/2011
Msg: 1153
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/27/2011 10:17:25 PM
1149: There is nothing worse than an average woman who thinks she's the hottest thing on this planet.

No, but children having their limbs blown off by landmines comes pretty close.

They're average and have the attitude of a princess.

That average girl/princess is a “they” now? Sorta like a plague?

Therefore, I rather go after the hot one as I am going to deal with her "attitude" either way.

Ah, the hot ones have the same princess attitude as the average ones, so might as well get a hot one? Just trying to keep up here.

That being said, average doesn't mean good personality either.

Definitely not - I think we established that.

I've known extremely evil ugly ducks in my time.

Ah, and the ugly ones are evil too.


Well, I'd say you covered the topic!
 GerberData
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 1154
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/28/2011 9:06:06 AM
Wow, I made someone angry!

I left room in there for a VERY FEW good women (and I assume the men can be just as bad, I just don't know as I am not trying to date them) to exist.

My attitude? Heck, if you don't realize these things, your attitude will get bad as you try to make contacts. Its more of a "keep your chin up and know your target" attitude. But if you feel better scolding me, more power to ya!
 GerberData
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 1155
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/28/2011 9:09:55 AM
I believe most of this. Its probably why I attract more women in person than online (but I hate just trolling bars, etc., for women). However, I have always been way more attracted to personality then looks. Thats what is so hard out here and part of the problem.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 1156
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/30/2011 5:29:53 PM
Rather than read through all 40+ pages I'm simply responding to the TITLE;

Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?


If you're sitting around waiting to be given the CHANCE for anything you'll always be on the bench! Either get out there, swing and miss until you start hitting them or sit in the stands....
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 1160
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/1/2011 9:15:38 PM
^^^
Bingo.
And also seem to be no longer attracted to shallow.

Gonna have to have a guy team confab on this.
And either figure out how to acquire some depth.
Or fake it better.
:-P
 WalksOnWater2
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 1168
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/10/2011 1:02:50 AM
It's too bad I've never been a hot girl who dated average guys and therefore I don't qualify to answer this brainy question.

But since this is an absolutely important subject, could someone please point me to the page (out of 45 and counting) that a qualified hot girl dating the loser answered?

Merci beaucoup!



 Cdn_Iceman
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 1169
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/10/2011 8:08:12 AM

This is the real deal. I think a lot of people are influenced by what they see in movies or TV. Guys who are fat and unattractive (2 TV shows that come to mind, but I don't remember the names) with slender, very pretty wives. Movies where the same happens, and where actors 50 and 60 years old have 'wives' who are in their 30's. So, people who are influenced by fiction think it is that way too in reality. It isn't. A guy who is pudgy, at best, and very ordinary is not going to attract what our culture considers a 'hot' woman, younger or the same age. Not unless he's got a lot of money.-Holly Golightly1

Holly I have to say you're dead on balls there , the only thing I will add to that is throw in Fame for what ever reason and yes you can attract the " hot" if the average guy or below average looking guy doesn't have money or fame he can forget it, its movies like " she's out of my league" that tells the average guy yes you have a shot and go for it.


6 year old thread, and it seems like we've made no progress at all. mrcs84
I dont often agree with you but this one is dead on balls.


If you want a total babe with an athletic body, get on her level. Put a little swag in your game. And hey, if Ron Jeremy can do it, so can you. *new motto*- you are not alone
very true, but one thing If Ron Jeremy wasn't a porn star he would be just another hump most hot women would laugh at and have nothing to do with.
 elkcall
Joined: 1/4/2011
Msg: 1170
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/10/2011 10:00:31 AM
Why would a hot woman want an average looking guy when they have a higher probability of getting hotter men? If I was hot I would want hot men!
 Home_for_30
Joined: 2/6/2010
Msg: 1172
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/13/2011 9:06:27 AM
Shouldn't this thread win an award for the longest running 'nice guy and not deleted' threat on here? But my 2 cents....normally I agreee with the handful of posters saying that hot attracts hot...it's bread into people I think. But yet I personally know a few average guys that have not so shallow yet hot wives. And I just returned from Vegas and actually remarked about the huge amount of 'hot' women with average looking, out of shape, no fashion sense, loud mouth clowns that I have ever seen! Maybe they all have a huge.....wallet????
 cenomeno
Joined: 4/21/2010
Msg: 1174
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/14/2011 8:05:17 AM

Why would a hot woman want an average looking guy when they have a higher probability of getting hotter men? If I was hot I would want hot men!


Exactly! A little bit of common sense goes a long way, eh -

It's like asking, " Hey! I am lazy and I don't like to work but how come I don't have any money ? "



 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 1175
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/14/2011 8:16:30 AM

Why would a hot woman want an average looking guy when they have a higher probability of getting hotter men? If I was hot I would want hot men!


It has been my perception that very hot women, do not necessarily go for very hot men. Hot women may go for attractive guys but they tend to focus more on the character of that person, the confidence and attitude, than looks.

More often than not, you see the hot woman with a guy that looks rather average and normal.
 DTFan88
Joined: 6/8/2010
Msg: 1176
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/14/2011 9:10:34 AM
^^^Probably because the hot guys are also often "high maintenance". 2 high maintenance people together probably wouldn't mesh well.
 mrcs84
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/14/2011 9:14:15 AM

More often than not, you see the hot woman with a guy that looks rather average and normal.


I remember us talking about such a thing in my astronomy class of all things.
My teacher asked the question, "ladies, can a guy be -too- attractive." 1 or 2 said no, but they obviously didn't get the point he was trying to make. The more attractive you are, the more people of the opposite sex are going to try to get with you. And based on the old axiom, the more likely a guy is going to cheat seeing how he is a "hot commodity."
 DuranR77
Joined: 5/1/2011
Msg: 1179
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 5/24/2011 4:17:49 PM
Tuche.....

Hmmm --- well to tell you the truth. there are always exceptions, so its good to keep your hopes up.. I am average I'd think.. I'm like a 7.5 or something.. It's my opinion, I'm harsh on myself, or maybe i'm being too good to myself whatever it may be. I think I'm in that area..

And I won't mess with a 5 or a 6, in terms of looks, but there was this girl that I met and she was a 6 in terms of her weight and height etc.. But she was the most charming sweetest girl EVER. and she made me really happy and made me laugh a lot, I was so into this girl! but so was tons of other guys.. she's engaged now.. DAMMMITTT!!!!!!!! lol
 curiouss211
Joined: 1/15/2011
Msg: 1180
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 5/24/2011 6:33:13 PM
What an insane question/thread. Not true. Open your eyes and look around. There is so much more to a person than looks. Can't believe I said that as I am as shallow as they come, but learning new things all the time. In the real world, plenty beautiful girls are with average men, and many gorgeous men are with average women. I know a man who looks like he stepped out of GQ magazine. When I am in the same room with him, I cannot help but stare. He is married to an average at best woman, but she has a big heart made of gold. He is also very wealthy, and according to this thread, could have had any woman he wanted. I'm sure he could have had his pick of the litter, but to him, his wife is the most beautiful woman. Who am I to judge. It only matters what he thinks. I cannot believe I even responded to this thread.
 Cdn_Iceman
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 1185
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 5/31/2011 11:53:17 AM
Some of you guys kills me sometimes, You want attractive women, thin, hot, smoking bodies almost a 10 when most of the guys barely rate as a 6? how delusional is that?

International dating scene ? ROFL oh my has it really come down to this ? folks you can find quality women in your own back yard, the difference is most of you " nice guys" attitudes well to say it nicely " blows dead bears"

You have this entitlement issue thing going on, Oh you have a job, pay your taxes, believes in God and Country and Only eats apple pie with vanilla ice cream and you think that entitles you the woman of your dreams.

Some of you needs to wake up from your delusional dream and face reality, even if you go over seas and find your thin beautiful bride and bring them back to America, what happens in ten years when she becomes " westernized" learns the language, and decides " oh there is more to life than sitting home couped up being a sex slave to a husband that is too insecure to let her have friends"

I dont care how many stats you show me about the divorce rate is low among foreign brides, I like to see the stats of women living in America with their hubbies after 10 years .
 SingleGuy4912
Joined: 7/25/2006
Msg: 1186
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Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 5/31/2011 12:23:01 PM
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?

Because hot women have a much larger dating pool than everyone else so they can be more picky.

Here's the pecking order:

1) Hot guy with money

2) Hot guy, tied with
3) Average guy with money

4) Average guy, tied with
5) Ugly guy with money

6) Ugly guy

 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 1187
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 5/31/2011 1:12:44 PM

who wants hot chick anyway, Id rather have an average lookin chick any day. I find alot of the time hot chicks think they are IT, just because they got a pretty face and big boobs, when most of the time they have a personality that completley sucks! Plus shes got guys hitting on her constantly. Average looking girls aint see full of themselves, they enjoy a compliment better and are more faithfull.


Is that Maroon one playing?^^^^^^^^^^
That is what most Dull Dudleys with under developed self esteem and no mojo think.

Why don't average looking guys give good looking women the benefit of the doubt or the opportunity to show them different?

CHICKEN SHIOT that's why.

It may take some effort or old fashioned wooing..geez.

Where are the Llamas?




It's too bad I've never been a hot girl


^^^^^^^ Oh please you know you beez hawt..LOL
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