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 Changing_Skies
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 1215
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?Page 46 of 48    (8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48)
The better question is why do average looking guys want hot girls while overlooking the average looking girl?

There you have your answer.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 1216
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/4/2011 1:59:49 PM

Most people date those who in the same realm of attractiveness.


I regularly date women outside of my realm...in both directions...fairly evenly.

I think it happens more than people realize... I tend not to date anyone i haven't known for several months first though. I have noticed that hot girls who initially don't find me attractive at first begin to start seeing me different after getting to know me and I do the same with some women. I will admit though that the less attractive women tended to offer NSA....some have become girlfriends, others FWB and others....well lets just say nothing became of it.


You seem more of a "mans man" to me! hehe.. But thats opinion I suppose...


If by "man's man", you mean the kind that other men look up to...yes, that happens sometimes.
If you're implying that I appeal to homosexuals, well that has happened quite often too...especially while I was in the military.
If you're implying that I AM a homosexual, well...sorry to disappoint you...I'm not.
....I am in no way homophobic, annoyed or disgusted by them though. If that's their thing, let them have at it...I'd prefer not to have to see it in public, but then I don't want to see too much PDA from anyone.


Oh my!
meaning absolutely no disrespect to either the Prof or jco-but do we have a little same-gender crush going on here, Prof?


Meh, it happens... it doesn't bother me as long as they don't bother me.


Whenever I hear this about hot girls it always gives me the impression that the person doesn't really care about the person's personality and qualities as much as their looks, like some trophy they can parade around saying look what I can get to boost their self-esteem with little regard to who the person really is inside.


I often get accused of that by people who don't know me well...Like I said above I tend to only date after getting to know them well, sometimes I'm surprised that a girl gets interested and sometimes I've surprised a girl by BEING interested.


As to the OT, I think that the title question itself indicates that the OP is being shallow about things...because they DO give average guys a chance, if said guy takes the time to get to know them for WHO they are and not what they LOOK like.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 1217
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/4/2011 2:06:15 PM
Why would anyone settle for dog food when they can get a nice juicy steak?
 Casper66
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 1218
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Posted: 6/4/2011 3:37:42 PM
Message 1216, I have to agree, some of my longest relationships happened when I knew the guy for awhile as a friend, we got to know each other then started dating. Perhaps that is the problem for alot of people dating nowadays they don't want to take the time to get to know each other, but then we do live in a society that promotes instant gratification, so now we are seeing that behaviour in dating.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 1222
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Posted: 6/6/2011 2:01:45 PM
^^^ You're coming very close to quoting from the "ladder theory". Which always gives me a laugh.
 sweetest
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 1223
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Posted: 6/6/2011 2:53:39 PM

A lot of folks are clueless as to what league they're trying to play in.

^^^I don't tend to buy that. I think that a lot of people are clued in but perhaps unaccepting.

Most of us have had years of 'functioning' socially where we're 'at'. And most by thirty at least have more than a cursory understanding about their particular attractiveness quotient simply by going through high-school, and certainly if not then, by going to college and university.

For whatever reason, not everyone can accept particular personal 'realities' and within a fast-paced 'quick-glance' marketplace environment like POF: a place where the 'highly desired and universally coveted' will always have ample choices...

The reality is that this interface for meeting for the purposes of dating may not work equally well for all those who may want to ante up. Part of being successful here is understanding your particular cachet is and knowing how, when and what else to bring to the table.
 OzzGirl22
Joined: 8/17/2009
Msg: 1225
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/10/2011 2:30:32 PM
I agree. You have to look at the whole package. Looks, personality, self esteem, integrity all add up to whether the person is attractive or not to me.
And, I have found that confidence is extremely sexy and attractive.
 LaDBug
Joined: 5/18/2011
Msg: 1226
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/10/2011 5:26:27 PM
I've dated "average" (whatever that means) looking guys with average incomes who are amazing in many ways and I have dated gorgeous men who were shallow. I don't think it's fair to throw stones at us "hot" girls. We are not all shallow. I think that there are just shallow people and that includes average looking guys. Perhaps it is you who is not giving the hot girls a fair shake and the fact that you are bitter is probably evident.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 1227
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/10/2011 5:55:34 PM

I don't think it's fair to throw stones at us "hot" girls.


...But then HOT is quite subjective now, isn't it?
 GreenEyedSusan1
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 1228
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/10/2011 9:38:28 PM
In your case, jco415... yes.
 gengen2
Joined: 1/3/2011
Msg: 1229
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Posted: 6/10/2011 9:59:57 PM
because when a person is online, all we really have to go off of are pictures. i read a lot of profiles, even of some guys i'm not attracted to, just out of curiosity... but won't message the guy because I'm just not attracted. However, if i met an average guy out in public by chance, and we got to talking he could win me over with his personality and charm..... BUT the chemistry and attraction still must be there. when i meet someone, the question i ask myself (as to whether i want to see the guy again or not) is, "can i imagine getting it on with this guy?" ... if the answer is no, then i don't want another date. Cause if it gets to the point where i marry a dude and we are hating each other, i want to still look at him and feel attracted. looks aren't everything, no.... but it IS important.

Another reason: i work hard to look good, i work out 5 days a week, eat vegetables that i don't particularly enjoy eating, i make the time and effort to have a beautiful, sexy looking body. So of course i expect the same in a prospective mate. Plus, working out and health/fitness is an interest of mine, a way of life... so someone who shares that interest attracts me even more to them.

Another reason: Genetics. Beauty and intelligence are genetic. I want more kids and am genetically programmed to choose the better looking guy, the stronger guy, the smarter guy, the more successful guy.... it is human nature. Just like men are programmed to choose the most beautiful woman with child bearing hips, who looks fertile. It's nature. That coupled with pheromones is how we choose mates. Nowadays, since there are so many choices for everybody and women can make their own money.... women can be even more picky about our mates.

i'll just stop here.
 Penpal46
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 1230
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/11/2011 6:11:36 PM
How about because "average" guys don't have the confidence. I've had men tell me they would Never ask me out because they would be too scared to be turned down!



Really guys? News flash! Hot women sit alone too. We get rejected too. And we have feelings too. "Nothing ventured nothing gained " You understand that right?
 DoubleParked
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 1231
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Posted: 6/11/2011 6:21:54 PM
Exactly right! ^^^Why don't those 'average joes' give us hot women a second glance? Man up, you never know who might say YES!
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 1232
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 7/21/2011 7:12:11 AM
Chitownguy40

I couldnt have said it better. Wow they shop for women like they do shirts. All they are really worried about is what is on the outside and rarely if ever what is going on inside of the woman. Why not pick a woman not because of her looks but because she is a nice girl???? Grow up. I have had men in their 50's and 60's tell me how a 20 minute conversation about a good looking person's is a compliment and a good thing. Most likely she looked at you and decided you guys have nothing in common so why waste your time and her's??? Come on stop with the high school antics and be a adult. PS also she know you are just using her for looks and it will end badly.
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 1233
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Posted: 7/21/2011 7:14:17 AM

studies show that relationships where the woman is more attractive and more intelligent than the man, are also the happiest relationships.


Can you please paste those studies?? Because I have read that men who seek very pretty women tend to be narcissistic regardless of their own looks.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 1234
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Posted: 7/21/2011 8:32:43 AM





I don't think it's fair to throw stones at us "hot" girls.

...But then HOT is quite subjective now, isn't it?


Thanks for expressing that, JCO. I was trying to figure out a way to say exactly that without coming off sounding like a complete a**, and you hit the nail on the head.
 johnnyj218
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 1236
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Posted: 7/21/2011 12:44:10 PM
It's funny how many of you women keep saying "Us hot girls" lol. Well, they say the less attractive have to make up for it with high self-esteem, so good for you!
 _shakti_
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 1239
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 7/21/2011 4:09:32 PM
Johnny:
It's funny how many of you women keep saying "Us hot girls" lol. Well, they say the less attractive have to make up for it with high self-esteem, so good for you!
Hahaha, ouch! lol..

47 pages, wow.

One of my good friends, a rather beautiful girl, married a man that I thought was not very physically attractive at all, but she thought he was of God status!

I've dated men who others would comment about, 'why are you dating him?' based on his looks, and I've danced with men that others thought were not attractive and had them actually comment about it, look at me like I'm strange. To be honest, I don't get this whole 'league' thing. The 'attractive scale' thing where you are supposed to stick to your own or something.

I'm not interested in what I term 'looks oriented' people, and that one cuts both ways.
 morta1ez
Joined: 9/3/2009
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Posted: 7/22/2011 8:40:53 PM
is anyone who has lived on this planet long enough to reach legal smoking age, really surprised that beautiful women and rich men can write their own check in this world?
A hot chic can be a waitress and date a lawyer or a doctor, not the same for a man even if he looks like he should be on the cover of a romance novel. And a rich guy who looks like jiminy Glick can be at the club with a girl on his arm that looks like he shook a playboy and a centerfold fell out.

Like the rock once said "know your role"
 morta1ez
Joined: 9/3/2009
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Posted: 7/22/2011 10:26:36 PM

I have dated many of these so called hot women. I'm a good looking dude, not outta my league. Are they true blue heck I wanna have a relationship type? Nope. Looks are just part of the package, cute face is a must. I don't need a trophy, just someone that is my equal. I'm looking for a sweetheart.. A good one for me...


No offense man but

Not saying you are an ugly dude or anything but your not exactly what they will be casting in some future CW drama, not saying I would either(even with the extra point added for being 6ft5) but there are 2 standards of beauty/hansom, they kind thats personal taste and the kind that's universal, the the universal types end up as leads on CW dramas and the personal taste types play their friends/ cousins and boss's.
 morta1ez
Joined: 9/3/2009
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Posted: 7/23/2011 2:16:16 AM
From those that like my physical type my pics do just fine. and though my attraction ratio is not 100% like yours , I never had a problem meeting women or getting dates or even relationships for that matter, I work out, I've lost 115lbs with in 2 years of my divorce(only took me 4 months), oh and I dont like fake photos, from women so I wont do fake photos myself.

My hatred on the dating scene is all the women who CLAIM to want LTR but want to still act single once a relationship starts. Too many in this world have no idea how to conduct themselves while in a relationship.
 Here_In_Florida
Joined: 4/4/2011
Msg: 1253
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Posted: 7/23/2011 4:07:58 AM
I heard on the radio that average looking men make for being better in marriages or LTR's than their tall, dark and handsome counter parts.


But yeah, LadBug, you'd be surprised how many average looking people that desire the BEST in physical. Kinda blows my mind. I have dated mostly average looking women, but I have gone out with a couple of knock outs ( at least in my eyes).
 RichenLosAngeles
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 1257
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Posted: 7/23/2011 8:02:02 AM
Average-looking would be an upgrade for me!!
What are you complaining about?
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2011 9:21:56 AM

Here's a better question: why do so many guys--regardless of what they look like--think getting a "hot" woman is so freakin' important? Grow up.


Well, at least it makes more sense than women who deliberately choose "bad boys"! ;-p
 jasonsgt
Joined: 1/30/2011
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Posted: 7/23/2011 8:17:53 PM
Damn such a simple question has garnered 48 pages of replies.

Answer: Because they know their looks can get them the hottest guy they want.

Thread closed ****es!
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