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 thehoneybear
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If I could actually find a man to listen and do things the way I like them, and not try to just pretend to so he can get "his"?

YES, of course I'd pay.


If I understand you correctly Booyahhh, you are saying that if boyfriend/fiance/husband
Asked you what you wanted, actually listened, then did what you told him with a genuine sense of passion and excitement about doing it, then that man would be your own personal sexual hero?
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2011 4:28:43 PM

If I could actually find a man to listen and do things the way I like them, and not try to just pretend to so he can get "his"?


Seems to me that if the man you are with, doesn't do that, you're with the wrong man...
I learned a long long long time ago, that to keep a woman coming back for more, you give her what she wants... and more so...
It's easier for a man to get laid, to have the woman begging him for sex, rather than him begging her for sex...
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2011 4:32:34 PM

call someone in to give me a massage/stroke my back for an hour or so while I lie on my front and doze in bed.

After reading these threads, I m amazed that so many women get treated so badly when it comes to sex...
A good massage can be both foreplay, and afterplay and even during...
And should be a regular part of the pleasure for the woman (or the man)...

Why do so many women settle for less than they would like?
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2011 4:35:25 PM

But suppose there were 5 men at a bar / club / dating site that I thought were attractive and I asked each one of them to have sex with me, I think at least 1 or 2 of them would say yes.

You'd get similar results if you asked 5 'platonic' male friends too.... you'd find that 'platonic' only goes so far...
 kayliecat
Joined: 12/8/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2011 6:26:12 PM
Beh, I wouldnt' want a massage before or after. I like to give the massage though. That's more my style for before.

After, I mean, really after, like when I'm exhausted, I wanna eat, sleep, watch tv. maybe talk. But not touch, particularly.

Or...then there are the times where it's have alittle sex, relax chat, more sex, relax, eat, more sex, etc...til we collapse!

But still massage? Nah...not me. I'm weird though. I love to touch but having my back rubbed does little for me. And hate having my head rubbed.

And yes it's true, a lot of sex isn't good enough to want more of it. Really good partners are few and far between. Which is one reason why it's so frustrating when you lose a REALLy good partner! BUt I still would not be willing to pay for it. The guy being there out of choice, out of desire, out of being hot for my bod, is a BIG part of the attraction in the first place. I want to be WANTED when I'm getting turned on...

and honestly? I don't get how guy's *don't* get that. How can you enjoy sex with a woman who is thinking about buying groceries while she fake moans and pretends to want you- when you know she is just happy to get grocery money?

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 AmityOutcast
Joined: 5/15/2011
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Posted: 5/23/2011 7:18:07 PM
"You don't pay a ho to f**k you, you pay her to leave." -Victor Sweet (4 Brothers)
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 462
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Posted: 5/23/2011 8:07:50 PM
The guy being there out of choice, out of desire, out of being hot for my bod, is a BIG part of the attraction in the first place. I want to be WANTED when I'm getting turned on...

Why would you think he couldn't be turned on just because you're paying him?

and honestly? I don't get how guy's *don't* get that. How can you enjoy sex with a woman who is thinking about buying groceries while she fake moans and pretends to want you- when you know she is just happy to get grocery money?

While that might describe a lot of encounters between escorts and clients, it's not always that way nor necessarily as impersonal as you might think. The women who have taken me out and paid for the most expensive lunches and dinners I've ever had any woman pay for, were escorts (on their time, not mine). Two have wanted to date me and I did date one of them for a short time. Others have called me up to just chit-chat or to hang out (unpaid). In general, the sex is a little less satisfying than with a civilian, but not always. Seeing an escort is not like depicted on TV. (I'm not talking about picking up a streetwalker. I know nothing about that sort of encounter, but I imagine it would be very impersonal. I'm also not talking about someone who's getting only grocery money.)

Escorts on the internet can be found on escort sites that are much like pof and other dating sites. Guys and girls can talk to each other, send messages back and forth and even go to meet-and-greets to see if they click at all before ever setting up a visit. They aren't going to fall in love with a guy (although that does happen), but most guys who see escorts are trying to avoid exactly that. On the other hand, any escort I ever saw, I knew at least as well as I knew women I met from here the same way I knew them from here - messages and phone calls.

My best friend is an escort and although I've never had sex with her, we've been best friends for more than three years and we talk almost every day. I do know what goes on in her mind with clients because she often tells me about her day and sometimes, she gets a client that rocks her world. With some clients, she's ``thinking about buying groceries.'' With others, she's definitely not thinking about buying groceries.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Posted: 5/24/2011 11:57:54 AM

... and honestly? I don't get how guy's *don't* get that. How can you enjoy sex with a woman who is thinking about buying groceries while she fake moans and pretends to want you- when you know she is just happy to get grocery money?


While I agree with Abe - (because I heard it’s true) there is often enough personal interaction and connection before the act to establish some rapport. I think you underestimate the capacity of subjective enhancement: if she’s attractive to me (and why else would I choose her?), I like her, she smiled at me and we are intimate: she MUST like me. People in serious relationships aren’t any less likely to be considering the merits and deficiencies of their grocery lists while they get a little bit of the same ol’ same ol’.
 m_church
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Posted: 5/24/2011 3:58:09 PM

how does this get translated into a belief that i get treated badly when it comes to sex???

Umm now YOU'RE taking things too seriously, I was actually being a little sarcastic... and didn't mean like anyone was being abused.... Considering that I don't understand why women don't simply ask for what they want....
 m_church
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Posted: 5/24/2011 3:59:29 PM

and honestly? I don't get how guy's *don't* get that. How can you enjoy sex with a woman who is thinking about buying groceries while she fake moans and pretends to want you- when you know she is just happy to get grocery money?

That sounds an awful lot like married sex....
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 467
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Posted: 7/22/2011 3:43:38 PM
AAAAAHHHHHH Let me think about it, NO!!!! Getting laid is easy,,,,, AND I get dinner too.
 MissBabyDoll10
Joined: 12/28/2010
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Posted: 8/4/2011 10:20:12 PM
Yes yes I would. I love my privacy & just got divorced a year ago & would love great sex without a relatonship or a guy asking to see me again ect... & I would like sex that is safe & what I like without any lip service or macho ego bs! Just hot sex the way I like it & no calls,text messages or surprize visits.Less talk more Action & No risk Of STD'S
 MissBabyDoll10
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Posted: 8/4/2011 10:25:29 PM
I am being honest with you here but most women here are looking for serious dates with men & I am just looking for good company now & then because I do the Four Man Plan by book author: Cindy Lu so alot of women are not going to admit that they would pay a male hooker for sex,though perhaps some might,many won't tell the truth on a dating website when they are seeking good men to date.
 TopGun4U79
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Posted: 8/4/2011 11:15:02 PM
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Honesty! Very refreshing!
 sensualseekerns
Joined: 6/1/2010
Msg: 471
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Posted: 8/4/2011 11:16:29 PM
At least you are honest about it. I know a few women who paid a friend of mine for that service. He was very discrete for the most part, and that was what they absolutely required more then anything. He limited himself to those three women and only those three women, and the irony was that woman 1 recommended him to woman 2, and woman 2 to woman 3, etc. I only found out because he got drunk and spilled the beans to me because I was someone he could trust not to name names. I have a couple other male friends that have done the escort stint. They know not to name names, but they were both pretty boys and both in high demand on weekends when I knew them a few years ago.

It used to go on in the gym that I used to attend as well. The guys with big equipment other then their arm size got a lot of play. It was more often about favors then just money, but some guys had no qualms about flapping their mouth about making money at it. Some women are just as bad about who they do to get the bragging rights. In that way they seem to be just as bad at the locker room mindset as men.

The sad truth is though that some men would probably provide it for free to some of their close women friends, if those women just asked. But women who pay usually want the whole package, not just the physical. Some of them want the big gorilla and wild rough sex, some want the romantic pretty man, others want to feel like a mix of slut and queen.

That's been my experience at least.

 bebop50
Joined: 1/23/2010
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Posted: 8/4/2011 11:25:23 PM
You seem very sure about that.seems highly unlikely you would always prevail!!!
 MissBabyDoll10
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Posted: 8/4/2011 11:27:21 PM
I agree & it's totally private & confidential.If you work & never have time to meet great guys this would be perfect.why pay for it if it's free some say? ask the millions of women who have been cheated on by the dudes with the free weeney & see why ok? alot of guys will cheat in the blink of an eye & give you a free std,yeast infection or unwanted pregnancy,sometimes all 3 or more! Paying a professional for great service is a much better idea.Sex therapy is a good thing & women should embrace it but I understand that this is a dating site so I won't blow anyones cover just sayin' It's a cool idea & worth looking into.
 bebop50
Joined: 1/23/2010
Msg: 474
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Posted: 8/4/2011 11:36:43 PM
this seems so bogus.I doubt any ladies would actually admit to it anyway.Women would view a yes answer degrading!!
 MissBabyDoll10
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Posted: 8/4/2011 11:53:51 PM
Bogus? why? this is reality & there are plenty of male strippers who are not gay & plenty of escort services made for lonely women. I think men who work professionally as male hookers are the best bet & I don't see why anyone would be so surprized that women would willingly pay for sex with a hot young male.? It's mind boggling to think otherwise.Women are not stupid & we love sex very much & some of us just want sex after getting free of a long term marriage or relationship while other women like the thrill of it all & the great thing is,no one ever has to know about it!!!
 MissBabyDoll10
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Posted: 8/4/2011 11:58:26 PM
women shouldn't have to admit it should they? what for? This is a dating site but the topic is interesting however yet it should be posted on another site for a much better response. Maybe some women feel like they are being insulted but I feel it's much more of an insult for a guy to try & use a woman for sex after tricking her into believing he cared for her.A male prostitute gives pleasure without any pain,and Sex is natural & good when no one gets hurt with it.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 8/5/2011 1:13:18 AM

Paying a professional for great service is a much better idea.Sex therapy is a good thing & women should embrace it but I understand that this is a dating site so I won't blow anyones cover just sayin' It's a cool idea & worth looking into

Ding! Somebody who gets it. I agree. It's easy to go on lots of bad dates that end in nothing. At least an escort is someone you pick, who caters to you and who is a sure thing.
 chris1073
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Posted: 8/5/2011 4:14:02 AM
i will do anything u want $$$$$$$$;)
 JONITA
Joined: 8/24/2009
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Posted: 8/5/2011 11:00:13 AM
Dah! Why would I pay for it when I can get it for free?
 Naadirah
Joined: 6/3/2011
Msg: 480
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Posted: 8/5/2011 11:13:51 AM
If all I want is meaningless sex, there is plenty of opportunity for that. That is what I keep turning down, from ad young as 20 and these guys are built. As for STD free sex, there is never a guarantee even with constant testing and condoms. It takes some STDs 3 months to decade to show up. Men are not even tested for HPV and women only every 2 years lucky.

NSA sex with a hot young male is readily available. Good conversation and a date to the theatre (not movie), not so much.
 Naadirah
Joined: 6/3/2011
Msg: 481
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Posted: 8/5/2011 11:28:58 AM
My other thought is if a child is made from said business venture, who is responsible? Any man seriously thinking about being available for a price may want to seriously think about a vasectomy. No birth control is 100% effective, and what if the client lies? This option would be cheaper than invitro.
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