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 Inspirational_1
Joined: 3/18/2006
Msg: 51
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I was just waiting for that...

Of course I meant the coffee, that's what I get for trying to post after a long week of work..LOL (and not on street corner..hehe)
 *Sugar/Spice*
Joined: 2/6/2006
Msg: 52
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/2/2006 11:29:40 AM

smoking turns any girl into trash

eeeee9 you forgot to mention that it does the same for men!
 Jynx_2005
Joined: 10/13/2004
Msg: 53
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/2/2006 12:28:43 PM
•teeth- if the teeth are no good, the man is no good.

•sense of humor- how many dates with boring people do you have to go on before you find a decent one?

•smell- If I meet them and I can smell them a mile away, its bad

•foot fetish- If I find out that a guy has a foot fetish, he isn't my type. Not that I don't appreciate that, just that it isn't my thing. Feet freak me out.

•Not Well Educated- If they don't know what they are talking about, screw them. They shouldn't be saying anything at all.
•grammar errors- having to correct them every 2 seconds
•significant spelling errors in messages- they won't even get the first date

•If you don't click- If it doesn't happen, then it just doesn't happen. Theres no reason to be butthurt if somebody doesn't like you. It doesn't mean that theres anything wrong with you, just that you aren't their type.

I can be too picky though. I almost passed up my boyfriend because on the first date, I thought that he was boring until later on. We haven't been apart since. He is the most wonderful person ever!

 Say Hi to David
Joined: 8/2/2004
Msg: 54
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/2/2006 12:50:18 PM
General commentary on this:

* If you read the collective mindset of this thread's posts, you would imagine that there are VERY few second dates happening.

* Since I seek an ensemble of a person, I don't try to find deal breakers. Instead, I try to find if she hits many of my "must haves".

* If you are yourself on a date as you should be, then you should just know instead of thinking they have to "earn it".
 sexxxyashell
Joined: 1/13/2006
Msg: 55
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/2/2006 2:21:30 PM
I've been lucky and have managed to avoid the bad hygiene situation so far, but one thing that just picks my a$$ is the need for some people to share their war stories! We've all had a life and I'm sure we've all been hurt, but we're trying to build something positive here ladies, so lets avoid the negativity. Oh yes, facial hair is a definate nono, superficial is gonna make things die, needing a drink as opposed to just wanting one...that doesn't float my boat either, pulling out a joint, nopers, and here's the best one i saved for last: My ex is in prison for aggravated assault causing bodily harm and he says when he gets out he wants to kill me!!!!!!!!!!
 Verissa
Joined: 1/7/2006
Msg: 56
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/2/2006 3:03:49 PM
I was set up on a date with a man about three and a half- four years ago. We both worked in the Customer Service industry and so our mutual friends decided to set us up...a double date though...not alone thank goodness.

He arrived for cocktails, not bad looking ok...we chatted for a bit, ok conversation. Then we got onto the topic of where we were going in life. I said that in the next few years I was going to go back to school for a few courses in the evening, buy a house, get a new job...really provide a good home for my daughter(only had one at the time). He said that I had "unreal expectations" single mom's try to get a head but with all that they have to do...blablabla...they wind up on welfare..blablabla...and end up marring to get back on their feet so some man takes care of them. I missed a few things inbetween I was fuming. Basically he insulted everything I was, and my goals in life. We discussed it all and I gave my oppinion but he wouldn't budge..telling me to talk to him in a few years. Dip$shit.

So here I am 3 1/2-4 years later 2 kids on my own, in my own house(that I purchased without a man's help), working for a wonderful corporation, with 2 cars(ok so I have to fix the second one but thats fun right?), and a good life and he still has the same job at Walmart and is living in his Mom's basement...hehehehe

bad mouthing others/ rude
poor attitude/ negativity
know it all dip$hit attitude
 pokerman40.2
Joined: 5/17/2006
Msg: 57
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/2/2006 3:52:54 PM
I have no class myself, so I'm not really in any position to be judgemental, however . . .

Being rude to the waitstaff.
Constantly using foul language - big turn off for me.
Being judgemental of others.

Once, a lady actually agreed to meet me. We were having a nice conversation, but she had something hanging out her nose. I couldn't stop looking, there it was. She thought I was admiring her face. It were going well, but I just couldn't get past the hanging thing. Finally I had to say something. That kind of killed the date.

Finally, for the lady a few posts up the line; anyone who would be compelled to correct my grammar.
 sass
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 58
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Posted: 6/2/2006 4:04:36 PM
homophobia and racism are at the top of my list. i can deal with a lot of things, but these are just unacceptable in my books.

i also find it really hard to deal with people who have what i like to call the "funny complex" whereby they feel the need to be funny ALL THE TIME...even when they're not. i wanted a date with a person, not a stand up comedy act.

oh, and needy guys send me running for the hills.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 59
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/2/2006 5:34:15 PM

My ex is in prison for aggravated assault causing bodily harm and he says when he gets out he wants to kill me!!!!!!!!!!


Checking her off my list.

My dealbreakers are no smokers, racists or bible-thumpers. I'll consider just about everyone else.
 Tux^my^Luv
Joined: 5/2/2006
Msg: 60
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/6/2006 6:51:27 PM
"... we were at a resturant and shooting napkins out of a straw at me trying to get it down my top... " angel_32
But did he make at least one shot? that is the question!!

LOL my 2 ex bf's(a 5 years and a 3 year) did that and still do when we do lunch. I guess i like immature men
 Countrybird
Joined: 4/17/2006
Msg: 61
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/6/2006 7:40:25 PM
checking out the waitress that is 20 years younger while there flirting in your direction as well is a definate deal breaker.
 Countrybird
Joined: 4/17/2006
Msg: 62
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/6/2006 7:42:03 PM
we teach people how to treat use.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 63
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/6/2006 7:56:57 PM

Dating is the easiest thing!!! It's all about pre-sent-ation. The one an only rule is HAVE FUN! Period. If you have fun with dating... you'll enjoy life... and eventually meet the one! In the process you will meet a lot of interesting people and know what you want.. and what you don't.

1. Don't bring up a single....


Wow, had to say something...don't often see someone posting about dating who actually gets it. It's not about where its going its about where it is. Live in the moment, and don't look at everyone you meet as a potential marriage waiting to happen, and you have WAY more fun. Eventually you may meet someone you can get along with and you like being around....or not! Either way, life's too short to be looking so far ahead of today.

You can almost expect all you go out and meet (I hate the word "date", it implies too much pressure to succeed) to be new good friends, and just get to know them....well, to know them. That's it. WAY less stressful than trying to fit them into your future plans (if you have any).
 Itisallgood
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 64
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Posted: 6/6/2006 7:57:00 PM
That is hilarious. You should have ordered another drink and the most expensive dessert.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 65
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/6/2006 8:00:58 PM

homophobia and racism are at the top of my list. i can deal with a lot of things, but these are just unacceptable in my books.

i also find it really hard to deal with people who have what i like to call the "funny complex" whereby they feel the need to be funny ALL THE TIME...even when they're not. i wanted a date with a person, not a stand up comedy act.

oh, and needy guys send me running for the hills.


All good points Sass. I totally agree - forgot all about this stuff, don't see it often, but when I do whether potential date or friends of friends....buh bye. Oh, and may I add any type of self righteous ignorance - i.e., someone who is belligerent and argues something they know nothing about and is offensive to other humans.
 anotheraviator
Joined: 10/26/2004
Msg: 66
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/6/2006 8:04:41 PM

You can almost expect all you go out and meet (I hate the word "date", it implies too much pressure to succeed) to be new good friends, and just get to know them....well, to know them. That's it. WAY less stressful than trying to fit them into your future plans (if you have any).


These days I find that if you spend 2 dates with a woman (say 3 hours per date) she is expecting daily phone calls... meeting the parents... set weekend plans etc.. this scares away most non-obsessive/desperate guys.

Just take it at face value. I know in my parents generation (say 1950s) they were dating every weekend. It was not uncommon or wrong to date Billy on Friday night, and Roger on Saturday and then Maybe Billy again the following weekend and Tom too... It also wasn't uncommon for Billy to be dating someone else as well... It was casual and friendly. If someone really really really sparked your interest, then you persued them on a more exclusive basis.

Can you imagine telling someone "sorry, I can't go out with you next Friday, I have a date... but maybe Saturday!" .. people would freak and think you were a manwhore/slut. Meanwhile back in the day this was very common and understood.

Everything in today society is all or nothing and now or never.. Everyone needs to relax a bit and chill.
 coca2
Joined: 2/17/2006
Msg: 67
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/6/2006 8:10:27 PM
had a guy take out a prescrption paper (from a doctor) that said he was aids free. also, he said his last date would blow him if he had that script. i told him to call her up.
 set the hook
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 68
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/7/2006 5:36:17 PM
1. Flighty conversations

2. Intentional vagueness

3. People who look much different (worse) then the pictures they shared
 PantyRemover
Joined: 6/5/2006
Msg: 69
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/8/2006 4:49:09 AM

talking on your cell phone during any part of the date, unless its the babysitter calling saying there is an emergency...otherwise your getting left at the restuarant table with your half of the bill.


Their half?!?!?! Leave the girl with the whole bill, come on now. Cell phone chatting on a date is very rude and a turn off. If I catch a girl chatting when I come back from even the restroom, I am out. This shows me that you can't be alone for a few minutes and that is not good.
 Horatius
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 70
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/8/2006 6:01:09 AM
Deal breakers...?

I once dated a girl who kept raiding my medecine cabinet looking for something to get high on. She would pretty near pop anything I had in there... She didn't last long...lol.
 Chris997
Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 71
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/8/2006 7:47:39 AM
For me there are few immediate deal breakers. If I've agreed to go out with you once, I probably see potential and I will likely agree to go out with you a second time.

Everyone has bad days now and then.

******

This thread was about deal breakers however:

1) Being rude to me.
2) Being rude to someone else around me.
3) Not having that chemistry or attraction. < Big one.

That's about it really.
 Golden©
Joined: 4/24/2006
Msg: 72
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/8/2006 8:43:00 AM
First date deal breakers:
1. bad manners
2. bad hygiene
3. only talks about themselves, or doesn't talk at all
4. cell phone - well, if it was just one call, and it was quick, and they apoligized afterwards, I would be ok with that. But if they were being inconsiderate and chatting....then didn't say anything afterwards. I would probably think they were being a bid rude. Not a deal breaker, but cause for serious consideration if they're right for me.
5. if they were too clingy and tried to suffocate me right away, that would be a no no, lol
6. dicates everything we do on the date, and doesn't ask for my input
 elizabeth82
Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 73
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/8/2006 9:01:49 AM
hmm lets see;

Showing up and making me realize your picture was, oh lets say 10 years old? As in, you had hair in the pic, now you're bald... just admit it in the first place! And lying about height drives me crazy as well - I'm 5'9, you say you're 5'11 and when we meet I'm taller than you... am I not supposed to notice?? If they were honest in the first place I wouldn't have minded, it's more the blatentness of the lie.

Total lack of chemistry - having to carry the conversation is fine when I know the other person is shy... for awhile. But eventually it's gotta be more equal or I feel more like a babysitter or entertainer than a date.

Making a second date... a month in advance! Had this happen, first time out and he asked me to a party a month later... admittedly it was a work Christmas one so I guess you gotta plan ahead, but seriously, I'm debating where I stand with him a day from now let alone a month.

And finally, bringing up sex right off - talking about their skills, their acomplishments, the odds of me joining them that night, how their tongue piercing gives them superpowers... I'm sorry but if I'm just looking to get laid I'm sure I could meet someone in oh, say 5 min? Go hang around the Pal or go post as looking for intimate encounter... like it's been said on here already, a coffee is not a free pass!

-E
 PrincessStella
Joined: 4/10/2006
Msg: 74
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/8/2006 9:38:03 AM
Tipping the waitress next to nothing, he's run out of money, bad teeth, being late. Oh Im sure the list can go on. So enough.
 ozzyskid
Joined: 5/31/2006
Msg: 75
First Date Deal Breakers
Posted: 6/8/2006 11:22:57 AM
wow, alot of these were pretty funny! I haven't been on a date in a long time but one of the last ones I went on (bad one) before meeting my ex was pretty bad.

SHE BROUGHT HER MOTHER ON THE DATE!!!

Seriously, I didn't know who I was supposed to talk to or anything.
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