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 wesjokerg
Joined: 3/16/2007
Msg: 170
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Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act?Page 8 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
I think an ex junky could be hellped by a woman who does not worry about the past of someones life who has changed for a better life.recovered addicts are not the only people that had to change there lives to better them selves.even the best men and women had to bury there skelotons so the bad from yesterday can stay behind them.You should look at a person the way they are today and learn more about that person tomorrow not yesterday.yeaterday is dead and tomorrow will be here soon.we cant let yesterday bother us fo today or tomorrow.We all need to bury yesterday with all of our skellotons so we can move on tomorrow.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 173
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Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act?
Posted: 5/29/2010 8:24:22 AM
No I would not date an ex junkie ,who went in drugs /booze /porns addictions, because their mind is already impaired ..

I will date a disable person as long as his mind is healthy...
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 174
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Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act?
Posted: 5/29/2010 10:27:35 AM
yes i would, i know this woman who was an addict, she is clean, and sober, and she is one of the most wonderful , passionate, creative, beautiful person i know
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 175
Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act?
Posted: 5/29/2010 12:59:34 PM
No, simply because there is the risk of relapse. people are not 'ex-junkies'; they are recovering addicts.

I'm not a social worker in my professional life and I choose not to be one in my personal life either.

whether it would 'help' someone or not is immaterial; I don't owe it to anyone to help them with their problems. Not a social worker.

There is no reason for me to date junkies or ex-junkies and find them stealing money and things from me for their habit, and constantly lying.

Too much drama, I think most are addicted to DRAMA as much as anything . the 3 a.m. phone call from the police holding cell, jail, or the hospital emergency admitting room, etc.

I can get plenty of dates from among the non-addicted crowd, so why go there? why should I take the risks?
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
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Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act?
Posted: 5/29/2010 1:59:50 PM
Wow. Just wow.

Not all of us are liars and theives and full
of drama just waiting to find an excuse
to use again.

Alot of us have struggled very hard and
are sober and plan to remain sober for
the rest of our lives.

I would rather be an ex addict any day-
have my shit together,work on myself
everyday and eat and keep healthy from
this day forward then be a judgemental
tunnel visioned ass who would rather
pass judgement from past behavior
than give someone a chance.

We don't need your chance actually and
all your drama. There are many out there
willing to give us a chance.

One more thing- some of us don't
and have never stole. Yeah- some addicts
can actually afford thier habit.

Have a nice day.
 Minau
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 177
Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act?
Posted: 5/29/2010 7:00:46 PM
An addict no...I had an addict close to me...you will lose against the addiction...they'll have to want to clean up on their own...a recovered addict...who is committed to bettering his..absolutely!! From what I've experienced...it's seems it's actually the really good people that fall into addiction...unfortunately.
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 178
Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act?
Posted: 5/31/2010 2:17:37 PM
YES, I am judgmental.

"Hello, my name is Bob, and..I'm a judgment addict"

See? you can't blame me? I'm addicted to judgment!! I can't help it, it's part of my condition!

"SJS", Severe Judgment Syndrome" ..you know that no-one , anywhere is actually responsible for their actions, it's all aresult of one's upbringing, or environment or something in the air, or water.

so STOP being so judgmental of me for being 'judgmental'..!

in reality we all make judgments and are 'prejudiced' to one degree or another ; otherwise it would be impossible to function in a complex world
.

I f any one says they are totally without judgment, no degree of being 'judgmental' , I call BullShite
 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 179
Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act?
Posted: 5/31/2010 3:37:41 PM
No because once the taste is there for whatever substance they were
addicted too it will always be there. There are some things I just don't
want to deal with.Addicts just happen to be one of those things.I know
that many people successfully clean up their lives and go on to become
productive citizens,but many more relapse multiple times.Many times
relapses happen years after they have gotten clean.

I don't think addicts are "bad people" they are just dealing with issues
I have no desire to have in my life.


Hmm interesting thread.People judging other people for being judgmental.We
judge apparently.
 MizBex
Joined: 3/27/2010
Msg: 181
Would you date an ex-junkie who's cleaned up his act?
Posted: 5/31/2010 5:38:41 PM
As difficult as it is to overcome an addiction of any kind it is a daily battle. For those people who do overcome the addictions and never go back to their habit, it takes tremendous strength and discipline and they will have to maintain that strength and discipline for the rest of their lives.

That being said, it also takes a very understanding sole to be with someone who has battled with addiction. It takes a lot of love and hard work and some times the addiction is really the love of their life. Yesterday, I was at a barbeque and three of the guest were ex smokers, and they were talking about how hard it was to give up smoking, one woman said, "it was like my best friend." While smoking is not drugs or liquer, I do sometimes wonder if that is what an addict feels about their addiction, is it their best friend too?

For me, I have known two people who have been addicts, both friends and each of them have had relapses. I see what it does to their families and their friends and how many lives are affected by the choices of an addict. I also know how hard it is for each of these individuals to deal with the stress of everyday life which worries me as well.

Addictions of any sort are bad, but some can kill you, if I were to meet someone and they had overcome an addiction, first I would give them credit for being honest with me and then I would take it day by day. However, if there ever did come a time when it was clear that the addiction won and it was the love of their life, I would leave and not look back.
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