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 DownToEarthGirl101
Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 251
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I dunno... I think people honestly think they're being "polite" or "nice" by not responding after seeing a pic, but in all reality and from my perspective... Not responding is just down right cowardly and rude... It takes far more courage and respect to tell someone how you honestly feel than turning around and "not responding"...

And they call it being polite ? Please... Don't insult my intelligence by hiding behind a facade of respect and by being ever so graceful enough to save "me" from "your" feelings.... honestly .... We're all grown ups here... How bout you "rejector's" out there let the "rejectee" chose how they are going to respond and react to your apparent supreficialness and shallowness by giving them the chance?

What are you afraid of.... being judged yourself?

If you're not interested, then simply say you're not interested... there are 1001 ways of letting someone down easily and respectfully... Show some respect people!

For those that have been rejected strictly on a solitary moment captured on film... Have faith... the one that can appreciate you for who you are is there... Good luck in your search
 dancerdolphin
Joined: 4/7/2008
Msg: 252
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Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:47:16 PM
Psssssssssssssstttt......... :)

I am grateful we are not all attracted to the same thing. It would leave the rest of us fabulously beautiful, inside and out, people in the "dog-house" so to speak.
As for me , new to this wonderful site and the world of internet dating; it is all part of the plan. I have trouble putting my pics on becuse I have had weird guys follow me home at night too often as it is. Call me insecure, call me realist.
If a prospective interest reads my open book, sees my photo, and doesn't reply, so be it.
I say " NEXT!" And his loss ; I could have been the best sister ever met.
So many "fish" ; throw them back , silently, and throw the pole back in. Liked that comment. Someone for everyone.
"Namastay".....the God in me sees the God in you. Even with your percieved flaws in the material world. ( Even if God is only your own image.)
I prefer to view you deeper on a spiritual level.
Guess what?!?!?...looks change, we get old, and wrinkled ,no matter how much make-up, botox, etc... I am looking for friends, as well as lovers that last a lfetime, and the next if possible. BE the LOVE you SEEK.

 Hazeldreaming
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 253
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 5/6/2008 3:31:23 PM

I dunno... I think people honestly think they're being "polite" or "nice" by not responding after seeing a pic, but in all reality and from my perspective... Not responding is just down right cowardly and rude... It takes far more courage and respect to tell someone how you honestly feel than turning around and "not responding"...


I do think you mean after someone asks to see a picture and then doesn't respond? Because otherwise it would be an awfully arduous task to stop and tell everyone who contacts you what you don't like and why? Sometimes I don't want to know myself. It just isn't meant to be. But occasionally I have asked. Usually after a date that seemed to go well. Just to be sure I haven't misrepresented myself. Usually its the reality of my situation that gets men. And I'm hoping that is the truth. I've pressed to be sure. Then if they don't answer yes its cowardly, because I have asked. Some can take it some can't. And some people's opinions matter to us more than others. So I agree with you to a point.
 Badboy65260
Joined: 7/22/2005
Msg: 254
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 5/6/2008 3:59:54 PM
Ok, people...it's like this....It's all about your looks, if you are attractive, or not. Ihave had so many people I ask them what is the 1st thing you notice about a female/male (whichever the case may be) I have gotten answers that range from "their laugh, to their smile, sexy voice ect. ect.. Truth is, The FIRST thing you notice about a person is their looks...Hot or not?...Nice figure, have all their teeth....big/small Breasts, nice badonkadonk...thats cause we as humans are all about visual aspects of the race, You can't tell me you like a guy by his voice if you haven't met him face to face, you wanna see how he LOOKS Handsome or not And the plain truth is this ...What is pleasing to the eye, and to the heart is never the same . People say.."It's whats inside that counts" You don't know what's "inside" at first...all you know is what you see...Sexy, Handsome, Hot, Beautiful, whatever the term...It's about looks "Do I "do it" for you or not?...Simple as that...yeah I'll reply and say not interested, if I'm not...dosen't bother me....and I'd expect a female to do the same for me.
 Hazeldreaming
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 255
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:14:42 PM
Alright...I agree with you that its about looks. But everyone isn't looking for the same look. As you mentioned big/small breasts? Some like big (probably more), but some like small. Yes I notice looks first too. BUT,

AS far as liking someone's voice before I meet them? YES I can do that. Their laugh? YES. It could very well get me to take the time to meet them. Then if the visual and auditory are somewhat congruent, it might work. And of course I have liked a voice only to find out that the person behind it was an Ewok. So it didn't work.

Its mainly looks yes. But there are other factors. Maybe you realize they are too far away. Maybe you realize after re-reading their profile they are a staunch liberal and you wear red bow ties. If we were to second guess this to death we'd make ourselves completely nuts. (Those of us that aren't already.)
 indehills
Joined: 2/23/2008
Msg: 256
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:26:03 PM
Just post a pic and you'll never have to worry about this again. Who in their right mind would want to go out for a date with someone that you've never seen before? That's like shopping for something online - a shirt, a computer, anything - and just buying it based on the description but not actually getting to see what it looks like. Who would do that?
 DLo!
Joined: 4/23/2008
Msg: 257
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Posted: 5/6/2008 4:28:21 PM
Your screen name suggest you are hot- These sites are based on attraction and many don't get to the next step to share a wonderful personality if the physical attraction isn't there. .....but really...I'm not talking to you right now j/k
All Love Xo~D'Lo!
 Badboy65260
Joined: 7/22/2005
Msg: 258
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 5/9/2008 8:22:53 AM
HOTPINKANGEL

Joined: 6/4/2005
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Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/6/2006 738 PM
Why can't they be man enough to say NOT INTERESTED???????....My profile says I am not a beauty..I know that but GEEZ.....


And no pic??....oxymoron there...you ask a ? that has to do with your picture, but yet you have none WTF??
 Sweet Lavender
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 259
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 12/14/2008 10:24:14 AM
Let's face it we all have a type, whether we admit it or not.

Post your pic for all to see, therefore eliminating disappointment. No pic no communication. Nobody get's hurt, nobody looses an eye.

My experience on POF has been that most men "shop in the wrong mall." Sadly, society will never evade this practice until Hollywood stop's glamorizing male/female relationship's with TV show's like "King Of Queen's, Life According to Jim." Average looking, chubby, balding men with an attractive, slim wives. Or TV commercial's with average to below average, short, chubby, balding men with an attractive, slim, stylish woman by their side. Real life is not a TV show/commercial.

Having said that, I'm in no way implying that I'm the best catch on POF, however I make every effort to maintain a look that is current and attractive to the best of what I've got.

:)
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 260
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 12/14/2008 4:05:33 PM
well it's 3 basics..

A) they saw the persons pic an was not turned on or intrested..

B) they are looking for new jackoff material.

C) or they just want to collect pics from random women so they can go back an b ull shit to thier friends that ya look at all the women who want me ooo dude i'm sucha pimp..or make up stories that they have had sex with each one of them..
 **~renegadeoutlaw~**
Joined: 4/23/2006
Msg: 261
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 12/14/2008 4:08:38 PM
Because shallow is the game.......

I think it happens on the part of BOTH genders......
 cdn-iceman
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 262
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 12/14/2008 7:31:39 PM
That girl* where did you come up with this shit? give me a break

B) they are looking for new jackoff material
C) or they just want to collect pics from random women so they can go back an b ull shit to thier friends that ya look at all the women who want me ooo dude i'm sucha pimp..or make up stories that they have had sex with each one of them that girl*
I guess reading isnt something you do too ? the OP didnt ask what they do with the pics????? she asked why cant men who see her pics tell her after they view her pics and be honest and say " they are not interested"

On topic, I suspect most men dont want to hurt your feelings by saying they are not interested, its easier for them to ignore you.
 Eye Of The Tigger
Joined: 9/23/2008
Msg: 263
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 12/14/2008 8:31:11 PM
Thatgirl and cdn-Iceman both made me laugh..........
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 264
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Posted: 12/14/2008 9:57:40 PM
it's called reality fake looking candy man..

an why would i be ignored?? unless it was from black men who where only seeking caucasian an asian women..
 cdn-iceman
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 265
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Posted: 12/15/2008 9:23:57 AM
That girl* what does that mean " its called reality fake looking candy man" what is that Yoda lingo?
an why would i be ignored?? unless it was from black men who where only seeking caucasian an asian women..---that girl*
first thing I was answering the OP question, this is not about you!!! so get over your self or get a cookie.
 glorygowest1
Joined: 10/5/2008
Msg: 266
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 12/15/2008 1:29:31 PM
We are all visual creatures, but beauty also comes from within. If they aren't solid enought to be honest and say not interested, then they did you a tremendous favor by going away. Hang in there girl, you'll find him.
 cindy22312
Joined: 11/30/2008
Msg: 267
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Posted: 12/15/2008 7:40:29 PM
Why not post a pic in the first place? That way if they are not interested, you don't have to know about it. Those who find you appealing will contact you while those who don't won't waste their time and yours, not to mention your feelings.
 yamipoyo2
Joined: 11/16/2008
Msg: 268
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Posted: 12/15/2008 11:07:28 PM
Well a typical guy is into looks first mind second
There are still women that do the same no?

Honestly girls look at my pic
The quality is bad im not smileing.
That is probly the first reason no one sends me a message.

Secondly women look at money
At leat a guy only looks at whats on the outside not whats in your wallet.
Who is more superficial now eh?
 taketime54
Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 269
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 12/16/2008 7:07:25 AM
Hello!

Last weekend I had 4 men asking for pictures on another dating site. I don't post my picture, so I emailed to all 4. (after a few days of what I thought was great conversations) I am a very good looking woman, but slightly over weight. I did not hear back from any of them and my ego took a blow. I sent a brief email to all of them asking the same question you are asking. Why did they not respond and at least say not interested. Then I heard from one of them a day later. He said he was sorry it took him so long to respond. We have been talking ever since and I have my first date with him tonight.

I guess you just have to hang in there. These guys that don't respond are dogs. They are not worthy of you. They are cowards. Even if you did get together with them they would use you and toss you out. Just be glad that you know early on. Keep trying. It should not be about looks, but personality and chemistry. The guy I am going out with tonight is not so shallow. He does not care about my pant size or bra size. He just likes what I have to say. Hang in there! Good luck.

 taketime54
Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 270
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Posted: 12/16/2008 8:05:02 AM
Tina,

Very shallow. Of course attraction is important. It is my right to give my picture out or not. I am attractive, but I want someone to get to know me on the inside, The guys that make it all about looks are not for me. Even with a picture, until you meet someone there is no guarantee that it will work out. I have dated every size and shape man.

I have met some great men that don't post photos. They were not "hiding" anything. The ones that don't have anything to say and just put a picture out there are the ones who are "hiding" something. The statement you made about "no longer just words" is very shallow. Good luck in your world. I choose to stay away from all that. My choice.
 Bob1952
Joined: 5/2/2008
Msg: 271
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Posted: 12/17/2008 3:32:12 AM
Shallowness is prevelant in both genders. Ask any man who has dated on POF...if you send out 20 letters..not flirts mind you,but 20 actual time spent , well thought out letters of greeting , a man will be lucky if 5 women even bother to acknowledge him. The 'Read/deleted" next to a letter one took the time to write with no response can be a blow to someones ego. It's always about the visual first off...lets be honest.....we ALL like having our 'eye candy' on our arm. So please stop the male name calling.....as i said both genders are inconsiderate at times. One has to have a somewhat thick skin to date online, but the beauty is someone is always just a click away from knowing you. Just keep on fishing. Have a nice holiday all.......Bob
 ncessential
Joined: 8/23/2008
Msg: 272
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Posted: 12/17/2008 6:16:24 AM
I think it is safe to say both men and women probably do this. I think it is mean. But unfortuntely a part of internet dating.
No response means no interest. I would not take it personal. There are lots of fish in the sea>>> :>)
 blondarl
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 273
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 1/26/2009 6:44:21 PM
ooooo wow.....now it makes perfect sense to me......
but what about the ones who want to keep talking with you.
arl
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 274
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 1/26/2009 8:14:13 PM
well cause they wanna have a chance at getting into ur cookie jar/sum pu$$y that's why they keep making conversation with you..
 Claudia Ann
Joined: 10/12/2008
Msg: 275
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Posted: 1/26/2009 8:28:25 PM
That's because they are lying, low, shallow, etc, etc, etc!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anything to get laid. And they only think about what's between their legs!
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